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Would it be ok to ask my mum to buy me a vibrator?

Q.   I'm 17 and have the money to buy a vibrator, but I have no way of actually getting one by myself. I don't have any friends old enough to take me some where that will sell them to people under 18, and I don't have a credit/debit card so I can't buy ...

A.   17 September 2018: Just wait a year and buy it online and don't tell her. No matter what way you slice it, it's an intensely private thing. ... (read in full...)

How can I get better at finding the one?

Q.   I wanted to get some advice since my love life is a mess ( or lack of). I have been single for a year and a half and I have tried a lot of things to find the “one” but nothing - I can’t seem to connect with men and the ones I do connect with or ...

A.   17 September 2018: I mean you kind of answered your own question. You clearly have a thing for "bad boys" and they are just that, bad. They have no responsibilities, no stable income, and no inclination to start something serious, which is what you're looking for. ... (read in full...)

How to move on from your old crush?

Q.   So, three years ago, i.e. 2015, I had a huge crush on a girl and she had a crush on me too. But unfortunately we couldn’t make it work. Mostly it was my fault, i guess i kept pushing her away because i wasn’t ready (i was 17). Then she moved...

A.   17 September 2018: I mean you can always contact her, either be it through a phone call, or text, or facebook, or e-mail. You two really didn't have a history together so it's not weird to reach out and catch up. Then based on that you can see where you stand to her. ... (read in full...)

Is she worth pursuing?

Q.   I'm in a really low place right now. I've been dating a girl for the past 4 months ( I'm 30 she's 26) and during the past month she's grown incredibly distant. She only texts me when I text her now, sometimes it takes her days to reply, she never ...

A.   17 September 2018: You were all correct. She was clearly over me. I just didn't want to see it. I didn't contact her for over 10 days and heard nothing from her. I checked my Whatsapp and found out she had either blocked me or changed her number as the profile pic ... (read in full...)

Am I being unreasonable in wanting us to cut back on our weed expenses? I

Q.   So my husband works to keep me at the moment he literally pays for almost everything (including holidays, clothes, materialistic things etc) But bare in mind I don't ask him for that he just does it. I'm unable to work at the moment due to my severe ...

A.   7 September 2018: "All he has in his life" sounds like a huge red flag for serious addiction. You both need to cut out weed from your life. Start with you, don't take it anymore. Hopefully he will follow.... (read in full...)

I hate my boyfriend’s best friend and don’t want him at my wedding!

Q.   I got engaged to my boyfriend and we are currently planning the wedding, making guest lists etc. My partner wishes to invite his best friend to the wedding. The thing is i can’t stand being in the same room as my fiancées best friend as he severely ...

A.   24 June 2018: If he truly loves you, he will respect your wishes. Especially if the friend bullied you. Your dislike of him is completely justified.... (read in full...)

Newly back on the dating scene, can I booty call a guy or is that creepy?

Q.   Hi Cupid, I have a weird question. So, I am newly back on the dating scene after almost 13 years. I am 31. So, I’ve been going on some dates, and a few weeks ago I had two with a lovely guy. We had a great time, connected well and had great che...

A.   24 June 2018: Totally normal! He'll probably be open to it too. Sex with no strings attached will help you get over your anxiety about coming back into the dating scene and it will help him move on as well. Just remember that too much of this is bad for both of ... (read in full...)

He blocked me on Instagram then lied about why!

Q.   He blocked me on Instagram and lied to me about it saying his app had a problem. Yes I believed it. I have another account on Instagram for makeup and fashion posts. He commented on another girl’s picture saying “Dayyyuuumm”. He has all his exes and ...

A.   24 June 2018: It's stupid behaviour on his part. Move on, you deserve so much better than this lying manipulative guy... (read in full...)

How do I make my girlfriend feel special and loved?

Q.   Hi guys, Thanks in advance for taking the time to read my post. Basically, my GF of almost one year has told me that she feels more like my best friend than girlfriend. I really need help in fixing things as I care about her a great deal and ...

A.   24 June 2018: So many ways to make her feel loved and special. But remember that every girl is different and she may not like certain things. But as far as romance goes I'd suggest to text often, call more often, see her at least twice a week, hold her hand, kiss ... (read in full...)

I like travel, he likes fast food and designer luxury products! Is there room for compromise?

Q.   I love to travel and see the world. I love experiencing different cultures and tasting different foods. I'm not a fan of designer luxury products, I just like to travel. My boyfriend doesn't like traveling or seeing the world. He can eat McDonald...

