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29 August 2009: I promised myself that if I got one wish that I'd spend it on you. I know I couldve done it, I would of struggled but I would of gotten through. It's my fault, I know: that I'll never watch you grow. It's my fault you aren't here but I promise I'll ...
A warning from one teenager to others . . .
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30 July 2009: This is for the teenage girls who purposefully try to get pregnant, because they think they are 'ready' or they think it will be 'cool' to carry a baby around in there arm or have a belly to show off, or it will keep you and your boyfriend together ...
I dedicate this to all the relationships gone wrong.
No replies yet... 16 July 2009: I dedicate this to all the relationships gone wrong. Listen to this song - Thrill is gone - Baby Bash I wish it could be like it use to, use to, use to I wish it could be like it use to, use to, use to Baby after all of that I don't think...
How to come to terms with a break up.
No replies yet... 17 June 2009: I get alot of messages from girls asking me, how to get over a there ex boyfriend. I have had a few share of break ups in my life time, and I'm going to give you a few tips that have really helped me. Remind yourself that everyday it will ge...
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How do I do a good hand job or blow job?
Q. Dont make fun of me anyone please!!! But I really need some advice on how to give a good handjob/blowjob. I feel really bad for my boyfriend and me because he goes down on me and hes really good at it, but whenever I try to go down on him he's just ...
A. 9 July 2009: When your giving him a hand job: Squeeze hard and do it really fast. As when most guys jerk off - it is usually not slow and they are very rough with themselves this is how they blow there load.
When you are giving him a blow job, take your ind... (read in full...)
I used the pull-out method, which doesn't really work, but it's possible she's pregnant?
Q. please help me... my girlfriend and i have had sex.... and i always pull out...but a couple times we didnt use a condom.... i pulls out and she is on birth conrol.... but she says that she has to pee a lot(like every 2-4 hours) and i know htat ...
A. 9 July 2009: If she is on birth control, the chances are rare that she is pregnant, but anything is possible. Yes having to urinate alot is a symptom of pregnancy, but it is a symptom of alot of other things. Best bet is a UTI, which happens when you have sex ... (read in full...)
My self-esteem issues is making me hang onto this boy
Q. So I was crazy about this guy a few months ago- like the very smell of him caused me pain' kind of crazy. We would flirt and heavily make out drunkenly/passionalty at parties, and hang out on a weekly basis, but always with a third wheeler friend to ...
A. 9 July 2009: Kick him to the curb already, or you'll end up regretting wasting all of this time you've spent holding on to him while you could of been with somebody else.
He sounds like a loser - so call it a day and leave it at that. Who cares what he think... (read in full...)
Thank you! Your advice worked..but how do I keep him this way?
Q. I'm really thankful to u because your idea worked. I told u about my boyfriend that he neglects me. When I call him he says that he doesn't wanna talk. But after consulting with u I stopped calling him just for one day and then he realized that what ...
A. 7 July 2009: Trust me, they never change for long. I have learned the hard way - give it a week. He will be back to his old ways.
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I don't know what he wants. We haven't fought, but he's ignoring me. What's going on with him?
Q. Met him on FB and we have been emailing each other for 6 months till we met and really like each others qualities. I am confident that he is a genuine person. The only issue is that he has a girlfriend. It was at the beginning stages when we got to ...
A. 7 July 2009: He has feelings for you - but it's obvious he feels guilty for acting on them.
It sounds like he does not want to take it further then it already has gotten. His way of saying he wants to remain faithful to his girlfriend - is by not talking ... (read in full...)
I want to help my alcholic friend but don't know how! Help!
Q. I have a friend who I believe is an alcoholic. She drinks when she gets up, she drinks every evening. She admits to she drinks too much. She told he she’s always had a problem, despite my best efforts I don’t know what to do, I’m not getting ...
A. 3 July 2009: If the doctor knows about her problems then why hasn't he called a rehabilition center? Like a doctor should.
You should have her arrested for her complusive drinking problem, and then where her court dates comes they will put her in Rehab.
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How do I not fall for verbally abusive ex's guilt trips?
