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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I'm not too emotional; I need emotional support.It appears that my boyfriend is unable to support me emotionally. When I attempt to discuss a concern with him, he discounts it as me being overly sensitive and too emotional. I believe that my concerns are justifiable. He doesn't talk much, I try to strike up a conversation and he mainly just answers my questions with as less words as possible. He asks me the same questions basically and considers my answers as conversation. He says we are together all the time, he's here, doesn't go anywhere and that's enough.He has close ties with his siblings and basically is the hub of the family. He calls each one of them or they will call throughout the day every single day and many times while I'm sitting there with him. It is very frustrating that he does not exude that same sort of communicating effort with me, no matter how meager their conversations are. It's the fact that he demonstrates the effort to contact them or have some sort of conversation with them, but doesn't feel I need the same report. He also likes to joke around a lot and doesn't really take anything seriously. When I attempt to discuss my concerns he makes a joke or laughs it off. I find this very annoying and wonder if he is capable of ever supporting me emotionally. Reply to this Question
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reader, Ven +, writes (19 October 2010):
Probably not until he comes about some form of maturing change. The real question is whether or not that change will happen while he is comfortably dating you. My guess would be no. He is at an age where he is most likely set in his ways, which makes change even harder.I would recommend finding someone who had their act together enough to want to spend quality time with you.
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