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Is it possible to love someone but not be IN love with them?

Q.   Is it possible to love someone but not be IN love with them? As in, like I care for you enough to the point where I love you but I'm not in love with you. I don't know if that made any sense. sorry! haha...

A.   28 December 2010: Yes. "Love" has a more wide "meaning" than the "being in love". ... (read in full...)

DNA says I am not her father but she acknowledges me as if I'm her biological father

Q.   I am currently 57 years old. When I was in my early 20's I met a young woman. We spent time together and had relations, even though she had a man living in the same apartment with her at the time. After a short period of time (weeks) that man did ...

A.   28 December 2010: This girl does not want anything from you, only that she could call you as "Daddy". I think it is a nice thing, even if she is not blood related with you, and you refuse to make any contact to her mother, who behaved so nastily with you. Now you are ... (read in full...)

Is there hope for my ex-fiance and I?

Q.   My question is very simple. I am in love, deeplyin love. I went through a rough break up. and usually I handle breakups well, this guy was going to be someone very special to me and a few weeks before our engagement planning he broke up. I was very...

A.   28 December 2010: I know what you feel now. Let me to advice you that meantime you are his friend you should also find a boyfriend (like he found his g/f), who is not so significant in your life like this guy, but who will take you into malls and other places, ... (read in full...)

Can someone tell me what is wrong with me?

Q.   Okay, so I have massive boobs, sized 34F, and I have had a few boyfriends, I've been felt up many times, I enjoy it, I do get slot of attention off boys for my boobs, and I do wear low cut tops, but I've been single for months now, and every so ...

A.   28 December 2010: At your age it would be better to have a man in your bed. Or, if your stated age is false, then you should ask a honest question. ... (read in full...)

Being the third person in a relationship.

Q.   I'm in love with a girl, the first time in my life of 21 years. She's wonderful, but also taken. When we started chatting a lot she had a really bad relationship with her BF. By the time we first slept with each other she was thinking of finishin...

A.   28 December 2010: First, I would ask this girl about that if it was possible to inform the other guy about that you three are in a typical triangle. And I would add that I do not mind the presence of him, but I need more time and attention from her. Jealousy is 100% ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to have a " special" friend while in a relationship?

Q.   I am involved with someone and so is this man that I am asking about. We met thru work 2 years ago. He has reached out several times to me thru calls and text which I thought was strange as we are both in long term relationships. Our communication ...

A.   28 December 2010: I do not know what this man will want, and that is also an important point if what and how he CAN perform with you. But that is sure, if somebody is in a "long distance relationship" then he/she will be more sensitive to notice attractive persons ... (read in full...)

My aunt's father in law made inappropriate comments and now I feel really uneasy around him!

Q.   I have a bit of a problem. Over the holidays me and my relatives went to visit my aunt's in-laws and their family, who I used to feel comfortable around. They're usually nice and welcoming people, so I had no reason not to like them. But, on t...

A.   28 December 2010: Next time tell him that you were molested as a kid several times, your self confidence is a bit vulnerable, plus, you cannot give appropriate reactions to such compliments, so unfortunately his appreciative words offend and torture you. You would ... (read in full...)

He cheated, I mentioned divorce and now he wants another chance

Q.   Hi I am married for 11 yrs and my husband cheated.I gave him 2nd chance but he decided to leave again. After 6 months he came back and wants another chance. I told him about divorce and suddenly he wants another chance. What is yr advice???...

A.   28 December 2010: Always forgiving. ... (read in full...)

I lied to my Mom, but I love this boy so much

Q.   About 5 months ago i met my uncle's wife's brother at my little cousin's birthday party. They all live in mexico so i rarely see them. This boy and I didn't talk, we just looked at each other and smiled, through out the whole party. After that...

A.   27 December 2010: The point is that your feelings are quite early. You may be in love with somebody and even fight for that love --- when you are about 18. If you do not express your feelings, only talk and a bit walk around with thins uncle, then now you would still ... (read in full...)

The changes in my friend are unsettling me

Q.   My best friend is really starting to change. It all started when we went to the mall. I saw these really cute pants but I'd wasted all my money on a birthday present for my mom. So, my friend says "take the pants, put it in your purse and walk out...

A.   27 December 2010: I advice you to decrease the time you spend with her and her bros. And never follow her "kidding" ideas. You may find yourself at the police station, while she walks home. Be really careful. ... (read in full...)

