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writes:Ok so i met this guy in a Chatroom and he seems really nice but he's 21 and I'm 16 he texts me kind of raunchy stuff like where he wants to have sex with me but I told him I'm a virgin and he lives in NY and Im in Ohio he says he wants to hook up when I visit b/c I visit ny alot but idk if he's a good a guy or not b/c he calls me sweetie and hun and hunny and I just don't know shoul I stop talking to him?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 February 2012):
 He seems really nice (he texts you raunchy stuff and wants to have sex with you what is nice about that???)
He’s 21 and you are 16 that’s 5 years more life experience than you… and he’s using it to his advantage…
You don’t know if he’s a good guy? HOW do you define a good guy?
Just because he calls you sweetie and hunny does not make him a good guy
He’s out for one thing and that’s to stroke his winkie….
Tell him you will no longer have sexual talk with him and ignore any talk of sex or raunchy talk and see what happens.’
I predict he will disappear which for you sweetie in the long run is a good thing.
UNDER no circumstances are you to meet him or engage him face to face…
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (8 February 2012):
 How do you know he is a good guy? He obviously is a creepy fella who likes to talk dirty to little girls, yea that sounds like a "real good" guy *sarcasm*
Stop talking to him, you have NO IDEA who he really is, he could be some 45 year old living in his mothers basement.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (8 February 2012):
 For God's sake, yes. He sounds like a sleazebag who's exploiting you - and that's the best case scenario. You don't want to know what the worst-case scenario is. You don't even owe him an explanation.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Oh great. A sleazebag stranger trolling the net for sex calls you honey and sweetie , and you are gonna give him your virginity.
I wonder what you'd give him if he calls you " love " or " beautiful " !?
Nowadays nobody is SO clueless even at 16 and this make me doubt this is a real post. If it is, the answer is : yes , don't be a fool and stop talking to him.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Deathbunny, the guy would have to be no older than 36 months and also a minor. The fact that he's 60 months older and 21 negates the Ohio age of consent.
In NY, the age of consent is 17, and a perpetrator 21 and older faces felony charges as a class E for a 16 year old and a class D for a 15 year old. 13 and younger is rape in the first degree.
There are legal protections for minors under the age of 18 who sleep with other minors under the age of 18 and/or 36 month age difference (48 months in a few states to be fair).
Bottom line, even in Ohio or New York, the age spread is too great.
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Are you really that naive? I wouldnt even call that naive, that's just stupid. How can you fall for someone who calls you hun and honey?!! Are you really so silly that you think these words imply love?!! And why are you discussing your virginity and sex with a guy you met at a chatroom?
Not only is it illegal, its dangerous. What are you getting yourself into? Why did you even give him your phone number in the first place?
Have you seen the movie Human Trafficking? Watch it. Its an eye opener. You dont know this guy from Adam and you're thinking about meeting him. How do you even know he's 21 and not a 40 year old pimp?
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reader, Deathbunny +, writes (8 February 2012):
@ "YouWish": "You are jailbait in the U.S. The age of consent is 18, and if this 21 year old were to have sex with you, a 16 year old, it would be statutory rape."
Actually, not in all states. Age of Consent in Ohio is actually 16 and New York is 17.
@ Original Poster: If it makes you uncomfortable and you don't want to be pressured into sex, then decline, tell him you're not interested in it, and if he persists, contact the authorities. While it would probably be legal for you to have sex with him in Ohio, if you don't want to have sex with him or be pressured to do so, that IS illegal...
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (8 February 2012):
Well you asked the question because you have doubts and that was good. You know that you know absolutely nothing about him. So a stranger is telling you he wants to have sex with you? Your natural reaction is good. Now you do one more thing. Printout what you can and phone the police. You may be saving a less smart girl a terrible experience. If he is a genuine guy he will just get a warning. But he may be a known offender. This just sounds too creepy. Dont feel any guilt or apprehension, just do the right thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): Definitely stop talking to him, even if he is as he represents himself, a 21 year old looking for sex, he is still a creep. For all you know he could be a criminal/sex offender/murderer and so on.
Don't talk to creepy men in chatrooms and don't talk about your sex life or sex with them.
Date boys your own age and leave the sex for later when you're and adult.
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reader, Deagan +, writes (8 February 2012):
 I see you reposted this and worded it differently. Once again, STAY AWAY. Don't talk to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): Do me one favour?
Keep your virginity!
I was 15, when I lost my virginity to a guy I thought "loved me" I was 15, he was 14 but still....I have ended up sleeping around and cheating on my current boyfriend, not good at all! and yeah, I wish I had kept my virginity!
Please don't give in to this guy, it will only end in heart break and even worse you thinking of nothing but sex sex sex....and ending up with you going no where.
I look back now as an 18 year old, looking at the boyfriend I cheated on and yes am still currently with and think "I wish I had of kept it"
So keep it!
I quickly learnt that when you lose it guys treat you with less respect then if you keep it and hold off!
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reader, katiekate +, writes (8 February 2012):
 You sound extremely naive. Of course he calls you hun and stuff like that. He's trying to get into your pants. He's probably trying to get into the pants of several other young, naive girls as well. Besides, any decent, respectable 21 year old man want nothing to do with a 16 year old girl. Leave him alone, and quit wasting your time in chat rooms! Find yourself a nice guy your own age that doesn't hide behind a computer.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 February 2012):
You are jailbait in the U.S. The age of consent is 18, and if this 21 year old were to have sex with you, a 16 year old, it would be statutory rape.
Even now, he's committing a felony by soliciting sex from a minor.
Now, the legal crap out of the way, you're being seduced by a guy on the internet who you have no idea who it is? How do you know he's not 48 years old greasy nasty married criminal gross rapist?
He's not a good guy, just because he calls you Hun. In fact, if he's going for sex with you, he's really horrible. You are being used right now.
You must decide that you're worth more than a guy simply coming on to you by wanting sex and asking about your virginity. Not to mention the more you talk to him, the more he's able to piece out where you live, who you are, and with the number of kids snatched by people on the internet, it's not safe on there!
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