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writes:My ex-girlfriend and I broke up at the end of this summer. Long story short, she told me over text, in these words, "I think I dont like you anymore," ending our year long relationship and crushing my heart. Since then, I've begged, I've tried to be friends with her, and she even admitted that she still loved me and we tried a friends with benefits approach since she didnt want a relationship. This has been going on 2 months after the breakup and well now its all in shambles.In the end, however, she leaves me completely, but now the situation is, how the hell do I move on when I see her everyday at school? She's in over half my classes and I all I do is just look at her and it makes me want to just run away. I cant stand this pain of seeing that she seems happy while I'm here crying hysterically on the inside of how much I miss her and love her. She doesn't talk to me and I don't have the heart or courage to go up to her and talk because I know thats not what she wants.So, I need some advice, how can I move forward when all I have is this urge to go up to her and beg for her to come back or atleast talk to me?
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reader, Red591 +, writes (23 September 2011):
 First off you sound so needy. If you want to get her to notice you...sadly.....you have to NOT notice her. I know it seems hard but if you were smothering, always let her pick where to go, got her gifts, was always the first to apologize, then I'm afraid you became desezualized to her. Its not fair that nice guys finish last but they do. What do you do.....stop being a doormat. Go out, go to the gym, focus on yourself, date around, and ignore her. If she sees that you are confident and not in need of her anymore then it will likely turn her head. If by chance she then does want to work it out, then don't be that doormat again. I have been mistreated before but I always try to keep up my confidence no matter how crushed I feel inside. In the end, I have my pride and have even had people realize their mistake (much too late for them though) when they see me not worried about them anymore. The truth is, women want a cool, calm, confident guy who's universe does not revolve around us. Do not confuse this with an anavailable jerk. We DON'T want to end up with that guy. I have been with that guy before and yuk. I have been with Super nice-do anything for you all the time guy- and yuk. Be strong and confident and be you. Rejection is a fact of life but it doesn't have to ruin your life. You can do a total 180 on your persona and she will be regretting what she did no doubt
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