I'm jealous of this girl who proposed to my b/f

Q.   i am in a relation since past 4 years,my boyfriend is having a female frn who proposed him last year,but he rejected her proposal coz he loves me,but she is a gud frn of him. I dont lyk when he talks to her,n he says that they are just gud frns n he ...

A.   27 December 2010: I would not be angry or worrying with this girl, since your b/f one decided to say with you. Even, I would be friendly with her, I mean really, not pretending it, then you could see into their friendship more deeply than now. ... (read in full...)

He talks about sex all day but just goes to sleep when the lights are out.

Q.   My bf talks about having sex with me all day but when it's lights out he just falls asleep. Why?...

A.   27 December 2010: Do not wait till lights out. In fact, I also prefer to have sex in the morning, or during the day. And maybe giving a head after lights out will give him some motivation to start the action. ... (read in full...)

Dating a man 20 years older I really can't see what I am getting out of this relationship

Q.   I am 35 in a relationship (for 20 months now) with a man of 55. I love him, he wants to marry me, but i am hesitating. Sex is nearly absent (he has medical sexual problems), there is no financial security, and all issues that come with 20 years age ...

A.   27 December 2010: Stay with him in a friendship and find a real lover who satisfies you. ... (read in full...)

Did I really lose my virginity? I'm not sure

Q.   Hi, I'm a 17 year old girl and just recently had sex for the first time. But it didn't hurt and I didn't bleed. Does this mean that I didn't lose my virginity? ...

A.   27 December 2010: You should not deal with this question. Theoretically a midwife could tell you the truth, but I think you do not want this examination. So, next time let him to push it up to the hilt, then you will be sure it is gone. Be happy! ... (read in full...)

He told her he likes her and wants to be with her but he has a girlfriend! Thats me!

Q.   heya i was with this boy for a Month i actually liked him, he told me he loved me etc but the thing is he cheated on me, he is still denying it tho :/. i spoke to her and everything and on her fb wall he told her that he loved her :/ but also h...

A.   27 December 2010: At this age some boys tell every girls that he loves her, and wants to be with all the girls around the World. ... (read in full...)

I cheated on my wife with the girl we previously had a threesome with!

Q.   About a week ago I cheated on my wife with a girl that my wife and I have been having threesomes with. Now she says she wants me out she dosent love me and I disgust her. She keeps talking about her broken family I told her I'm sorry and I love her. ...

A.   27 December 2010: She should be more understanding than this behavior. It is okay if she penalize you a bit, but this cutting off rage says me that she wants to dominate you in all respects. ... (read in full...)

I'm not cheating on anybody but he is!

Q.   Ok so there's this guy who graduated and left home for college about 2 hours away. I always thought he was cute but nothing too big. A few months ago we started chatting alot on facebook and I became a bit interested but then I found out he had ...

A.   27 December 2010: You do not need any help. You like this boy, who has a g/f, so your relationship now is just a left hand side adventure. So enjoy the time you spend together but be open to other relationship which can be a serious one, instead of this, or parallel ... (read in full...)

Should I confess or not?

Q.   hi i have been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and im finding it really difficult to cope with my guilt. about 3 weeks ago me and my boyfriend wern't getting along very well and this boy added me on a social networking site i accepted and he ...

A.   23 December 2010: For me, this "showed parts of my body" would not be a big deal; I think I would mainly laugh at it. If your boyfriend gets mad of it - as a girl - I would not cling on him too much, this is sure. ... (read in full...)

My Cousin's seduction strategies are working, now I want it

Q.   I met my cousin for the first time a year and a half ago during the summer. She moved down to my state to attend college in the city. Long story short i realized that she has been trying to make attempts to seduce me. Trying to undress in the same ...

A.   23 December 2010: Okay, again. If you see that she is just seducing you, then ask her, if she thoughts it seriously, or that is only a game. And if she answers yes, then tell her that how you feel, and kiss her. ... (read in full...)

love her, she loves me, but she likes someone else too

Q.   My best friend of two years told me she was in love with me, and I told her I was in love with her too. Things started off fine, we were never dating, but we wanted to. (At the time she had a boyfriend that she had already loved too) Now she tells ...

A.   23 December 2010: In this case I would answer her that I am not jealous, she should not be torn, she can date with the other guy if she wants, but I want her to be also with me. ... (read in full...)

Can I have sex with my cousin?

Q.   hi, , i am 28 attracted towards my cousin sister ,shweta ,she is 33 yearrs old and married.she is very nice to me.i dont know how to approach her?,once i met her last month after gap of 1 yearrs then i touched her feet ,but she hugged me from ...

