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writes: Here's my situation: There was this girl that my boyfriend talks to a lot lately and they both call each other. He always call me almost everyday and make me come over every Saturday night to sleep over. However, two Saturdays ago, he didn't. I suspect something (girl's intuition) is going on. I asked him if there is another girl in the picture, or if he is seeing someone else. He said no, he was just too busy. I know that he really is very busy at work and school though... He then told me that it is ridiculous that I think that there is another girl and that I have issues. I then checked the call log on his cell phone, without him knowing, and found several incoming calls and one outgoing call from an unfamiliar phone no. I tried calling the phone no. just to see if the voice mail would say her name. Unfortunately, she didn't mention her name on her voicemail, so I didn't find out who it was. Then last Sunday morning when I was at his home, his phone ring and I know it was her but he didn't answer it. I'm sure he called her back right after I left. I'm having a hard time trusting him now eventhough he never admitted anything. Am I being logical or illogical? We are both 35, and been seeing each other for 4 years now.
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reader, StarNews +, writes (18 January 2006):
 If he got defensive, then layed the blame on you by saying you have issues, theres a good chance he is up to no good. That is an automatic reaction when there is guilt involved.
If he is talking about her, I'm sure he is seeing her and she probably doesn't even know about you.
If anything feels different, then something is definitely wrong. Being too busy is a poor excuse because when you love someone, you make time for them. He just wants to see how long he can get away with it. When his cell phone starts ringing and you get that "weird" feeling, its your gut instinct telling you something isnt right.
You are being wise, so keep your eyes and ears open. You can choose to continue putting up with his lies and deceipt, which is going to mentally drain you. Or you can make a wise decision and go on with your life without him.
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (17 January 2006):
 I think your suspicians could be justified, something doesn't sound right. Any time someone in a relationship makes a sudden change there is room for alarm, especially a change like skipping a sleep over. I would investigate further, if he is doing something I am sure you would rather know now than later. Good luck.
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