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writes:Hi guys! I wanna ask some advice from u. I have a first boyfriend now at my 28yrs of age. He's been my bf for a week. Then he was assigned to my area and s0mething happened to us. It is my first time to have sex in my entire life. I wanna ask why is it when he is trying to penetrate me i feel pain and i think im tight,but why is it when he's inside me i can't even feel him? Then i get offended when he asked me if it was really my first time..he,s confused too coz when he's entering me it's hard but when he's inside me he can't feel me also. Guys, i had undergo surgery wayback 2007,i had my one ovary rem0ved because of cyst. Does that affect my virginity? Is it possible that im n0t really tight anym0re inside after tha first penetrati0n? Reply to this Question
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (29 September 2013):
 It is not possible that you have become "loose" after once, or even many years, of sexual penetration. The body adapts. Your guy may be rather small, but in any case, don't worry about this!
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reader, YoungButNotNaive  +, writes (28 September 2013):
 It sounds like you're not relaxed or aroused enough when he tries to enter you, so that's why the pain. Losing your virginity, and how many times you've had sex doesn't change the size and tightness of the vagina. Plenty of people may try to tell you different, but it's a myth. Some women are naturally smaller while others are larger. You may have a larger vagina, which is why you can't feel him once he's inside you. You might be able to make it work out if you do kegel exercises and try other positions, but it's possible your size and his size just aren't compatible.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (28 September 2013):
 When he's trying to enter and you feel pain, it's because you're not aroused and lubricated enough. You need to slow it down and enjoy the foreplay - then you'll avoid the painful bit.
I don't know why neither of you feel anything but it could be his lack of girth as much as you having a possibly loose vagina. Have you tried different positions?
Surgery several years ago won't have had a permanent effect on your size. You were a virgin when you had sex the first time. Was he also a virgin?
Also, he's your first boyfriend and it's all new to you - sex will get better (with the right partner).
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (28 September 2013):
 Vaginal tightness, elasticity and lubrication has to do with estrogen and hormonal balance. Tell him that you've had surgery before. It's ignorance to think that having previous penises change the size of a vagina. Kegel exercises help. There are also creams such as intivar you could use but with anything you depend on it won't be fun if it's long term. When a partner loves you he accepts all of you and wouldn't want you to change a thing.
I would say, yes you were a virgin before him because you've never had sex although the hymen's gone.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (28 September 2013):
 First of all, your vagina is a MUSCLE so it won't go "slack" or "loose" after 1 time. And each vagina is a different size and shape (just like men's penis).
The guy could have been of a "smaller" girth (the measurement around the shaft) and since you tensed up when he first entered you it might have hurt, but once he got in you relaxed and it didn't.
You need to google Kegel exercises. I think your vagina needs some strengthening.
Having your ovary removed has nothing to do with your vagina size.
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reader, R1 +, writes (28 September 2013):
 How big is he? If he has a small penis no matter how tight you are it would be difficult to feel him...
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