Can you ever be friends with a member of the opposite sex?
Q. Hey, this isn't really a problem I was just wondering what everyone thinks on whether guys and girls can ever just be friends? My friends think one will always find the other sexually attractive but is this true? I've had lots of guy friends for ...
A. 21 December 2010: Yes, it is possible. And even the sexual attraction does not make it impossible. You may find sexually attractive even your enemy, or a person on the other side of the street. Friendship and sexual feelings does not exclude each other. ... (read in full...)
Am I right to leave him due to his impotence?
Q. i am married for 5 years now my husband is impotent i am really hurt that he hid this fact from me. i want to leave him now is this my right decision....
A. 21 December 2010: Okay, your husband is impotent. It is your right and decision now to leave or stay. But please do not accuse your husband with this hostile attitude. Impotency is an inability like e.g. blindness. You may remain even good friends. ... (read in full...)
Where did my beautiful loving wife go?
Q. My wife and I have 3 boys and have been married for 8 years. This year just after our anniversary my wife began an affair. She had become increasingly distant, and I finally asked her what was going on after 6 weeks without intimacy. She flatly told ...
A. 21 December 2010: Please, do not accuse yourself. You are the only perfect person in this story. You did not "fail" anything. You are on the coach now, I now exactly what is it like, but later when the home will be empty without you things may go to the opposite ... (read in full...)
Where did my beautiful loving wife go?
Q. My wife and I have 3 boys and have been married for 8 years. This year just after our anniversary my wife began an affair. She had become increasingly distant, and I finally asked her what was going on after 6 weeks without intimacy. She flatly told ...
A. 20 December 2010: This is a typical midlife & marriage crisis, that is almost banal in the modern world. Her young lover, you mentioned being a 22 yo man, is just does not count. He was your wife's choice number for giving herself the feeling of being young and ... (read in full...)
She is married but said she wants to marry me and have children with me, but now she has told me she needs some time! Why the change of mind so suddenly?
Q. Hi everyone, please help me clear out my thought. I'm apologize for it kind of long. here is my situation. 7 years ago, me and this girl were really good friend, always hangout together and shared all our up and down with each other. we both have ...
A. 20 December 2010: What should you do? First, do not want to exert her to change anything in her life. Both of you have your own task to finish first, and marry then. So, now you should always express that how you feel, and you are at home, or you are thinking of her, ... (read in full...)
Virgins getting erections????
Q. ok so my friend's worried because her boyfriend says he's not a virgin but she thinks he's lying because he always has a erection like when they hug kiss or anything he always gets a erection and she thinks that if he's not a virgin he would be able ...
A. 20 December 2010: Oh, no. You cannot draw any conclusion of that erection, except that the manhood of this guy seems to work well. And there is no reason to worry. But your friend might be right in her instinct feelings, this boy in fact, may be yet virgin. You know, ... (read in full...)
Really need a male perspective...
Q. I've recently got back together with an ex. We dated for a year, 7 years ago. (I was 25 and had ended it because I'd felt it was too intense - he was very much in love with me, proposed etc., and I wasn't ready, then.) He still feels the same w...
A. 20 December 2010: Many things can happen, but you have to go forward on this "reunioning" way. My feeling is that this man has already realized that you have got some extra pounds, and calculates with it. At least he did not to break away, yet. Anyhow, in your ... (read in full...)
I'm married, in love with another but he doesn't love me back
Q. I can't seem to know what went wrong! I have posted here about my feelings for a certain Mr. X even when I am married. My marriage has always been good except for some problems with my In-Laws. My husband is a very nice person who takes care of me...
A. 20 December 2010: Yes, he might be intimidated to step forward on this spoony way. Or, he is that type of man who does not like the physical love, only the misty verbal love. Would it be possible to discuss this problem with your husband? ... (read in full...)
Falling for my best friend's girlfriend!!!
Q. I have a dilemma!!! I have a best friend who has a girlfriend. we three are best friends. i dont know when i fell for my friend's girl. i have even told this to her as she is very close to me and she reacted in a positive way. she often calls me ...
A. 20 December 2010: Well, at this age some triangle fun is not so big problem. But do not hide it from your best friend. ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but kissed another guy...what do I do now?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. However recently I have been having feelings for another guy. I kissed him and find myself thinking about him, but I love my boyfriend. What do I do?...
