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*errybef
writes:I have been seing this guy for over a year now. its basically an open relationship. it strictly sexual when we first started it. But as time passed by, we both started getting attached. I know he cares for me but the problem is he doesnt show it. He actually started ignoring me and when i asked him why he is doing that, he told me that he has other priorities. he has never been into a relationship before. Is he afraid of it?should I just wait for him or move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): Just forget about him. Life is too short. He probably has issues. It's time for you to find someone that deserves you. Let go and if it is meant to be it will be!!
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (8 November 2009):
I'm inclined to agree with all the other readers on this. Does he say what these "other priorities" are? If he's working towards a qualification, caring for a poor sick mother or paying maintenance to children from previous relationships, then he may have got a point. Otherwise he's probably just in it for the sex without commitment.
I would move on if a commitment is important to you, otherwise you could be waiting forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): His words and actions are saying, "I won't give you a relationship."You are hearing "I won't give you a relationshiop, but I might if you wait around."Guess who is wrong here.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 November 2009):
I'm afraid to say that I don't think he's as interested in you as you woould like to think. I'm a guy, and I can tell you that when a guy truly loves a woman, nothing gets in the way. End it now, and don't wait for him. He won't suddenly change and there will be another guy out there who will love you.
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reader, fbtf09 +, writes (8 November 2009):
Im working through a similar issue and the answer is no, you should definitely not wait. If, after a year, he is not into a relationship, then he never will be. Maybe this can be revisited in 5 years when he is ready to settle down, but thats a long time to wait for something completely unsure.
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