Q. So basically I am just wondering if anyone out there has some tips or ways to not fall for guilt trips? My ex-bf who was verbally abusive "jokingly" he called it, made a promise to change but he has lied about things in the past and I don't th...
A. 3 July 2009: HE IS LYING! they change for a while, and then go back to there old self. It's a bad pattern to get into it. Break the habit of going back to this dysfunctional relationship and kick him the curb already.
Every time he tries to lay a guilt tr... (read in full...)
How can I make the most out of this LDR?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, Thank you for all the help you've given me for the past year or so, i truly thank you for reading and understanding. The situation is i'm currently with my girlfriend for almost 1 and a half years now. Something un...
A. 3 July 2009: First of all, how is kissing somebody else protecting you? I am totally oblivious to this and it doesn't seem to make sense to me. How do you know she doesn't secretly have a boyfriend behind your back? Exactly, you don't. That is the problem with a ... (read in full...)
I feel like my step dad favors my sister more than me...
Q. i've got an issue, my mom died like a year ago and lately i've been getting like these jealous rages with/about my step sister and step dad.... i don't know why i get mad, i just do! and i get soo jealous. like the past 2 weeks my step sister, let's ...
A. 1 July 2009: I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your mom. Its possible you are jealous because your step sister has a mother, and you have no biological parents around. Since your step sister is your step dads biological daughter may be the reason why he pays ... (read in full...)
Unless I shave all my body hair, she won't have sex!
Q. My girlfriend has pretty much made it clear that she will refuse to have any sexual relations with me unless i shave of all of my body hair. I have never had to do this and it makes me a little uneasy. Is this normal for some girls to hate hair this ...
A. 1 July 2009: I don't like alot of hair either, but I eventually get use to it, and I would never go to the extreme as saying you have to shave your whole body!
Tell her to shove it. You will shave your lower parts but anything other then that is a no go. Your... (read in full...)
Help! Anger problems...
Q. Ok so heres my problem.. I think I have a problem with my anger.. I always fly off the handle for stupid reasons, especially at my boyfriend. It's putting a strain on our relationship as I get really angry at him for no reason. When I'm angr...
A. 1 July 2009: It could be hormones, bipolar or maybe your angry about something sub consciously and are taking it out on your boyfriend. Is somebody hurting you in your life, and it's having an effect on you and you don't even realise it? Does your boyfriend d... (read in full...)
How do I get over this guy, or is it even the right thing to do by getting over him?
Q. i'm 16. ok so i really really like this guy. he's just so amazing! i've liked him for almost a year now. on the last day of school he found out i liked him. he liked me a little to. we hung out and we talked and decided to just be friends. i was ok ...
A. 30 June 2009: Every time I break it off with somebody - everybody tells me to date somebody else. I am not like that, I don't just fall to anybodys feet. I like serious relationships and I don't want a relationship that will ultimately end in a month from now.. ... (read in full...)
The girl I like says I'm 'too easy' what should I do?
Q. I've known this girl (girl-1) for 2 years. We met and I was obviously into her, and she could tell. We hung out a lot but I was stuck in the friend zone even after trying to ask her out and getting denied 3 times. Finally I decided I had to just ...
A. 30 June 2009: First things first, are you 'too easy'? If so, this is a big turn off. People who are projected as this label are not seen as the dating type, so if you are, you are going to have to prove yourself. I have seen guys go from girl to girl, and the... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he'll reject me when he sees what I look like
Q. I love a boy since previous year, he loves me too. The problem is we have never seen each other. We are in contact through mobile, now he is visiting my city and want to see me but I am very nervous because I am not so pretty as he thinks about me. ...
A. 30 June 2009: I agree with Klara. What if he isn't the greatest looking guy in the world? Maybe you guys should exchange photos before meeting one another - so you both know what to expect. Online dating is a very dangerous thing, and I personally would... (read in full...)
How can I get my girlfriend to go down on me?
Q. okay so I love eating out my girlfriend, I do it on almost a daily basis BUT she rarely ever goes down on me. i'd say i get oral once every 3-5 months. i've tried doing the whole "I go down on you, you go down on me" thing and it never works, ive ...
