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writes: Hi im doing a survey about how many sleeping partners (vaginal or anal) you or anyone you know, GF/BF etc, has had? Plz also state how sure you are of yours and your partners number!Plz be honest as there's no need to lie because you can just put anonymous, like i have lol!Plz put your sex, age, sexual number and country thx!Ok ill go 1st lol.Im Male, 25, have 10 sleeping partners (100% sure) and im from the UK!My GF is 21, has 12 sleeping partners (100% sure) and is from America!Im curious to see if it comes back with Men saying they have slept with more, as anyone who's good at Maths will know this is mathematically impossible, and it is in fact a mathematical certainty that women have slept with more on average, as there's more men in the world than woman!Thx for your time!Anon lol! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): female, 17, 6 partners, US.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): 15 Male and ZEERROOO ( 0 ) sleeping partners
i know probably a surprise
my Gf 15 and 0 sleeping partners as well
both from the US
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reader, stellaforstar  +, writes (29 March 2009):
 Just one perfect man for me
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reader, Miguel Spain  +, writes (4 March 2009):
I've had sex with 45 women. I'm male, 25yo, from Spain. (I work as a bouncer in a club)
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reader, Tomas  +, writes (2 March 2009):
36 male USA 3 vaginal 1 anal (100%)
35 female UK ?half-dozen or so? vaginal, 2 anal (50% ... she's on a plane right now so hard to ask)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): im 22 and have been with 7 men my husband is 25 and has been with around 50 he lost count!not such an attractive number for him but atleast we are in a committed relationship now and i guess thats what matters although it does bother me! is anyone else bothered by their current lovers numbers?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): I'm female, 24 and have had 6 partners, 100% sure. None of them anal, most of them oral too (one girl)
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reader, MummyCaz +, writes (17 February 2009):
Im Female, 21, have had 1 sleeping partner (100% sure) and im from the UKMy BF is 20, has had 1 sleeping partner (100% sure) and is from the UK
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): I'm female from the US, and 47 years old.We're not sure how many 'partners' my husband has had, he was wild before he started going with me. He was an athelete and in a rock band, he is also 47 and guesses that he had sex with about 40-50 women.I've never had anal sex (my husband and I kind of tried once, but never again). And I've only had sex with him, so my answer is 1. If you want to count other types of sexual contact (handjobs/blowjobs), then my answer is 6 total including my husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): I'm 14 from america and have had 0 vaginal partners and one oral
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): I'm 22 and female from the US...32 partners (pretty sure that's not normal)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): My wife is 39 and had intercourse with 5-6 men
I'am 45 had intercourse with 13 women
(until my 39th with 1)
anal I remember 3.
except the first 1, (and for 1 other I am not sure because she was not over her ex) all women really enjoyed having sex (I would almost say strongly need) as much as me, and would never say no.
After my 1st 22year relation with a poor sex life, I learned how to recognize women with a high drive.
It took some useful experiences to learn also about the other important aspects for a longterm relation :):)
for your information, 10 or 11 (1 not sure again, the same one) of the 13 had vaginal orgasm (every time). 3 had multiple and 2 of those 3 also squirting orgasms.
Do not tell me that the women were faking, 1 alsmost hit me if I came before she could cum (with her I learned to control very good), 1 forgot her children when she was close to cum and screamed while her children were downstairs, 1 came about 20 times in 14 hours (also anal), 1 came before I could cum and rolled tired off my P, 1 ... and about the best I will not say you anything, but we are a nice couple :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): Im 21 Female, I live in the United States. Ive had vaginal sex with 2 men, have recieved oral sex from 1 man, given oral sex to 3 men, and have give oral sex to 6 women, recieved oral sex from 3 women.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (10 February 2009):
 i'm 33, and my last count is 7
I'm trying to keep the numbers as low as possible. my aim is no more then ten ..haha
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): I am seventeen, from the US, and I have had 3 sexual partners, all of which I had vaginal intercourse with, one of which I had anal.
My best friend is a twenty year old male and has had two sexual partners, (both vaginal)
My ex is a nineteen year old male and has had three sexual partners (all vaginal, two of them anal as well)
And my other ex is an eighteen year old male, and has had one sexual partner (vaginal).
Hope that helps! :)
(P.S., they are all from the United States, New York specifically.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): 42 Male US. 5 and a half. Had anal with one of them. The half was an occasion where I only went in half way once and that was the end of it so I don't know if it counts. Funny I thought it was a large number.
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reader, PerforatedLove +, writes (9 February 2009):
I am female, 17 & have had one. 100% sure.
My fiancee is 18, has had one sleeping partner, 100% sure.
Monogamists for the win.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2009): I'm 31, female, and have had around 10 sexual partners (not including encounters involving everything but penetrative sex). Three of those partners have involved anal once or twice. I am English.
