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writes:I have learned from my father that shouting, beating your wife, kids is the only way to express your anger and frustration. Sometimes these fears come to surface when i make some mistakes or do something wrong and even if the authority figure would have no intentions of beating me / insulting me. I show unnecessary aggression for the same reason. How can i possibly control it when forming intimate relationships with people who are secure than my parents? Reply to this Question
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reader, samohir  +, writes (13 October 2007):
 Professional counselling may help. I have also learned aggression as a method from my parents, but i try to control it.Just a couple of seconds to calm down before saying or doing anything is good managment of it.Its all in the brain!
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (13 October 2007):
You need to stop and think before you act. Let your thinking rule over your emotions. When you get mad say to yourself, "What would Jesus do."
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reader, hotty  +, writes (13 October 2007):
you obviously know this kind of behaviour is wrong, so well done for recognising that. the next step is maybe anger management. you appear to have learned the behavior that if something doesnt go well or go to plan the simple answer is to get angry. you havent tried any other means of exploring venting your frustration. anger managment will look at your triggers that set off your aggression and work on different ways to alert people that you feel like going bang. think of how you felt as a child witnessing verbal abuse and the fear you experienced. it cant have been pleasent. imagine if you have children and they saw you the same way you saw your father, how would that make you feel? try it. what have you got to lose? goodluck. you can do it. x
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