I got back together with my ex because I felt bad, but I'm faking it now. Should I let her down nicely or simply vanish?
Q. I told my X that I wouldn't mind trying it one more time.But now I want out. She was crying hysterically and I felt bad. I don't think she has changed enough, there is no newness to being with her agiain. and since our break up I feel like a new ...
A. 9 February 2009: You should talk to her. It sucks to sit around and wonder if you did something wrong, to try to draw (the wrong) lessons from a heartbreak. But it also sounds like the talk isn't a "how can we make this work" but rather a "I can't make this ... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to think my only attraction to him was physical.
Q. Hi, so i wrote a question on this site yesterday and i still have more questions. So my boyfriend HAS been dropping hints about sex for those of you who read my question and we sat down and talked about sex. But here are the things that set up a red ...
A. 9 February 2009: Seconded.... (read in full...)
We've tried spicing it up, but I'm happier on my own. Any advice?
Q. Hi all. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years and we have our whole future planned out. sometimes this makes me happy, other times I think about it and get scared. I got wind of him proposing to me once and freaked and split up with ...
A. 9 February 2009: At first glance it sounds like you are deciding to be with him but another part of you is trying to sabotage it, find a way out. So my question would be, why do you choose to stay with him? You mention you've never been single; do you feel a ne... (read in full...)
The hardest decision of my life... help me.
Q. I am 30 years old. I have 3 little boys which I love and adore more than life. I was married once and divorced and then remarried 4 years ago. We have 2 of the 3 sons together. My husband is 15 years older than me and after our last child I cou...
A. 9 February 2009: Your best chance of getting a good outcome lies in understanding what it is that he is afraid of, and making concrete plans to lessen those things. For example, if he wanted to retire/quit his job, and now he thinks he will never be able to, you ... (read in full...)
Bisexual, open and honest....
Q. I am a very sexual female. I have been very open with my husband and admitted to being bisexual - he is fine with it. I am now comfortable enough with him that I am wanting to not only find a real girlfriend and involve her sexually in our ...
A. 9 February 2009: Two different parts of the answer. 1) I don't think there is anything wrong with thinking and feeling as you do. Especially being turned on by the idea of your partner with someone else, is not at all uncommon. And no one partner brings e... (read in full...)
He told his mates "there's nothing there now"..yet his action speak differently
Q. All i can think of is him its driving me Mad! We was together over 2 years and broke up with me out the blue without any warning for “Space”. ( He dumped me 2 days b4 i was due to get some medical results) When he finished it he was crying and kept ...
A. 8 February 2009: Short answer, if he doesn't know what he wants, and you have mixed feelings about him, and you can't ignore him when you see him, then you may not be able to move on. Of course, you might meet someone and find from him what you get from "Space"... (read in full...)
Seductive Valentine suggestions
Q. This Valentines is going to be myself and my Husbands first Valentines together as a married couple. Im quite shy but with the day thats in it, I would love some suggestions as to how to seduce him. Im trying my best to organise a meal for the night ...
A. 8 February 2009: Hopefully a lot of guys (and gals) will throw out ideas, as I think this is something that will vary a lot from person to person. You'll have to pick what sounds like something that your guy would go for. So here's what would work for me. ... (read in full...)
Why did he go from being so sweet that night to giving me this kind of response?
Q. I've been best friends with this guy since we were six and we're now eighteen. Just before December he told me that he has liked me since we were 13 and what surpirsed me the most is that I realised that I liked him too, so now we're going out. ...
A. 8 February 2009: Two parts: 1) Proms are generally not as big a deal to guys, so that could be the enthusiasm part. Some guys cringe at the thought of dressing up and dancing. You need to evaluate it in the context of everything else. And as a matter of p... (read in full...)
Why am I being ignored by someone that I thought liked me???
Q. Hi there, Just looking for a bit of advice really! I`ve known this girl for a few months when she came to work at my place, we got on really well, we just seemed know each other straight away, she was with someone at the time and she was ...
A. 8 February 2009: Unless you two had obvious chemistry when you met in person, I'd limit it to something like "I really enjoyed spending time with you, and I hope if you have time in the future and are interested, you'll drop me a line." And make sure she has 2 ways ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a loser, I try to help him but I don't know if I can stand it any longer, will he change?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. But, most of the time I feel as if he's lieing to me. He just doesn't seem to appreciate anything I do. I've tried to talk to him about alot of the things that I'm about to mention. ...
