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writes:okay so I love eating out my girlfriend, I do it on almost a daily basis BUT she rarely ever goes down on me. i'd say i get oral once every 3-5 months. i've tried doing the whole "I go down on you, you go down on me" thing and it never works, ive tried telling her its not gross and that shes the best at it, ive tried alcohol to loosen her up a bit, ive tried eating pineapple to make it sweet, and now its to the point to where i tell her she doesnt even have to finish and that all she has to do is lick it a few times and that doesnt even work. nothing works! I am in need of some major help here. if anyone has answers for me it would be deeply appreciated :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): "how does pineapple make you sweeter??" -when you eat pineapple over time it makes your man juice taste sweeter
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reader, JSBach  +, writes (30 June 2009):
You could try asking her if there is anything you could do to make it more acceptable for her, but I'm afraid at the end of the day there are just some girls who find it gross, and there's really nothing you can do about it. And a cunnilingus strike isn't the answer either: first of all, you love doing it, so you would be punishing yourself, and secondly, and this is the most important thing, you really don't want to turn your bed into a battleground. If you start punishing her or withholding services, your sex life is going to die, and you will both be miserable.
Tell her how you feel, and how important it is to you, but if she says she just can't, you have to learn to accept it and stop resenting her. If you can't be happy in bed together, there's no real future for you
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 I don't like going down on my boyfriend. I think it's because I am mostly scared that he won't enjoy it. I don't think I am very good at it, and I get self concious while doing. Though I have done it a few times - It's very rare though.
Ask her why she won't do it - but if she doesn't want to do it. No pressure - Maybe she just doesn't like the thought of it in her mouth and it grosses her out.
Enough said.
Good luck
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (30 June 2009):
 Withhold the oral goodies from her. No announcement or anything - just stop doing it and wait to see what happens. If or when she mentions the sudden lack of licking, just tell her that its supposed to be a two-way street - a give and take. Ultimately, there are plenty of other girls out there with sweet pussies and maybe a better attitude about giving pleasure as well as receiving.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): Ok thats kinda sad doode im sorry. As me being a girl i do it all the time i dont find it gross at all. I actualy think its fun. My boyfriend likes it alot to.
I can relate to you a bit tho cuz i do it all the time to him and he barly does it back.
Maybe if you stop going down on her quite as often she will realize that she liked it enough to give back more.
good luck with that doode.
Ps. how does pineapple make you sweeter??
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reader, lovesweetangel2 +, writes (30 June 2009):
Maybe you should ask her exactly why she won't, but it sounds like you've almost done everything you could. I would suggest maybe a flavored condom as well, I know it may be harder to get off but it sounds like it may work for you since you suggested just a few licks :) Also, do you not shave or maybe smell a little bit? I know you may not want to hear that but if it's from me and not her that may help a little. Check it out and wash it well lol. But like I said, it sounds like you're pretty open about talking to her about it so ask her why and maybe she'll give you a straight up answer.
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