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reader, misfitschik66  +, writes (8 February 2009):
 Im Female 19 i have had 2 sleeping partners (100% sure) im from Canada
My boyfriend is 20 he has had 1 sleeping partner (100% sure ) he is from Canada
My ex is male he is 22 and he has had 6 sleeping partners (50% sure) he is from Canada
my Best friend is female she is 19 and has had 2 sleeping partners (90% sure) she is from canada
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reader, superbunny +, writes (8 February 2009):
 I'm from the UK, female, 19 & have slept with 9 men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2009): Wow- I feel sort of special here. Nothing for me -Virgin (100% certain). 16 years old, Canadian.
My BF has had 1 sleeping partner (100% sure). 16, also Canadian.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2009): i'm 16 from england and have never slept with anyone...my boyfriend is 17 from england and has never slept with anyone...my mum is 50 and has slept with one person...my dad is 52 and has slept with one person...my brother is 16 (twin)and has slept with 14 people...my sister is 16 (okay triplet) and has slept with 5 people.my dog is 7 and sleeps alone
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2009): I'm female, 20, 4 vaginal partners total (100% sure) from america. also I have had 8 non-intercourse sexual partners (oral and hand)my boyfriend is 21, and has had 3 vaginal partners, including me
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reader, LaydeeOfSorrows  +, writes (7 February 2009):
 I'm 16, and Have had 1 sexual partner
My boyfriend has had 3, including me
Were both from Australia :)
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (7 February 2009):
 Well, at about 60-years-old, I've been around the block many times. Some are just a hazy memory from the 1960s-70s heydays, but most are still quite fresh on my mind. The number really doesn't matter much except that at my age, the experience and abilities can be imparted to women close to my age (younger ones don't know) to make them very happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2009): i'm 41 male - had vaginal sex 12 partners, hand jobs with 4 partners (not included in 11 as that's all the girls allowed - I was young) - phone sex with 1 partner (not included in above - different city never physically met her) slept with 2 naked but no sex as we were wasted after night clubs. I live in UK and US.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (6 February 2009):
 The word 'average' is very misleading.
The mathematical term for average is the 'mean'. To calculate that you count all the sexual partners everyone has had, and divide by the number of people.
The result for men and women should be very nearly identical (although since there are different numbers of men and women, and frequency of homosexuality, it's not exactly the same).
The 'median' is the 'middle' amount. If you lined everyone up in a row in order of increasing number of sexual partners, and then counted the person half way along the line, it would give you the median.
There is no reason to assume that the median for men and women is at all similar. My guess would be that the median would be considerably lower for women. My assumption is that most women are somewhat less promiscuous than men, but that a small number are very highly promiscuous. Plus there's prostitutes (who have thousands of sexual partners).
Then there is the 'mode'. That is the most frequently occurring number. This would be 'zero', since there are more virgins in the world than people who have had a single specific number of partners. Although if you start raising the minimum age that you count from, then the mode might rise to one or two. But i very much doubt any higher.
We have a tendency to focus on the 'average' as the important figure, but it's only one of many, and it's questionable which is most relevant and important.
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reader, Joey5000  +, writes (6 February 2009):
I'M 25 female,had 2 sexual partners( (100% sure)n am from South Africa
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2009): Does this question just want to know about full intercourse or would other types of sexual activity count? (For eg hand jobs/blow jobs etc)
I am female 39 and have had 1 partner for full intercourse and 1 other partner for hand jobs/blow jobs etc.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (6 February 2009):
 I'm female, 22 and I've had 1 sexual partner (100%)
My fella is male, 26 and has had approximately 24 (we're 85% sure about that one. Could be anywhere from 22-25). Both from the grand ol' USA.
I think your theory is a questionable. But, I won't argue with you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2009): "dosnt take a genious to work this 1 out!!!!!"
Also doesn't take a genius to know how to spell 'doesn't' and 'genius'.
Your theory is flawed. You're not taking into account people who aren't straight, those who cheat, those who decide to be with only one person forever or those who decide to be extremely promiscuous.
A man could sleep with a lot of people while he is young and then settle down later on in life with one woman. That woman could have waited for sex with the right person until then. Or the other way around.
Your theory would only make sense if everyone had the same kind of relationship, if everyone was straight and if everyone lost their virginity to virgins of the same age.
The statement that men sleep with more women is a stereotype. However stereotypes are based on facts in one way or another.
I do agree that this stereotype is no longer valid in this day and age but it is greatly false to say it's a "mathmatical certainty" that women on average have slept with more people than men. If you can come up with a mathmatical equation to prove this, i'll gladly eat my words.
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reader, passionatelynumb +, writes (6 February 2009):
 I'm 27 and have been with two women including my fiance.
She is 26 and has been with 13 men including me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2009): I'm 17 years old from the UK, and have had sex with 1 person(my boyfriend) and my boyfriend has only had sex with me.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (6 February 2009):
what a creepy question.lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2009): I'm female, 18, British and have had 1 sexual partner, Vaginal.
My boyfriend is also 18, British, has has 3 sexual partners (including me) and all were vaginal.
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reader, MoonlightDrive70 +, writes (6 February 2009):
 27 give or take 3-4 either way for ambiguities sake.
