Am I turning into a green-eyed monster?
Q. My partner and I befriended a lady on holiday last year and we became good friends, visiting and phoning frequently. This friend confided in us and was going through a very tough time in her personal life. We both tried to help her as much as w...
A. 16 May 2014: The fact she stopped confiding you, yet kept on with him is a reason to be concerned if I ever heard one. I think it would make ANYONE suspicious. She is using her illness as an EXCUSE to be unkind to you. The fact your partner accepted this as... (read in full...)
My gut tells me I should leave him alone.
Q. I have a few questions about friendship, and where you draw the line. My situation: A couple of years ago, I started a new job where I met a lot of new people. However, only one person seemed interested in talking to me. At first, I thought he was...
A. 14 May 2014: I deleted his number. If he contacts me again, I won't respond. I let loneliness get the better of me, but I just have to stay positive from now on when it comes to making friends. I also thought if someone asked me what to do in this situation, I ... (read in full...)
My gut tells me I should leave him alone.
Q. I have a few questions about friendship, and where you draw the line. My situation: A couple of years ago, I started a new job where I met a lot of new people. However, only one person seemed interested in talking to me. At first, I thought he was...
A. 14 May 2014: "you should have read through his trite spiel about " my wife does not understand me " I did read through it. I even said I suspected he wasn't being truthful, or that he was exaggerating his situation to try to get what he wants. I was basically ... (read in full...)
How to handle rude neighbours?
Q. Hey Cupid family! I've got this question that I have to get off my chest. I live in this neighbourhood with my family(sister, brother and mum), and apparently It's like most of the people dislike us. We mind our own business but every other day ...
A. 13 May 2014: I'm the same way, as far as not following the crowd. I guess some people just refuse to accept people who are different. And while some people have talked to me when they saw me, they didn't seem to want to hang out or be friends. There has only one ... (read in full...)
After all this time I'm suddenly thinking about my ex again?
Q. i keep thinking about my ex and feel awful as i have a boyfriend that i am head over heals in love with. i have been with him for two years now and literally never even looked back, until recently when an up coming event will meen that we will meet ...
A. 12 May 2014: I think it's pretty clear the reason you're thinking about him is because you know you're going to see him soon.
I haven't seen my ex for nearly 5 years. I'm over him, and am happy with my husband, just as you are with your boyfriend. However,... (read in full...)
How to handle rude neighbours?
Q. Hey Cupid family! I've got this question that I have to get off my chest. I live in this neighbourhood with my family(sister, brother and mum), and apparently It's like most of the people dislike us. We mind our own business but every other day ...
A. 12 May 2014: I wouldn't take it personally. Some people are just unfriendly. They probably talk behind each others backs, even if they're nice to each other face to face.
My husband and I lived in an apartment community like what you described 3-4 years ag... (read in full...)
How important is the look of "it"?
Q. Help .... I'm about to enter into a physical relationship with a new man after a long marriage and I need to know . How important is the appearance of a woman's vagina to a man Most of the ones I've seen in porn look very similar and much tidier t...
A. 12 May 2014: "Most of the ones I've seen in porn look very similar and much tidier than mine."
Labiaplasty is why theirs look so similar. No 2 women should look the same.
http://www.da... (read in full...)
Social media has me questioning my life and place in the world!
Q. A lot of my peers (most of them,actually) have grown up with social media. I was always late with it, getting myspace and facebook years after my friends had theirs. I have lost touch after high school with many people cause I'm not very active ...
A. 12 May 2014: In my opinion, deleting your Facebook is a great idea. I did it a few months ago, because I was experiencing the same feelings as you. I don't regret it. My husband has even remarked how I seem happier since then. And apparently, feeling this way is ... (read in full...)
Could an attractive real woman make a guy less interested in porn?
Q. Right here is a question I possibly know the answer to. Lets say a guy likes a lot of porn, glamour mags, sexy photos etc. is here any way him finding a real woman who is attractive in looks and personality can change this or at least lessen it? ...
