We aren't getting along and its driving me crazy!
Q. i feel like me and my boyfriend arent getting along and hes driving crazy...what should i do?...
A. 20 October 2010: We can help you more if you can give us more information:
How long have the two of you been dating?
When did the fighting start?
What are you fighting about?
What kinds of arguments have you had in the past?
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Is my mom always going to judge me? I'm almost 18!
Q. Around three months ago, my mother took my iPod and began to snoop on my conversations. She found one where I was having cyber sex with this guy I had met over the internet. She sometimes scolds me and tells me I am failing school (I'm not) because ...
A. 20 October 2010: First off, kudos for not being slutty at your age. There are plenty of people who try and convince us that it's the popular thing for women to do.
The unfortunate truth in your situation is that your mom will most likely never change how she sees... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him and he's dating a friend of mine
Q. Me and this guy have been best friends for ever. He lives right beside of me, we go outside, hang out all the time. We have so many things in common, we just "click." We started dating a few months ago, but we broke up and decided it was better off ...
A. 20 October 2010: You have to respect the relationship he is in now. As long as they are together, you need to shut him down and keep your distance. I know that it's hard to do when you love someone, but if you encourage him to not respect his current relationship ... (read in full...)
My best friend is only using me till he gets a girlfriend
Q. I have been blowing my best friend since I was 16. Now I am 25. I’m gay, but my best friend is not. He really is straight. He will mostly watch straight or lesbo porn when I blow him. he let me do it because he’s ugly and he doesn’t have a ...
A. 20 October 2010: You can talk to your gay friends, and ask them to do you a favor and keep the secret. You should also talk to your best friend, and be honest with him.
You love this friend, and he is using you. It bothered you enough to admit it to your other fr... (read in full...)
So lonely with no friends
Q. I'm finding life a little lonely and sad at the moment without any friends. I'm 21 and live with my partner of 2 years. I can imagine you are probably thinking now "Of course you have friends, EVERYONE has at least one good friend". But I really a...
A. 20 October 2010: I know what you are going through. Drinking is not my idea of fun, I lost just about everyone I knew in this town when I split with my ex, and my one friend just moved to the other side of the state.
One thing I can add is that, as a stay at home ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to get married again even though he says he's marry me
Q. Please help! Going out with seperated man with 2 kids for the last 2 years. Initially I was skeptical and worried would it work out with his baggage, etc. I know we all have baggage but I suppose I always thought I would meet someone single like me ...
A. 19 October 2010: Because he has issues. It may be that his ex really hurt him and he hasn't dealt with it, or be may just not see a problem with doing things behind your back. Either way, if you go back through your post and count the number of times he has lied to ... (read in full...)
My best friend is skipping school!
Q. i dont know wat to do nomore my best friend is skipping (or her friends push her to do it... well they dont really push her they just suggest it and she follows thru) class too much and i dont know how to help her... i mean i talked to her about it ...
A. 19 October 2010: I am the kind of guy who would tell you to get in her face and harass her into straightening up, but the end result for me is that I help people who are then no longer friends to me.
Tell her parents? Have them tell her the school let them kno... (read in full...)
27 year old female ... how to live up to 40 yr olds sex standards?
Q. For the 40 year old males... I'm 27... 5'6 130... athletic/toned...I have been talking w/ a good friend of mine who is 40 and at times the conversation has become sexual. It's not an official plan,but eventually sex is probably going to happen. ...
A. 19 October 2010: The answer is don't worry. Not that I condone sex with men that much older, but the fact of the matter is that he is in his 40's and getting a shot with a woman in her mid 20's.
On the sex scale he is about as lucky as he can get. And you can rela... (read in full...)
I love my ex but he wants to see what is out there
Q. Theres no simpler way to put it but i'm in love with my ex boyfriend . i can not ,eat sleep ,dream ,listen to the radio look at my photo albums talk about the best moments in my life because they all involve him in it . i fucked up real bad and i'm ...
