I am so confused... I think I'm gay but I don't want to be...
Q. I am a 13 year old boy, when I masturbate, I think about boys feet. I know I have a foot fetish. When I look at girls they don't turn me on... I tried to watch a hot girl on tv and masturbate but I couldn't, Am I gay? I really don't want to be...
A. 6 March 2009: Without meaning to offend those who dislike the idea, acceptance of homosexuality has been increasing steadily for decades. Things like civil unions, which would have been unthinkable in most places twenty years ago, are often proposed by opponents ... (read in full...)
Weird to think sex is yuk?
Q. This will sound really stupid, so if you ant to answer more important questions first like teen pregnancy ones go ahead. I am 13. I had my first kiss at 12. I have not done anything with a boy past a short make out session. I have friends that have ...
A. 6 March 2009: Isn't anonymity fun!
Anyway, at 13, not weird at all. Even with your puberty. Now if you were 18, and you hadn't had a sexual (e.g. "i just want to touch him/her") response to men or women, that would I think be unusual. We're all pretty s... (read in full...)
I'm a forty year old man who is fed up with his marriage.
Q. I'm a forty year old man who is fed up with his marriage. I've only ever had sex with my wife as she was my first girlfriend and I have never cheated on her in the 20 years we have been together. There have been 2 occasions at least where she has ...
A. 6 March 2009: Whether five years from now you are in the relationship with your wife, or with someone else, you'll be happier for being true to your principles.
If you fix things with your wife, both of you will give you points for not doing something intentio... (read in full...)
Could I wind up messing up a wonderful thing because of my doubts?
Q. Hello. I'm new to this kind of thing, but in reading over some of the other submissions, I suppose the way is to simply spill it. I'm a three-year divorcee from a marriage that I put my all into, and was met with a faithless, and ultimately decid...
A. 6 March 2009: LostKnight,
First of all, I'm sorry for the loss you had in your marriage, and congratulations for the progress you've made and the hopeful situation you find yourself in today.
Three years ago you learned your "radar" was not well tuned when ... (read in full...)
In terms of Personality, what is a man's turn on when he looks for a woman?
Q. Though this may seem a little vague, what would you say is the biggest attractant for a man when it comes to the opposite sex? We know that sex is a primary need and desire, but aside from the physical part, what do most men look for or what is the ...
A. 4 March 2009: A woman's ability to confidently express a thoughtful opinion without apology or excessive self-deprecation, but also without arrogance or excessive emotion, gets my attention. I think, now this is someone I'd enjoy spending time talking and ... (read in full...)
Puberty means one thing to me... ACNE!!!!
Q. Huh!!! I feel soo frustrated!!! Puberty, puberty!!! Yeah I'm happy knowing that I'm growing and stuff but puberty also has a dark side!! ACNE!! oh my god I hate it. I feel soo self conscious about it, when is it gonna just go away!! I have it ...
A. 3 March 2009: I used Retin-A plus one other cream thing when I was a teenager, prescribed by a dermatologist. Wasn't a particularly bad case of acne, my Mom just wanted less chance of any kind of scarring. Protective like that.
Burned like a son-of-a... (read in full...)
Can you suggest ways of slowing him down and suggesting he does more foreplay? Any examples of foreplay?
Q. I wish my boyfriend would try more foreplay when we are in bed. Can you suggest ways of slowing him down and suggesting he does more foreplay? What are some foreplay things we can do? Is suggesting that he lick my body with his tongue a good id...
A. 3 March 2009: tie down +1... (read in full...)
Views on virginity
Q. Hey, I was just wondering what age did people lose their virginity and having lost it at that age do you wish you had been younger/older when it happened? I'm not thinking of having sex or anything quite yet, I'm just curious :) Thanks x...
A. 3 March 2009: male, 23 yrs old. On the one hand, wish I had more experience earlier, but in part because the experiences I had later were so good.
On the other hand, I think if I had been sexually active younger, the experiences wouldn't have been nearly a... (read in full...)
