She can't decide what she wants, should I even bother anymore?
Q. Ok, first off sorry for the length. Here's the preface. I'm a 23 y/o virgin. The girl in question knows this before we start hanging out, thanks to an ex-friend I have since cut out of my life. So I tell this girl I've been hanging out with ...
A. 19 October 2010: I disagree that going on the ultimate quest for personal gratification is a good way to go about relationships.... (read in full...)
Am I dealing with a serial flirter?
Q. I feel a bit of a fool writing this and posting it here, but I hope I can get this off my chest anonymously. I was unemployed for almost a year and in the last couple of months of being on the dole I met this guy who is probably in his late ...
A. 19 October 2010: The guy sounds like one of the following: - A casual flirt who does it with anyone. - A man made from the inside-out of slime who uses his job to meet women. The odds of you bumping into 2 women, and both of them having the same experien... (read in full...)
My bf's mom doesn't give me attention when I come over.
Q. Hi. I've been with my bf for 15 months now and we love each other very much. He lives with his folks and I often come by, but never slept over. We're both virgins and all we do is cuddle. We agreed to start having sex when I'm ready. Anyway, ...
A. 19 October 2010: It may just be the way she is. It could be that she and her son have a history that requires her to stay out of his relationships. If she doesn't want you leaving at night, I don't know how that could mean anything besides she likes you.... (read in full...)
Keegles aren't helping, what can I do to tighten up down there?
Q. I have had two kids I have been doing kegel exercises for over 3 years i do know how to do them with my first child 8 11 head was huge tho i had to get 36 stitches from in side out.. After that i could not even flex one muscle then I had my ...
A. 19 October 2010: Kegels are really the only thing you can do outside of a medical setting. However if you have muscle damage from child birthing, Kegels aren't going to help as much if at all.... (read in full...)
What should I do with a confused guy?
Q. I have this guy friend who I spend most of the time with since we talk (and text) a lot about personal stuffs, random things, experiences, and all sorts of problems (especially about his family and this girl he's been going out with who is kinda ...
A. 19 October 2010: Talk to him again. Sit him down, and tell him you are seriously wanting to talk out exactly what you are. Tell him you are attracted to him, and want things to officially go to the next level. Don't just leave it an open-ended question for him... (read in full...)
How to make your boyfriend and your parents get along?
Q. my boyfriend thinks that my parents hate him but they don't they just don't like the fact that i hide it from them the first couple weeks then they found out. they took my phone away and said i could never talk to him again until i ran away and ...
A. 19 October 2010: I hate to tell you this, but parents usually don't get along with the guys that their daughters bring home. It's just the way things go until you reach a certain point in your life. The best things you can do are things that are going to help yo... (read in full...)
What does the average girl measure in fingers?
Q. I was wondring if an average guy is 6in. What is an average girl n male fingers? Also, what r the male veiws on the diff sizes? How dramatic is the dif. Btween a girl with and without kids?...
A. 19 October 2010: How big is the average male finger? Honestly, you will probably get better answers if you Google it instead of asking on a relationship advice site.... (read in full...)
Does he LIKE like me or just like me?
Q. ok so this guy is my boyfriends best friend Horatio. so we've all known each other for as long as ive been with my boyfriend which is like 6 years. we all used to be really close and hang out together. then every time me and my boyfriend Tim have ...
A. 19 October 2010: So you have a boyfriend, but are wondering if this guy likes you? One man at a time sweetheart. He can think whatever he wants about you, but it shouldn't matter to you while you are dating someone else. Your relationship now only depends on the p... (read in full...)
Help! I think I'm falling for my ex's cousin
Q. Me and my ex broke up about two weeks ago, and now I don't know what's going on, he's acting all weird around me and I'm confused. He's playfighting with me, sticking up for me when guys insult me and he's just teasing me. I think I still love him, ...