A. 3 May 2014: "is there any way him finding a real woman who is attractive in looks and personality can change this or at least lessen it?" Lessen it? Likely. Change it? Depends on the guy. Things that will be a factor: -how high his sex drive is S... (read in full...)
Is the girl in my class jealous of me?
Q. There is a girl in my class who is annoying me. Whenever I'm happy she tries to make me down. And she always tries to call me fat, stupid and ugly and imperfect. Whenever a guy compliments and flirts with me, she acts like she is not listening. And ...
A. 29 April 2014: I don't know if this is a jealousy issue. It could be, but it sounds more like she thinks you don't like her, so she's name calling and trying to bring you down to "get even". It's immature, yes, but you're in high school, right? I don't expect ... (read in full...)
Does my colleague have bad intentions? He's definitely a bad boy and my engagement nearly ended because of him!
Q. I'm engaged. I became friends with a fellow colleague. He's definitely a bad boy and I've been trying my hardest to stop all connection with him. At first it was harmless I thought and we would just spend short breaks together because we have a lot ...
A. 24 April 2014: "When we completely stopped talking, my fiancé and I's relationship became true strongest ever. The spark had come back sexually and emotionally." Isn't this a good thing? You already know his intentions because you know he's a "bad boy... (read in full...)
Would it bother you to learn that your bf/gf had smoked weed in the past?
Q. Hi Everyone! Quick question here: When I was dating my ex-bf I told him that I had smoked weed with some friends a few times before we started dating (I was 21 at the time and had smoked a total of 7 times in my life) and he FREAKED out, and sa...
A. 22 April 2014: Your ex associates smoking weed with having poor judgement. Which is why he said "you're not the person I thought you were". While it's not addictive, so it CAN be used in moderation, a lot of people still overuse it. So the assumption of overuse or ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a selfish bitch but I love her.
Q. my gf is a selfish bitch but I still really love her. Ive argued with her a few times over whatwe have said to each other and lately she saidsomething to me and I always have to put up with it but as soon as I say the same thing backshe hates me...
A. 22 April 2014: You say you love her, but ask yourself this: what is there to love about someone who is constantly stressing you out, putting you down by calling you names, and always putting their feelings before yours?
By the way, name calling her back is ... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for wanting my cheating boyfriend back?
Q. Okay so, me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 5 months and today I figured out he cheated on me...We have been arguing a lot lately and I heard through a friend that he was cheating and I addressed him about it and told him to be 100% ...
A. 22 April 2014: Feeling like you can't live without the person is a relatively normal feeling right after a breakup. The way he dismissed your hurt feelings didn't help one bit.
However, 5 months is really not that long of a relationship. I know it seems th... (read in full...)
Is it ok for a married man to text or chat with other woman?
Q. Is it ok for a married man to text or chat with other woman? I have been married for 7 years and from the beginning I have expressed to my husband how I feel about this subject after reading a conversation between him and another women about how ...
A. 7 January 2014: Whether it's okay for him to talk to other women or not depends on what they're talking about. Obviously, anything of a sexual nature is inappropriate, and so is exchanging any photos that suggest sexual interest. I get it that you think the one ... (read in full...)
A beauty you fancy turned out to have had major plastic surgery done. Would it bother you?
Q. Right so this is a toughie. I'm hoping you guys can help me...cause I really need it!! I met a girl several weeks ago at a club. A real stunner. Beautiful green eyes, blonde hair, lovely figure, very high cheekbones, full lips. She was chatting...
A. 13 November 2013: "Would it bother you if your girl's face wasnt the one she was born with, and was actually created by a doctor instead of God?" No, this wouldn't bother me, supposing I was attracted to women in the first place. (I'm a straight, married woman.) ... (read in full...)
I feel like he'll never love me as much as he loved her
Q. Hi all, I've been having some issues lately and don't really know what to do anymore. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months, he had a very serious girlfriend before me. They had been broken up about 8 months or so when him and I started dating...
