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writes: I am a 17yr. Christian girl, who's done a lot of things, I'm not proud of, with my boyfriend of a year. But I am now scared that I might have accidently lost my virginity by slowly slipping into things that "were'nt so bad". I have had orgasms because of him rubbing up against me (with my clothes on), and he the same, would this be considered sex?! Did I lose something so precious by accident and stupidity?! Please help, even if it's bad news, I need to know to reconize what I've done and start to get over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): If you lose or not... I don't know, but this is a great example to demonstrate "Phrasal Verbs" to English students! With the expression "rubbed up against"
http://denilsodelima.blogspot.com/2007/08/phrasal-verbs-outra-vez.html
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reader, ourchosenpaths +, writes (7 February 2006):
 In order to lose your virginity, he has to penetrate your vagina with his penis, if it's anything other than that, you still have your virginity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2006): mister squid, its only fair to point out that lust is a sin in religion , therefore as is sex before marriage , to the girl asking the question ...BUT its not the end of the world to sin as God forgives our sins, we are only human and we all make mistakes, i dont think that you have done anything stupid just human, and you didnt loose anything too precious however if you have chosen to save yourself for that special someone then i think you should have a think about how far you want to go , and what you do and dont feel comfortable experiencing with others in the meantime, before being in the situation so you have decided with a clear headgood luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2006): No you did not lose your virginity.Yes I would keep my pants on if you plan on NOT losing it .Yes I would of extremely enjoyed just what happened to you.It is a normal thing just your body telling it like what was happening.Sounds like the two of youhad better decide where to draw the line here if you are worried.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2006): Thank you all soooo-MUCH! You don't know what kind of weight you've lifted. I know it's a stupid question to ask, but I don't know a thing about sex, I'm a homeschooled girl with a single dad out in the middle of know where.
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reader, mister-squid +, writes (11 January 2006):
 Erk, why the hell does it matter? (pardon the phrase). Sex before marriage IS NOT a sin, because it IS NOT considered one in the Bible (Check through the whole of Leviticus if you don't believe me). Also, you lose your virginity through intercourse, which can only be achieved without trousres on :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): Nah, you didn't lose your virginity. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Even within Christianity, there are lots of different views about what level of 'purity' you should be looking for. Some sects freak out if you have even one impure thought or dream. In other congregations (equally Christian, mind-you) there's simply a don't-ask-don't-tell policy. Among a lot of young people who've decided they don't want to lose their virginity until they are married, "outercourse" has become a popular alternative. It helps deal with some of the urges (allowing you to orgasm) without sacrificing the intimacy you hope to later share only with the one you marry.
If you're uncomfortable with the physical aspects of your relationship, you should talk to your bf about it and cool things off for a while. But if you're comfortable with them and just scared about what they mean, I think you can stop worrying.
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (10 January 2006):
 If he did not actually penetrate your vagina with his penis then your "virginity" is still intact. You are orgasming from what many women orgasm from and that is clitoral stimulation. What you are doing is still considered a form of sexual relations. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2006): hey hunni i might not be old and experienced but u have not lost your virginity..unless u actually have his penis inserted into your vagina (without clothes) then u are ok..if u have done this without clothing then u might want to take a pregnancy test but i think u should be fine good luck xoxoxoxoxoxox
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