Ever since she got her new bf my mum seems to hate me!!!
Q. Dear Cupid. My mother seems to hate me, she spends no time with me anymore, doesnt speak to me unless its about anything practical (I.e looking after my younger sister or the washing), regulary has periods of not speaking to me at all. It all star...
A. 10 June 2007: Hi, Does your mum know that you feel this way? if not i suggest you pick a time where you both can sit down and talk undisturbed. You dont want to fall out with her over her problems with her partner, tell her exactly how it has made you feel and ... (read in full...)
Is he bored of me??
Q. Hi, Is he getting bored of me and is just staying with me for the sake of it? I'm 16 years old and have been with by boyfriend nearly 8 months now, although he is a year younger. When we first got together everything seemed absolutely perfe...
A. 10 June 2007: Hi, you dont seem to be havin fun anymore, a relationship is all about being friends with your partner and enjoying each others company, which you obviously did in the beginning, why has everything gone so wrong? what is it that you argue about? do ... (read in full...)
Falling for my female friend but she doesn't want a relationship!! What can I do?
Q. A short while ago I found myself falling inlove with a very good female friend of mine.These fellings seemed to come out of nowhere but come they did and not being one to not take action I told her how I was feeling.The next cpl of weeks were ...
A. 9 June 2007: You realy need to talk to her. You are freinds and you dont want to spoil that freindship by being and feeling awkward in each others company.
You told her how you felt before but you dont say how she responded? and now she's told you she does... (read in full...)
Unhappily married - but was this young guy genuinely interested in me, or was he just being friendly?
Q. Help! I don't know what to do. A younger ( he's 20 something, I'm 38, although I've been told I could easily pass for 30.)man began some "innocent" flirting with me a few months ago. Made some comments about valentines and how he would give me ...
A. 30 May 2007: This is tricky, i think he genuinley cares for you and enjoys your company and the obvious flirting you both do, but not so sure he wants any kind of committment from you, i have no doubt that given the opportunity he would have slept with you,it's ... (read in full...)
Me and my partner are no longer getting along, I can't go on like this!
Q. hi everyone i hope you can help,ive sat up all night waiting for my partner to come home or phone me,he stayed out again last night he came in from work late hed been for a drink and started shouting at me saying i was in a mood again, as i asked ...
A. 30 May 2007: I know the feeling, sitting up all night waiting for them to come home is no joke, your imagination runs riot, but with that and other aspects of your life together you should really consider ending this one-sided relationship. He obviously has no ... (read in full...)
Is it true that no parents will like their daughter’s boyfriend? Any views?
Q. Is it true that no parents will like their daughter’s boyfriend? My boyfriend’s parents absolutely love me and want us to get married. On the other hand, my parents always try to find things to criticize about and tell me I should wait and see ...
A. 30 May 2007: You seem pretty certain to me, your parents are just looking out for you because they love you.
This is your life and you must do what you feel is right, there is no need to fall out with your parents, you seem to have a very open relationship with... (read in full...)
I'll do anything for it to be how we once were...
Q. ok so im 8month pregnant, 15, and by boyfriend -hes the dad- keeps forcing me into sex, he sexually abuses me and accuses me of cheating on him and goes everywere with me and if he cant he gets one of his m8s to go with me instead , he beats me up ...
A. 30 May 2007: I really feel for you, who you love is not the person you are with, its the memory of the person he once was, you haven't done anything wrong, it sounds like he's messed up his life with the drugs and alcohol and has insecurities of his own that ... (read in full...)
My mother caught me masturbating and now I feel soooooo ashamed!
Q. am i normal? im extremely curious and i heard some girls in my class talking about masturbating so i decided to try it, i was in the shower one day and out of curiosity i layed on my back and let the water drip onto my 'area' and i pulled back the...
A. 27 May 2007: Your completely normal.
Your mum will be as embarrassed as you, are if not more. Dont think she'll be walking in on you anymore, parents forget that children grow up very quickly and she was probably a lot more discreet during her youth.
Try n... (read in full...)
I've realised my girlfriend is very spoilt and has gotten worse in the last few months.
Q. I've realised my girlfriend is very spoilt and has gotten worse in the last few months. She takes her mum for granted a lot and she constantly asks her to buy her presents. She asks me what I have gotten her for her birthdays and christmas before...
