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29 August 2009: I promised myself that if I got one wish that I'd spend it on you. I know I couldve done it, I would of struggled but I would of gotten through. It's my fault, I know: that I'll never watch you grow. It's my fault you aren't here but I promise I'll ...
A warning from one teenager to others . . .
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30 July 2009: This is for the teenage girls who purposefully try to get pregnant, because they think they are 'ready' or they think it will be 'cool' to carry a baby around in there arm or have a belly to show off, or it will keep you and your boyfriend together ...
I dedicate this to all the relationships gone wrong.
No replies yet... 16 July 2009: I dedicate this to all the relationships gone wrong. Listen to this song - Thrill is gone - Baby Bash I wish it could be like it use to, use to, use to I wish it could be like it use to, use to, use to Baby after all of that I don't think...
How to come to terms with a break up.
No replies yet... 17 June 2009: I get alot of messages from girls asking me, how to get over a there ex boyfriend. I have had a few share of break ups in my life time, and I'm going to give you a few tips that have really helped me. Remind yourself that everyday it will ge...
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I don't want to disappoint my parents. Do I have to abort my baby?
Q. i am a 2 weeks delayed from now im really afraid that im pregnant since we had sex wd my bf always without protection..my bf said that he will support me whatever happens..the problem is im on my way to my graduation and im on my ojt ryt now,i dnt ...
A. 16 June 2009: Let's dig a little deeper in this situation. I highly suggest you don't work yourself up about it unless you take a test and it reads, 'pregnant'.
Stress CAN delay your period, so constantly worrying about being pregnant can be the cause of your ... (read in full...)
What do you call a cheater?
Q. A few years ago I caught my wife having an affair with a co worker of hers. When I caught her I called her a slut. She became very angry I said that and has not to this day let go of me using that word. Why? Isn't a cheater a slut?...
A. 16 June 2009: Me, being a girl. I hate the word 'slut' is so degrading!! I also don't think that people who cheat once, should be called a 'cheater' I believe that a 'cheater' is somebody who constantly repeats that mistake. I understand that in the heat ... (read in full...)
Afraid I might be pregnant -- where to get help?
Q. ok, here it goes... i had sex a week a..on june 8...and today is june 15..but anywz it was prtoected but im still scared im might be pregnant..i ve been gettin nasuaes and frequent urination, and cramps..and withdrawl...and i did nt get my period i...
A. 16 June 2009: If you were pregnant, you probably wouldn't get symptons this early. I suggest you wait a couple weeks and then take a test. Take care xx... (read in full...)
Ideas on pleasurable masterbation without a toy?
Q. ive been masturbating for a while. Ive been using my hands... but Ive gotten bored of my hands and my mom found my dildo so I cant have any sex toys a around the house. what else can i use to masturbate and gain pleasure?...
A. 16 June 2009: Do not use a foreign object to masterbate. (ie, fruit, vegetables) They can cut yourself, and this could lead to infections. It is very unsafe. I had a friend who tried to masterbate with the end of a brush - it caused her to bleed and she had to ... (read in full...)
I really liked him but he stole money from me!
Q. i really liked this guy, and we only met acouple times but fe flirted with me and acted as if he liked me and i really liked him and i still do but he hasnt talked to me since spring break after he stole my money. and i still really really like him. ...
A. 15 June 2009: He's not worth it, if he stole from you. Leave him in the dust my friend. What's so great about him? Their are plently more fish in the sea.. who won't steal from you. xx... (read in full...)
I cheated on her but I love her!
Q. um this is sorta weird but here goes, I'm in a situation were i cheated on the girl i love. i'm only 14 but i know i'm in love because whenever i hear her voice or see her my heart pounds and i get realy hot and she makes me feel good and happy. w...
A. 15 June 2009: You need to figure out why you keep on hurting her, if you claim you 'love' her so much. Do you hurt her, because your afraid to be hurt? You don't know what to do with your feelings? or is just because, you think you love her but really you don't... (read in full...)
I don't trust her when she goes out with her mates.
