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And for those who wonder, transexual (or pre-operative transgender) basically means that I'm a "chick-with-a-dick". |
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How come being a devoted girlfriend is not enough?
Q. Trying to make the decision either to ignore statements or end it w boyfriend. Been together 8 years. Tired of his comments that he would like to see me w another man or women. I understand more of him wanting to see me w another women, most men...
A. 3 January 2011: Umm...I don't know...I've known a lot of men who've had this fantasy. Some have asked me to be the third person in their threesome (perhaps being a transexual I'm seen as less of a 'man' than normal men without quite being a 'woman'). It's a ... (read in full...)
I think she says this just to make me feel good
Q. She says she's sexually intimidated by me, yet she's had quite a few sexual partners she's had 6 before me, she's in her mid 20's and has had some pretty wild sex from what she's told me, so how can she be intimidated by me, when we've been going at ...
A. 3 January 2011: In what sense does she mean 'intimidated'? It's a word that could mean many things, so I don't think it's possible to give a fair answer based on this.... (read in full...)
Is this problem age-related?
Q. when haveing sex with wife i cant cum sometime. i am 54 does this happen with age...
A. 3 January 2011: It is more likely to happen as a person goes older (though younger men suffer it too). I have a partner who is nearly seventy and it happens to him quite often.... (read in full...)
Does this make me a terrible girlfriend?
Q. My boyfriend is a "musician", or so he tries. I personally can't stand listening to him sing. I just don't have the heart to tell him that. Instead I suffer in silence. We haven't even been dating a year yet, and the noise is beginning to get under ...
A. 3 January 2011: I would not call you a 'terrible girlfriend' by any means, but I would question whether you two are compatible.... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to have break up sex?
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me three weeks ago, at the beginning of December. We had been dating for 14 months. I fully understood her decision to break up with me, as I had struggled to get over a previous ex, which caused my girlfriend to fall out ...
A. 3 January 2011: Always a bad idea.... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as too big?
Q. i've only ever had sex three times and im wondering about my penis size. The first girl i had sex with actually giggled when she saw it but she told me not to worry because her ex boyfriends was huge. The second girl was shocked. She couldnt believe ...
A. 3 January 2011: I'm told there is! I've had women who've been very scared of mine as well (though I've learned to use it gently, so when I tell them "Don't worry, it won't hurt as much as you think" I'm not lying). Don't get paranoid about size. You haven't told us ... (read in full...)
I'm female and get turned on by lesbian porn???
Q. im not a lesbian or bi. i dont find women sexually or mentally attractive at all. im completely 100% straight. but i get turned on and have orgasms to lesbian porn. what does that mean? please help !!...
A. 3 January 2011: Doesn't mean anything in particular. Men who classify themselves as straight have found me sexually attractive. So have women who classify themselves as lesbian (and pretty much everyone in-between). These labels (including the one that I bear, i.e. ... (read in full...)
How do people have one-night stands or loveless sex?
Q. Hi, OK, this is gonna sound naive, but it is sincere. I am a heterosexual male in my late 30s and I do not understand one-night stands, or having sex with a stranger (like a prostitute) or someone you don't love. I mean, I understand the sex...
A. 3 January 2011: Nothing to do with 'hormones'. Lot to do with what you believe in. I tend to see myself as a 'performer' which means I can do it with just about anyone. Yeah, two years working the excort clubs in Pattaya will do that to a person.
You're absolute... (read in full...)
Am I being cynical thinking she's too good to be true?
Q. I need you guys to read over this and tell me what you think because I'm not sure: I met this beautiful girl a couple of months ago. She is literally model gorgeous and then I mean like a victoria's secret angel, not a stick. Anyway, we got t...
A. 27 December 2010: Very cynical. She sounds like a perfect package. If you like each other and hit it off well, what's wrong with that? Bullying can be debilating to a person's self-esteem, and that can have led to her having a tough time getting close to people. If ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he pay for the toys?
Q. My internet friend would like me to purchase a suction dido 10 inch, anal beads and anal butt plug to take with me on my holiday to see him and for me to use prior to my departure on Skype. I'm feeling hesitant considering I have never met him th...
A. 27 December 2010: It's not about whether he should be paying for the toys but about whether you should be doing this in the first place for someone you only know online. Meet the guy (be safe), get to know him, and then, if and only if you still feel comfortable with ... (read in full...)
He has no facial or pubic hair. Is that weird?