A. 13 November 2013: It's entirely possible he had lingering feelings for her at the start of you two's relationship. However, any feelings he may have had were probably just a familiarity type thing, meaning since he'd never been with anyone else, he couldn't imagine ... (read in full...)
I feel so inferior when I hear the word "porn"
Q. I have a fear of porn, whenever I hear the word I immediately think of better looking women who are good at sex and it makes feel small. I've always had problems, my first boyfriend was a porn addict ever since then I always had it in mind that ...
A. 4 November 2013: Female anon is correct as far as porn stars having a lot of help to look the way they do. That's only the tip of the iceberg, though. They want to be noticed and validated just like you do, and it isn't any easier for them than it is for you. If ... (read in full...)
Why am I so nervous that he wont like how I look?
Q. I am a nervous wreck. I met this man in my work uniform, we hit it off. I am a chunky girl. He went away for about six months and we kept contact. He is back in the states, and wants to see me. Why am I so nervous that he wont like how I look? He ...
A. 18 October 2013: I don't think it'll be an issue. I think when he made that remark about people thinking it's okay to be huge, he meant he doesn't like obese people. If you're just a little thick/chunky, that's different. You've also told him you plan to exercise ... (read in full...)
I want to date but never get asked!
Q. It seems like many people fall in love the very first time they meet. From what I know, a lot of guys approach girls they don't know and ask them out. I have this one friend who's like a master at attracting guys. She would talk about how she and ...
A. 10 October 2013: You could try clubs, but more than likely you'll only meet the wrong type of guy. I would actually feel pretty lucky if I were you. You may not attract guys initially, but they like you in the long run. You said yourself you get asked out if you... (read in full...)
We broke up because of facebook! Who's right?
Q. So a few days ago my girlfriend randomly starts acting cold and won't tell me what's wrong initially. She then spills the beans and tells me that she saw me on Facebook liking photos and statuses of girls that she knows I used to talk to. We ...
A. 10 October 2013: I think facebook causes unnecessary drama in relationships, and this is a perfect example of how. I use it to stay in touch with a couple of friends who have moved far away, and some family I wouldn't otherwise go out of my way to talk to. I have a ... (read in full...)
What can I do so girls don't think I'm trying to steal their man?
Q. I find it difficult to make friends; as a female I find it even harder to be friends with women. If I consider a person my friend, they become like family to me. It seems that I can't be friends with women because they just end up stabbing me in the ...
A. 28 September 2013: Usually, the motivation behind this type of behavior from women is jealousy and insecurity. It has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with the fact they base their opinions of themselves off comparing themselves to other women. They think ... (read in full...)
How can I not be tight after having sex just once?
Q. Hi guys! I wanna ask some advice from u. I have a first boyfriend now at my 28yrs of age. He's been my bf for a week. Then he was assigned to my area and s0mething happened to us. It is my first time to have sex in my entire life. I wanna ask why is ...
A. 28 September 2013: It sounds like you're not relaxed or aroused enough when he tries to enter you, so that's why the pain. Losing your virginity, and how many times you've had sex doesn't change the size and tightness of the vagina. Plenty of people may try to tell ... (read in full...)
Why do some people not have stretch marks?
Q. I have a question about stretch marks... How come some people don't have them? i've never seen the women in a porno have them, i know the pics are airbrushed but not the videos. Does anyone here not have them? I have them and it makes me feel li...
A. 27 September 2013: Look, it's simply foolish to let one person's opinion of you make you feel so negatively of yourself, and also to compare yourself to porn stars. And if you started comparing yourself to them because he was, then he was being foolish as well. Do ... (read in full...)
My date stared at me intensely all night. I mentioned it to him and he said we were too different??
Q. I've been getting along well with this guy. We went on a date a few days ago and it all went well. However, throughout the date all he did was stare. Please, I'm really not big headed. But it was so intense that I became really awkward and shy....