Q. Hello there, I'm currently in a relationship with this girl (for almost a year now.) She is really outgoing and a mostly a nice person. But she likes to go out a lot, with her 'girlfriends'. This bothers me somewhat, because all sorts of g...
A. 14 June 2009: If you can't even talk to her about the way you feel. My next best advice for you, would be to break it off all together.
Communication and trust are the two most important things, in a relationship, but you seem to have neither. This relation... (read in full...)
I feel everyone just sees me as shy and boring.
Q. im really unhappy. which is probably a common thing for a teenage girl to say but i dont know. i feel like im being oversensitive but i can't help feeling like a complete loser and a doormat. i have been a nice friendly girl all my life. my friends ...
A. 14 June 2009: I know it's hard, my friend. I completely understand the depth of your situation, and how heart wrenching it must feel to be a 'door mat' and a cushion when everyone else needs comfort, but then you don't get anything in return.
It seems as if, y... (read in full...)
When I hug him I smile, am I leading him on?
Q. Okay, so a few days ago I started talking to this boy who goes to my school, although he's in year 11 so he has finished his exams and left. We get on extremely well, and he asked to hang out yesterday, so I said yes. I think he likes me, as he kept ...
A. 14 June 2009: Your not leading him on, your being friendly. But, he may think of it as something completely different. My best advice for you, would be to talk to him. Ask him if he has feelings for you.. or tell him you have feelings for someone else. If... (read in full...)
Should I go out with Hali even if it hurts Haley?
Q. okay so i broke up with my girlfriend. she couldnt stop doing things that were messin up her life. and i didnt feel like takin care of her anymore. so after breakin up with my girlfriend i got my friend Hali back. which is great. me and hali are ...
A. 14 June 2009: I think that you and Hali should talk to Haley about your feelings - before acting on them.
Hali and Haley are best friends, and she shouldn't just jump into a relationship with you, without having her friends blessing first.
Just tell Hal... (read in full...)
I want an older boy in my life, is this a good idea?
Q. hey x Im in pickle.. i really want a boy in my life. I want a boyfriend. I hate all the boys in my year and want to get to know new boys a bit older. How? I have made friends with a popular girl who knows boys in higher years. Is this a good id...
A. 14 June 2009: Older boys can be trouble!! but I've always been one to say, 'age is just a number' I have always had older friends, older boyfriends, especially because I think boys my age are a tad immature.
I don't see the problem, as long as you don't fa... (read in full...)
Help me understand my boyfriend
Q. Right, well i've been with this guy for nearly 9 months now, and it's the most serious relationship ether of us has ever had. We've both had kinda rough childhoods tbh I've just gotten over a really rough time in my life, and for the first time i'm ...
A. 14 June 2009: How can we help you understand your boyfriend? We don't know what goes on in his mind, and if anybody knows him, it's you. My best advice for you would be to, just ask him, what's going on? how come his feelings have all of a sudden changed. ... (read in full...)
I'm confussed about my sexuality
Q. hi im a 14 year old guy and im confused about my sexuality. im straight i really like girls..but i also have bi-sexual tendencies..i think im attracted to guys too..does that make me bi or gay?... and also i like girls alot..but the whole va...
A. 13 June 2009: You could be bi-sexual, or bi-curious. At this age, or at any age, there is no problem exploring your sexuality.. it doesn't make you 'gay' it just means you may want to try new things..
Good luck
xx... (read in full...)
13 and I think I'm pregnant! Help
Q. help me please im 13 and me and boyfriend have had sex lots of times but once we had sex without a condom and he pulled out before he came but i found out that that doesnt work and im really scared im pregnat... please help me... i dont know wat to ...
A. 12 June 2009: It's funny how you say, you don't want to put HIM through the STRESS of a baby.
Are you kidding me? put yourself first, and think about the stress YOU would be put through.
You have to take a pregnancy test..
Good luck
xx... (read in full...)
Am I bi-sexual, or is a dream just a dream...?
