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And for those who wonder, transexual (or pre-operative transgender) basically means that I'm a "chick-with-a-dick". |
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How to completely satisfy a circumcised man?
Q. i will be with a man who is circumcised i want to please him and leave him satisfied...since i always leave my guys satisfied by my bjs, but ive never had a circumcised penis before. i would like to know if the head [underneath the head] is more ...
A. 28 October 2010: I've found it doesn't make a whole lot of difference, just be even more careful to avoid your teeth getting involved. That can be painful.... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin but my new boyfriend really likes anal sex, and his ex liked it too! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 5 days and 8.5 hours is the love of my life. We have known each other for almost a month now and never go anywhere without each other! I'm a virgin and my boyfriend likes anal sex a lot. Should I just tell him I don't want it.. He ...
A. 28 October 2010: I assure you it's entirely too early to be talking in terms of 'love of your life'. And even earlier to think about anal.
I won't suggest you end the relationship (though you should think about whether he's really as much into you as you are into... (read in full...)
Is my husband sexually attracted to men?
Q. I have been married for 5 years now. Over the last 2 years my husband has developed an interest in anal sex. I didn't think twice about it because he is very masculine. Last night I found she-male and men on men websites on the search history of ...
A. 27 October 2010: It's hard to say. WIth respect to the shemale porn, it's not conclusive. The number of men who swear "I am absolutely straight but something about you is very sexy" to me leads me to believe that straight men can be, and are, attracted to ... (read in full...)
Do you think this woman is a transsexual ?
Q. I had intercourse with a woman last night who was subtly, but adamantly wanting to have sex with her anally. This really weired me out as I had never done that before. No matter what I did she always found a way to position herself so that I would ...
A. 27 October 2010: Possibly a post-op transexual, yes. Some of my friends who are post-op do tend to try that - guiding a guy towards the anus. If there is a next time try to get a look at the front.
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I need to get rid of this young girl before my wife finds out!
Q. I need help getting rid of a girl of a young girl in my life... This is causing me much stress and I don't know what to do.. Here is a little background... I'm in my mid 40s, been married for 20 years and have two teenage daughters. My w...
A. 27 October 2010: You can't get 'rid' of her. She's going to be around and if you break it off with her she's very likely to go and rat you out to your wife. On the other hand your wife will find out anyway if she goes through your bank statements, right?
You'v... (read in full...)
Retracting foreskin of penis?
Q. I'm 17; I can't retract the foreskin of my penis for my head to show up.. Well I sometimes can, but i'm afraid to pull the skin below the head because it is so tight i'm afraid it won't go back over the head :s And it's quite hard to get it pull dow...
A. 27 October 2010: It if it extremely painful then you may want to see a doctor about a circumcision.... (read in full...)
Do I tell my g/f about this?
Q. My ex gf cheated on her then fiance, now husband with me. It happened after a night of drinks, a conversation that we wanted to be friends, and that she wasn't as happy as she was when she got engaged. I in a way started to think there was a ...
A. 26 October 2010: There is nothing to be accomplished by telling her this. Let bygones be bygones and your guilt, if any, your own to deal with.... (read in full...)
Has anyone else had sexual experiences at a very young age?
Q. I have something I wanted to share and get feedback on, but it's not really a question. I've masturbated since i was a little boy....probably 6 or so. I did it just because it felt good to rub it. I even got a bit of a handjob at that age from th...
A. 26 October 2010: Count me in. Don't rememeeber the exact age but it was long before I was ten. Probably around 5. ... (read in full...)
How do we tell our parents we want to be adult porn stars?
Q. I am 18 years old and I sexually active athletic , and a model , I have been dating my girlfriend Alex for 3 years she is a model too , as well we plan to be together forever as well we have a desire to be adult film stars how do we go about telling ...
A. 26 October 2010: It's not something they'd probably want to know. Even when I was working as an escort I never did tell my family exactly what I was doing. They needed the money I sent them and while they would have suspected (after all there aren't exactly a lot of ... (read in full...)
I had sex for the first time but did not enjoy it! What could be the reason?
Q. Hi guys, i used to masturbate like everyday and yesterday i had sex for the first time and to be honest i did not enjoy it. what could be the reason i need to know. i didnt come because the girl in question gets tired easily even when we're ju...