A. 19 October 2010: I believe that love is special. If you are having the same kinds of feelings for two guys, then that feeling isn't romantic love. I say take a break, give yourself some time to clear your head, and then think about guys.... (read in full...)
Why wouldn't he give his number to a girl he's interested in?
Q. Me and this guy have classes together, and we talk. I knew he was interested from the beginning (I was too), and one day he asked if I would like to "go somewhere this weekend." I declined citing the reason why I can't. Basically, he got the idea ...
A. 19 October 2010: Some people don't meet other people through their phones. It can be a comfort thing. He may also be in a serious relationship and not wanting girls from school calling his phone asking about that weekend hangout. Or he may have been shy, or may... (read in full...)
He watches porn every single day while I am asleep
Q. I've been with my fiance for 5 years now. We have our second child on the way, he's a great guy and a great dad, however I am having a big issue with him. He watches porn EVERY SINGLE DAY when I am asleep, and it's starting to really bother me. I ...
A. 19 October 2010: Realize that pornography is a clinical addiction. If you want him to stop, it can take rehabilitation with professionals and follow-up support groups to make it happen. That being said, porn can damage a relationship in the same way that cheatin... (read in full...)
Boyfriend admitted that sometimes when he feels bad he starts fights to make me feel badly too
Q. I know this is long but please read it because I am in dire need of help. My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year and a half and everything seemed to be going great. He goes to uni in Swansea and I go to uni in Cardiff so we ar...
A. 19 October 2010: You have to realize that he is the one with the problem. You love him, so you can help him with that. He is controlling (which usually means he is jealous), and angry for no good reason (which usually means he is depressed).
So if he only gets to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend admitted that sometimes when he feels bad he starts fights to make me feel badly too
Q. I know this is long but please read it because I am in dire need of help. My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year and a half and everything seemed to be going great. He goes to uni in Swansea and I go to uni in Cardiff so we ar...
A. 19 October 2010: You have to realize that he is the one with the problem. You love him, so you can help him with that. He is controlling (which usually means he is jealous), and angry for no good reason (which usually means he is depressed). So if he only gets to ... (read in full...)
How to ask if she's seeing other guys?
Q. I have been seeing this girl for about two weeks, I'm 20 and she's 21. We have done everything but sex however she said she already wants to have sex. I told her i wanted to get to know her better and she agreed. The other night she invited me to ...
A. 19 October 2010: Tell her you are attracted to her, that you want to date her, and that you want the relationship to be exclusive. That will get the answer out of her quickly and painlessly.... (read in full...)
Opinions on back massages?
Q. Do women appreciate back massages? Do you view it on a sexual or affectionate level?...
A. 19 October 2010: Not a Woman, They can see it as both. They love massages. All of them. Sometimes it can be sexual, sometimes affectionate. Sometimes they start out seeing it as affectionate and randomly decide to roll over and jump you later. The one most im... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend, is it too soon to visit him?
Q. So i cheated on my boyfriend. we're in a long distance relationship, so i'm making a trip down there in a weeks. I've been planning this trip for about 3 weeks now. And a couple days ago i cheated, and i told him. He's very understanding, and he ...
A. 19 October 2010: Understand that cheating in our culture is seen as the big betrayal, so you should know two things:
1 - He gets to set the rules on how the two of you handle this. If he says it's fine, you need to go with that and go visit him like nothing ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about losing my virginity to a girl with experience
Q. I feel really embarrassed asking this but I'm a guy who has been going out with this girl for a while now. And we have decided to maybe have sex together. The only problem is is that I'm worried about losing my virginity which I have read does not ...
A. 19 October 2010: Sargent, you are 13-15?
I'm not going to tell you that you are too young, since you would most likely ignore me anyway. However, I will still be somewhat mean and tell you that at your age your emotional development is still so low that you real... (read in full...)
She can't decide what she wants, should I even bother anymore?