I need answers... To shave or not to shave, that is the question!!!
Q. Hi!!! I have a little doubt, its about pubic hair, I'm 15 years old and my vaginal area is really really hairy, would that be a turn off for guys??? Should I shave it, trim it, or leave it like it is? PD: I'm blonde but my pubic hair is dark bro...
A. 3 March 2009: In case you decide to shave, a word of advice. My partner tried waxing, which she did not enjoy but loved the results, so then she tried shaving.
Perhaps girls don't normally shave hair that grows as thick and bushy as pubic hair, but guys' be... (read in full...)
I get the feeling he wants to take our relationship to the next level.
Q. I have been in a relationship for about 6 to 7 months but I feel he wants to have more then just love... meaning he wants to have sex with me. Should I and if I do decide what are the best condoms to use? ...
A. 3 March 2009: Also, when I did have problems with condoms (though not specific brands) were when I was younger and did not appreciate the value of lubes. A condom is more likely to break if you are or get dry inside.
Which brings up another point: you should b... (read in full...)
I get the feeling he wants to take our relationship to the next level.
Q. I have been in a relationship for about 6 to 7 months but I feel he wants to have more then just love... meaning he wants to have sex with me. Should I and if I do decide what are the best condoms to use? ...
A. 3 March 2009: Sex? Not unless *you* want to. You can always do it later. You can't undo it.
Whenever you get to the time and place and person where you do want to have sex, i'd also suggest trojans, though I've never had problems with any brand.... (read in full...)
Does masturbating stunt the growth of your penis?
Q. Oh man!! I feel so embarrassed asking this question... I feel so sorry for myself.. but does masturbating stunt the growth of your penis?? I'm 14 and 5.5 inch when it's hard and have been really self conscious lately about my size, will it ever ...
A. 3 March 2009: Nope, not a bit.... (read in full...)
My fiance is wonderful, but we don't have the same connection that my ex and I had. What should I do?
Q. i am 19 and i am enagaged i love my fiance but i find myself always making up excuses to not get physical. is like i am not sexually attracted to him as i was with my ex. i feel like i stil love my ex i think about him and i miss him. my fiance is a ...
A. 3 March 2009: The physical matters. And before you say you don't want to tell your fiance because you don't want to hurt him: few things in life can make someone feel more unloved than a partner who clearly does not want to be sexually intimate with you. Try ... (read in full...)
I like him but now another girl is all over him. What do I do?
Q. Hi. I have a huge dilemma here. I'm almost 22 and have never had a boyfriend. I've never had a lot of friends and I don't party like people my age. So you can see why... Anyway, my problem is that a guy supposedly likes me, or so say my friends. ...
A. 3 March 2009: ScaredKitty,
Bit of toughlove for you, cause I like you.
It is perfectly possible to spend your whole life this way.
And it will get harder to change the longer you leave it.
Talking to someone you like is a lot like public speaking, many... (read in full...)
Do you think he will call or is completely over me?
Q. Hello, I just got out of a 2 year relationship. The guy I was with claimed to truly be in love with me and even proposed to me this past October. We have gone through ALOT during those 2 years. 2 weeks ago we broke up for 3 days and he tells me...
A. 3 March 2009: If he is like most guys his age, he will vacillate between wanting to keep his options open (fear of commitment), pushing you away when he feels secure that he has you, and wanting not to be alone, over-committing out of fear when it looks like he ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy asks you if you'd like to go get coffee?
Q. Here is my situation (sorry if it's kind of long.) I met this guy in a professional context (actually, in a job training class I assisted with teaching last year). They graduated. We got back in contact when he texted me wanting to know when the ...
A. 3 March 2009: My sense is it a request for more than friendship. It's the "if that's an option", plus asking about coffee over text.
If it was just the texting, I'd probably not mention add my 2 cents here, because I'm 36 and 18-21 yr olds may have differen... (read in full...)
Is porn addictive?