A. 26 October 2010: Sometimes first times aren't good - and if you didn't come obviously you're going to be more frustrated than pleased.
Dont give up on sex altogether though. Trust me, it's amazing once you get the hang of it. It just takes time getting there.... (read in full...)
I need sex asap! Sleep with a prostitute?
Q. Sorry for the long question, I need to set the background. And I really need help (I thought about going to a shrink, but I can't afford it). I'm a foreign PhD in the US. My English language is good but not great. I go along pretty well. I e...
A. 26 October 2010: Well obviously I'm not going to advice against it...if you're lucky you may even find a considerate, competent escort like some I've known and like I always tried to be. Do be safe though and if it's illegal where you are, travel to place where it ... (read in full...)
If I get turned on by men and women, what am I?
Q. Ok, My story is kinda confusing so please bare with me... I've known i was gay since about 4th grade when i had a crush on a boy. then from 6th to 8th grade i had a strong crush on a different boy, also during this time period i started to no...
A. 25 October 2010: You remind me of me at your age, so I'm going to speculate you may be bisexual. Of course I was also a woman trapped in a man's body kind of thing which has it's own set of complications but anyway that's besides the point. What you describe sounds ... (read in full...)
Did he get what he wanted and now I'm not important?
Q. I have been with my bf for 9 and a half months, a couple of days ago I performed oral sex on him for the first time (we has previously done other stuff) at the time it was like he was encouraging it (I started by kissing him stomach and got lower, ...
A. 25 October 2010: Boys do tend to obsess over video games regardless of their age :) I wouldn't worry too much about it just yet. Unless of course it starts becoming like an addiction.... (read in full...)
Women and songs?
Q. Do women like it when you write them songs? I play guitar and record my own music, but don't sing. ...
A. 25 October 2010: Depends on the woman but most do, yes!... (read in full...)
He did something that disgusted me! Should I call this all off?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about seven months. He doesn't want to call it a 'relationship', saying he likes 'the way we are'. So I'm already a little put off... The other night though, we'd been having a lot of fun in bed (we have GREAT sex), af...
A. 25 October 2010: Actually, since you arent calling this a relationship it might be difficult to have a formal 'calling it off'. If this WAS a relationship I'd be saying it isn't worth breaking off over (after all, it's difficult to control where it goes for most ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to death of his penis!
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for a little while now, and everything seems so perfect, he's rubbed me a bit down there, and so have i, but i could never rub him bare! i am scared of his penis for some reason and its so hard, he asked if i wanted to ...
A. 25 October 2010: Can you explain better what it was that scared you? Obviously surprise is to be expected and at your age a little fear is actually healthy but if you're terrified of it, that might be something to look into.
Also, though I lost my virginit... (read in full...)
What you guys would do if your girlfriend tried to set you up?
Q. I have been with my partner for 3 years we have a wonderful relationship and only had one bad patch and now its all back on track- he loves me and tells me so and I love him very much too. I recently made friends with a girl and I think she is ...
A. 25 October 2010: It appears that at a sub-conscious level you want to end your relationship? Maybe its stale and boring or something...I really think you need to try and understand your own feelings about this before you go ahead. If that is the case, trying to set ... (read in full...)
Can someone truly love someone they are capable of cheating on and lying to?
Q. Can someone who has cheated on me (serious flirting and texting, and slept with the woman 1x), and who intended to never tell me about it, actually love me? If I hadn't found out the way I did, he would've never told me. And he initially lied ...
A. 25 October 2010: Love is unfortunately more complicated than we would like to think. There are rarely any absolute answers and 'love' itself exists on a number of levels.
What I'm trying to say is from a certain perspective he may love you, but the more importan... (read in full...)
Attention deficit disorder or just plain abuse?
Q. I really need some help here. My fiance (or ex fiance - we ended it last night) is ADD and a month ago we moved in together although he is still in the same house with me and my 3 kids. Everything I say gets shot down in flames. I am always the pe...
A. 25 October 2010: If you've ended it you've done the right thing. ADD or not (and ADD is rarely anything other than excuse for irresponsible behaviour) he's been abusive and you deserve better than to put up with that. Stay away.... (read in full...)
I am bugged by never sleeping with a virgin!