A. 19 October 2010: You need to take some time to yourself and pull yourself together. Tell him you love him, tell him you will be back in 2-3 months, and then isolate yourself from him. You need to take time and get the emotions under control so you can make decisions ... (read in full...)
He wouldn't put into the relationship what I was so we broke up
Q. ok so 3 weeks ago my boyfriend and i seperated, after 14 months, 10 of those living together, I have 3 kids he has 1, my kids well behaved his a nightmare, i put 110% into him and his son even with out realizing pushing mine away, We loved each ...
A. 19 October 2010: If he is willing to try, then he is worth working for. If he is going to ignore you, decline couples counseling, and do his own thing, then you need to find someone who cares enough about you to get up and work for you.... (read in full...)
I can't get over my ex to move on with a new guy
Q. I'm not sure what I'm asking. I just feel really horrible right now. Not too long ago I had a bad breakup with my boyfriend. He basically broke up with me because he didn't care for me and didn't want to be with me long term. Even after the b...
A. 19 October 2010: You need to stand on your own two feet, and that means no rebounding. People for some reason think rebounding is a good way to get past breakups, but what they don't realize is that forgetting issues and actually working through them are two ... (read in full...)
Big crush on my cousin...
Q. I have a crush on my cousin and i'm not sure what to do. I'm feeling pretty depressed at the moment, as there was a family party last weekend, and unfortunately, i couldn't go to it because i went to London the week before last, and i'm going away ...
A. 19 October 2010: So talk to him. The longer you wait the harder it will be to casually pick up conversations with him online.
I will caution you to research the health and legal risks of dating someone that closely related to you.... (read in full...)
I feel it would kill her if she knew the truth.
Q. Hi, My aunt told me in february that my dad molested her chest and asked if when he gave her a grown up kiss did she have any feelings. As my father has passed away, I cannot question him about it. This was before I was born and my mum had had a mi...
A. 19 October 2010: I know it is hard to hear those kinds of things about the people you love. But you have to pluck up and decide that it is one of two things:
First, it may be a lie. I don't know your aunt so I don't know why this may be, but it certainly is possi... (read in full...)
What should I do if I see him?
Q. Can you help me figure out what to do ?. I like this guy who i used to know at school. He has a funny sense of humour ! We are on each others friends lists on facebook. I was online very late at night once, well actually, it was the early hours of ...
A. 19 October 2010: Explicit messages fall into 3 categories:
1. Something you send to someone you are currently dating.
2. Tasteless humor directed at close friends who know you better.
3. The perverted ravings of mentally underdeveloped tools.
Based on what y... (read in full...)
Break up or make up again?
Q. Well a four days ago I found out my boyfriend had a face book without telling me and so I wait to see if he tells me and he still doesn't so the next day I stayed home it was a friday night and I went to bed early because my mom is in the hospital ...
A. 19 October 2010: Okay, so he has a history of damaging the trust you have in him. You have been in this situation for years now. Do you feel so frustrated that you can't even tell what is going on in his head? Do you feel like you mistreat him because of how much ... (read in full...)
Does Jelquing work to increase the size of your penis?
Q. I am like most men and would like to have a bigger penis. I have been reading about jelquing. Has anyone every tried it and did it work? I have been doing it for the past month and think I am getting some benefit. My wife as never made a comment ...
A. 19 October 2010: While the medical logic is more sound than most other enlargement options, instructions found on the internet are inconsistent at best. Also, you must take extra care as you are reaching the age where your body is unable to restore broken ligament ... (read in full...)
We cant be in the same room for more than 2 min without fighting! Help!
Q. my boyfriend and i have ben together for pretty much 4 years now were 20 n living on our own for 2 months now but we lived with his mom for 7 b4 we moved here we love each other and need each other very much but all we do is fight we fight about who ...
A. 19 October 2010: Because the two of you are having a hard time communicating. I don't mean that you don't talk, but that your fighting tends to blow steam and not resolve underlying problems.
I would recommend counseling, or at least trying to sit down and work... (read in full...)
