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He wants to propose and I'm just not ready!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years. Recently, he has been hinting A LOT that he wants to proposed. He also keeps asking me to find time for him to see my mom.. I know he wants to ask her. Any girl would be super happy... and I am happy... ...

A.   31 October 2017: You need to bring this up before he pops the question. What are you going to say when he asks you? "Yes...just not now" ? Like the others have said be honest with him. On the other hand, if after 4 years you are still on the fence about... (read in full...)

I thought things were progressing well so why does she seemed to have slowed down?

Q.   A few days ago I was on cloud nine. I had finally gone out with a great girl after a couple weeks of chatting on Facebook since we were both moving back to our hometown. We clicked really well while we were chatting, she was very responsive and f...

A.   1 October 2017: Turns out she had a boyfriend she never mentioned. She just tweeted about him on Twitter. Oh well. ... (read in full...)

Is the guy I'm dating being a jerk?

Q.   I started dating this guy about a month ago and we've been on four dates so far.. We haven't gone all the way yet but have done some stuff in bed, as well as the usual things like cinema etc. TBF to him he does have his good points like he pays for ...

A.   22 September 2017: He thinks he's hilarious. He clearly isn't. Move on, you deserve better. ... (read in full...)

I'm a 27 year old virgin who just wants to be loved..

Q.   Hi I'm just looking for advice I'm a 27 year old female and I have never been in a relationship I'm also a Virgin. I just seem invisible to men or only the wrong ones I'm at the age all my friends are settled down and having babies and I can't help ...

A.   20 September 2017: Honeypie gave some great advice, I say follow it!... (read in full...)

Huge crush on the guy who works in the same building but I don't think he even knows that I exist!

Q.   Hello, there is a guy that works in a same building with me and I have a huge crush on me. When ever I see him I feel Goosebumps and I smile alone like a crazy women. Problem is I haven't even said a word to him and probably he hasn't even notice my ...

A.   20 September 2017: Workplace romance is not recommended. I tried one for awhile and it ended badly. And the worst part is that you still have to see that person every single day of the week. You're young as well, no need to pursue that kind of romance. ... (read in full...)

I thought things were progressing well so why does she seemed to have slowed down?

Q.   A few days ago I was on cloud nine. I had finally gone out with a great girl after a couple weeks of chatting on Facebook since we were both moving back to our hometown. We clicked really well while we were chatting, she was very responsive and f...

A.   20 September 2017: She doesn't have a full time job, so that's why her excuse is particularly bothersome and her lack of communication is as well. I chatted with her last night and checked on her availability and she gave me another excuse about getting her glas... (read in full...)

The sex is just not working out. What are we doing wrong?

Q.   My boyfriend often complains that we don't have enough sex. But he doesn't initiate ot, or try to turn me on. The other day we were hugging in bed then he rolled over, saying that he had to because he was horny ... like, sex could've happened if he ...

A.   20 September 2017: Seems like a case of a really crappy lover, I'm sorry. Find someone else, he's clearly got several issues that aren't worth your time. ... (read in full...)

The sex is just not working out. What are we doing wrong?

Q.   My boyfriend often complains that we don't have enough sex. But he doesn't initiate ot, or try to turn me on. The other day we were hugging in bed then he rolled over, saying that he had to because he was horny ... like, sex could've happened if he ...

A.   20 September 2017: Seems like a case of a really crappy lover, I'm sorry. Find someone else, he's clearly got several issues that aren't worth your time. ... (read in full...)

Is this a genuine concern or is he blowing me off?

Q.   My bf and I have been together for a couple months. He treats me really well and is different from the other guys that I dated. One thing though that has really started to worry me, is him trying to drop me off at home early in the day. He works ...

A.   20 September 2017: He's not that into you. Like you said, he'd offer that ride, he wouldn't just express concern. Be distant the next couple days, make him chase you. If he is still coy and only suggests afternoon dates, move on, he's just playing with you... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wanted an open relationship but I can't cope with it.

Q.   I'm struggling with the pain and shock involved in starting an open relationship. I've been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months. Recently we agreed to open the relationship and allow each other to have sex with other people. She's the one wh...

A.   20 September 2017: Dude. Break up with her. IMMEDIATELY. No girl, and I mean no girl, is worth that emotional abuse. Either she's with you or she isn't, there is no middle ground there. ... (read in full...)

Should we jump right in or take it slowly?