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reader, Italie +, writes (6 February 2009):
 HeyI'm 32, had 4 partners and British. My partner is 36, had 6 and is also British.I'd query what you are saying though about women and men having the same amount. You may well be right but it may be the case that in general women have less partners EXCEPT the ones who have a lot of partners(and we know they are out there). So, basically say there are 20 women and 20 men. 3 of the women are tarts and all the men have slept with them and then had one of the others. The tarts will have had 20 partners each, the other 17 women will only have only had one partner but the men would have had 4 (except the 3 men who stuck with the tarts who would then only have had 3 partners). In this case all of the men would have had more partners than most of the women - I think. This all made sense in my head. Wish I'd never started typing now!! Going for a lie down.xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2009): Female, age 47, from America...and...are you ready?Well over 100 (100% sure), probably around 150. I lost count awhile back. When I was in my early twenties, a fellow single parent and I sat at her kitchen table one Xmas day partying all day long, having a blast, since our kids were spending the day with their fathers. She asked me how many partners I had had up to that point. I proceeded to make a list on paper, and the higher the number became, the more hysterical we were both laughing. When all was said and done, the total came to 79. That was in my twenties.Here I am 25 years later, and though I've settled down considerably once my 2nd son was born when I was 34, I continued my promiscuity well into my thirties. I've had plenty of one-night stands, plenty of short-lived dating partners (a few weeks), and a few long-term relationships. But let me tell you, whenever I wasn't seriously involved with someone, I'd go hog-wild in between! I never felt ashamed or guilty. I enjoyed it, my partners enjoyed it, it was what it was, quite often just sex and nothing more. My record is 3 different partners in one night. That was the exception though, not the norm. It's just the way it happened to work out.Am I proud of this? Sort of...there's not too many other females who can make this claim. Was I trying to put another notch in my lipstick case each time? No, I wasn't. It wasn't my goal. It was just one of the things I happened to enjoy in life. After all, the men I was with were of the same mindset when they were with me. We both knew there were no strings attached, and enjoyed it for what it was, without any guilt.These days, I would not be comfortable with a one-night stand, but I am a different person these days, and in a completely different place in my life. I am in, and would much rather be in, a committed, monogamous relationship.Though I didn't think I had contracted any diseases, I've been tested nonetheless just to be on the safe side, and come out clean.I am a frequent poster here, but b/c that was then and this is now (I no longer live that lifestyle - it's just not me anymore, though I wouldn't judge someone else for doing so), I'd rather remain anonymous. The bigger reason is that if my current partner were to visit this site and figure out who I was, if HE saw the number, I think he'd be very intimidated by it. Thankfully, he's never asked me for the count, and I've never volunteered it. I'm pretty sure I asked him one time, and that the number is around 8. But, he was married for many years, so that accounts for the much lower number. Though if he were single for more years than married, I still don't believe the number would be anywhere near mine. We just have two completely different personalities (he's very shy and reserved, and I'm very outgoing, though believe it or not, I'm not much of a flirt). But, if he ever does ask, I will be completely honest, much as that might pain me.On one final note, I've had 2 anal partners, but I've also had traditional intercourse with those partners as well.
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reader, unique-angel +, writes (6 February 2009):
i'm 18 uk no sleeping pratners - virgin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm sorry but its impossible for for Men to have more sleeping partners than woman, no matter WHAT country it is in if their is more Men there than Woman, because guess what Men are sleeping with Woman which mean DA DA Women are sleeping with Men, dosnt take a genious to work this 1 out!!!!!
Im sorry but plz dont tell me Men sleep with more Women than Women do with men the pure stupidity of this annoys me!
Anyway back to the question, how many sexual partners have you had? lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2009): What is the purpose of this so called "survey"? Sounds like the results would be a fun conversational piece to start a lively and animated dinner party or picnic, or perhaps ending up in fights and arguments amongst the guests/participants. LOL.
You do realize that in different parts of the world, different norms are practiced when it comes to sex, right? For instance, in some regions in Asia, divorces are high during lean times and (re-)marriages are high during harvest periods. By the time a woman is in her 40s, she may have had at least half a dozen divorces. Men, on the other hand, keep remarrying way into their 70s ... with women half his age or younger. And yes, that leaves more single mothers with children without any support whatsoever from their ex-husbands! So by this explanation, yes, these men have more sleeping partners than women (even if women outnumbered men in statistics!).
If you did this survey in countries where the majority of the population is Muslim for instance, I am pretty sure that you will get more men to say they have more women sleeping partners than vice versa. Patriarchal society and all.
As I said, this "survey" is trivial but will surely be a conversational piece only. But hey, you're brave! ;-)
I am a 49 yo single Asian female, and have only slept with 8 men I was involved with. So there :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2009): I'm male, 47yo, from America. I've had between 30 and 40 sexual partners (vaginal only). My wife is 46yo and she's only had 1 sexual partner (me).
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reader, VampyricHybrid +, writes (6 February 2009):
 I have had sex with two men, vaginal. I'm 19, and from America.
My boyfriend has only had sex with one person(me), vaginal. He's 18, and from America.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2009): im 30 have had 3 sleeping partners (100% sure) im from Ireland
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reader, Oriol +, writes (6 February 2009):
I'm male 31 i have 43 sleeping partners (90% sure) only 2 anal. and I'm from America
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