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writes:I am 18 years old and I sexually active athletic , and a model , I have been dating my girlfriend Alex for 3 years she is a model too , as well we plan to be together forever as well we have a desire to be adult film stars how do we go about telling our parents about field of choice they have no idea that we have been sexually active
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (26 October 2010):
Something like -
"Mom, Dad. We are at the age when we are to foolish not to make an irreversible bad decision, so we hope you can support us...."
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (26 October 2010):
 It's not something they'd probably want to know. Even when I was working as an escort I never did tell my family exactly what I was doing. They needed the money I sent them and while they would have suspected (after all there aren't exactly a lot of career opportunities for pre-op transgenders) they never asked me point-blank and I never told them. I still do the occassional porn work and in my opinion, the less people close to you know, the better.
That said, I don't think you need the money and you seem like you might have other career opportunities. Surely there are other things you can do? A little amateur photo/video work might be possible without becoming full-blown porn actors and going to LA for it. Consider ALL your options.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): you do realise that you'll both be having sex with alot of other ppl and not so much each other? Being together forever is going to be tough seeing her getting plowed by many other guys. Why on earth would you want to be a porn star?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): Don't tewl them. They'll prefer not knowing.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (25 October 2010):
Oops I missed that you're a guy, not the girl. I still stand by what I said, minus the breast augmentation. It really is a risky business.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (25 October 2010):
Others have given you good advice on how to break the news.
My question to the both of you is whether you really know what you're getting yourself into? Being sexually active and being a pornstar are two different things. These days it's getting more and more risky for pornstars to do what they do because of STD's. Then there is the constant pressure to look like a bombshell, which often means breast augmentation and other surgical procedures. Is this really a world you want to get mixed up in? What will you do ten years from now?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 October 2010):
 How about something like: "Well Folks, I've decided to become a porn star, please pass the green bean casserole".
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): You don't have to be specific and you could just say you're getting acting/modelling work.
Do make sure this is the kind of work you want to do first, it's hard if not impossible to remove the tag of porn star from you should you ever decide to become a mainstream actor.
Try glamour modelling first, stay away from hardcore too, stay on the lighter side of the industry and see if it really is for you. It can be very easy to exploited if you don't know what you're doing so do some active research first. The most successful porn actors are the ones that stand out or have a special talent. They're the ones that get well paid and respected. It's actually a very tough job too, maintaining an erection for hours, on camera and performing sex acts in front of a crew of people is quite difficult.
I don't see any need to tell your parents until such time as you actually have work in porn. Saying you want to be or do something is pointless if you think it's going to cause problems because while you might want to be a porn star now you might change your mind, or you might not even get work in a very overcrowded business.
See what happens first, there's no need to say anything until such time as you're actually getting porn work, even then the likelihood of them finding out is very slim.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Also, it couldn't hurt to educate yourself on the risks of being a porn star such as contracting STDs, hepatitis B, or HPV.
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reader, dancergirl  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 you need to discuss with your partner how exactly would be the easiest way to tell them, whether its telling them after you have told them you are sexually active or at the same time when you tell them that. If you really want to do this then hopefully your parents will accept that, your 18 now so your in charge of your own decisions, they cant stop you from doing anything so make sure you make that clear to them both. But dont keep it from them much longer, tell them as soon as possible.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (25 October 2010):
Well I doubt that's a program they offer at your local university..So your major is porn, what's your minor? At your age you have to have a minor, because your major will change. I suggest you two tour your local colleges first to see what other careers are available before you go making that big decision. Because like I said at your age, you will change your mind on what you want to do in life at least once if not twice.
Technically, you two are of age and do not need their permission..you both want to get it off their chest. They could disown you, kick you out, bribe you with 4 years paid tuition at the local university, or maybe they will support you. It's best that you tells your one night over dinner and she do the same. I'm betting they won't take it well.
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