Q. Two nights ago, I had a dream I was in the shower with another girl. We were performing sexual activity on each other. Now, I have a boyfriend whom I love, and I can't imagine my life without him, and I can't picture myself with a girl.. EVER! But, ...
A. 10 June 2009: You say, "Now, I have a boyfriend whom I love, and I can't imagine my life without him, and I can't picture myself with a girl.. EVER"
But then, ask if we think you are bi sexual? if you really mean what you say up there. Then, haven't you alre... (read in full...)
Should I speak to him, and what can I say to make it sound natural?
Q. Okay I really like this guy in the year above, but I haven't spoken to him for ages and he hasn't spoken to me Last time we spoke (like 9 months ago), we talked easily (but then i wasnt sure if i liked him in that way) I don't know if he hasnt s...
A. 10 June 2009: I think you should speak to him, I mean, whats the worst that can happen!? I think its worth your best shot!!
He might not feel the same way - but he might still do. Nine months is a long time to go without speaking to someone.
But, if you g... (read in full...)
Friend is depressed, I want to help her but don't want her to take over my life
Q. Hi. I'm so worried about my friend. She keeps getting really depressed and I really don't know what to do anymore. I want to help her but everything I try doesn't work or only improves her problems for a few months. She keeps talking to me about it ...
A. 9 June 2009: It's nice of you to try to help your friend, and completely understandable that you feel this way. This matter is out of your hands now. You are young, as is she. You have your own life. I would suggest sticking by her for support, but als... (read in full...)
Why do only older boys like me?
Q. Hi, i'm a 14 year old girl and i've never had a boyfriend. So now i want my 1st boyfriend cuz i'm starting high school this fall. I'm wondering how i could get a guy to like me. I'm overwieght and i think thats a reason. I'm 5'5'' and 180 lbs. But i ...
A. 9 June 2009: As you get older, the people around you will start to mature. Boys at this age, have only one thing on there mind usually - and thats sex.
You WILL meet someone who will be willing to look past all of that, and love you for whats on the inside a... (read in full...)
I know this is going to end with me hurt...He always does but I cant get over him!
Q. This one boy is driving me insane. I havnt been happy for over two months. It all started when he had a girlfriend and i had a boyfriend. We realized we were in love with each other and dumped the other people for eachother. Then he got back ...
A. 9 June 2009: I know how you feel, when it's like you can't let go of that person. It seems like your whole world is falling apart without them, and you feel so deeply inlove with them.
But someday, you will look back and realize you weren't. Somebody will com... (read in full...)
Is this feeling of loneliness normal?
Q. I think i may just need a little reassurance, i've never been in a long term relationship before but am increasingly wanting one, if that makes sense. i feel like i need more intimacy, i would like someone to cuddle up with and spend more time with. ...
A. 8 June 2009: Yes, it's quite understandable and normal actually. Especially at our age. Everyday, we are surronded by sex and love, etc. So, why wouldn't we want the same things for ourselves? exactly.
At the end of the day, remind yourself that you have gre... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to kiss him in case he freaks out! Help!
Q. Okay I've been dating this guy for 6 months and we still havn't kissed yet! I want to kiss him but he freaks out. I want to give him a surprise kiss on the lips but I'm afraid that when I get close or go to kiss him he'll freak out and make me look ...
A. 5 June 2009: Take him for a walk just the two of you, then find a nice place and sit down and just have a nice conversation.
After that, look him in the eyes and get closer to his face. Tell him with your eyes that you want to kiss him, without making it entir... (read in full...)
Maybe I shouldn't have left like I did...was I wrong?
Q. So I am 17 and my boyfriend is 19. A couple of nights ago me and my boyfriend slept together for the first time and the next morning I woke up before him and left. It was my first time but it wasn't for him. When I woke up I honestly felt like I h...
A. 5 June 2009: No you werent wrong for leaving, you felt uncomfortable, so what else were you going to do?
But now, you have to face it. You have to tell your boyfriend how you feel, whether you want to end it or work it out is entirely up to you, but he at le... (read in full...)
How can I improve my self-esteem so I can enjoy my relationship to the fullest?
