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writes:I'm currently working full-time and have a part-time. On the side, I'm taking a course as well. My boyfriend on the other hand just came back from a 3 months trip from Europe. He is now looking into applying for the Police, which will take at least 4 months. He is now living with his parents and all he does everyday is playing games online. I'm not worry about his income. The man I was attracted to is someone who's always working really hard to pursue a goal. I know he will work hard once he got the job, but the laziness personality just scares me about who he really is. Do you think he's just relaxing until he gets the police job? It's weird I don't even know what is bothering me. Anyone have any thoughts? Reply to this Question
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reader, moomoomoo  +, writes (13 March 2007):
 so you're disatisfied at the fact that he has life easier, and plays game because thats what guys like to do, even though you're not worried about his income? that's just another difference between the sexes... please remember that when females respond to this and go "he shouldn't be doing that!" this reminds me of all the times people tell me "i hate you, you get the good grades and you dont study", so people can't do good if they don't put the "required" effort by most people? sorry that was kind of personal
if you've been attracted to his hard working personality, then i guess it would be wrong if he became a lazy slob, but this is temporary, and every person needs some time to relax. one can't work hard forever. for now i think you'll be fine because he will work hard once his application has gone through.. my impressions of this person is that he is hard-working when he needs to get some job done. when it's not, why work hard just to kil lthe time when you don't need it?
hope this eases your worries
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reader, sunrise  +, writes (13 March 2007):
 Hi, you probably resent the fact that you are working all the hours god sends and he is doing nothing. What's stopping him from getting a job until he joins the force,it would look far better on his cv than a gaping gap and will prepare him with motivation, he could so easily get too used to doing nothing. Try talking to him about his trip to europe and tel him how you think he's changed, try to find out why his attitude towards reaching his goal has altered in just three months.Talking honestly to each other is the only way you can get to the bottom of this and allow you both to move forward with this relationship. x
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