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*lmo120790
writes:Hello,This is a bit awkward for me so bear with me.I am a sophomore in college. My 2nd semester of freshman year I was in a class and I noticed an individual who caught my interest. It had been about a year and a half since I had been in a relationship and I was not actively seeking another person to date, but this guy caught my eye.To make a long story short, I had been using drugs and once I acknowledged my interest in this person, I chose to quit smoking (weed) because it made me have second thoughts about approaching him.I never had the opportunity to approach him because the one and only time the opportunity arose I was not ready and ruined it.Regardless, eventually I had the opportunity to promote an upcoming party and jumped at the opportunity, because I was then able to pass out information to people and thought this would be the chance I was waiting for. The party information was printed on a business card type of handout, so I decided it would be worth a try to write my number on the business card on a post-it note saying "call me," my name and my number.Well, I finally got the courage to give him this card, and when I did, I got so nervous that I immediately walked away quickly with an almost horrified reaction on my face and did not wait to see what his reaction was. I am still mad at myself about it.Well, needless to say, he didn't call, but I don't blame him because we had never really talked and he seems like a shy person.I ended up getting really depressed not only because of my "situation" but I had quit drugs and my body was not used to my sober lifestyle, per se. I eventually dropped the class.This happened in February/March. Now, it's November.I haven't been thinking about him nonstop this entire time, but I can't help but wonder what it would be like to start over now that I am sober, being treated for depression and anxiety, and simply bored all the time.I know his email address because we go to the same university. I am wondering if it would be a bad idea to email him along the lines of something like this:Hey, [Name].I'm [Name]; I'm not sure if you remember me, but I was in your [Course], during [Semester] [Year]. I hope you are doing well.I did so bad in that course, so I ended up dropping it. I would rather have a withdrawal on my transcript than an F. I still have to take it again. Did you end up passing it? I wasn't the biggest fan of the instructor.If you're around the [City] area and want to meet up at a [Coffee Shop] sometime, let me know. I'd love to have a chance to talk about what's up on campus and how the [Sport] season is going.Anyway, I thought I'd get in touch and see how things have been.Take care,[Name](BTW he's on a school team, thus why that line is included)What do you think? I mean, the worst that can happen is rejection, but I've kind of already had it so it really can't feel much worse. I just feel like I didn't have a fair opportunity in the past. Thanks!
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (8 November 2009):
Don't forget to get on and do something to take your mind off it.
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reader, elmo120790 +, writes (7 November 2009):
elmo120790 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well I did it, no response yet, but I feel okay about it. I will let you know if I hear anything... Thanks!
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reader, old-spinstah +, writes (6 November 2009):
You're right, you've got nothing to lose so go for it. The worst that can happen is that he'll ignore it.Just plan some fun stuff to do right after you've sent it so you don't hang around stressing about whether he's going to reply or not
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): Go for it. The letter sounds well thought out and as you say, you have nothing to lose, goodluck...mal
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