Will he realize that he's taken me for granted so we can be friends?
Q. I dated a friend of a family member in the past. We decided to be friends because he is deploying overseas and moving out of state. We got into a few arguments recently ( I said some mean things ) I apologized and tried my hardest to make up for it. ...
A. 19 October 2010: Deep breath sweetheart, this situation is going to get better.
If he is deploying, you have two things to consider:
1 - He is probably very stressed. Moving overseas (especially military moves) are hard. If he is military then he is conditione... (read in full...)
Help!! Flirting with a friend/coworker/ex's friend
Q. This is gonna be long, i want to try my best to give both sides. A year ago for about 8 months i was dating this guy that was all wrong for me, a total whore. I saw the best in him and tried to give him the benefit of the doubt at every turn. H...
A. 19 October 2010: I see a couple of red flags before anything else:
1 - You both work together. As easy as it is to meet people in your place of employment, dating there leads to trouble. A bad relationship can hit you the wrong way emotionally and you ruin you... (read in full...)
Since resuming our friendship he's like a different person...
Q. Recently at work one of my friends had stopped talking to me and he didnt give me a reason why? i had been crying for two whole days cuz it hurt me that he wouldnt speak to me. i dont know what i cried for... but now he is talking to me.. and he ...
A. 19 October 2010: You should talk to him. You were hurt that he didn't talk to you, but without knowing the reason why you can't know if he meant to hurt you or not.
If he didn't mean to hurt you, problem solved. If he has an issue with you and it isn't a legitima... (read in full...)
He married my friend and now he has disappeared!
Q. Hi! i have a friend whose married to a black man. residing in London but he's from Gana. they get married this march 2010. after the marriage man went back to London to file the petition he promised to my friend. then while the day passing by their...
A. 19 October 2010: We need to know where both your friend and her husband are from. It is possible that he married her for immigration or other legal reasons, in which case you need to annul the marriage if still possible.... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if people are trying to set us up or he likes me?
Q. Ok I like this one guy who is a year younger then me. I'll call him Bob. He's in 1st hour chorus with me and everyone thinks he likes me, except me. So I was texting him, becuase we are kind of good friends and he asked me if I liked him. I said I ...
A. 19 October 2010: Welcome to the world of dating friends. The truth is that you can't know if he likes you or not, or if the two of you would work if you dated. You can choose to tell him you like him, or choose to wait and see what happens.
I fell in love with my ... (read in full...)
Why couldn't I just be happy to have someone in my life?
Q. All my life I've run away from relationships only to bounce back into them. I ran away from home at 17 to be with a man who ignored me. I ran away after a traumatic event with my then husband to the Army. I have been running ever since but I hurt ...
A. 19 October 2010: There are many many reasons why relationships don't work. You need to not blame yourself for past failures, and work towards being complete as an individual. As you get closer to that goal, special people tend to fall into your lap.... (read in full...)
I want to be more than friends with her!
Q. I am deeply in love with this girl. We dated in 5th grade and we started talking again last school year. She is the perfect girl for me, her personality is so much like mine and she is so beautiful. She just broke up with her boyfriend of a year and ...
A. 19 October 2010: I'm sorry, I need a better timeline here:
You both dated in the 5th grade: how long did that last?
She broke up a month ago AND you two had sex about a month ago?
I would think sex means she is in to you enough to at least talk to you about ... (read in full...)
How do I tell boyfriend he's a little jealous and I need my space?
Q. Okay, so I've been with my boyfriend for like 1 and a half years. We get along great, we always have. We've only fought once. I feel safe and comfortable around him and when he kisses me there are definite sparks. We talk about getting married a ...
A. 19 October 2010: 1 - You just have to decide that you don't care what other people think. Imagine that everything you do and say to him or about him is you trying to tell everyone else how great he is. Let other people know he is perfect in your eyes.
2 - You just... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's father is standing in the way of us getting married and the whole situation is really hurting my boyfriend....