Q. Ok, first off sorry for the length. Here's the preface. I'm a 23 y/o virgin. The girl in question knows this before we start hanging out, thanks to an ex-friend I have since cut out of my life. So I tell this girl I've been hanging out with ...
A. 19 October 2010: Oh I feel for ya buddy....
I have a friend who was into a girl acting the exact same way yours is (telling you she just wants to be friends but then clinging to you like crazy). What was happening was that, she was going through unrelated stress i... (read in full...)
I want to find an older woman who doesn't think I'm too young to have sex with her!
Q. I wish I could find an older woman who doesn't say I am too young to have sex with her. I am 21 by the way. I have been attracted to older woman. We go out on dates and do fun things. When the sex thing comes up they always say I am too young to ...
A. 19 October 2010: I'm not a lady, but logically I think your best bet would be to portray yourself as over confident. They are looking at you as a child, innocent and insecure, unlearned in more mature aspects of relationships. When they see anything that reinforces ... (read in full...)
My husband needs to clean up! Please help!
Q. I've been married to my husband for almost 19 years. We have no children and probably won't at this point since we are both in our 40's now. We have cats we love and adore so this kind of fills the parenthood gap for us. We are pretty happy and get ...
A. 19 October 2010: A man with free time who has let his hygiene slip is often the case in depression. It doesn't have to be a suicide-watch, medications and support groups depression. Often it can be trying to cope with a new environment, having too much free time, or ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to give my cats away!
Q. My boyfriend who wants to marry me, wants me to give away my 2 cats whom i love so much because the cat hair disgust him alot. He loves to spend the night with me, but isnt comfortable because of all the cat hair. Should I give them away? PS he laid ...
A. 19 October 2010: Understand that if you are to marry him, his happiness is your priority and the last thing a new couple needs to worry about are silly arguments that just make the big ones worse.
At the same time, your happiness is his priority.
Your best bet... (read in full...)
She wants to pick out her engagement ring, but I want it to be a surprise!
Q. After years of dating I have decided it is time to take the next step and ask my girlfriend of six years to marry me (many years of school has kept me very occupied). I intend on asking her during or just after the holiday season this year. ...
A. 19 October 2010: I've seen it go both ways. Personally I think that a woman handing off her ring to the guy only leads him to hold off on asking thinking that eventually she will forget about it. Logically in my mind though, she gets to pick out the wedding ring ... (read in full...)
Why would she text me asking to be friends after she broke up with her boyfriend?
Q. Ok so my ex just dumped her boyfriend. She txts me two days later. I have not spoken to her in 4 or 5 months. Her txts says, " Are we ever going to be friends again?" Whats this all about guys? Does she still have a thing for me cause why the he...
A. 19 October 2010: Most likely, she is insecure and confused after her breakup, and is hoping that you (another man who split with her) will still accept her as a friend and as a human being. The odds that she is both thinking clearly and into you again are very very ... (read in full...)
What can I do safely in bed with a condom?
Q. I've met a woman who's really crazy about me. She is not that attractive (OK for me though, she' intelligent, interesting and caring), but I am afraid that in order to get me into bed she may be ready to conceal some facts. She lost her head when ...
A. 18 October 2010: With 100% safety, you can use the condom to put on a finger puppet show.
A condom is going to be 99% effective in protecting you from STDs that are transmitted via the actual penetration (oral/vaginal/anal it does not matter). However, som... (read in full...)
Dating a messed up former escort, I care, but should I walk?
Q. Ok, this may sound messed up but it goes like this.. I basically met this girl who is an escort...I paid her for sex twice. I have used escorts for a few years, and I never thought too much about it. Anyways, to cut a long story short I ended up...
A. 18 October 2010: If you love her, get her in rehab.
Regardless of your personal issues, she is not currently of sufficient mental capacity to make decisions regarding dating.... (read in full...)
After 4 years of fancying my friend, is it time to bite the bullet?