Q. A few years ago, I was involved in an unhealthy relationship. He cheatd on me, though I took him back only to have it happen again. I tried so hard but he just let me down, while trying to keep me running after him. I got out of there and got stro...
A. 5 June 2009: I totally understand where your coming from. I have been in a few bad relationships myself in the past, but when I find myself happy and in a good relationship. I almost feel like I don't deserve it, and I have basically come to realize that when I ... (read in full...)
I'm dating someone who my best friend also liked...help!
Q. My boyfriend and I just started dating but the problem is my best friend likes him and she liked him frist. At first I didn't feel the guilt because I was happy but now I feel sooo guilty and for some reason now I hate him. Please help me with my ...
A. 5 June 2009: You should of never went out with him in the first place, especially if you didn't even talk to her about it first.
I don't want to say never put a boyfriend before your bestfriend - because it happens, whether we like it or not, and yes friendsh... (read in full...)
His girlfriend, who was his ex at the time, will not let it go! I'm afraid it's going to escalate!
Q. In summer 2008, I met this guy who was a friend of a friend of mine. I didn't know much about him at the time. He really cute, and he showed interested in me, so I was like, hey, why not, right? After a few weeks of knowing him, I was at this party, ...
A. 4 June 2009: That was helpful, hahah... (read in full...)
I went to his house, did not want sex, he insisted, I feel violated, should I?
Q. i kinda have this friends with benefits thing but i hardly see him these days as i wanted more than just sex. Anyway, i went round his the other night and we chilled for a bit but then i decided to go without having sex, for the reason i said ab...
A. 4 June 2009: Go to the police or confide in a trusted friend or family member. You can't just brush this under the rug, you NEED to deal with it, or else you might end up with more serious issues growing up.
What exactly does a rapist look like? You say he d... (read in full...)
I want to give him the space he asked for with this break, but I'm afraid he'll forget about me!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months now, we met in a very special way and we're honestly so in love, everything is perfect between us, he always tells me how in love with me he is and how i'm the best thing that's ever happened to him, ...
A. 3 June 2009: If you guys love eachother like you say you do, then don't worry.
Give him the space he needs, and accept it. If you bother him too much, then he wont have time to think about things, and you will just end up pushing him farther away.
Give hi... (read in full...)
It's complicated between us, but I want her back!
Q. Hey. Im 14 and male So the thing is, I asked this girl out and she said yes, and everthing was going really well, we were together for a week and then the holiday break came along and we couldn't talk much. Then on the first week back she asks to ...
A. 3 June 2009: If you were only together for a couple of weeks. I suggest you don't dwell on it.
I know it may not seem like it, but there alot plently of other girls out there to love, and you will miss out on all your chances if you isolate yourself from oth... (read in full...)
What kind of gift would be fun and nice for a young lady?
Q. I am going to be home from uni over the summer, so I won't be seeing the young lady I like until possibly until September (though as I only live a couple of hours away I will probably try to visit when I can) Our current situation is that we have ...
A. 3 June 2009: FLOWERS = Can never go wrong!... (read in full...)
Getting pregnant while on your period
Q. i still have sex when im on my period can i get pregnant? im on birth control and i still take the pill reguraly i dont use a condom all the time this there a higher chance of me getting pregnant when im on my period?...
A. 3 June 2009: One word a one word only = Condom.... (read in full...)
I don't have the confidence to tell him that I like him
Q. hey. I need help. Its my birthday tomorrow and I have liked this boy for about 2 years now. I was ill today and my friend told me that the boy had been asking about me. Recently people have told me he likes me but I asked him out a year ago and he ...
A. 3 June 2009: You have to ask yourself if your feelings are worth it. He could say yes, and he could say no, how would any of us know?
You can either risk getting hurt, or you could end up having a great relationship, and getting married. (not likely but you ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to help my depressed son
Q. My son is very depressed,and I don't know how can I help him. He was doing drugs before, and We let him move home,as he was in a very bad shape,and he wanted to get better. Now he is much healthier, but he gets really angry, as deep down he is ...