Q. I have been dating with my boyfriend for few months now and he wants us to get married. The fact is they had their onw conflict with his father before we even meet. Now he is asking his father to go to my family for marriage negotiations but...
A. 19 October 2010: It is hard for most of us to weigh in on the situation, your culture sounds radically different from the culture of most of the people who post here.
Do you need his father's blessing to marry?... (read in full...)
Do I need to clarify or just let it be?
Q. Today i was talking to a girl that i like via email. We were exchanging notes for close to four hours. We got into a conversation about a friend of hers who loves to talk about her ex husband on facebook. we both think its funny. but then she said ...
A. 19 October 2010: Leave it alone. Nothing will tell her that you meant something by your speech than going back after to apologize for it.... (read in full...)
Shaved or trimmed?
Q. Guys and girls what do you like? Do you like a shaved pubic area or trimed or natural on your partner or on yourself?...
A. 19 October 2010: Trimmed. I would say shaved, but I know that can be a huge hassle for my wife.... (read in full...)
How can I ask her out without feeling hurt that she rejected me?
Q. How do I ask a girl out who probably doesn't even like me because of how I look but doesn't know how I am in the inside? How can I ask her in a way where it won't hurt as much if she rejects me? Why do most girls now a days look for what's on the ...
A. 19 October 2010: I would just be direct and ask her out. If she says no based entirely on how you look, that is her loss. Immature women have never looked at what is on the inside. Take your time and find someone mature enough to recognize your value as a human ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hasn't called me in days!
Q. my boyfriend hasnt been talking to me... i dont get why really though... a week or so ago he had surgury... he didnt talk to me for like 5 days befor that cuz he didnt want me to worry about him then he called me and told me he was doing ok... its ...
A. 19 October 2010: Take a deep breath and relax.... Don't worry, it could be any number of things that have kept him from calling you. Depending on the type of surgery he had, he may be on meds that keep him loopy 24/7. Let him rest for a few weeks.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is nice to me some days, but not so nice on others!
Q. So I'm hoping to attempt to make this question relatively short. I really need some advice because there's no one else in my life right now *sadface*. Soo I recently moved in with my bf and it goes well on some says, not so well on others. Sometimes ...
A. 19 October 2010: The two of you lack cohesion in your communication. It isn't your fault, but it isn't necessarily his either. I would recommend couples counseling simply because it is the best way to get both of you focused and talking about long-term fixes in... (read in full...)
She can't decide what she wants, should I even bother anymore?
Q. Ok, first off sorry for the length. Here's the preface. I'm a 23 y/o virgin. The girl in question knows this before we start hanging out, thanks to an ex-friend I have since cut out of my life. So I tell this girl I've been hanging out with ...
A. 19 October 2010: I disagree that going on the ultimate quest for personal gratification is a good way to go about relationships.... (read in full...)
Was I wrong in getting back into a relationship with my ex?
Q. me and my ex boyfriend got back together but now its seems like its all the same things from the first reason we broke was i wrong for getting back into this relationship, should i just have moved on? how can you move on from someone youve been w/ ...
A. 19 October 2010: Getting out of a relationship is like a guy getting hit in the crotch: there is no way to go through it gracefully, and all you can do is wait out the pain afterward. I am impressed that someone of your age could stay committed to another person f... (read in full...)
Does receiving a BJ from many people too often reduce sensitivity?
Q. Hello, I'm a 35 years old guy who addicted to receiving BJ. Since when I was 23 years, I started receiving BJ from many gay men(I'm a good looking lad). I average getting two to three BJ per week from different guys. From the age of 23 to 28, hal...
A. 19 October 2010: If you are talking about getting used to the same kind of stimulation day in and day out, yes it is normal for guys to get used to one kind of experience.
If you mean that you literally have no feeling in your penis until you near orgasm, I sugges... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from him yet, is he not interested?
Q. So I added this guy on facebook a few weeks ago because I thought he was cute. We have one mutual friend and thats how I found him was on her list. We started talking last week for a few days. When we were emailing each other back and forth he was ...