Q. Hey guys, I'm wondering if it's weird that my 28 yr old bf has no chest or pubic hair or not? He has facial hair, and hair on his arms and legs, but has never had any hair on his chest and never had any pubic hair. He's a tall, strongly built man, ...
A. 27 December 2010: Did he ever suffer burns in the relevant area?
As such from what you describe it seems everything is in working order.... (read in full...)
I'm unsettled after had threesome, 2 guys 1 girl, but I was more attracted to the other guy
Q. Last week I had a three some with a lady and a good friend (guy) of mine... The thing is, while having sex, my eyes were more attracted by my friend's body then the lady's... I didn't touch him at all, because I thought it would be weird, but it wa...
A. 27 December 2010: There's nothing 'wrong' with it. You may be bi-curious - or it may just be a first-time thing. Why don't you explore your feelings in this direction further?... (read in full...)
I'm married but I want my mistress back in my life.
Q. My girlfriend/mistress just(september)ended our 4 year relationship because I'm married. I'm 20 years older than my mistress. She has known this all along . We both admit the past 4 years were fabulous in every way for both of us. Danc...
A. 27 December 2010: Essentially your mistress has asked you to make a choice. You'll have to decide - either to let her find her own way in life or divorce your wife and settle down with her. You can't avoid that choice any longer.... (read in full...)
Would you consider his magic number high for his age?
Q. Is 22 sexual partners for a 27 year old male a lot?...
A. 3 December 2010: It's not a small number by any means. But has he notched up this number through cheating on relationships in the past? If so, that's a red flag. If it's more a case of 'sown his wild oats while young' - a number of partners in a short period ... (read in full...)
Penis isn't as erect as before, is too much masturbation the problem?
Q. hi people ... let me introduce me first ... im 20 and im masturbating from 14 i suppose ...... and in recent days i started masturbating too much ..... and only now i noticed that my penis erection is not as strong as it was before ...... if i stop ...
A. 24 November 2010: As said by Jmtmj, that's pre-cum and it's perfectly normal - nothing to worry about. I don't know what you've learned, and from where, but sperm is not exactly a 'limited resource'. So if a little 'leaks' as you call it, that doesn't mean you're ... (read in full...)
Penis isn't as erect as before, is too much masturbation the problem?
Q. hi people ... let me introduce me first ... im 20 and im masturbating from 14 i suppose ...... and in recent days i started masturbating too much ..... and only now i noticed that my penis erection is not as strong as it was before ...... if i stop ...
A. 24 November 2010: I think obsessing less over your penis might actually be better for it in the long run.... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, yet he sent me a picture of his member!
Q. So, theres this guy i like. We met two years ago, and three weeks ago we started talking again. He said he was interested in me. He was having problems with this girl he was with for 10 months. They broke up and he wanted me to be his ...
A. 24 November 2010: Unless you actually want to be the 'girl with whom he cheated on his girlfriend', why would you even consider it?... (read in full...)
Son's girlfriend won't let us see him
Q. Hi everyone. I am a mother of two children. I love them both deeply. My daughter is doing great, has a husband, three boys and just completed college. My son is a great person, but has recently put himself into a tough situation. He met a girl abo...
A. 24 November 2010: There is little you can do except hope that your son will eventually come to his senses. Just make sure he knows, (like jmtmj says) that you love him and your grandchild.... (read in full...)
I want to make a sex tape!
Q. Would my boyfriend think its weird if i bring up us having sex an video tapeing it for us to watch some time? Also is it weird to watch your self have sex or will he think its weird watching it? Thanks....
A. 23 November 2010: Well try dropping a hint next time you talk. At worst he'll think it's a bad idea. It more likely he'll find it a huge turn on. Just a word of caution though - don't give him a copy. Sex tapes inevitably end up on the internet. As to whether it lo... (read in full...)
I tend to get him turned on by accident!
Q. My boyfriend is a virgin and I tend to get him really turned on by accident. He gets turned on by me even kissing him. Well he has figured out things that I really like and I am afraid that things will go too far too soon. I have talked to him about ...
A. 23 November 2010: If you really want to avoid intimacy at this point in time, avoid being alone together. Hormones are damned powerful things - outsmart them, don't rely on your own will-power.... (read in full...)
Penis isn't as erect as before, is too much masturbation the problem?