A. 20 December 2010: Tell your boyfriend that now you need some space. Do not leave him, but make yourself more free than you are/feel now. ... (read in full...)
I've lost the spark with my b/f, but it's there with his friend
Q. Hi everyone. I have a relationship problem. I've had a boyfriend for almost 2years (I am 19 now) I love him dearly and he loves me. He is sweet, kind and I'm his everything. His dad also treats me like family. However there is something missin...
A. 17 December 2010: If I were in your age I would not resist this seduction, that is sure. At about 20 there is no real cheating or faithlessness. Then the sensibility is dancing in all healthy person. ... (read in full...)
I didn't get to sleep with her when she was a virgin!
Q. Dear reader, my question concerns a deep psychological anxiety which I suffer from. In my more rational moments I know that it is immature, petty and even silly. But we are human and often the chaos of the psyche escapes into the lived reality of ...
A. 17 December 2010: I understand your problem and feelings, but believe me you terribly overvalue that virginity. If you have got real love from your partners that is the maximum what a man can get, and the virginity does not heighten it at all. Further, you are not in ... (read in full...)
He doesn't last long at all!
Q. Hi. Um.. Well im sexually active with my boyfriend. I got the needle yesterday (its ment to stop you getting pregnant.) My mother knows, we cant tell my father because, he doesnt really have anything to do with me and he absolutely hates my bo...
A. 17 December 2010: Sorry, but you need an other boyfriend. This problem cannot be really solved. ... (read in full...)
Her interest in me is waning. Is it time to break up?
Q. My girlfriend 2 years younger than me finished her studies in NZ, and she went back to vietnam due to family issue. She will be there for at least a couple of years, and due to my personal issue, i cant work in vietnam. so, we are currently in a ...
A. 17 December 2010: You should find a girlfriend. Not a wife, just a girlfriend. And you will see how your life will change. Maybe your Vietnamese girl will go back to you and make you happy, maybe she will never go back, and you have to find your own way. But meantime ... (read in full...)
I'm a big strong guy but have overwhelming urges to cuddle. What's wrong with me?
Q. How do I start this? Let's see, I'm a masculine guy I guess you could say. I think people interpret me as being that way. I'm 6 foot 1, 250, broad shoulders drive a truck, play rugby, have tatoos, and own more than a few firearms. I wear overalls to ...
A. 17 December 2010: :)) This is a tricky letter. About 1000 girls will send you private letter and offer themselves for that cuddling. Good luck! ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting time on my husband?
Q. It has been a month since I found out my husband was having an affair (he didn't tell me, I found out). After a lot of talking, I've taken him back (he agreed not to have anything to do with her again)and we have been to counselling and that seems ...
A. 17 December 2010: That is 100% okay if you want him to stop the affair and the cheating. But, I think, it is too much to forbid him to have any contact to that girl. ... (read in full...)
While dancing with another woman, my boyfriend got an erection. Is this normal?
Q. My boyfriend needed to attend a formal dinner/dance event. Though I was the partner of choice, I could not get out of work on time to make it to the benefit. Instead, My boyfriend invited a friend to be his partner. Later that night, he told me that ...
A. 16 December 2010: I say that any healthy men may have erection when dancing slowly & close with any kind of cute girls. This is not a sin, not a cheat, I do not see any problem, except that he has good sex drive, and reactive manhood. In your place I would not ... (read in full...)
Should I stick with this marriage?
Q. I am 33 I have a three year old son and married for seven years, my husband is 54. There is the age difference and then our cultural background is starkly different as well; I am an immigrant. In the seven years that I am here I have not accom...
A. 16 December 2010: Do not feel torn, but search for your escape. I mean, from this situation. Reading your letter I have got an idea; you should start some studies maybe at a university, or else, you have to know that. During your studies you may meet several guys and ... (read in full...)
How can I forget about her after she cheated on me?
Q. I'm an international student in this country, and I met my ex-girlfriend in the university before almost three months now. She is less than 2 years older than me. since we have been together my love to her became more and more deep everyday...
A. 16 December 2010: Find an other girlfriend, that is all.
During the undergrad years you should make some girlfriends just to learn the life and it's diversity. This girl seems to know this. ... (read in full...)
Friends of the opposite sex when you are in a relationship.....
Q. Hello... My fiancee and I were talking in regards to having friends of the opposite sex. He was close to his classmates back in highschool about 25 years ago. Most of them were females. He also had a next door neighbor family with whom his family w...