A. 19 October 2010: There is not enough information to tell. I suggest you let it go and give him a few days to come around.... (read in full...)
Why would he ignore me, then act interested, then ignore me again?
Q. I talked with the guy I still like (he used to be interested in me also). We went to homecoming together and it all felt like it was going somewhere. Then tonight, I IMed him and we talked a bit cause he was doing HW. He then told me he had to focus ...
A. 19 October 2010: If he can't figure out how to show serious interest in you, your best move is to pretend like he isn't interested at all. You just end up sitting on and never dealing with all those emotions for something that may all be in your head.
Be single, ... (read in full...)
He won't share his most simple things with me, should I keep trying to have a relationship with him?
Q. I´ll start saying I'm from Brazil and have feelings for a guy who is deployed in Afghanistan in the USAF. We chat often in Skype and have known him for 4 years now. In all this time, I haven't asked him his middle name and when I asked him today, he ...
A. 19 October 2010: I come from a military family, and I can tell you that there are plenty of things he can't talk about on deployment (over phone, mail, or internet). Two of those things include information about where he is (which is generally classified for troops ... (read in full...)
We have sex alot, but don't really have a connection
Q. My bf n i have been dating for abt 2 months now. Its more of a sexual relationship, than an emotional, though, there r still feelings, sometimes. Now, the problem, is tat, we have sex, a lot, bt we dont, realli have that conection. And im starting ...
A. 19 October 2010: One thing at a time: Holding Hands: If he doesn't do it in public, does he at least show you some other form of affection around others? Or does it feel like he is trying to hide your relationship? If you think he is hiding you, confront him on ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend does not support me emotionally
Q. I'm not too emotional; I need emotional support. It appears that my boyfriend is unable to support me emotionally. When I attempt to discuss a concern with him, he discounts it as me being overly sensitive and too emotional. I believe that my ...
A. 19 October 2010: Probably not until he comes about some form of maturing change. The real question is whether or not that change will happen while he is comfortably dating you. My guess would be no. He is at an age where he is most likely set in his ways, which ... (read in full...)
How can I communicate what I am feeling?
Q. Ok so my gf is very vocal about her feelings and where she sees our relationship in the future...I on the other hand dont like to express my feelings too much, ive just never been accustomed to doing so, never scene it growing up or anything and ...
A. 19 October 2010: Don't let this come as a shock, but the reason she is constantly asking what you think is because she is worried about what you think you both share. You need to initiate a conversation where you tell her what you think the two of you have. If you... (read in full...)
Am I dealing with a serial flirter?
Q. I feel a bit of a fool writing this and posting it here, but I hope I can get this off my chest anonymously. I was unemployed for almost a year and in the last couple of months of being on the dole I met this guy who is probably in his late ...
A. 19 October 2010: The guy sounds like one of the following: - A casual flirt who does it with anyone. - A man made from the inside-out of slime who uses his job to meet women. The odds of you bumping into 2 women, and both of them having the same experien... (read in full...)
She can't decide what she wants, should I even bother anymore?
Q. Ok, first off sorry for the length. Here's the preface. I'm a 23 y/o virgin. The girl in question knows this before we start hanging out, thanks to an ex-friend I have since cut out of my life. So I tell this girl I've been hanging out with ...
A. 19 October 2010: Oh I feel for ya buddy....
I have a friend who was into a girl acting the exact same way yours is (telling you she just wants to be friends but then clinging to you like crazy). What was happening was that, she was going through unrelated stress i... (read in full...)
Break up or make up again?
Q. Well a four days ago I found out my boyfriend had a face book without telling me and so I wait to see if he tells me and he still doesn't so the next day I stayed home it was a friday night and I went to bed early because my mom is in the hospital ...
A. 17 October 2010: I don't know your entire situation, but breaking up with a man because he has a Facebook seems a bit harsh without a track record of previous behind-your-back incidents.
Whatever the case may be, you are definitely frustrated, so spending... (read in full...)
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