A. 25 September 2013: Did he call you, or did you call him? I ask because it doesn't make sense for him to call you and say he wants to see you again in order to get to know you better, then say you're too different. If you were the one who called him, that's a different ... (read in full...)
Do any penis enlargement creams/pills work?
Q. are there any penis enlargement pills,cream,etc that actually work?...
A. 19 September 2013: I imagine they would work about as well as breast enlargement pills or creams...in other words, no they won't work. Look, I understand. I really do. Men get insecure about the size of their penis just as women do about their breast size. I g... (read in full...)
Why am I fantasizing about a man I don't know?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a really great relationship. We met at college and since we grew up in different towns, he goes back home for his summer vacations so we don't get to spend a lot of time together. I have used the free time away from him to ...
A. 17 September 2013: As long as you're able to keep fantasy and reality separate, no harm done. The fact you don't know him is precisely what allows your imagination to run so wild. You get to fill in the blanks, so to speak. That's what makes it so exciting.
On th... (read in full...)
Am I overthinking or has the relationship run its course?
Q. Iv been with my partner for 3 and a half years.we live together. We have got to the stage where I feel we should either get married and be ttogether long term or not be together atall... recently I have been looking at him and thinking,I don't...
A. 15 September 2013: What you're experiencing is normal, to an extent. After living together, you've noticed some of his not so appealing traits, and are annoyed by them. What you have to remember when your mind starts to wander to someone else, though, is everyone has ... (read in full...)
Living with a woman who doesn't speak English?
Q. I turned 16 last week and my parents died a couple of months ago. I am moving to live with my godfather. About a year and a half ago he married a Thai lady who doesn't speak English more than a "hello" and "yes". She doesn't understand Engli...
A. 10 September 2013: Learn her language. It's better the sooner you do it, too. You're still young enough where learning a second language wouldn't be too difficult to do. The younger a person learns a language, not only is it easier for them to learn it, but the longer ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if she is having an orgasm or not?
Q. I don't know when my girlfriend orgasms. right now all i can do is trust her but i would like to know if she orgasms for real or if she is faking it. When she tells me she orgasms i can't feel her contracting even if i use my fingers. only until ...
A. 5 September 2013: Does she have body hang ups, or is she overall comfortable with her body? The reason I ask is because women who are comfortable with themselves are much more likely to have orgasms than ones who aren't. After all, orgasms usually involve less than ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend acts like she's black
Q. Before me, my girlfriend had only dated black guys. I'm the first white guy she has ever dated. Around me she acts like her normal self but in public (usually only around black people) she acts like she is black. It gets really annoying. Don't get ...
A. 4 September 2013: Apparently, she just likes "that crowd". She likes how they are, and wants to be a part of it. You also mentioned she only dated black guys before you, so it could just be a habit that was formed during her time dating black guys. She was probably ... (read in full...)
I have alopecia, and wear a wig!
Q. I am recently single after a rocky four year relationship and I wanted some advice about getting back into dating again. The break-up hit me quite hard, although I know it was for the best as things had just gone downhill and neither of us co...
A. 4 September 2013: Well, you already know there are guys out there who don't find it disgusting. Your ex is your proof. Just like any other "imperfection" a woman can have, there are 3 types of guys. There will indeed be some who will be turned off by it. There will ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to go on holiday with his mate and 2 female friends... without me. Am I wrong to feel this is inappropriate?
Q. Hi, just a quick question as I am really in need of others' opinions. My boyfriend recently asked me how I would feel about him going on a holiday for a week with one of his male friends and two female friends. Is this inappropriate for someone in a ...
A. 4 September 2013: Hmm...2 males, 2 females, yet you're not invited. What kind of a fool does he think you are? He obviously thinks you were born yesterday. He sees nothing wrong with it? Well, of course he doesn't, because he WANTS something to happen. He's planning ... (read in full...)
What do guys do to have clear skin?
Q. This a question mostly for guys who take care of their skin. What do you guys use or do to have a beautiful smooth skin? Everytime I see a guy with smooth skin I get jealous. I'm 21 and I sport nice and well groomed beard but I do look a bit olde...