A.   23 December 2010: The best would be if you could discuss this question with her husband. If it was not possible then ask her straightly. I am sure, she will give you the right answer. ... (read in full...)

Housebound and developed a crush on my brother-in-law

Q.   14years ago whilst my sister was pregnant with her second child I went for a year to Australia it was great and I had lots of fun but whilst I was there I had a panic attack and from there on it got worst. Almost 15 years on and i live with my ...

A.   23 December 2010: The point is that while you are closed into your family as environment it is obvious that you will have crush on one of your male in-laws. So you should not worry about this - needless. Since there is no chance to realize this crush on, I say that, ... (read in full...)

I make out with my step brother on a regular basis and I know its wrong. What do I do?!

Q.   this has nothing to do with any of my other questions.. its just diff. drama.. and im sorry its long! okay welll my dad got married a month ago to a really nice women.. all she talked about was her 2 kids.. lets say danny and andrew.. well on...

A.   23 December 2010: Personally I do not find it wrong, but your family (or families) would be indignant by your activity. So, you should be at least very careful. And that is also important: never tell it any "good or best friends". They will misuse your naivety. ... (read in full...)

I was in love with a terminal cancer patient and she passed away...

Q.   I need help with laying old ghosts to rest. I'm 17 years old, a senior in high school and for 4 months, I was engaged to 15 year old girl who had terminal Leukemia and CIPA (she couldn't feel any pain or sensation in her entire body 8 months ago, my ...

A.   22 December 2010: My God! You two are two angels. You will see each other - that is sure. You know, this is the Earth, not the Heaven. Here we used to cry sometimes, and our chest is pressed by the pain. Now my chest feels as heavy as yours. When you will see a ... (read in full...)

My first love from 30 years ago contacted me...He's free, I'm not. I still love him. Don't know how to quit him. Help!

Q.   I have been with my husband for over 20 years. We have a good marriage now, not always easy (I guess that's marriage afterall), but we are making it work. We also have children. Last year, I was contacted by the first man I ever loved. There wa...

A.   22 December 2010: It would not work really well. Now this old sweetheart is searching for a crutch. Of course you may help him psychologically, but do not dream of starting a big love affair. Maybe a short and less stormy one; just to see, how the time passed :)) ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's female friend is literally living at my place...with us!!

Q.   my boyfriend has this friend that's a female, but heres the chatch they use to go out together but split up cause of some differences. Well at first I was ok with him talking to her and her working with him at his garage, but now she's every where ...

A.   22 December 2010: Nice and friendly atmosphere, but not all of us like it. In the 60ies hippies and other young ppl liked this kind of informal life. If I were in your age maybe I could accept it. For a time, of course.... (read in full...)

Men: If your woman is satisfying you, why do you need porn?

Q.   Ok first off, I’m not married, but I keep having this fear of my future husband watching porn. I understand that most men watch porn but why? If your woman is satisfying you why do you need it? Many men say they need variety, but is that fair? Women ...

A.   22 December 2010: This not fair or unfair issue. This is instinctively driven visual curiosity. Like dogs always notice and watch each other. You should not regard it as disloyalty. But you may be right if you do not like it when your husband watches porn. He should ... (read in full...)

My Cousin's seduction strategies are working, now I want it

Q.   I met my cousin for the first time a year and a half ago during the summer. She moved down to my state to attend college in the city. Long story short i realized that she has been trying to make attempts to seduce me. Trying to undress in the same ...

A.   22 December 2010: In this "Forbidden love" section every 2nd or 3rd letter is about love or even affair with a cousin. So I think, this is a normal phenomenon. But you should be careful if you do something. Baby is certainly not good if you are cousins, and that is ... (read in full...)

I love both of them but I'm really confused.

Q.   I messed up bad. I been in two relationships for the past year. I've got caught by the same boyfriend twice and the first time i apologized and about after a month he took me back. but didnt know i was still in the other relationship.. i lied and ...

A.   21 December 2010: At your age you may tackle with both of them. And you will see which one accepts your honest personality. ... (read in full...)

How can I make it in life?

Q.   i have lost all hope, joy , happiness...what can i do? i have failed to get a job, or get into another relationship..more so i have no one i can tell about my am all alone, scared..infact what can a simple gal like...

A.   21 December 2010: A female at your age should not loose her hopes and persistence. A female at your age may find good partners at each street-corner. ... (read in full...)