Q.   Hi there. I've been talking to a wonderful guy for a month or two now, things are going really well. It started as just friendly conversation, banter via text message and talking about everything we have in common, but the conversations went on ...

A.   20 September 2017: He seems like a good guy, maybe a wee bit too sappy (which I am guilty of from time to time), but I say keep dating him. The fact that he is still seeing you after sex and actively enjoys texting and talking to you is a VERY good sign. You're c... (read in full...)

My girlfriend has poor dental hygiene!

Q.   My girlfriend has poor dental hygiene. Her teeth are yellowish and her breath smells bad.I love her but everytime I wish to express it with a kiss I hold back. How do I bring this up with her?...

A.   20 September 2017: Bring some mints with you next time you go out to dinner and give one to her after having one yourself. I highly doubt you saying "you have terrible teeth and your breath smells" is going to go over well. ... (read in full...)

I'm worried I can't ask her to do the same thing again!

Q.   A few weeks ago I helped my girlfriend clean and put the dishes away. Afterwards she filled the sink with dishsoap and undressed me. She wanted me to sit on the counter over the edge of the sink. I was reluctant at first but I did it. She then used ...

A.   20 September 2017: It seems like you two are really close, just talk to her about it, be honest. ... (read in full...)

Should I give my old teacher this small gift?

Q.   Last month I went on holidays to do a language course in another country. I told that to a teacher of my uni and she recommended me a shop which of course I visited and liked a lot. I bought some presents for my family and friends and also something ...

A.   20 September 2017: Sure! I'm sure she will appreciate the gesture very much. ... (read in full...)

I like girl A but am dating girl B

Q.   I became really good friends with these two girls who are best friends. I liked them both but had a crush on girl lets say girl A. I never told girl A this. We had different styles and the few convos we did have she always talked about dating this ...

A.   14 September 2017: Yeah....you did shoot yourself in the foot. Next time, go for the one you really want. End it amicably. You can't go after her friend, trust me, she won't want you in any shape or form. ... (read in full...)

How am I so bad with women?

Q.   I'm at a place now where I'm rejected 100% of the time. It's mind boggling how awful I am at attracting women. They're put off my me almost immediately and if they're not, I get their number and they stop talking to me. It takes talent to be this ...

A.   28 February 2017: We've all been there man. I didn't have my first kiss, my first girlfriend, my first everything until I was 19. I've also been rejected countless times. Numbers don't always convert into dates. If you're getting numbers you're doing so... (read in full...)

I am a married woman who has sex with strangers when I travel for work!

Q.   I am a married female looking for some help. This is going to sound crazy but I have always had a high sex drive. I met my husband and everything was great. We had two kids, and he is such a good man. Provides well, if I had to honestly rate hi...

A.   28 February 2017: Quit lying, and quit cheating. It's not fair to your husband or kids. ... (read in full...)

How do I make the next move? I'm scared of rejection but when I do meet a woman I don't know what to say to get her interest

Q.   I've been single for a while now. i'm not looking for a relationship just yet but am looking for casual sex. Thing is, I'm quite shy. I like to flirt with women and find this happens often, I just don't know what to say to take it to the next ste...

A.   28 February 2017: There is no one right way to make a "move" on a girl. Just be fun and friendly. Talk about interesting topics, reveal a bit about your personality, ask her stuff about her, tell an entertaining story. Don't stress to much about looking for "cas... (read in full...)

I don't want to have a relationship with him but I'd like him as a friend.

Q.   Me and my ex (who i've known my entire life) split up a year ago because he started to treat me bad and was showing signs of unfaithfulness. However, a year on me and him were supposedly over the relationship and he requested that we be friends. We ...

A.   29 January 2017: He very clearly wants to have you around for sex. He even went straight for the dirty talk. You don't want him around for that, and want a "friend" instead? For what purpose? Think he'll listen to your day to day activities? Give you advice? ... (read in full...)

When will he tell me he loves me, I don't want to say it first this time?

Q.   When can I expect my boyfriend to tell me he loves me? What are some signs that will indicate that he feels that way? (even if not saying it) I'm well on my way to falling in love with him, but don't want to say it first this time. I have sai...

A.   29 January 2017: It's all about time. Despite having dated and been with multiple girls, I've only told one girl I love her and that was my first girlfriend. We had been going out for 8 months and I didn't want to say it if I didn't mean it. Take it as a positive... (read in full...)

Should I give up on men? Is there such a thing as a normal guy? I want a relationship with a man.

