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writes:Dear All:I am facing a really difficult situation lately. The thing is, I've been dating with my gf for almost 3 years and we love each other a lot. The problem is, we're not living in the same country due to the fact that she went to England to further her education, which really is killing me!! Although we don't see each other everyday, but we talk on the phone and chat on msn everyday. Everything is going well until one day, she tells me that there are 3 guys who are really nice to her and etc. She goes with each of them one on one without thinking at all. When I bring this issue up, she always gets angry and keeps refusing it and continues to hang out with them eventhough I tell her that they like her and wanna get her. Oh and the thing that really annoys me is the fact that all of them knows that my gf is not single, but they still continue to be nice with her and etc. I really HATE it and whenever I think about it, I just get soooo ANGRY!! I know she doesn't like them but I just don't trust those guys. What can I do? can someone please help me with this? Thank you so much!! ^_^
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (29 October 2008):
hiyah i think by bringing it up shes using it as an advantage sometimes and is liking your jealousy. long distance relationships are hard and will only work if your both in it for the long run, it wont function without BOTH of your inputs and it seems shes only half way there. it works well for her in a way as she doent have to commit completely (with the distance etc) but surely you have girl mates you hang round with?
these guys cant all be after her! some may be just genuine close mates.
you need to talk to her about it calmly and respecting her as if shes said there just mates thats the way shell be seeing it so you have to handle the situation carefully incase you take her too far.
you might not trust them but you trust your gf surely? isnt that enough? if she says nothing is happening you have to start believeing her at some point.
talk to her about your insecurities and how much its getting to her, keep reasuring her that you love her its just ou find it hard. with you being apart anyway the other option is to end it if its really getting to you so much but its completely up to you.
best of luck x :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): One thing. Men unless they´re gay will never b nice out of nothing, especially if the girl´s taken. they see her as a challenge to conquest. If you are far from her the only thing you should do is talk to her and see how she feels. If you can travel to see her the better.
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