Q. Ok well me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months but have known each other for 7 years. Just recently we moved into our own place. I was unpacking one day wen his phone vibrated so I took a look to see who it was. Just a message. I had ...
A. 3 March 2009: I suspect porn is rather like alcohol. A lot of people can enjoy it, find it stimulates them or loosens them up, but some can become seriously dependent on it.
As for your boyfriend looking at or being aroused by other women, remember that whi... (read in full...)
Do guys find genital piercings on women sexy and a turn on?
Q. I want to get my clitoris hood and inner labia pierced. I would like to know from the guys if they find genital piercings sexy and a turn on. Of course, I'm doing it for me but would like to know what guys think of them. P.S. I'm single so I have...
A. 3 March 2009: Most piercing questions here run about 2-1 anti. Me, I like them. Hood more than labia, for what it's worth.
One caution: my partner has two piercings, and the "trickier" one never gave her a lick of trouble, but the "easier" one has bothered... (read in full...)
I masterbate and look at porn, even gay porn!
Q. hey ! im a 16 year old guy. i still masturbate almost everyday, and look at porn frequently. sometimes male porn, but im totaly straight! is there something wrong!...
A. 2 March 2009: I agree with both basic points here:
1) What you enjoy looking at does not sexually define you, and most people have broader interests/fantasies than they have any desire to pursue in real life, and
2) Our minds are somewhat plastic, and sus... (read in full...)
How many sleeping partner have you had
Q. Hi im doing a survey about how many sleeping partners (vaginal or anal) you or anyone you know, GF/BF etc, has had? Plz also state how sure you are of yours and your partners number! Plz be honest as there's no need to lie because you can just put...
A. 2 March 2009: 36 male USA 3 vaginal 1 anal (100%)
35 female UK ?half-dozen or so? vaginal, 2 anal (50% ... she's on a plane right now so hard to ask)
... (read in full...)
Her parents won't let her be with me
Q. SORRY ITS long..... So I'm in a tight spot.... I've been sorta seeing this girl for almost a month. We've been close family friends for a while but, my parents don't really approve. My dad thinks nothing good can come from me dating her, and ...
A. 2 March 2009: Arguing for you is the fact that the parents of a 16-year old think you're great for their daughter. That has to carry some weight.
Arguing against you is the fact that you think it might be okay for a 21-year old to date a 16-year old. (Most pe... (read in full...)
She doesn't seem to be happy with me any more... should I just let her go?
Q. Hi there to all of you aunt's out there. Well the story went like this, me and my g/f made love 2 days ago and I completely undressed her that time (but I forgot to tell her earlier that I want to have a regular day with her next time I come over...
A. 2 March 2009: To the OP:
It sounds like you are at the point where you need to let her know that you feel hurt and disrespected. Connect her actions to your feelings without imputing motives to her. When she accuses you of cheating you feel untruste... (read in full...)
Anal sex--does it hurt? Can I get pregnant?
Q. my boyfriend wants to have anal sex will it hurt can i get pregnant by having anal sex ...
A. 2 March 2009: Keep in mind that, if you get to where you've decided that you want to go ahead with anal sex (I won't pass judgement either way other than to echo the sentiments below), that you should be entitled put something up his bottom first.
Now, I'm not ... (read in full...)
Can a guy love one woman and be sleeping with another?
Q. Hello, everyone! Can a guy love one woman and be sleeping with another? He has indicated his love for me but is with a girlfriend. Now I'm with another guy and the guy who talks about our love is angry with me. Should I tell the guy who say she ...
A. 2 March 2009: Sometimes the man meanings of the word Love can make it almost meaningless.
"Can a guy love one woman and be sleeping with another?"
If by love, you mean thinking she is pretty or sexy or funny, or that she makes you feel special or happy... (read in full...)
Help settle an argument!
Q. My boyfriend and I are having an argument about cheating. No neither of us is but we can't agree as to what can be defined as cheating. I said that if I made a girl on girl video (hypothetical) but he wasn't allowed to see it BUT I told him about...
