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writes:I know this sounds a bit cliche but it has been troubling me for a long time and I need honest answers. I'm 21 , 6'3" tall, 190 pounds, athletic and I easily attract girls but I have problem that has been worrying me for a long time, I fit in the stereotype of a man with a big penis,see I'm black,I'm tall, i wear a size 14 shoe and I have freakingly large hands,8.5inch from the tip of my middle finger to be specific but unfortunately my penis is barely 5 inch erect,how come that happened?this must be a mistake or something and this is the reason I have not had sex since I realised how small I was.It has not grown much since I was 13. Would women laugh at me? or is it going to be awkward?When I was in Highschool, some girls even boasted on how large I might be and this is intimidating. Is there a chance that it will grow?or is there anyway to make it bigger?and girls do would you chose an attractive physical appearance over a big penis size?.thanks in advance
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reader, wiseoldman  +, writes (7 January 2015):
In my youth I had the opposite problem- short, skinny (did not weigh above 125 lbs. until my early 30s) and prematurely (aged 24) partially bald but with a disproportionate dong. I have, by necessity, a good personality, but nevertheless it was awful trying to attract women, even though the rare ones who slept with me were happy with the pleasant surprise. (It's not as if I could talk about it beforehand as a 'selling point'.)But until I filled out and shaved my head I often had problems with the fact that all too often women were happier having sex with me than being seen in public with me. They could hardly explain 'that' side of things to bewildered parents or horrified girlfriends. I'm very happily married now but meeting her took many years. You have other compensations- console yourself with that.
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reader, arrgy  +, writes (6 January 2015):
Women care about the following:
Confident men who will talk to them
Men who take care of themselves reasonably (look good smell good)
Men whom compliment a woman's shoes (nothing more important to a woman than her shoes)
Women who know "how" to handle a woman in the bedroom, what buttons to push, how to get her warmed up, etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2015): Treat her how she wants to be treated and she probably won't care. I have to say if my boyfriend's penis was smaller I would still find him really attractive. It's not the size that matters it's what you can do with it. Girls only boast to each other about that sort of thing to look good in front of each other, and because guys do it about girls. I honestly wouldn't worry
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (5 January 2015):
I know women like to be a pain about these things. But honestly most really don't care. As long as you know what you are doing.
Better to make the best of what you got. You have no reason to shy away and don't let unrealistic expectations cause you all this stress.
For someone who likes your personality, the rest is just going to be appreciated.
Don't think to much and put yourself out there.
Good Luck :)
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reader, Midnight Shadow +, writes (5 January 2015):
 I'll just jump to the last question. Would girls choose a guy with physical appeal or a big penis. You're genuinely forgetting the most important part: the personality. Looks and penises only get you so far. Often, a penis isn't remotely attractive to a woman, just a tools that can be used (usually) only to stimulate the guy, not the woman. If you have hands and a mouth, I'm sure you'll be fine in the bedroom department, once you stop worrying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2015): You're twenty-one years old and you don't know any better than that?
You have an average penis, but you don't specify if it's only five inches fully erect, or when it's flaccid. Either case, who could say if any woman would laugh at it? Maybe.
So what? You've got what you've got! Most men have average penises. That's what "average" means. I'm gay, and I've also played sports and served in the military. I've been around a lot of men with no clothes on. Regardless of race, they're generally average with a few exceptions. Tall or short. Most men aren't 6'3" and very few have a size 14 shoe! You have huge hands!!! That alone is impressive.
How can you be athletic and never have compared other guys in a shower situation? You'd notice most are pretty average. You can't tell size when it's soft. Some fellas are growers.
No! You can't make it any bigger, it's the size genetics determined it should grow. There are no pills or exercises or any real means to make penises grow; unless they are swollen from trauma. There are suction devices that give them a thicker appearance. You say how long it is, but sometimes "girth" (thickness) makes up for that. Some women like them thick and short. It's a matter of preference.
All black women aren't big-breasted or "booty-licious." You have your "preference" of lady body-types and shapes. Do you laugh at girls with small boobs? Flat butts?
Is there really anything anyone could say that will really change your perception or make you feel any better? Not really!
For any girl who genuinely likes you, it will not matter.
You forget you have your choice of who you show it to.
Keep them guessing and fantasizing. No one measures up to vivid imaginations anyway.
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