A. 8 February 2009: I agree it sounds like this guy has an addictive personality. Addictions provide comfort under stress or boredom, whether drinking, drugs, alcohol, porn, or activities like stealing. They give a blood-rush high for a person that does not know how ... (read in full...)
All I want to do is to hide in my bed all day
Q. Lately I have begun to feel very low and isolated. Im usually a chatty, active 25 year old but over the last few weeks I have had such a horrible feeling inside me it wont go away. I feel cut off from my friends and sad that I havnt got anything ...
A. 8 February 2009: That's called depression; it's not just you and it is very common. There are minor and major depressive episodes (you can look up checklists of signs online). Talking with someone (a good friend or counselor/therapist) is an important thing to do. ... (read in full...)
Should I stop weeping & be a man?
Q. dear users and thanks in advance, i've been with this wonderful lady for nearly 14months. we are both 20 and at university in the same course. we have a non-platonic relationship i.e. a sexual affectionate relationship however we do not consider ...
A. 8 February 2009: Once she says she doesn't want to date anymore, respecting her wishes and leaving her along is your least bad option. Anything more looks needy and unattractive, if not worrisome or dangerous. It's fine to tell her that you didn't cheat, th... (read in full...)
Met him a few days while in Turkey and now I'm going to live with him there...
Q. Hi, I went on holiday to Turkey last year and met a turkish man, I only new him for a few days but they were the best few days ever. When I come back home to England we've stayed in contact and for the past 5 month I have been back, we have spoke ...
A. 4 February 2009: two things (as someone who married someone overseas 10+ years ago, and is still happily with her): 1) Understand different expectations about gender roles. If you want a career, will it have equal weight (he moves for your job as readily as you m... (read in full...)
Should I get the HPV vaccine?
Q. Hi, Should I get the HPV vaccine? I'm 15 and have never slept with a guy. I probably won't do so till I'm in my twenties, so is it worth getting the HPV vaccine now? Should I get it even if I won't have sex for the next 4 years? (The HPV vaccine ...
A. 4 February 2009: Yep, get the shot.... (read in full...)
In my 30's and never had sex yet...
Q. OK this is kinda hard to explain... I'm in my 30's and STILL a virgin. This is very embarrassing! and I have to make sure anyone I know never finds out ever! I have had boyfriends but it never goes further than kissing before I then freeze or make ...
A. 4 February 2009: Something else to consider ... if your concern is the losing control to a situation/person, you might try the following (when the time is right). With him on his back (and thus passive), you can climb on top of him and play around with him. If yo... (read in full...)
Doubts about a lasting relationship without christ...
Q. Hello everyone my name is Feeljoy please my question is: is there really a lasting relationship on earth without christ in your life?...
A. 3 February 2009: Religion and politics are famously hard for people to talk about, because they are both terribly complicated and basically immune to scientific proofs. (Anyone got a spare universe or two we can run some tests on?)
So we all have ideas about ho... (read in full...)
I feel so lost in life...
Q. I really need advice as I feel I cannot see straight. I am in my mid-20' but I feel so lost in life. I live at home with my loving, but strict parents. I can't really invite ppl over bc my family is so dysfunctional. But I can't stay out late or...
A. 3 February 2009: Job job job. Job job. Job coworkers friends social life. Job money rent independence. Job routine structure control productivity self-confidence. Job skills competence self-esteem attractiveness. =========== As for the long di... (read in full...)
Should I give in and have this abortion?
Q. right here goes im 21 years old im pregnant and facing one of the hardest desicions i think il ever have to make......my partner of 5 years and my 2 year old daughters dad has informed me he doesnt want another chid and wants me to have a aborti...
A. 3 February 2009: Remember adoption is another option; if your concern is guilt over abortion, and his concern is the raising of another child, these two concerns are not incompatible. If you can have a talk with him, starting out explaining how you understand what ... (read in full...)
How often do guys jerk off?
Q. I'm not a guy and I honestly don't understand how men work. I am with my boyfriend for almost a year. For 5 years prior to this relationship he was single. He had to get used to taking matters into his own hands for quite some time. When I first ...
A. 2 February 2009: satin is spot on... personal example from a guy: when I was in college, if I had to study for an exam (or had complicated classwork), inevitably I would start thinking how having sex would be a much better pastime than than whatever the wor... (read in full...)
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