A. 30 June 2009: I don't like going down on my boyfriend. I think it's because I am mostly scared that he won't enjoy it. I don't think I am very good at it, and I get self concious while doing. Though I have done it a few times - It's very rare though.
Ask h... (read in full...)
How do you just fall out of love with someone? I'm baffled...
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship for nearly a year, and it has been going massively strong. She has sent me letters telling me she cant wait to start a new life with me, im the one, we went through much to be with each other, and now ...
A. 29 June 2009: I'm sorry this has happened to you. I understand your are upset. Of course, why wouldn't you be? Long distance relationships take alot of patience and work. When your over here, and she is over there. You really have no clue what she is doing on ... (read in full...)
I need someone to talk to
Q. Hi... Is there anyone I can talk to about stuff? I'm a teenager, don't have many issues, but I do really need someone to talk to, because my family doesn't really care how I feel as long as I do well.. Thanks :)...
A. 29 June 2009: Message me anytime you want!
xxx... (read in full...)
Girls want what other girls want, or they want what they can't have, true?
Q. In my dealings with women I've noticed they want men who are desired by other females. I've noticed girls flirt more with guys they know already have a partner and they shun the single guy. Is there something in their DNA that makes them go after ...
A. 29 June 2009: I believe this is true. I always want what I can't have, and then when I can have it - I don't want it anymore..
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Not heard from him since I turned down sex, but I still want him. What should I do?
Q. I am a 14 year old girl. I live in a conservative middle eastern country where I cannot talk to anyone about this problem I have, so I have to confide in an internet site as a last resort. I have had a crush on this guy since the beginning of the y...
A. 29 June 2009: Wait until you are in a relationship with somebody you love.
Guys will say anything to get you to sleep with them. The words fall out of there mouth. They don't think they just do.
I learned the hard way sweetie.. I've been used more times ... (read in full...)
Weirdest period I've ever had
Q. hey there, so I thought I started my period because I started to see a bit of blood but everytime I checked my pad or tampon or whatever it only had like a dot of blood so i switched to just using a pantyliner and i didn't see anymore blood. ...
A. 29 June 2009: I had a period like this one. Except mine would be light, and then stop for a couple days and then come back for a couple more days.
It all depends on your body. If this keeps continuing, go to the doctor, and I would take a pregnancy test jus... (read in full...)
I still love him, need advice on how to move on!
Q. I broke up with my abusive ex-bf 6 months ago exactly and I am worried that I am still thinking about him far too much. I have sought so much advice and tried to get on with life and have fun being single, but he is still in my head. Just to f...
A. 29 June 2009: I understand that this is hard. Your relationship with him sounds like it had damaged your self esteem, and the ability to feel that you could be happy in another relationship.
You need to dig deeper. Do you think you are good enough for somebody... (read in full...)
Do you believe we were treated unfairly? Severe problems from bullying...
Q. I am 16, i used to go to this site for comfort that i wasn't alone whilst getting bullied when i was 13. I was severely bullied in 2005 which resulted in me being hospitalised in early 2006. I was bullied cyberally, mentally and emotionally. The ...
A. 25 June 2009: I'd like to have a word with the Principal of this school, and then smack him upside the head for being such a twat! Have your parents gone to the police about this? If not I suggest you do so. Why isn't anything being done about this? ... (read in full...)
Can this relationship work even though he slept with his sister?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together since the seventh grade. We will be entering tenth grade in the fall. When I first saw him, I was head over heels. I did everything to get his attention, and then one day, he sat beside me in class and passed...
A. 25 June 2009: It's quite understandable to feel the way you do, if this was my boyfriend. I wouldn't even know what to think. It is weird, but brother and sister do practice sexual activity on eachother. It's not something I would engage in, but this definat... (read in full...)
Her violence is escalating -- I'm afraid for her if I leave
Q. Hello all, I've been dating a girl for about 18 months now and need some advice. She is a really amazing person and I love her very much but recently things with her have gone out of control. She is a very emotional person and is prone to...
A. 22 June 2009: I would suggest her going to therapy.. she might have bi-polar or another disorder by the sounds of it. I know you are in a tough postion right now, but if you feel the need to leave, then you must. This relationship has gotten out of control, ... (read in full...)