A. 27 May 2007: Spoilt, Selfish, Self-centred need i go on, you really do feel for this childish excuse for a girlfriend, but she only has feelings for herself.
Get out while you can, find someone that appreciates the thought of a gift being given not one that stam... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is trying to steal my bloke! I don't want to fall out with her so what do I do?
Q. Hi! I really need some help with this, so I'm going to do my best to keep everything straight so you don't get confused...lol Ok, so I have this best friend, we've been friends since preschool, and we're both now 27. I'll just call her J. Ok, ...
A. 27 May 2007: Ok how stupid do i feel, now you've given us the full picture your friend isn't your friend at all, she's someone that prefers to play around behind your back, obviously has no self respect or idea of what being a friend is all about, ditch her you ... (read in full...)
My is my ex boyfriend constantly keeping in touch with me after our breakup a year ago?
Q. What do you think an ex boyfriend wants when he stays in contact with you for over a year since you broke up (his choice) say once a month just saying hi. Then in the last month he has been texting nearly every day and apologising again for his ...
A. 27 May 2007: I think he still cares for you and regrets hurting you, i dont know if he wants the chance to make things up to you or whether he feels guilty and wants to know that you have forgiven him.
Why dont you ask him if he'd like to meet up for a drin... (read in full...)
Can you ever heal and move on from your first love?
Q. Can you ever heal and move on from your first love?...
A. 27 May 2007: Yes you can but it takes time, you will go through all the emotions..hurt,jealousy, anger, bitterness and eventually acceptance.
Your first love will always hold memories for you to cherish or cringe at!
Friends will help you move on, get out ther... (read in full...)
How do I tell my husband I KNOW he's been cheating on me?
Q. I have just found out my husband is cheating on me. I have computer eveidence so I am sure. I hurt so much. How do i tell him i know the truth?...
A. 27 May 2007: Have all the evidence ready either on screen or print it out, take a deep breath and ask him to explain.
I know your hurting and this will be one of the hardest things you will ever have to do, but the longer you leave it the deeper the hurt will... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is trying to steal my bloke! I don't want to fall out with her so what do I do?
Q. Hi! I really need some help with this, so I'm going to do my best to keep everything straight so you don't get confused...lol Ok, so I have this best friend, we've been friends since preschool, and we're both now 27. I'll just call her J. Ok, ...
A. 27 May 2007: I just think she is lonely and a little jealous that you have a new friend that you obviously talk to quite a bit. She wants to be included in the friendship and i also think that she may be a little wary about you meeting this guy as she could lose ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with an unhappy married man!
Q. I'm in love with an unhappy married man and he wants to leave his wife but she is controlling his every mood. what should i do to help him get out of that and be with me were he want to be?...
A. 27 May 2007: Nothing...if he wants to leave his wife he will, it's confusing me to think that he is so weak that he allows his wife to control his moods, but he has the balls to have an affair with you?? something doesn't ring true here, if she controls his ... (read in full...)
We've finished more times than I've had hot dinners but I can't seem to stay away from him
Q. iv been off and on with my ex for 2yrs, we work together and i cant keep him away from me, he keeps going back to his ex wife, but dont tell me about it, i finished with him more times then iv add hot dinners, but i love him so much, i keep taking ...
A. 13 March 2007: Hi, what about changing your job, asking for a move to another department. you need to strong cause at the moment he's got his cake and eating it to. I dont think you love him as much as you think you do, you are probably used to him and his comp... (read in full...)
I don't know if he wants out and doesn't know how to do it or what he is thinking
Q. Iv been in a relationship for 4 months and 2 weeks ago we had our first argument my boyfriend said that I put him on the spot when Im drunk and ask questions like "why are you with me" after the argument I said I love him for the first time and he ...
A. 13 March 2007: Hi, perhaps he doesn't know how to react when you question him about why he's with you, he may even think you doubt him. You've not been together long and for him to tell you he loves you is a big step, for some people it rolls of the tongue but not ... (read in full...)
All my boyfriend does is play games online!
Q. I'm currently working full-time and have a part-time. On the side, I'm taking a course as well. My boyfriend on the other hand just came back from a 3 months trip from Europe. He is now looking into applying for the Police, which will take at least ...
A. 13 March 2007: Hi, you probably resent the fact that you are working all the hours god sends and he is doing nothing. What's stopping him from getting a job until he joins the force,it would look far better on his cv than a gaping gap and will prepare him with... (read in full...)