A. 2 March 2009: At first glance, I'm not sure I understand his argument. Which is not to say I agree with yours, I honestly think we're missing something of his argument.
To wit: does that mean if you had sex with his best friend, and he could not watch, t... (read in full...)
3 some with bf & another male possible?
Q. Sorry for the fashionable part of the title. I have a best bf in the world we got on great and have a super sex life. I have a few secret fantasies most of which i keep secret and would never even dream of trying or suggesting to him as sometimes a ...
A. 2 March 2009: I know you are looking for women's opinions (I think that's a good idea), but I thought I'd share a guy's.
It can be easier to bring up this kind of subject (say in bed) when you make a clear distinction between fantasies that turn you on, and ... (read in full...)
I hate kissing him knowing he has a girlfriend!
Q. Dear Cupid, Theres this boy i'm talking to and we love each other dearly but he has a girlfriend.He said he's not in love with her but he does love her and he told me that he's in love with me and tells me he loves me and that he wants to spend th...
A. 2 March 2009: You should want in a boy someone who, if he fell out of love with you, would have the decency, sense of fairness (and the "balls") to tell you the truth, so that you could find someone who would work to stay in love with you rather than looking for ... (read in full...)
Flirting magic needed!
Q. Hi! This is a bit long, so I really hope you have the patience... I recently turned nineteen and the guy I'm into is turning twenty on March 8th. We met in Speech class (required for any degree) four weeks ago and I basically wasted the first three ...
A. 2 March 2009: I wouldn't rush into anything, given the 5-month-left and the at-least-1-year-to-university timeframes.
Rather, I'd treat it as a chance to get to know (and be known by) someone you like who has similar interests.
Since that is potential friend... (read in full...)
I thought I was in love, but now I have feelings for someone else!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly two years now and we have really had some ups and downs. We've broken up, saw other people, and got back together quite a few times. He's away right now, but planning to come back to me and actually ...
A. 2 March 2009: Separate the issues you have with your boyfriend (controlling, jealous) from your feelings for your guy-friend.
You are still quite young, so it's a good time to practice thinking in more nuanced terms about your relationships. It's very common, ... (read in full...)
She doesn't seem to be happy with me any more... should I just let her go?
Q. Hi there to all of you aunt's out there. Well the story went like this, me and my g/f made love 2 days ago and I completely undressed her that time (but I forgot to tell her earlier that I want to have a regular day with her next time I come over...
A. 2 March 2009: First don't take it too personally. Women feel a lot more pressure to be beautiful than guys do, partly because guys are very visual creatures, and partly because women tend to be competitive with each other and judge each other harshly about their ... (read in full...)
I am so confused... I think I'm gay but I don't want to be...
Q. I am a 13 year old boy, when I masturbate, I think about boys feet. I know I have a foot fetish. When I look at girls they don't turn me on... I tried to watch a hot girl on tv and masturbate but I couldn't, Am I gay? I really don't want to be...
A. 2 March 2009: Short answer, and you'll have to trust me (and other folks here) on this, but you'll know well before you are married.
Once your hormones really kick in (anywhere from ... dunno, 13 to 17?), something or someone will probably be giving you erec... (read in full...)
Engaged and cheating
Q. I am engaged and been in a relationship for almost 7 years. However, I have cheated a handful of times throughout the relationship. Since I have been engaged I have cheated 3 times with different people. I feel guilty and know that this can't ...
A. 2 March 2009: I'm going to play bad guy on this one, so delicate sensibilities might want to skip to the next answer.
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Alicia05,
He's not your soulmate. A soulmate implies he understands you, and if you have cheated on him several times, an... (read in full...)
I am so confused... I think I'm gay but I don't want to be...
Q. I am a 13 year old boy, when I masturbate, I think about boys feet. I know I have a foot fetish. When I look at girls they don't turn me on... I tried to watch a hot girl on tv and masturbate but I couldn't, Am I gay? I really don't want to be...