A. 1 June 2009: I know what the right thing to do is, but yet I don't want to bring myself to say it, but I guess I will.
The RIGHT thing to do would be to let him make his own desicions. How much longer are you going to sit around and baby sit him? and watch hi... (read in full...)
Should I call him? Or should he call me?
Q. heyy friends well i am desprete for help. wel first thing is my best guy friens lives in Mississippi and i live in chicago and he comes to visit and well this summer he is going to stay with his hometown in Mississippi and he hasn't called me ...
A. 31 May 2009: My mom always told me, 'don't chase the boys - let the boys chase you' She also told me, 'don't chase boys or buses - because you only get left behind'
I still use this piece of advice to this day.
Does he know you have his number? It could... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and haven't gotten my period yet...
Q. I am fourteen and still yet to have my period. I'd like to hear from you the age you first got your period...or a friend. Even if it was young or still yet to have gotten it... All help appreciated!...
A. 31 May 2009: I was in grade five - ten years old. It varies for different people. Don't worry about it to much, it depends on your body, stress and horomones and all sorts of things! You will get it eventually!
Also, I've had my period for five years now.. an... (read in full...)
Virginity questions
Q. Im 16 and for some reason i cant stop thinking about sex i really want to have sex but im worried that im gonna lose my virginity when i am drunk, and should i retract my foreskin before erection or leave it unretracted?...
A. 31 May 2009: My friends always come to me and say, 'I want to be drunk when I lost my virginity' and I'm like 'WHY!?' Anytime anyone says that to me, I will definatley tell them, no, no, no!
I think your first time should be memorable even if it is the most... (read in full...)
Could having an orgasm help my period start?
Q. Hi, im 14 and havent had my period yet! idk if theres something wrong with me but all my friends have it. Im not under developed. Ok but i was wondering if maybe an ogasm could have had an effect on me getting my period or not?? i need answers! ...
A. 31 May 2009: I hate having my period, so consider yourself lucky..... (read in full...)
He promised to quit smoking but its been 9 months..how can I not hate it!
Q. well here's the story.. i met him as a smoker.. i did not want to date him because of that but he insisted and insisted and insisted promising that he will quit if i gave him a chance..but he have been together now for 9 months now and he still ...
A. 31 May 2009: It's a fifthy habit, but a hard one to kick. Most people can't just quit 'cold turkey'. I know you don't like it, but you should support him and do everything you can to help him quit. If you don't like the smell, tell him to smoke outside, and spra... (read in full...)
I feel awful that I know he's having an affair. Do I tell his wife?
Q. I have been struggling with a large amount of guilt for many years. I was very aware that one of my mutual friend's husband "Dan" was having an affair while their children were quite young and I never had the nerve to tell her. The longer it went ...
A. 26 May 2009: I don't think you should. It's not really your place to go into someone elses relationship and starting messing with it. If you wanted to he would, maybe try talking him into telling her.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you have never met?
Q. is it possible to fall in love with someone u have never met but just spoken on the phone constantly probably a year ...
A. 26 May 2009: It's possible to fall inlove with the IDEA of that person.... (read in full...)
Is it bad if I make out with her boyfriend?
Q. So I was dating a guy and we broke up. He has another girl friend and we are just friends even though I still love him more than anything. Last night I was at his bar mitzvah and he pulled me outside and we started making out. I am talking to him ...
A. 25 May 2009: I don't even need to read the question. We all know the answer to this one.
Yes, it's bad to make out with ANYONES boyfriend. So do not do it, it will only cause more problems in your life, more hurt.. and of course, more drama.
xx... (read in full...)
She has a short fuse!
Q. So... Ive been together with this girl for a year and almost eight months. we have been having a hard time for already half a year, whats bothering me is that she is always on the edge, always annoyed at me, she has a really "short fuse". obviousl...
A. 25 May 2009: You say she is over-reacting all the time? is that really true, or do you just think everytime she gets mad, 'your overreacting!' or is she REALLY having huge outbursts as you describe?
I know with my previous boyfriends, what I saw as a BIG issu... (read in full...)
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