How do I make the first move with this woman? I am so scared of rejection here.
Q. There is a lady I see in line most days at the coffee shop. We smile and wave at each other and last year she introduced herself. I didn't know what to say, so I shook her hand but that is as far as it has gone. I feel like we have some kind of ...
A. 13 March 2007: Hi, you have to take the bull by the horns and go for it, you'll always be wondering what the outcome could have been. Just ask her to join you for coffee or ask if you can join her and introduce yourself and take it from there. no-one likes ... (read in full...)
Soon to be married and I need to decide...my fiancee or this other man? What should I do?
Q. Has it changed everything forever? I'm very confused. 6 months away from my wedding and I know someone who has turned my world upside down. He has highlighted problems that have existed in my relationship that were always there but have never been ...
A. 3 March 2007: Hi, yes you do. How can you plan to spend the rest of your life with one man when the temptation to be with another is so strong. It wouldn't be fair to either of you. I'm not suggesting you break up with your partner but talk to him about ... (read in full...)
She left me and I've accepted it but I still think of her often. Is this normal?
Q. I spilt with my partner of 17 years and it has been about seven months since we split. She has not made any contact with me since.S he intiaited the spilt and later I found out that she was seeing someone else within a couple of weeks. I took things ...
A. 3 March 2007: Hi,it is natural, it shows that you are a warm sensitve person who's feelings for this woman were deep. Yes she hurt you and you have dealt with this but it still affects you because you were together for such a long time and the memories of all the ... (read in full...)
Not sure if I love my husband anymore because he takes me for granted! What should I do?
Q. I'm not sure that I love my husband anymore. He is a good provider and works hard but I feel like he takes me for granted! I want to be treated as a person and not just as a mother and unpaid housekeeper. I have tried to talk to him and things ...
A. 3 March 2007: Hi, you need to sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel and ask him how he feels and how he see's your relationship.
He may be one of those men that are blinkered, the longer you let it go on the longer he wont see what he is he doing and ... (read in full...)
I think she has some issues in her past and needs a therapist? What do you all think?
Q. I dated this gal for about a month. at the time I really overlooked some odd things about her. No I'm not a glutton for punishment. Oddly enough I liked her but was cautious. She was a withdrawn person - not great social skills. Near the end of our ...
A. 3 March 2007: Stay away, she is so mixed up, let a friend of hers know that you are concerned about her and ask them to get her some help. You dont need that kind of relationship, you need someone who appreciates you and she doesn't, she blames you for everything ... (read in full...)
What is the best way to figure out your sexuality issues?
Q. What is the best way to figure out your sexuality issues, and whether you're gay, straight, or Bi, when you're from over protective, anti gay family who expect you to be perfect, and live under the same roof till you get married, and talks about ...
A. 3 March 2007: Hi, how sad that your family treat you like a child. You are old enough to make your own decisions, firstly you have to move out, have you a friend that can put you up until you can find somewhere more permanent? Once you've made that big step then ... (read in full...)
How do I meet Mr Right? Where am I going wrong here?
Q. I'm desparate to meet Mr Right. I keep going to bars and clubs and am so desparate for people to fall for me that i always end up drinking too much and having sex with whoever i meet in the belief that they will want to continue seeing me. Guess ...
A. 3 March 2007: Slow down, think about what you really want and go out and have fun without the sex. If you carry on the way you are you will just get the reputation of being easy and no-one will take you seriously or ever get to know the real you. I believe there ... (read in full...)
What should I do to reassure her that I like being married and have no intention of being unfaithful?
Q. Please help. I am a gay male happily married for 4 years to a wonderful lady. She has always had insecurity issues, thinks I don't love her enough, etc. I have never cheated on her since we've been married, but now she gives me a hard time ...
A. 3 March 2007: Hi, you sound such a lovely sincere man, i assume she knew you were 'gay' when you married, either way, are you sure you are gay? the reason i ask is that i'm a woman who believes that people fall for other people,i've fell for both, it wasn't a ... (read in full...)
He's 5 years older,so does the age gap really matter as my friend thinks it does?
Q. I am a teenage girl in a bit of a predicament. In the last few days I have learnt a friend of mine has developed a fancy towards me. I never really considered him before, as he is five years my senior, but now find I find I share the same feelings ...