Q. Why dose virginity matter so much.... My wife and I have been married over twenty years... My wife was not a a virgin when I met her... Well, she say's she was when we first met, but during a short split she went on to have sex with another guy! I ...
A. 25 October 2010: Speaking from personal experience I can assure you that sleeping with a virgin is not all it's made out to be. It is invariably messy and painful for both people involved. You haven't missed out on anything worth missing out on. You need to ... (read in full...)
Love on facebook
Q. I love a girl on facebook, I have never meet her. She is away from me. I tried to tell her that I love her but she always say "Please don't kid at me" How can I tell her that I love her very much...
A. 25 October 2010: Since you've never met her, she probably thinks (correctly) that you don't really have much of an idea of what 'love' means and therefore does not take it seriously.
At thirteen it's doubtful that you know what you want anyway. If you like thi... (read in full...)
I think my b/f likes me older sister
Q. i am 4~5 yrs youngr thn my bf and i had a feeling that he likes my older sister my sis is 2yrs youngr than him and they are both in d sme grade.. it is my 1st time hving a bf ,i dnt really know hw rlationships work and i realize i get jealous ...
A. 24 October 2010: It does sounds as though you're being used to get to her, I'm afraid. And how is he in the same grade if he's two years older than your sister? A high-school grade-dropper is rarely good boyfriend material.... (read in full...)
I just don't get it about porn!
Q. just asking a general question most women wonder when there boyfriends look at porn do they wanna f... the porn girl or are they thinking of fucking there girlfriends? also naked pic like maxim or playboy or just naked mags. what turns them on its ...
A. 24 October 2010: It turns us on for sure. Speaking for myself (and I love straight, lesbian and gay porn) I don't really imagine sex with the person so much enjoy the sheer visual perfection of the picture/movie. It's all aesthetic :)... (read in full...)
My fiance got arrested, am I being selfish?
Q. My fiance got into some trouble with the law a few days ago. We are all pretty upset about it, including him. When we went to bail him out of jail, he went straight to his dad and hugged him for minutes and broke down. He hugged me for about 5 ...
A. 24 October 2010: More than anything else I think he feels he's let his family down in a huge way and that is provoking an emotional response. Keep calm and be the strong one through this. It's not a reflection on you, I think.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for us to enter into a strictly sexual relationship with each other?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in love with a man I know for 20 years. We are both currently in committed relationships, but the opportunity to have a strictly sexual relationship has come up. Neither one of us want to give up our current relationships, w...
A. 24 October 2010: If both your partners are OK with it (and have thought about all the possible consequences including you two falling for each other and leaving them high and dry) then what's keeping you? I must admit my advise might be biased because my current ... (read in full...)
Sorry, I called out the wrong name during sex, but hey, you should really meet her!
Q. Three years ago, my then-boyfriend called out his college sweetheart's name during sex. I was quite surprised, and of course it totally ruined the moment. Sadly, it happened another time since then - same person, same name. I realize one time...
A. 24 October 2010: Hardly crazy from your point of view. I'm with the previous posters - rather surprised you married him after that! Maybe it wasn't such a big deal to you and he thinks it's something you've gotten over. Why not let him know that it's not about being ... (read in full...)
My married neighbour keeps flashing her cleavage at me!
Q. My neighbour lady is 36 years old and married. She is always showing her cleavage by bending down in front of me. I don't know it is accidently or not. We are also friends. I likes her very much and wants her. But i don't know if she wants me or ...
A. 23 October 2010: You are probably reading way too much into this. Stay away, married women are off-limits. Someone always finds out eventually. Trust me, I know.... (read in full...)
I told him I quit my escort job and now he wants to date me!
Q. We met about a year ago in strip club where I was working. He tipped me good and told me that he want to meet me outside of the club. So I gave him my number. He knew I was escorting so he asked to meet. I really liked him so i went to see him. I e...
A. 23 October 2010: I used to work as a dancer in a ladyboy bar in Bangkok and escorting was a part of the territory and, well, I have been in your situation. The guy was sweet and tender, loved me for who I was and accepted that I would continue in my situation for a ... (read in full...)
If a guy doesn't call or text his girlfriend everyday, does that mean he doesn't love her?