A. 30 August 2013: Drink green tea. This works for me. Maybe it will for you too. Drinking a lot of water will help as well. Also avoid really greasy or sugary foods. Wash your face daily. I recommend only once a day, though. If you wash it too much you'll dry it out. ... (read in full...)
I hate this job but don't want to be seen as a quitter
Q. Would you quit a job you've been at 4 months if you hated it? I know it hasn't been long but I feel myself wanting to give up and walk out the door some days. I work with infants who are very demanding at a daycare. The crying babies, high ...
A. 30 August 2013: Yes, I would quit a job if it stressed me out that much. Actually, I have before. I worked there less than 4 months, too. Just make sure you have another job lined up before you quit, and you'll be all right. If someone thinks of you as a quitter, ... (read in full...)
I get physically sick when my boyfriend looks at other women in front me or talks how beautiful women are. What should I do?
Q. I am starting to wonder if I need to seek professional help as I am concerned about my mental and physical state. My reaction to my boyfriends looking at women in front of me and his fixation with a female co-worker is starting to affect my mental...
A. 30 August 2013: You're right, OP. I don't think it's the looking so much that bothers you as much as it's him sending out signals to other women that he's interested. That indicates he would probably cheat of the right opportunity presented itself. A brief glance ... (read in full...)
I get physically sick when my boyfriend looks at other women in front me or talks how beautiful women are. What should I do?
Q. I am starting to wonder if I need to seek professional help as I am concerned about my mental and physical state. My reaction to my boyfriends looking at women in front of me and his fixation with a female co-worker is starting to affect my mental...
A. 28 August 2013: This infatuation he has with his coworker is concerning. I also want to point out that saying he can't understand why someone would divorce "such a beautiful lady" was a very ignorant statement for him to make. She may be beautiful on the outside, ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a crush on unattainable women to just fade without trying to get rid of it?
Q. Is it possible for a crush on unattainable women to just fade without trying to get rid of it? I have a girlfriend and work with a woman who is married but gives herself away all the time - she clearly has a little thing for me. For a while now our ...
A. 24 August 2013: Looking back on my last answer, I realize I may have jumped the gun in telling you to look for a new job. I don't know what type of job you have, so it may not be easy for you to replace it. There are still other ways you can discourage your crush ... (read in full...)
Any advice for swinging? I feel jealous of the rapport between my b/f and the female
Q. My boyfriend and I have had a few "swinging" encounters and we want to continue in the lifestyle. I enjoy being with other women without a doubt. Once I am in the heat of the moment I also enjoy being with other men. The problem is that the last ...
A. 23 August 2013: It's time for both you and your boyfriend to cut contact with this particular woman. If you feel your boyfriend is too attracted to her as it is, what do you think is going to happen if you two actually hook up with her? No, it's best to play it ... (read in full...)
A guy I was messaging online wanted me to do things I wasn't prepared to do and in the end he stopped contacting me. Now I see he's viewed my profile again. What does this mean?
Q. I have been on and off a dating site for about 5 months and have made a few pen pals. In the first few months there was a guy, he is 29 years old and he wanted a friends with benefits situation. In the beginning he was sort of nice complimenting ...
A. 23 August 2013: Yes, you should ignore him. You said yourself nothing good has ever come of you being attracted to bad boys, and he sounds like your typical bad boy. Viewing your profile doesn't mean he's suddenly developed feelings for you. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a crush on unattainable women to just fade without trying to get rid of it?
Q. Is it possible for a crush on unattainable women to just fade without trying to get rid of it? I have a girlfriend and work with a woman who is married but gives herself away all the time - she clearly has a little thing for me. For a while now our ...
A. 23 August 2013: No, I'm afraid not. If you're not trying to get rid of your attraction to her, then that means you're feeding it. In which case, it's not going to go away. It's going to get worse. If you want to stay with your girlfriend, then you may end up having ... (read in full...)
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