Can I forgive this?

Q.   I've been with my partner for over two years but four mths ago,I discovered he'd been having cybersex with strangers,including on webcam and swapping intimate photos.I've tried to keep the relationship going,with the beginnings of therapy,he got rid ...

A.   21 December 2010: Not this cybersex is the problem here. That is easy to handle: e.g. you may join them and regard it as a silly game, etc. The real problem here is that you are not equally sexual, and you remain unsatisfied as his partner. You should think of this, ... (read in full...)

He wants to stop having sex until we get married! I don't know how to feel about this.....

Q.   Ok my fiance went totally religious on me and were on not going to have Sex anymore untill we get married, let me make it clear that we are engaged with no set date at all :-( this past sunday i went to church with him for the first time and we ...

A.   21 December 2010: Having sex or not is a common decision of a couple. I would not stay with him if he is so obsessively religious. ... (read in full...)

How do I get him comfortable so he can tell me how he feels?

Q.   Hi! i need some help. i am in highschool and i love my friend. we have been friends for about a year though we don't talk too much. we are both in the closest. he is gay, please just believe me when i say that hes gay. after about 4 months of knowi...

A.   21 December 2010: Your friend might be gay, who knows, but even then he is free to make his own decision on that when and with who he wants to open a love affair. I mean something more than the friendship. You know, not all gays are falling for all the other gays. ... (read in full...)

He thinks I lost my virginity, but I feel I didnt! Who is right here?

Q.   Something Strange Happened to me... i had no deep experience in sex but i knew a lot of information from my friends, one week ago i was with my boyfriend and he tried to penetrate i feel pain so he stop a little bit and repeat after that he enter...

A.   21 December 2010: Only a doctor or midwife could tell it what is the real status there, but practically you may say that you are not virgin anymore. The best thing you can do now is to repeat the experiment and loosing your virginity for sure. For you this is a nice ... (read in full...)

Is he referring to oral sex?

Q.   Hi, This is a question for the guys. If a guy says to a woman he wants to touch and lick you until you scream.Is he referring to oral sex? ...

A.   21 December 2010: Sure.... (read in full...)

She's in a relationship but I told her how I feel, and now she has cut me out of her life! Why would she do this?

Q.   hi ive been really good friends with a women who is in a relationship already, we got along so well its unreal, she shows all the signs she likes me and my feelings for her have grown for her so i told her how i feel open up to her and said i d...

A.   21 December 2010: She wants you to find an other one for yourself, and be happy, since she does not want to give you any sexual attention. ... (read in full...)

He tells me that masturbating to porn everyday before work is normal?

Q.   My boyfriend has to watch porn and masturbate everyday before work, even if I'm home he'll do it in the bathroom, he says it has nothing to do with sex, Is this normal, I mean It makes me feel like I'm not enough for him! He don't see a problem...

A.   21 December 2010: If you are satisfied then, let's say, it is not too much problematic, but if you would need more sexual activity from him, than it is a bad sign for your common future. Anyhow, a quickie in the morning with the sleepy girl should be better than ... (read in full...)

In love with a married man, how do I say 'no' when my heart says yes?

Q.   Okay, here is the deal. I am in college, but right now I am on winter break. My sister, still in high school, and I went to go watch her boyfriend in a school performance. The teacher I used to have a crush on was there. I gave up on anything ...

A.   21 December 2010: So you are really moral, and that is very nice, but in fact his marriage, if he initiate (!) anything with you, is not your problem. ... (read in full...)

Is my wife having an affair

Q.   Hi, I'm married with 2 children(2 and 6) and have been together for seven years, we met at college when I was 16 and didn't get together till I was 21. Anyway in august I came home from work and my wife told me she didn't love me, but agreed t...

A.   21 December 2010: In this story the "cheating" is just does not matter. The real problem is the breaking off in the mutual emotional support and responsibility between you and your wife. This can work even if one of you is a cheater. Your wife exactly feels this, and ... (read in full...)

Can you ever be friends with a member of the opposite sex?

Q.   Hey, this isn't really a problem I was just wondering what everyone thinks on whether guys and girls can ever just be friends? My friends think one will always find the other sexually attractive but is this true? I've had lots of guy friends for ...

A.   21 December 2010: Yes, it is possible. And even the sexual attraction does not make it impossible. You may find sexually attractive even your enemy, or a person on the other side of the street. Friendship and sexual feelings does not exclude each other. ... (read in full...)

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