Q. Hello. I asked a question recently that stated that I am 25 years old, and I've never had a girlfriend although I do have several female friends. I have fancied one of my female friends for four years now. She had a boyfriend when I first met...
A. 18 October 2010: Tell her. It gets it out there, and you don't have to drag yourself through another 4 years of waiting for the right moment.
Staying friends with someone you like secretly doesn't have to be bad for you. What you have to do is grow your love for... (read in full...)
Keeping the spark alive?
Q. Hi. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, and everything has been wonderful. A few ups and downs here and then but all in all, it's been perfect, and I'm sure he's 'the one'. I really enjoy our relationship but I was wondering if anyone ...
A. 18 October 2010: I really try my best to support people by staying positive when I answer questions here. Unfortunately, I don't know that a couple can keep the initial relationship high forever.
It changes as you get used to each other. If you work on communic... (read in full...)
Its obvious he clearly doesn't want to stop looking at porn!
Q. My boyfriend of two years told me when we started dating he never watches porn. turns out he watches and masturbates everyday. it makes me feel gross about myself. i love him we have a 6 month old son together and i wanna stay with him. i asked him ...
A. 18 October 2010: Kick his butt into rehab. Porn addiction is a clinical addiction, and is arguably more difficult to stop than drinking or smoking. Thanks to the internet we have free 24-hour access to it, making quitting barely possible.
There are support ... (read in full...)
I'm 36 and ready to take the next step, but don't know how...
Q. I'm 36 years old and just getting out of a shitty 15 year marriage. My husband and I never loved each other and I'm ready to find love and happiness for the first time in my life. I've never really known what a 'crush' was, but I think I have one ...
A. 18 October 2010: It could be one or the other. If you like the guy, be his friend. He sounds like he wants to be a good influence on your kids, which is a bonus regardless of his feelings for you.
Meet his efforts halfway, and eventually if he is into you it w... (read in full...)
Finding a reason to stay married shouldnt be so hard...
Q. Hi. I am confused and needing some opinions. I am 24 years old, married my high school sweet heart, and have a 2 year old daughter. At the beginning of the year my husband's parents and younger brother moved in with us, causing an obvious probl...
A. 18 October 2010: I don't want to sound harsh, but you are trying to make a marriage work when you admit to not loving nor trusting this man with your secrets.
Get couples counseling. Your marriage has to be the first priority for both of you (even above your chi... (read in full...)
Guys Only Please* nude pics of gf
Q. GUYS ONLY PLEASE I mean this, because girls view the world in a totally different way, and they all THINK they know what guys are thinking and the reasons behindd their actions, but are usually wrong. A girl asking for insight into a guy's min...
A. 18 October 2010: No, I wouldn't do it. I love and respect my wife, and I don't think I could justify that in any way. Guys who do it are degrading their women to status symbols, to marks on a scoreboard, or to a commodity.
In my mind, sharing pics of your woman wi... (read in full...)
"My girlfriend says she wants to be single but she sounds uncertain and I want her back"
Q. Alrighty 'o , So me and my gal have been together for around 11 months now , we have had our ocassional mis understanding where I didnt give her enough attention , but now she complains it's to much... I love this girl so much and I really can't se...
A. 18 October 2010: Schacm, you have to just give her a few weeks. Her mind is probably just as confused as yours, and when either of you try and make decisions like this all kinds of bad mistakes can be made.
Instead, give both of you enough time to let your hea... (read in full...)
Shadows from my past came knocking at my door, what should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 16 years we have children, and well at least I was happy and I truly loved her. Many years ago I caught her cheating it broke my heart but I forgave her and we continue to live together and we were actually happy. ...
A. 18 October 2010: You should be single. If your wife has been cheating on you, MOVE ON. You will never trust her again, and you deserve better. You now have to look forward to trust issues for a good long time, and that goes for anyone you date. I know that sounds ... (read in full...)
How can I send flirtatious vibes to a girl?