A.   24 March 2018: You both survived a long term relationship intact. That's amazing, kudos to you. Just talk it out with him, I'm sure you can get to a compromise. Have him save a little on the side for travel. ... (read in full...)

I'm feeling under pressure and trapped.

Q.   Hi all, I have an issue really bugging me at the moment and beginning to stress me out. I'll give a little bit of backstory: I'm 26 years old, recently gotten together with my first ever GF and everything was going swimmingly and I was very ...

A.   24 March 2018: You're 26 and you just got your first girlfriend. Of course you're going to feel like the grass is greener on the other side, you haven't even stepped on other lawns. But here is the important part. Don't let those thoughts cloud your feeli... (read in full...)

My husband had an affair and now I can't sleep with him

Q.   MOD NOTE: two questions combined into one Hi everyone. I've been married for nearly 6 years. We have a three year old son. Last year my husband and I had some issues where I focussed too much on one my hobbies and spent less time with him. He t...

A.   24 March 2018: That feeling will never go away. I was cheated on too. And I tried to make it work. But that sick gut wrenching feeling you get if you try to get sexual with your partner is there to stay. And if you don't like the way he behaves around y... (read in full...)

Is my professor flirting or is it just in my head?

Q.   Maybe it's just me but, sometimes I wonder if my professor is flirting... I am taking a photography class for fun at my local community college. At first I didn't think much about it, but some things started to stick out. First, he often look...

A.   24 March 2018: He's your teacher. Don't even bother pursuing it until you're no longer in his class. ... (read in full...)

We've been together for 4 years but I now I'm torn

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 years now and are living together.Now I've kinda hit a point where I'm torn.I need help as to what am i doing wrong or how should I take this.Every now and then my boyfriend hits these points where ...

A.   31 January 2018: Excuse my language, but he sounds like a real piece of shit. He doesn't deserve you at all. You deserve someone who wants to be with you in every sense of the word. At this stage you shouldn't feel like you have to "earn" his attraction. And thos... (read in full...)

Three dates in and she does't want to kiss!

Q.   So I met a girl through Tinder and we went out for dinner. I'm 30 and she's 27. We hit it off really well. We talked for nearly 4 hours. She had a pretty bad cough though, and I didn't attempt any sort of physical contact except a brief touch of the ...

A.   31 January 2018: Thanks for your replies! I agree. I do believe she is just using me to have fun at my expense whenever she doesn't have anything better to do. Before I even posted this I asked if she'd like to go out to that nightclub she mentioned and she said ... (read in full...)

Could my body after weight loss be turning men off?

Q.   I'm a little worried about this. So, i used to be quite large, about 84 pounds overweight and lost most of my weight the last few years. I'm thin but not as toned and obviously have a little loose skin on my stomach in particular, especially the ...

A.   30 January 2018: Different things turn different men on or off. The most important thing is that you need to feel confident in your own body. If you would feel better working it off then starting to date again, go for it! ... (read in full...)

How can I help my sister who has spiralled into depression?

Q.   My sister had faced reality and spiraled into depression. I urged her to seek therapy (not just because of this last episode), but in the meantime she needs support. How can I help her more? Some time ago she had a month long fling with a guy...

A.   30 January 2018: I'm so sorry. What that guy did was morally reprehensible and I hope he gets what's coming to him. Regarding your sister, she is going to need time to cope with this. Sometimes people really do fall in love with the idea of love. Her being ... (read in full...)

Cheater?? Just your first instinct, not full evaluation!

Q.   Ok... Just be straight... Being paranoid, or boyfriend totally cheating on me?? He has a friend contact, saved on his phone as "Wifey S" when questioned, said nothing to worry about, just a female friend.... what are your first thought... backgrou...

A.   30 January 2018: Wifey is extremely suspicious. And if you already have your doubts about the guy, end it. ... (read in full...)

I want to ask her to be my girlfriend but something is holding me back

Q.   I've recently been dating a lovely girl for the past 2 months but we haven't made it "official" so to speak. We'll call her Sofia. She's 25. We've dined together, slept together, taken pictures together, and text each other virtually every ...

A.   29 January 2018: Thanks for your advice! You were all correct. If I'm not head over heels for her, there is no reason I should ask her to be my girlfriend. I sent her texts for awhile and when she didn't respond that favorably to a text indicating we co... (read in full...)

He seemed so into me, said he had no wrong intentions... Then why did he ghost me after that evening of no sex?

