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writes:I have a big problem.For some reason, my husband won't tell anyone he is married. We have only been married a month.He really hurt my feelings as there is a wedding photo of us on the wall and I noticed this morning it was hidden behind some basket thing. Then I noticed some new dvds on the table and it seems that he hid our photo when his neighbor came over. He always trades movies with the guy next door so that is how I knew.What should I do?Should I just tell the neighbor and others we are married in conversation.What should I say to my husband about this?Please help! I want us to have a great marriage!
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reader, icelordess  + ♥, writes (4 July 2009):
 This is a situation that should be taken care of ASAP...if not, it is just going to fester inside of you and becoming an even bigger problem. You need to sit down with your husband and tell him exactly what you said on here..tell him that you know he is hiding your marriage, you don't understand why, and it hurts you. It doesn't make sense that he would marry you and then hide you..it makes me wonder what else is he possibly hiding? I know that this has to be very hurtful for you, but you need to get to the bottom of it NOW...do not wait. If he doesn't love and respect you and wish to show you off, then you shouldn't be married. Please get to the bottom of this before it eats away at you. Hopefully its nothing serious and he's just being insensitive, not devious. Good luck!
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reader, marietomates +, writes (4 July 2009):
 Why did you get married? Is there a reason he wouldn't want people to know you're married? Maybe that neighbor guy he trades movies with is gay and there's something going on between them. He should want to shout from the rooftops that he's married the girl of his dreams and you're happy as ever.
I just thought of something else...maybe he's like really fat and self-conscious about having pictures of himself up. Or acne...that's the only other reason I can think of why he would want to hide the picture. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): I would go stay at your mom's house for a few days. I would tell him when he ready to tell the world you are married you will think about comming home. You are teaching how you want to be treated. If you dont stand up for youself today you are teaching him that your feelings dont matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): ok...first of all dont get pissed off and cause a massive fuss because it mite just have been coincedence. But i do suggest you calmly let hime know your feelings. Say that from where your standing it looks like he doesn't want people to know your married...and tell him why you feel like this. Let him explain. Give him the benifit of the doubt but if it continues then i would seriously reconsider the relationship. Hope this helps...goood luck!
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (4 July 2009):
Why would he be hiding the fact that you are married and not telling anyone something is wrong i would say your marriage is off to a terrible start maybe he embrassed by something that he has not discussed with you I would just confront him and put him in his place because what he is doing is very disrespectful to you and your marriage and if he doesnt want to be married you need to dump him now iam really shocked at this behavior and you should be pissed off instead of saying what should i do .
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