Q. hi people ... let me introduce me first ... im 20 and im masturbating from 14 i suppose ...... and in recent days i started masturbating too much ..... and only now i noticed that my penis erection is not as strong as it was before ...... if i stop ...
A. 22 November 2010: HOw much is 'too much'? I guess every person has a different sexual capacity and you may be exceeding yours.... (read in full...)
My clitoris is bigger than other parts. Is this normal?
Q. Hey guys this is abit embarrasing hence annon, but is it natural for my clitoris to be larger than the other parts of my private parts? Is it bad and do men find it unattractive?...
A. 22 November 2010: I've seen a few like that and frankly, I don't care. If anything, it's fun and the women have told me they reach orgasm intensely and quickly.... (read in full...)
Do you deep throat 6"?
Q. How do i give a real good blowjob? my boyfriend has a 6inch penis, do i deep throught or what. suggestions ...
A. 22 November 2010: You could try but I would definitely not recommend it! 6 is alot to take in and you will gag (or worse, vomit).... (read in full...)
Will I get any bigger?
Q. Hey guys, I know this is asked a lot but it's an issue I have to deal with. I'm so discouraged by my penis size. I'm a 16 year old boy and when you look at me you see a buff looking guy who you'd a assume has a larger than average size. But that's ...
A. 22 November 2010: "On the other hand I've seen 90lb 5 foot nothing Thai transsexuals pumped full of female hormones with 8 or 9 inch cocks".
I know, I'm one of them...
Having said, that, being very bi and having a lot of experience with men, I can definitely c... (read in full...)
I'm tempted to have a one night stand and maybe get it out of my system but I really don't want to hurt my boyfriend... Help!
Q. Hi I've been in a gay relationship now for four and a half years. Not long after getting with my boyfriend I found out he was chatting to other lads on the internet and swapping naked pictures. When I found out and confronted him about it he said...
A. 22 November 2010: I think your relationship may be less than what you expect and need. Think about where it is going and whether it is a one-night stand you are looking for a break. If you are sure you do want to be in the relationship, then do not test it by ... (read in full...)
Scared of sex because of his big penis!
Q. Hi, So i ended up dating my best friend of almost half my life. LDR so you know but we're really close, and we know EVERYTHING to the core...But when i knew how 'big' he was i got suddenly scared to have sex. I know im almost 16 and it wont happ...
A. 29 October 2010: I'd suggest not obsesing much about it. He needs to learn to be gentle with it and use a lot of foreplay to ensure you are sufficiently lubricated to accomodate the size. I'm rather above-average myself (well considerably above-average actually) and ... (read in full...)
Why do men think of women as slaves?
Q. why do men think of women as slaves?...
A. 29 October 2010: They do? I was born and brought up in Thailand and now live in India. Neither are countries with particularly enlightened views on women but I'd certainly not say men think of woman as 'slaves'. There will obviously be exceptions from time to time - ... (read in full...)
My wife thinks that my ejaculating inside of her will make her fat!
Q. My wife does not want me to ejaculate inside her because she thinks sperm will make her fat, even though she doesn't eats junk food all the time. We have been married 18 months and I have to pull out just before I cum or wear condoms. This has been ...
A. 29 October 2010: Did she say "fat" or "pregnant"?... (read in full...)
Can I make a woman happy with a small penis?
Q. hello people, I am not a native speaker of English. If I make mistakes, pls forgive me. if you do not have this problem, I don't think you can fully understand what it feels like to have a small penis. My character has unfortunatelly b...
A. 29 October 2010: It's enough to make a woman very happy indeed. And you know what? If you've made the woman happy with everything else you do for her outside the bedroom, anything you do in it is a bonus she's bound to enjoy. Learning to be good with your tongue ... (read in full...)
My hair stylist hurt my feelings. Should I go back to her?
Q. i'm quite upset. i went to the hairdressers today, and i didnt like some comments that my hairdresser made. she said my colour had faded( i had my hair dyed blonde, but the person who dyed it didnt put much blonde in ) and i didnt even think it ...
A. 29 October 2010: She expressed her opnion honestly. You may not have agreed but it wasn't anything to her hurt about. If you trust her with your hair and have had a good experience in the past you should go back to her. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have sexual chemistry but not like the guy as a person?
Q. Is it possible to not like someone as a person but still be really attracted to them? I ask this as a guy friend of mine, who lets just say has a reputation AND a girlfriend of nearly a year, is to be honest a bit of a sleaze when it comes to women. ...