Q.   I commute to work and every Friday, as I'm waiting at my bus stop, a young man would come and wait for the bus as well. We would exchange polite nods of the head, smiles, "good mornings" and then both of us would retreat back to our cell phones, ...

A.   29 January 2018: You dodged a bullet. This whole thing is really weird. He stalks you and then shows up to pick you up. Then he has zero money to afford anything. Has to borrow wheels to move around, has nothing at his apartment, and wants to only see you the... (read in full...)

Seven Year Relationship - Ended Over Phone Call

Q.   Hi friends... It's been ages since I posted here, however I'm stuck in yet another dilemma. I live with my boyfriend ('fiance') of 18 years. I never got to date, or try others, since I was 13/14 when we started dating. The first few years were g...

A.   29 January 2018: Leave him as fast as possible. Never look back. ... (read in full...)

I can't seem to sort my feelings out for this guy!

Q.   there is this guy i know and i don't know if i'm interested in him, he's 2 years older than me and he seems to have a lot of friends ( girls included). sometimes i have feelings when i see him hanging out with other girls but sometimes i feel ...

A.   27 December 2017: Sure, talk to him more and see how you feel about it. You can't gauge all of this just by occasionally flirting. ... (read in full...)

Is she interested? How can I tell and how do I tell her without sounding too full on?

Q.   Hi, I hope some of you can offer me some good advice. A colleague of mine left a few months ago and we got on like a house on fire, so I was a little upset when she left for another job. I also was really attracted to her, but not wanting to mix b...

A.   27 December 2017: Good luck man! Don't worry at all about this one. My one recommendation is to make sure to initiate some sort of physical contact. Even if it's as subtle as holding her hand for a bit or touching her shoulder. A kiss would be ideal. Just to let her ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend getting friendly with my colleague. Should I worry?

Q.   My girlfriend recently became friends with one of my work colleagues on Facebook. On Christmas morning, whilst I was still asleep, my girlfriend sent my colleague a message saying Merry Christmas along with a selfie of herself fully made up. She's ...

A.   27 December 2017: Uh Oh. Not a good sign. Selfie sending is very flirty behavior. Be careful. ... (read in full...)

He wants to propose and I'm just not ready!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years. Recently, he has been hinting A LOT that he wants to proposed. He also keeps asking me to find time for him to see my mom.. I know he wants to ask her. Any girl would be super happy... and I am happy... ...

A.   31 October 2017: You need to bring this up before he pops the question. What are you going to say when he asks you? "Yes...just not now" ? Like the others have said be honest with him. On the other hand, if after 4 years you are still on the fence about... (read in full...)

I thought things were progressing well so why does she seemed to have slowed down?

Q.   A few days ago I was on cloud nine. I had finally gone out with a great girl after a couple weeks of chatting on Facebook since we were both moving back to our hometown. We clicked really well while we were chatting, she was very responsive and f...

A.   1 October 2017: Turns out she had a boyfriend she never mentioned. She just tweeted about him on Twitter. Oh well. ... (read in full...)

Is the guy I'm dating being a jerk?

Q.   I started dating this guy about a month ago and we've been on four dates so far.. We haven't gone all the way yet but have done some stuff in bed, as well as the usual things like cinema etc. TBF to him he does have his good points like he pays for ...

A.   22 September 2017: He thinks he's hilarious. He clearly isn't. Move on, you deserve better. ... (read in full...)

I'm a 27 year old virgin who just wants to be loved..

Q.   Hi I'm just looking for advice I'm a 27 year old female and I have never been in a relationship I'm also a Virgin. I just seem invisible to men or only the wrong ones I'm at the age all my friends are settled down and having babies and I can't help ...

A.   20 September 2017: Honeypie gave some great advice, I say follow it!... (read in full...)

Huge crush on the guy who works in the same building but I don't think he even knows that I exist!

Q.   Hello, there is a guy that works in a same building with me and I have a huge crush on me. When ever I see him I feel Goosebumps and I smile alone like a crazy women. Problem is I haven't even said a word to him and probably he hasn't even notice my ...

A.   20 September 2017: Workplace romance is not recommended. I tried one for awhile and it ended badly. And the worst part is that you still have to see that person every single day of the week. You're young as well, no need to pursue that kind of romance. ... (read in full...)

I thought things were progressing well so why does she seemed to have slowed down?

Q.   A few days ago I was on cloud nine. I had finally gone out with a great girl after a couple weeks of chatting on Facebook since we were both moving back to our hometown. We clicked really well while we were chatting, she was very responsive and f...