IShould look for him again or should I just move on?
Q. Id just finish my High School last week and I'm pretty sure that I'm never goin to to see my secret crush which turns out to be my first true love. No one knows that I like him except me because im not out. We are not close in school and we only say...
A. 22 June 2009: Uh, honey.. I don't mean to sound harsh here, so think of this as just being blunt, I don't mean any harm really.
But does he even like guys? I know it's normal for gays to like straight people.
You don't want to come off as some sort of sta... (read in full...)
My ex is pushing me to have sex...What should I do?
Q. so my ex boyfriend who lives down the street seems like he's looking for a more friends with benefits approach with us. and i've never done anything with a guy because i want everything to be special and he tries really hard even when i say no. but ...
A. 22 June 2009: I don't think you should feel pressured to have sex with him! If you don't want to - simply don't do it. Don't let him brainwash you into thinking, you will be together in the end, that he loves you, or it will be so great. Your right, it should... (read in full...)
What a dilemma - I'm her only friend and boyfriend but I want out!
Q. ok, so. I've been gooing out with this girl for overa year now. But recently she has started acting up. This happens about once a month, but is no actually to do wtih her period, as I know the dates that that occurs on. Anyway, when she acts up I ...
A. 20 June 2009: You are clearly only staying in this relationship, because of her feelings towards you.
You are a great guy for not wanting to hurt her feelings, but break up's will never feel good!!
If we all stopped ourselves from breaking up with our girl... (read in full...)
I feel like everyone I love is turning against me
Q. Hi, ever since i went through a rough breakup from a relationship earlier this year, ive found things havent really gotten much better for me. I seem to have lost touch with the people i really do love. It seems like im angry all of the time now,...
A. 20 June 2009: Darling, I know how you feel. When I broke up with my boyfriend, I felt as if the whole world was against me.
I felt like I was taking everything and everybody on. It was truly me against the world.
I had fall outs with my friends, and my ... (read in full...)
I felt like I did the wrong thing even though things were not working out
Q. hey guys. i finally dumped my girlfriend and we are both breaking down. it was horrible, she wanted to try and make things better but i said i didnt believe it could until we got our heads right (we both are messed up). we have agreed to stay bes...
A. 20 June 2009: It's normal to feel like you made a big mistake after breaking up with someone. That's why you have to have confidence in your desicion making.
Clearing it wasn't working out - but something is making you feel like maybe it could of, but your pro... (read in full...)
What a dilemma - I'm her only friend and boyfriend but I want out!
Q. ok, so. I've been gooing out with this girl for overa year now. But recently she has started acting up. This happens about once a month, but is no actually to do wtih her period, as I know the dates that that occurs on. Anyway, when she acts up I ...
A. 20 June 2009: Hm! tough situation. It seems like you really care about her - but I understand that you need to care about yourself too. If you want to end it - then end it. I am pretty sure she won't want you to stay in the relationship anyways just because you... (read in full...)
What can I do to stop the rumours? I really can't deal with this anymore.
Q. there has recently been a romour spread about me at school that i have been sleeping with a class teacher in his class room *i haven't* its making me feel really bad at school because this is not the only romour that has been spread about me it has ...
A. 18 June 2009: I've so been there and have dealt with this! I have basically had rumours spread about me, my whole teenage life. For example - There was a time when me and another girl had an altercation, and their were rumours spread that she had brok... (read in full...)
What should I do about all of this? Wise opinions needed!
Q. Hi I have quite a hard question to ask. I have fallen in love for the first time and it is the greatest feeling i've ever felt in my life. I'm sure a lot of you have been there before when you don't even notice anyone else it's quite funny ...
A. 17 June 2009: The love you have explained for her - almost sounds like a fairy tale. If only she didn't have a boyfriend, and you guys could be together... But of course, that's not the case.
I know you love this girl - but it sounds like you may just need to ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel stuck with him like I'm missing out on things
Q. So im 16 and ive had a boyfriend for a year and 3 months and we're both each others first relationship and hook up, neither of us have been with anyone else. hes always been pretty protective and would get a little mad when i talked to guys around ...