A. 2 March 2009: Hi Anonymous.
My short answer is, I think 13 is too young to tell. Not that there aren't people who know at 13 that they are straight, or gay, or bisexual, but rather I think there are a lot of people who don't know.
Sometimes there is a diffe... (read in full...)
Crying during anal sex normal?
Q. is crying doing anal sex normal it was so painful my boyfriend said if i don't get things straight he will brake up with me what should do...
A. 2 March 2009: In case it helps to hear it from a guy (who has no problem with anal sex):
1) If he reacts to your pain (emotion or otherwise) by threatening to dump you, he is very emotionally immature and/or an abusive bully.
2) If he has anal sex with yo... (read in full...)
WHY does sex hurt the first few times if we're meant to reproduce?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl and don't plan on having sex anytime soon but I was wondering - why does it hurt the first few times you have sex, either when you lose your virginity or when having sex with a new partner? Our bodies are pretty much created ...
A. 22 February 2009: Guys who won't go slow and treat you with care, are guys who are mostly likely to hurt you. Not wanting to get hurt, you will tend not to want to mate with them.
Our bodies may be made to reproduce, but they are also made to help us reproduc... (read in full...)
Should I press rape charges against my cousin (I got a rape test done 3 years ago), especially now that he has 3 little sisters? Afraid of my family's reaction.
Q. Okay, about 3 years ago my cousin and his friend raped me, and I really want to press charges ( I got a rape kit test done) however, i'm not sure my family would approve being as he is my cousin and all......now I know I should do it because he has ...
A. 21 February 2009: Ayda1110,
Yes you need to. The sooner you do, the sooner you get to the place where you aren't carrying this secret and wondering what will happen. It's a terrible burden to have to carry alone. It may be hard and scary to speak up, but if i... (read in full...)
I'm looking for some simple things that could drive him crazy during sex and also sure fire ways that we can reach that climax!
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 5 months now. We've been crazily in love for 3 months of that and I completely adore him. We can't spend enough time with each other, and when we are together we literally can't keep our hands off each ...
A. 21 February 2009: satindesire, are you giving away guy secrets again???... (read in full...)
My GF wants to go to the prom, but I don't... what's a good alternative?
Q. i am a senior dating a sophmore. prom is coming up and she seems interested in going but i really don't want to. i've been to a few dances and just didn't like it at all. so i would rather offer up an alternative. how do you think she'll take it and ...
A. 21 February 2009: Think of it as practice for your wedding one day (to whomever). It's a day about her. You man up, you go, and you make sure you have fun, and make sure she feels special.
Sorry it's not the answer you wanted, but trust me it's the right one, and... (read in full...)
We want to pleasure each other without actual sex!
Q. hye guys.. im 14 and me and my girlfriend have been together for a very long time...and we really like each other, but we've decided not to have sex yet..(yes we're smart).. sso anyways im always turned on when im around her, but i fight the ...
A. 21 February 2009: If you just want to touch, and she wants that (and setting aside my "you're too young" impulse), I'd tell you to recognize that most of women's (and girl's) sexual response is not from their vaginas, but from there clitorises. So if you want to ... (read in full...)
I need sex! How can I help myself?
Q. I am 13 and so horny that i am fingering my self.I need sex but it bad. how can I help myself?????????????...
A. 21 February 2009: Masturbation is fine, it helps you learn what you like, and will likely make for a better sex life when you grow up.
If you feel that it is talking up too much of your time, that it is compulsive, then I'd suggest two things.
First, try to... (read in full...)
Will having anal sex hurt me or will I feel pleasure?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been toghether for 2 years. Our relationship got physical a while ago but he says he wants to try anal. I am really scared of doing it because it will be the first time I have done that but I don't know whether to let him ...
A. 21 February 2009: To be honest, while anal sex does not need to be painful, in order for it not to be painful both partners have to be veeerrrrrrrrrrry patient. As in, you sort of have to start weeks before you actually do it.
I was a teenage boy once, and to b... (read in full...)
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