A. 29 October 2010: Not only possible but very common. You may want to listen to your brain rather than your hormones though.... (read in full...)
I can't stop masturbating over my co-worker!
Q. i need help i work with a polish women shes 23 small blonde hair big boobs face and smile like you wouldnt beleave she just looks awesome, shes so friendly get on well every time i speak to her or even look at her i get an massive erection neve...
A. 29 October 2010: Getting an erection from seeing an attractive person is common. Masturbating by thinking of her is also to be expected. Doing so at office is asking to be fired.
Why don't you try to get to know her - ask her out or something...unless of course o... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is only able to have sex once a day. Is it normal?
Q. My boyfriend and I are only able to have sex once a day. Then if it has been too many days in a row then he can't do it at all. Sometimes we can go a week without doing anything and he can still only go once, or have to wait a few hours to be able ...
A. 29 October 2010: Most men do need some rest after an ejaculation and more than once a day is difficult especially after around 25, I guess (though exceptions exist). Nothing whatsoever to worry about - fairly normal. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend said it'd be okay if I received oral sex from another woman!
Q. OK, I've been in a relationship for the past seven months with out any infidelity towards my girl friend. I'll admit that I am the jealous type when someone hits on my girl and she loves that about me. Ever since yesterday, I ask her about giving ...
A. 29 October 2010: She was probably being snarky. It's unlikely she meant precisely what she said and it came more out of her being upset at your insistence on oral sex. You may be over-reacting.... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble concealing my penis!
Q. I have a very odd problem. My problem is I am having trouble concealing my penis in my pants(especially shorts). I guess you could say its above average in size, 8 inches long and 6 inches around. The problem is many times it just looks like I ...
A. 28 October 2010: I have a similar problem when I get hard but generally keeping it tucked between my legs prevents it from being too obvious...thankfully since I can pass as a girl in most situations I can get away with wearing a skirt and tucking my penis as stated ... (read in full...)
How common is it to see women that resemble porn stars in reality?
Q. I got a question its kinda weird.. Minus the girls with boob jobs, Is the natural breast in porn really what most girls breast look like? How common is it to see pornstar material in reality? Just wondering.. its not that its important to me, i ...
A. 28 October 2010: Don't you see a lot of women around the place where you live and work? Surely you don't need to come on here and ask that question! It's like asking if all women in Germany look like Heidi Klum!
Porn is an industry for good-looking people. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible there is no pleasure in sex?
Q. Is it possible for a promiscuous person to not enjoy sex? Why sleep around if there is no pleasure? ...
A. 28 October 2010: There have been occassions when I have had sex (it's happened with men as well as women in my experience) when I did not derive as much pleasure as usual (though I would not so 'no' pleasure).
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Is my husband in love with his best friend?
Q. Hello all, Let me preface this by saying that I am a man and my husband is also a man, so if that makes you uncomfortable this is not the post for you... So here it is. I'm not sure where to start so I'll start with my husband and I have been ...
A. 28 October 2010: It sounds like your husband is willing to make an effort to keep you. He's come clean to you on a lot of things already - value that and hope all works out well. ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but the sex is terrible because of his small penis!
Q. Ive been with this guy for 8 mnths,my problem is that hes got a small penis.its like 3 inches but i didnt mind until we had sex,i didnt feel anything nothing what so ever.is there something wrong with me?i need help.or is it too small.i really like ...
A. 28 October 2010: I agree 3 inches is on the smaller side but maybe he's not doing things right either? He sounds like a good guy and maybe you can explore using toys or somehing to please each other!... (read in full...)
I am too quick in bed and I am not satisfying my partner, what should I do?
Q. when i am with my sex partner, My liquid is falling quickly, my partner has not got satisfaction with my sex, pls. advice , what i do...
A. 28 October 2010: It's possible to learn self-control over a period of time. Another thing you can do is to stop thrusting actively when you're close and think about boiled beans or anything unsexy. Stop-and-start is what it's called I think.... (read in full...)
How to completely satisfy a circumcised man?
Q. i will be with a man who is circumcised i want to please him and leave him satisfied...since i always leave my guys satisfied by my bjs, but ive never had a circumcised penis before. i would like to know if the head [underneath the head] is more ...
A. 28 October 2010: I've found it doesn't make a whole lot of difference, just be even more careful to avoid your teeth getting involved. That can be painful.... (read in full...)
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