A.   20 September 2017: She doesn't have a full time job, so that's why her excuse is particularly bothersome and her lack of communication is as well. I chatted with her last night and checked on her availability and she gave me another excuse about getting her glas... (read in full...)

The sex is just not working out. What are we doing wrong?

Q.   My boyfriend often complains that we don't have enough sex. But he doesn't initiate ot, or try to turn me on. The other day we were hugging in bed then he rolled over, saying that he had to because he was horny ... like, sex could've happened if he ...

A.   20 September 2017: Seems like a case of a really crappy lover, I'm sorry. Find someone else, he's clearly got several issues that aren't worth your time. ... (read in full...)

The sex is just not working out. What are we doing wrong?

Q.   My boyfriend often complains that we don't have enough sex. But he doesn't initiate ot, or try to turn me on. The other day we were hugging in bed then he rolled over, saying that he had to because he was horny ... like, sex could've happened if he ...

A.   20 September 2017: Seems like a case of a really crappy lover, I'm sorry. Find someone else, he's clearly got several issues that aren't worth your time. ... (read in full...)

Is this a genuine concern or is he blowing me off?

Q.   My bf and I have been together for a couple months. He treats me really well and is different from the other guys that I dated. One thing though that has really started to worry me, is him trying to drop me off at home early in the day. He works ...

A.   20 September 2017: He's not that into you. Like you said, he'd offer that ride, he wouldn't just express concern. Be distant the next couple days, make him chase you. If he is still coy and only suggests afternoon dates, move on, he's just playing with you... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wanted an open relationship but I can't cope with it.

Q.   I'm struggling with the pain and shock involved in starting an open relationship. I've been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months. Recently we agreed to open the relationship and allow each other to have sex with other people. She's the one wh...

A.   20 September 2017: Dude. Break up with her. IMMEDIATELY. No girl, and I mean no girl, is worth that emotional abuse. Either she's with you or she isn't, there is no middle ground there. ... (read in full...)

Should we jump right in or take it slowly?

Q.   Hi there. I've been talking to a wonderful guy for a month or two now, things are going really well. It started as just friendly conversation, banter via text message and talking about everything we have in common, but the conversations went on ...

A.   20 September 2017: He seems like a good guy, maybe a wee bit too sappy (which I am guilty of from time to time), but I say keep dating him. The fact that he is still seeing you after sex and actively enjoys texting and talking to you is a VERY good sign. You're c... (read in full...)

My girlfriend has poor dental hygiene!

Q.   My girlfriend has poor dental hygiene. Her teeth are yellowish and her breath smells bad.I love her but everytime I wish to express it with a kiss I hold back. How do I bring this up with her?...

A.   20 September 2017: Bring some mints with you next time you go out to dinner and give one to her after having one yourself. I highly doubt you saying "you have terrible teeth and your breath smells" is going to go over well. ... (read in full...)

I'm worried I can't ask her to do the same thing again!

Q.   A few weeks ago I helped my girlfriend clean and put the dishes away. Afterwards she filled the sink with dishsoap and undressed me. She wanted me to sit on the counter over the edge of the sink. I was reluctant at first but I did it. She then used ...

A.   20 September 2017: It seems like you two are really close, just talk to her about it, be honest. ... (read in full...)

I like girl A but am dating girl B

Q.   I became really good friends with these two girls who are best friends. I liked them both but had a crush on girl lets say girl A. I never told girl A this. We had different styles and the few convos we did have she always talked about dating this ...

A.   14 September 2017: Yeah....you did shoot yourself in the foot. Next time, go for the one you really want. End it amicably. You can't go after her friend, trust me, she won't want you in any shape or form. ... (read in full...)

How am I so bad with women?

Q.   I'm at a place now where I'm rejected 100% of the time. It's mind boggling how awful I am at attracting women. They're put off my me almost immediately and if they're not, I get their number and they stop talking to me. It takes talent to be this ...

A.   28 February 2017: We've all been there man. I didn't have my first kiss, my first girlfriend, my first everything until I was 19. I've also been rejected countless times. Numbers don't always convert into dates. If you're getting numbers you're doing so... (read in full...)

I am a married woman who has sex with strangers when I travel for work!

Q.   I am a married female looking for some help. This is going to sound crazy but I have always had a high sex drive. I met my husband and everything was great. We had two kids, and he is such a good man. Provides well, if I had to honestly rate hi...

A.   28 February 2017: Quit lying, and quit cheating. It's not fair to your husband or kids. ... (read in full...)

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