A. 16 December 2010: Your fiancee is open to have several friends. Not all the ppl are like him. ... (read in full...)
Too shy to ask my husband for sex!
Q. I want to have sex with my husband, but I am too shy to ask, what can I do?...
A. 15 December 2010: Just mention it. He will probably like it. ... (read in full...)
It seems like our paths are meant to diverge?
Q. Two months ago I met a really great guy. We are taking things slow but are developing strong feelings for each other. I think that I can def see him in my future (although it's too early to be sure). The problem is that I need to get a Master's d...
A. 15 December 2010: Wait. The life will answer your questions about this relationship. ... (read in full...)
A few things are worrying me about my friend's older man, does anyone else find this strange?
Q. Well let me start off by saying that I'm seeking some opinions. My best friend has always been into younger men, she is 18 like me. Over the summer she met a 38 year old man at another friends job. She was hesitant because he is so much older but ...
A. 15 December 2010: This type of affairs can be interesting for a while, but should be finished after (say) one year. After this term it rather draws back than raise up. ... (read in full...)
Drunk and possibly cheated, this is so out of character for me! Should I come clean?
Q. I have been with my partner for two and a half years and we are amazing together!many peole comment on what a close and genuine couple we are! we are so happy! But a couple of months ago he left the pub early and i stayed out with his friends....
A. 15 December 2010: "Possibly cheated" :)
Too much compunction.
Really drunk person can hardly commit real cheating. ... (read in full...)
Why did he lie about a kiss?
Q. dear cupid,my story is there was this guy i had a crush on for a long while,and my friend was seeing his brother ,so we all went to the movies as friends but finally the guy i liked kissed me and i kissed him back and that was it,then the next day i ...
A. 14 December 2010: :)) the answer is easy. He wanted to hide his behavior from a 3rd person. ... (read in full...)
Views on student crushes on their teachers?
Q. I really like a teacher...So I have liked many teachers before but once again i am in love with this teacher but the thing is i dont atcually have him as a teacher...he is an computing teacher and the first time i saw him i really liked him...one ...
A. 14 December 2010: Absolute normal feelings, teachers have to be used to it, it belongs to their profession. But to realize this attraction can be terrible dangerous for him. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my cousin I love her?
Q. I am 32 years old, and i belive i am in love with my cousin, she is 28 years old (she is my frist cousin) for the last year all i do is think about her. what should i do tell her or not....
A. 14 December 2010: You may tell her how you feel, but you have to be prepared for a very negative answer. ... (read in full...)
Should I date him even though he's a few years younger?
Q. i've recently begun going out with my younger cousin he is 19 and i'm 23.. anyways we always go out and have such a good time, me with my friends and him with him altogether. and i started chatting to his mate, i used to know him from years ago w...
A. 14 December 2010: I do not see any reason not to do what you desire. Neither the age gap nor the cousinship will not count. But do not stay too long in this relationship. Both of you have to build up your own relationship independently in few years. But for a ... (read in full...)
How do I let him down gently? I don't want to be his mistress!
Q. Since I have been single from and on and off again replationship, I met a guy an older man that happens to be married. I should have known from the start that I shouldnt get involved with him from when I met him and my girlfrends gave me a little ...
A. 14 December 2010: Send him this letter. ... (read in full...)
Lesbian love for my sixth grade math teacher! HELP!
Q. Hey there! Well, I need help. I am in love with my sixth grade math teacher. Now, I know I know you're going to say, "Oh it's just a crush it's just a crush", but I know it's not. This is serious, very serious to the point where I'm obsessed with ...
A. 13 December 2010: OK, you are in love with her. OK, you do not mind if she knows this. OK, you have sexual fantasies with her. All of this may be OK. But believe me: if that fantasy would come to real, then you were who would be hurt REAL. So, do not force anything ... (read in full...)
Should I tell someone?
Q. One of my male friends, maybe "friend" isn't the right word, has repeatedly been trying to get with me behind his girlfriends back. For example: the other night i was out with friends and he was in town, which i didn't know at the time. All night ...
A. 13 December 2010: If you are really against of his overtures, then first you should tell him that if he continues this behavior then you will complain about it - maybe at his g/f. ... (read in full...)
Falling in love with my out of country cousin
Q. Hi! Im confused and need your advice please. I think im falling inlove with my first cousin. The first time i met him was 5 years ago when they spend their vacation here in PI coz he was born in US and he grew up there.It's weird coz the first ti...