A. 17 June 2009: I know exactly how you feel. Me and my boyfriend were in love - we were both serious about eachother, we were eachothers first also, but after nine months, I started to feel to 'tied' down. It was hard, but I ended it. I didn't want to feel like I ... (read in full...)
He abused me physically and emotionally, yet I stood up for him!
Q. Hi, my ex boyfriend and I dated for a good seven months, (i just ended it yesterday) During our relationship I put up with ALOT of BS and I mean alot!! I need to know if what I put up was abuse at all physical or verbal. *sigh* where the heck d...
A. 17 June 2009: Yes - you were abused, both physically, mentally, verbally, and emotionally.
You might have even been raped, even though you still engaged in sexual activity with him after you said No. You were obviously put under tremendous amount of pressure... (read in full...)
I might have an eating disorder
Q. I think I might have an eating disorder because lately I have been only thinking about my weight. I'm almost 16 (my weight is 100 ponds and I'm 5`9) and and I make myself not eat cause I want gain any weight. Also I have made myself throw up once or ...
A. 17 June 2009: Oh dear! Yes, it sounds like you have a an eating disorder!
and yes you should tell somebody, whether it be your parents, a teacher, etc. You need to tell somebody.
Chances are, you cannot overcome this all alone, and it sounds like you want hel... (read in full...)
Long term or some fun?
Q. Just to help, I'm 16 going on 17, still have my v-plates, not a single good relationship because I'm terrible with them, I'm not your typical guy.. Anyway I'm sort of seeing someone who I kind of have feelings for but I just don't see us having a...
A. 17 June 2009: It depends. Ask yourself: Do you want to settle down and have a relationship? Or do you want to have fun? You could settle down in a relationship - and be in love with this girl, or you could settle down in a relationship - your not happy in. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend going through depression..trying to hep her but I don't seem to be!
Q. things between my girlfriend and I are falling apart. She's going through depression and I've tried all I can to support her. I'll give her space and then she gets mad at me for not talking to her. Then I'll be there to support her and she looks ...
A. 17 June 2009: Sorry to hear that your girlfriend is going through a rough time. What is the cause of her depression? Do you know?
If you don't want to leave her - try to be as supportive as you can. I know your trying as hard as you can, just keep doing wh... (read in full...)
Awesome new foreplay tricks without intercourse?
Q. hi , well i know this guy for like 8 months and i like him so much , in the first 4 months we kissed and every thing the problem is that i feel that our relation ship become boring since i dont wanna have sex with him its just that i want to learn ...
A. 16 June 2009: Kiss him deeply - bite his lip. Kiss his body - have fun with your tongue!
xx
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How do I help her orgasm?
Q. Hello! this is my first post here, and I'd really appreciate some help. I've had a hard time getting my girlfriend, whom i love very much, to orgasm. we haven't had intercourse (she's very religious and we aren't anywhere near likely to marry ...
A. 16 June 2009: I have trouble having an orgasm even when I'm not feeling the moment.
She has to be into it, she has to like and enjoy what your doing. Sexual activity stimulates the mind, and the horomones take over, sometimes.
If she isn't enjoying what yo... (read in full...)
I'm confused about what a "ladies' man" means
Q. last weekend i went to a party and met a guy. it started out by us just talking, and by the end of the night we had kissed a few times. we wern't drinking all that much, i was buzzed and he had to drive so he'd only had a few. i've talked to him ...
A. 16 June 2009: A ladies man - is a man who lots of girls want. It means he is good with girls.
It doesn't nessecarly mean he is a player - but it doesn't mean hes not either.
Take care
xx... (read in full...)
I don't want to disappoint my parents. Do I have to abort my baby?
Q. i am a 2 weeks delayed from now im really afraid that im pregnant since we had sex wd my bf always without protection..my bf said that he will support me whatever happens..the problem is im on my way to my graduation and im on my ojt ryt now,i dnt ...
A. 16 June 2009: Let's dig a little deeper in this situation. I highly suggest you don't work yourself up about it unless you take a test and it reads, 'pregnant'.
Stress CAN delay your period, so constantly worrying about being pregnant can be the cause of your ... (read in full...)
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