Q. Ive always had interest in females and I have been with a few but was never n a relationship with one. It seems as tho I can only get a guy to date me for long term. I like butchy girls too and also thought being with a butch would increase my ...
A. 18 October 2010: Good luck, I'm a guy who has always been interested in girls and I still don't know how to do it.
One thing you may want to realize is that you are trying to flirt your way to something serious, which in my opinion is an oxymoron. A much better b... (read in full...)
Any tips on how I can claim his attention, without seeming jealous?
Q. This is going to sound a bit silly, but I need to know how to flirt with the guy I like, and not let my friend get all the attention. I met him at a gig a couple weeks ago, and we've been texting and talking all the time, and me and my friends a...
A. 18 October 2010: Get him talking. I'm a 25 year old guy and not a teenage girl so I may be wrong, but if you can get the guy invested in a serious conversation (something he wants to talk about) then it doesn't really leave room for flirting. When people on the ... (read in full...)
I love this man and I want the best for him, even if it means him being with his wife.
Q. 6 weeks ago, I started seeing and falling in love with this man. He had been off and on with his wife for 6 years (she cheated several times 6 years ago). He was sure that he was ready to file and move on with his life...and he did file and got a ...
A. 18 October 2010: You have to respect his current relationship, and be strict in helping him do the same. Otherwise, you will reinforce in his mind the idea that relationships are not sacred. You definitely do not want to be jumping into a relationship with a man who ... (read in full...)
We had a moment..is he flirting with me?
Q. Aahhhh so okay I like this one guy a whole lot. The only thing is he kinda likes my neighbor but my neighbor doesnt like him and he knows that. He told me tht he's trying to get over her. I see him almost every day and talk to him. He always ...
A. 18 October 2010: I don't think there is any good way to know for sure if he was flirting, or if he flirts just to be flirty. Give it time, and wait for more moments...... (read in full...)
Do his parents know I like him and this is why they allow me to stay at their house?
Q. Hey guys i would like anyone if can help and give me there opinion on this friday night i stayed over my guy friends house when his and his parents where away for the night i was looking after his pets anyway what i really want to ask is the...
A. 18 October 2010: I think they simply trust you based on meeting you and what their son tells them of you.... (read in full...)
My husband needs to clean up! Please help!
Q. I've been married to my husband for almost 19 years. We have no children and probably won't at this point since we are both in our 40's now. We have cats we love and adore so this kind of fills the parenthood gap for us. We are pretty happy and get ...
A. 18 October 2010: You need to be honest and straightforward with him. The sooner it happens the less he will feel like you have been carrying this grudge against his personal style.
Another great way to get improvement is to get him involved with people who do t... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose her friendship, what do I do?
Q. dear cupid, i've just started 6th form at my school and we have quite a few new people and i have become quite good friends with two of them. One of them a girl really likes the other and told me so but i really like this guy too i havent told her ...
A. 18 October 2010: You have choices based on how much you like her as a friend and how attracted you are to the guy:
- Decide that the guy is is off-limits. This way you are guaranteed to never hurt your girlfriend.
- Decide to go for him anyway. He will either b... (read in full...)
I regret what I did to my boyfriend, I want him back!
Q. This boy and I have been seeing eachother off and on all summer. The other day I had 3 girls tell me that he was cheating on me. One of the girls like brought up her brother like he was interested in me or something. I'm not interested in him. ...
A. 18 October 2010: It's hard to give advice to people your age, because he might be a really mature guy or a childish brat.
I think you should decide right now, that guys who cheat on you don't get a second chance. It is a great rule to get into your head now so t... (read in full...)
Friendship into more?
Q. I asked this question once before, but now, I'm asking again, with more details, so it's more understandable. How can I take a busy girl's friendship further into a potential relationship? ~~~~~~ In detail: She's the average, silent, "I ...
A. 18 October 2010: Be direct with her. Let her know you are attracted and that you want to take things to that next level.
... (read in full...)
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