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anonymous
writes:For the 40 year old males... I'm 27... 5'6 130... athletic/toned...I have been talking w/ a good friend of mine who is 40 and at times the conversation has become sexual. It's not an official plan,but eventually sex is probably going to happen. But... I'm nervous.. I have no idea why b/c I'm sure I'm like his fantasy girl...I've had sex before (not a little, not a lot)... I'm just nervous I'm not going to live up to what he pictures. Any suggestions on what to do when this moment arises... I hope he will take charge... will I be enough for him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): You may find that he likes sex just as much as you do.
Some of us guys in our 40's still like sex and aren't nervous.
While he may be older, it's not like you are 18 and he's thirty. Most women mature a lot by their late 20's, and the age difference isn't so great at that point.
However, if you get married, that age difference means a lot when the guy hits 70-80 and you are 50-60...half of us die before we are 78, so be prepared for that.
This is painful to watch because you are in a different age zone again, like the 18 year old and the 30 year old, but the other end of life.
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reader, Ven +, writes (19 October 2010):
The answer is don't worry. Not that I condone sex with men that much older, but the fact of the matter is that he is in his 40's and getting a shot with a woman in her mid 20's.
On the sex scale he is about as lucky as he can get. And you can relax, he will probably try to take the lead.
If anything, remember what I've said and realize that he has got to be ten times as nervous as you, middle aged and trying to keep up with a woman in her physical prime.
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