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male
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Ive been with my girlfriend for about 7 yrs. We've lived together for 4 yrs. About 2 yrs ago we split for about 6mths as she said she wasn't sure how she felt about me, we kept seeing each other about 3 times a week. Eventually she said she wanted to make a go of it again. She moved back in and we got on better than b4. She even said she was glad of the break as it made our relationship stronger. We have talked about marrige next year and having kids. She even told her friens about the marriage. However out of the blue 3 wks ago she said she love me as a friend but not as a boyfriend and now wants to move out. We just got back from holiday were we held hands and had a great time but when we got back she says nothings changed and is still moving out. Help as I am totally confused about what has happened. Reply to this Question
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reader, sunrise  +, writes (2 March 2007):
 I think she is totally confused, she obviously feels something for you but i dont think it's the kind of love that makes a marriage work. She is used to being with you, she knows you better than she knows anyone else and is comfortable with you and that is why she finds it so hard to make a clean break, it's the old saying 'cant live with you cant live with you' i really do think it's nothing to do with anything you've done, she's just outgrown what you both had and wants something else, she probably has no idea what that is yet but if she has doubts about the relationship you should be strong and let her go. If she stayed you would never relax in the relationship as you would never know if she was being sincere in her affections or just trying to keep you happy, in other words the trust would be gone and without that you've got nothing. Let her go and try to move on with your life, i think you will settle and find happiness sooner than her because you DO know what you want from a relationship. Good luck x
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