A. 13 December 2010: It is good that this love is a long distance love. Love between first cousins is not a good and not acceptable relationship - I guess even not in the Philippines. I do not say that this love never happened yet on the Earth - mainly between really ... (read in full...)
As the girlfriend, how would you feel in this situation?
Q. I simply want your opinion on the following scenario. Your bf [who has in the past broken your trust issues and met up with an ex behind your back]allows a different ex gf to come to his state, stay over night and generally hang out because she's ...
A. 13 December 2010: I would feel sad :))
And if he invited me in the same way like this ex was invited, then I would say that this guy is very warm hearted, and helpful, maybe nice. But not amenable for a closed (restricting) relationship.
... (read in full...)
My ex says she loves me and misses me but she has a boyfriend?
Q. My ex and I dated for our senior year in highschool, we always had a rocky relationship but we were completely in love then about 2 months into college she broke up with me the day before my birthday and i was devastated, she started seeing this guy ...
A. 13 December 2010: Young ppl may be really confused by their own feelings and emotions. This girl is typically this. In your place I would tell her that, okay, she is always flip-flopping in her love-life, so you do not mind if she has 2 boyfriends in the same time, ... (read in full...)
My neighbor asked me if I would engage in a FWBs with him?
Q. My neighbour recently approched me online about the idea of friends with benefits. We had been casually talking for a couple weeks. At first I was totally offended he thought that way about me but lately I've really been warming up to the idea. He's ...
A. 12 December 2010: It sounds good, but do not forget to deal with the question of your freedom to have other relationship if you want. ... (read in full...)
I'm dating 1,2,3 men!
Q. I"m dating a few guys. Just dating, nothing serious. I am looking for something serious, but at the moment, I have these really great guys pursuing me and I really don't know who to choose. The first guy, I've known for years. I've always had a cr...
A. 12 December 2010: This age and this period of your life is mainly for collecting experience and learning how guys "work" - at all. So do not be worry about your dating practice. ... (read in full...)
Having an affair and torn between my love and my husband!
Q. Hi, I am a married woman(33yrs)and i am having an affair for the last 1 year with a single man (31yrs) My husband( 55yrs) and i have a daughter together(3 yrs) and been together for 8 yrs. My affair started whn my husband wanted to divorce me aft...
A. 12 December 2010: If I were of your 55 yo husband I would not mind this affair you have with this 31 yo man. Even, I would assure you about that you should not feel being torn. Of course, I would expect you to give me that attention what I need, both in bed and in ... (read in full...)
Can lying to one's partner about having cheated on them ever lead to anything good?
Q. I see how lying (by omission or otherwise) about having cheated on someone can prevent immediate conflict, and seemingly keep things status quo in a relationship... but over time, does lying to one's partner actually lead to anything positive within ...
A. 12 December 2010: The reason of the lying might be that that cheating was not a significant episode for the cheater. Like. e.g. it is not always worthy of discussion what you have had for lunch. You had something, but it was forgettable. ... (read in full...)
Can we put the cheating behind us and just be happy?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for two years. 6 months ago we went through a very very bad rough patch. he was going out 3 times a week, taking alot of drugs and going to this flat where girls were but would never let me come and i was very paranoid. ...
A. 12 December 2010: In your relationship NOT the cheating is the real problematic point. Much more that you cannot assure you about that you two belong together - in spite of all the cheating. Till you are young enough some cheating may happen just for your healthy sex ... (read in full...)
Thinking of marriage but want to experience other men first!
Q. Im 16 and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. I'm completely in love and my mom has given him her permission to marry me when we graduate. The thing is, is that ive been wanting to experience sex with someone ...
A. 12 December 2010: You are right when you feel that you are curious of other men too. You should discuss this question with him, and you fit together really if he understands you. For a while you may give each other some freedom to date around with other young ppl. ... (read in full...)
Should I have a relationship with my cousin?
Q. Hey, Hello my name is Salah i made this account to let loose a sercet i have keept from my famliy or 3 months... Ive had sex with my cousin. It's werid i mean now i look back to it i seems ook i mean i have feeling for her she dose to but i ...
A. 11 December 2010: Well, this happens. If she is a first cousin then you should not continue this relationship. If she is a second cousin then it is a "borderline" thing. Anyhow, I think it does not matter who is the person you have sex with, you should keep it ... (read in full...)
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