Q.   I have have asked for advice before here and wanted to come back a year later to ask maybe what I am doing wrong. I am a woman in my early 30s that has given up on love. I have only been with three men and two had a relationship with. Through t...

A.   29 January 2017: I've been there too, just from the opposite side of the fence. My first girlfriend (who happened to be my first kiss and first sexual partner), cheated on me after being 2 years together when I was away during summer vacation. My second girlf... (read in full...)

I am over chasing men. But without a man in my life, then how can I be happy?

Q.   It seems since I have been 17 years old I have been chasing men. 13 years later an two bad relatiosnhios and a broken home(my parents are miserable together) I have had enough. A little back story ( since my early twenties I have done everythi...

A.   29 January 2017: Not chasing men and being open to seeing them are different things though. Just because you aren't chasing them doesn't mean you're going to be alone the rest of your life. And you're on the right track, don't hang out with people who bring yo... (read in full...)

He lacks a stable job and a career so I'm breaking up with him. Am I not openminded?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I've put a lot of consideration into this and I've decided to break up with my boyfriend. It's not that we don't get along - we get along rather well and have a great time together. He is positive I will be his future wife and has info...

A.   22 January 2017: Agreed. The dude is living like is 15 years old. You don't want to deal with that. ... (read in full...)

Was he wrong for hitting me or am I being dramatic?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together 8months, I was pulling a silly face he didn't like and to stop me doing it he slapped my face, not hard by enough to shock me a little. He knows how I feel about face slapping (from previous bedroom antics) ...

A.   22 January 2017: That is NEVER EVER okay. Break up with him. Immediately. It's only going to escalate and get worse. You deserve so much better than an idiot who hits women. ... (read in full...)

He went out of his way to get my number but never called

Q.   Ok on a friday night at the gym i noticed this guy looking at me and well there was a mutual attraction. He kept looking at me the whole time i was there. I had gone into the hall to take a break and he passed by me as he was leaving and passed b...

A.   22 January 2017: Sometimes a guy will get a girls number and then decide not to call her because someone else turned up. He may still call, but I mean, at that point you're plan C or D. Don't expect him to call and keep acting normal around him like you hav... (read in full...)

Why can't I shake this crush?

Q.   Hello Aunts and Uncles.. I'll make this as quick as possible.. I have been working at my company for 8 months now. I have a few bosses here, but there is one in particular who I am so incredibly attracted to. From the minute I met him in our ...

A.   22 January 2017: Anonymous said it best, he is being very inappropriate. ... (read in full...)

She has decorated my bedroom space with love letters and trinkets and it's suffocating. What can I say and how should I approach this subject?

Q.   I am in quite a new relationship with my girlfriend (just over 6 months) and things have been going well. Although recently she has started to decorate my bedroom with photographs, love letters and little trinkets. It is sweet, do not get me wr...

A.   22 January 2017: Maybe meet her halfway? Keep the smaller things just so she doesn't think you're embarrassed by her. ...And the other more sneaky option is to put everything up when she's around and take it down when she's not. But that is really annoying... (read in full...)

How should I handle this situation? I think something is going on between my mom and my husband

Q.   I think there’s something going on between my mom and my husband !! I know this sounds impossible but it seems true !! And I want to get to the bottom of it but don't know how !! My mom's visiting us and it has been here for the past 2 months !...

A.   22 January 2017: Holy crap this sounds horrible! I would follow the advice the others have left. This is a terribly complex and bad situation, I seriously wish you well! ... (read in full...)

Christmas gift gone wrong

Q.   For Christmas this year, my BF got me a weekend at a winery with tour, tasting, and live music. We were so excited to get away for the weekend. I was almost in tears over such a thoughtful gift. It was our first Christmas together and the 1st ...

A.   22 January 2017: Sorry about that. But if he is in mourning and he is also unemployed, he definitely doesn't want to be thinking of getaway vacations at the moment. Just be there for him. Don't worry, he'll come around. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and his ex are now talking every day and I am not comfortable with it

Q.   Hi there. Well something is bothering me and I don't know if it's ok for me to be upset or not. About a week ago, my boyfriends ex girlfriends grandmother died. Her and him haven't really spoken for the last year or so. But she called him to let him ...

A.   22 January 2017: Reading the headline made me uncomfortable. Consoling his ex over her dead grandma is okay. Calling her after that to "catch up" and tell you that it's totally fine is NOT okay. Confront him about it. If he continues to insist that... (read in full...)