A. 3 March 2007: Hi, the age difference is not the issue but does he know that you aren't 16 yet? I know, lots of people your age are having sex (or say they are!)but it is against the law and your life is just starting, if he knows your age and is responsible ... (read in full...)
It took me 10 years to trust a guy enough again to even go out with one and I just don’t know how to get back to a place where I could be friends with this ex. Any ideas?
Q. Please help me. I am so confused with this friends with ex’s thing. I told my ex (23 yrs old) before we got together that he would need to understand that I don’t do friends with exs. I have never been able to do this because I know I would feel ...
A. 2 March 2007: I think that you should try to remain friends with this guy, ask him to meet up for a drink and a chat and explain that you would really like to remain friends but you would appreciate it if he didn't make fun of you or turn nasty when he's with his ... (read in full...)
But what if it's already too late? What if he never even liked me in the first place?
Q. Basically, I've liked this guy, Really really liked him, for over a year now. He keeps giving me signs that make me think "Maybe he liked me"...Sort of messed up signs but they're signs all the same... Any way...Everytime i get really excited a...
A. 2 March 2007: Why would you even consider it? you know he's a flirt, his girlfriend knows he's a flirt and so does everyone else, he's loving all this attention and he gets a kick out of the fact that you are friends with his girlfriend! His arrogance will be his ... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm wasting my time here?
Q. Ok, well theres a girl i really like, shes got the best sence of humour ever, shes beautiful, but the problem is, we have solidly been talking online and text messages for over half a year, but whenever i ask her to come out with me she makes an ...
A. 2 March 2007: I definitely think you are wasting your time, you've been out once in 6 months and you do all the chasing, she's enjoying the attention, she's probably got several people on line that she's treating the same way, it's an ego boost for her, she's not ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex left him because she was a lesbian. He is very insecure emotionally, how do I tell him I want to come out of the closet now too???
Q. i am a woman who has been dating a man for a year. for the past 6 months i have been coming to terms with me sexuality, and have recently decided to come out of the closet. before i can do that i need to tell my boyfriend that i am a lesbian. i care ...
A. 2 March 2007: I feel for you, you are torn between hurting this man and feeling responsible for any action he may take when you tell him, but to be fair to you both that's just what you have to do, you cant go on living a lie it will only end up with you ... (read in full...)
I want to ask him if he's interested in a long distance relationship, is this a stupid idea?
Q. Hi, I'll try to make this very short. Basically, I'm in love with a guy...let's call him Jake. The thing is, Jake lives very far away. As in, across the ocean far away (I'm in America and he's in Wales.) We didn't meet online, we know one ...
A. 2 March 2007: go for it, you will only regret it if you dont. When you spend time with him you may not have to say anything it may all just happen naturally, but just in case be prepared with what you want to say, he obviously feels something for you, you have ... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend proposed to me?
Q. has my bf just proposed to me? he told me he's coming to see me in 18 days time and he wants me to have a idea of a engagment ring i want coz he gonna buy which ever one i want. we have been discussing marriage alot and he knows ill say yes....
A. 2 March 2007: I think that goes without saying, but he's not very romantic is he? If he cant see you for another 18 days he had plenty of time to arrange a special time for you both and surprise you with a proposal. But if you're happy it's all good. x... (read in full...)
Have I ruined my chances of him asking me out again after rejecting him twice?
Q. so basically this guy has liked me for ages but i didn't believe that he did, even though everyone dsed tht he did. he ALWAYS flirted with me, but i thought he was joking around. i really like him. he asked me for my number today but i froze and sed ...
A. 2 March 2007: It's not hard, just tell him you're sorry for acting the way you did, and the only reason you said no was because you thought he was joking, tell him you will understand if he's changed his mind, but you would really like him to have your number. ... (read in full...)
She's now telling me she loves me only as a friend!
Q. Ive been with my girlfriend for about 7 yrs. We've lived together for 4 yrs. About 2 yrs ago we split for about 6mths as she said she wasn't sure how she felt about me, we kept seeing each other about 3 times a week. Eventually she said she wanted ...
A. 2 March 2007: I think she is totally confused, she obviously feels something for you but i dont think it's the kind of love that makes a marriage work. She is used to being with you, she knows you better than she knows anyone else and is comfortable with you and ... (read in full...)
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