Q. Is it necc. for me to call my girlfriend everyday just to prove that I love her deeply? I don't like talking on the phone much...I will text, but I don't want to feel obligated to call or text her or anyone else. Why do people put all these rules on ...
A. 23 October 2010: Some people are more clingy than others. It's not necessarily a thing to break up over but you can gently let her know that it's not always possible for you to be in touch with her. Still, a daily text would be a good idea.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never climaxes!
Q. i have a sex issue. my boyfriend is the type of guy that can last forever in bed. YET, he never comes. he can last two hours and not come. he says that he doesn't care because all he wants to do is pleasure me. i do all these things so that i can ...
A. 23 October 2010: Some men do have mental blocks about it. Sometimes even I shoot a blank (but that might for other reasons). Try talking about it gently and telling him how happy it would make you to see him finish.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mother I am addicted to porn?
Q. I watch a lot of porn and I know I should not but I do because I'm addicted. Should I tell my mom so she can block it? Or do you no ways to become unaddicted ?! Please help!...
A. 23 October 2010: I'm not sure telling your mother would be the best idea. Maybe there is someone else you can trust? A friend or something who can put a blocker on your computer for you?... (read in full...)
I am afraid a guy I met online will tell all and the life I have built will crumble
Q. Hey everyone heres my problem . i started at a different college for the second time . quite quicky i was put on the rugby team . for many years i had / still am unsure about who i am - seeing as so many people have played cruel mind games...
A. 23 October 2010: Speaking as a bisexual myself, I think it may be best to come out. I don't know the whole story here and there may be other factors but from what I know open-ness seems like the best option. ... (read in full...)
What should I wear to go and see my bf ???
Q. My bf always looks soooo amazing but I never know what to wear when I got and see him coz I don't know what boys like to see girls in can u help ???...
A. 23 October 2010: Trade secret - men don't care!
If you wear something that gives YOU confidence and looks good according to you - the odds are that the men will love it. ... (read in full...)
My mom is a cougar! How do I get over it?
Q. So heres the story. Im 16 and my name is Candace. I'm inique, pretty and fun to be around and hilarious, and I get that from my mom. I haven't seen or talked to my real dad in years. (i dont miss him at all). My mom remarried and had a son with my ...
A. 23 October 2010: Some older women do enjoy it - I know from when I was in my teens myself. You may want to have a serious talk with your mother on this though. She does have responsibilities with respect to you and it's slightly - inappropriate - what she's doing. ... (read in full...)
How do girls climax? And is it dangerous to be erect every day?
Q. during sex,a boy is satisfied the time he ejaculates.what about the girl?another question is-what are the negative effects if ur penis do not last a day without erection.eg u watch porn everyday....
A. 23 October 2010: A girl will invariably moan and clench her fists but there's no definite indicator. Its certainly not as extreme as porn often makes it out to be.
Having an erection does not have too many bad effects in reality. Being bisexual myself I'm arou... (read in full...)
If you last 4 minutes while masturbating, how long do you last during sex?
Q. between sex and masturbation,what stays longer?if somebody is masturbating 4 min.how longer do you expect him 2 stay during sex?...
A. 23 October 2010: It's not much of an indicator really :) When I was younger I used to finish masturbating in 2 minutes flat. These days I can play with myself for ages before ejaculating. When I'm with another person though I can generally last as long as they need ... (read in full...)
Friend's a tart, how do I tell her?
Q. Ok I have a new friend who I met through my child's school... I think we will end up being really good friends, she's really on my wave length... The trouble is she's single and has signed up to loads of dating sites, she keeps meeting loads of ...
A. 23 October 2010: I'd normally tell you not to get involved but since this lady does ask you why she's still single I guess you do have a right to give an answer.
Just be - honest you know. Tell her she needs to respect herself more and when she does that she'll f... (read in full...)
He lied about his age and about being previously married. Is this salvagable?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for about 7 months. About a month ago, I found out that he lied to me about his age. He initially told me he was 35, and when we first began dating he made a really big deal about the age difference ("Are you sure my ...
A. 23 October 2010: Some things really are not worth the effort. If I was in your place I wouldn't be giving this much of a thought. It's not just whether he may be a compulsive liar - it's that he's shown you a certain amount of disrespect by behaving the way he has.... (read in full...)
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