My previous LDR did not work. My current LDR treats me better. Based on how things are working out does this current LDR have a chance of working out for the best?

Q.   My bf came down to visit me for a little while and we talked about the future. The thing is he is younger then me and much less stable then me. I guess when I started dating him, I should have walked away, but I couldn't and we fell in love. ...

A.   13 January 2017: He sounds like a really romantic and nice young man. I say enjoy it. However, if he is significantly younger than you (more than 5 years), watch it. He may be saying things he doesn't really mean just to be with you because men enjoy the company ... (read in full...)

Will sex ruin the relationship or make it better?

Q.   Male(21) Hi..I am 21 and she is she is younger than me. We are in a relationship since last 7 months.We meet frequently.And now I think we both are ready for getting physical. I am confused is sex good for our relation or will it ruin our relation...

A.   13 January 2017: Depends on the situation. If you're in that traditional society, perhaps that means she is expecting marriage afterwards. In any case, if you're ready to start a physical relationship, make sure you're on the same page with her. Do you want a k... (read in full...)

Why does my wife come home wearing different colored panties? Is she fooling around?

Q.   So I have a strange feeling that my wife may be fooling around. Whenever she goes by her GF place, she always comes home with different panties on. Am I wrong for having these thoughts that there could be something here?...

A.   5 December 2016: That's a definite red flag. Why would she need to change panties? ... (read in full...)

Like him but he has a girlfriend

Q.   I've been talking to this guy for a while now. It's been going really well and then he asks me on a date. However, we didn't be go on it because I found out he has a girlfriend. I've said I can't do this and we shouldn't talk. The problem is,...

A.   5 December 2016: Pursue it if you want to be the next girl he does this too. So I'd say it isn't worth it. ... (read in full...)

Should I meet up to talk to him after he said he didn't want to be with me anymore?

Q.   I was with this boy for a few months and he basically said that he's changed so doesn't want to be with me. I dunno if I should go meet up and talk or to just let him go. I've never loved someone as much as I love him. He is my true love and he...

A.   5 December 2016: Move on. You're not even old enough to vote. Trust me you will find plenty of other awesome guys in your life. ... (read in full...)

Was this meaningless or is J trying to get me to notice her in some way?

Q.   I have a friend who lives abroad and we talk a lot on Facebook. I went over there to visit her and met her friend who didn't speak much English (codename J). We were all out together and had a good time, but the language barrier could be an issue...

A.   5 December 2016: It's a little pointless to pursue considering that she lives abroad and you don't speak the same language. That being said, just be sure to smile and be nice to her when you're there, she may be up for some fun. ... (read in full...)

My ex moved on so quickly after our breakup and I am not coping with it very well

Q.   I was with my ex partner for 5 years from the age of 16, he was my first love and we did everything together. Unfortunately in the last two years his mum left home so I seemed to take over the job, I cooked every weekend for him his dad and brother, ...

A.   2 October 2016: Your lucky enough to have found a new guy, focus on that. Who cares what he's up to now, like you said, this new guy is there in a million new ways that the other wasn't. Unfriend his mom and push him out of your life. And really, be ... (read in full...)

We had one date, thought it went great, but does it seem like she's blowing me off now?

Q.   So I met this girl at a friends party two weeks ago. We talked for about an hour and I got her number. I asked her out via text, and she said she'd like to but couldn't that week because of a trip, but said she'd be up for it the following week. ...

A.   2 October 2016: Thanks for your advice! So after a couple weeks of texting back and forth we finally went on a second date. It was a hike by where she lived. I thought things went well, but apparently she didn't She pretty much stopped texting back. Ab... (read in full...)

Is he rejecting me?

Q.   so me and a guy have been talking for a long while. i am 19 now, we've been talking since i was sixteen. i went out once with a group of friends and he is a friend of theirs, he just showed up and we had never met before. he showed up, greeted me ...

A.   3 February 2016: You've made your opinion clear. He will ask you out again if he is interested. Don't press the issue or it will make him think you are desperate for his attention. ... (read in full...)

I met him on Tinder and am wondering what he is aiming for?

Q.   Hello everyone! I need some advice. I've met a guy on Tinder (an app that has a certain reputation) a week ago. He was quite friendly, charming and caring. We talked about our hobbies, school (we're enrolled in university) and just general stu...

A.   3 February 2016: Make sure to meet at a public place if you do decide to see him. Just to make sure you are being safe. Switching to sex talk so early before he has even met you is not a great sign that he wants something more than just that. ... (read in full...)

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