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... Send *ISAG a private message | | | *ISAG's profile:Hi I'm 34 years old and so much wiser, richer, happier and more successful than I could ever have imagined 5 years ago! And trust me I thought I knew it all then at 29yrs ! I have had several long loving relationships since I was 17 years old and one bad relationship. My last relationship lasted 6 years, we are still friends now and this relationship was a friendship for 2 years before it turned to romance. I highly recommend getting to know someone before you get sexual with them, unless you're just after sex that is. I am not yet married but I have been asked a few times, I was just too young back then, (I was 23 when last asked). You think you know what you want at this age but you are always growing, maturing and realising stuff! I am so glad I didn't accept and because I didn't my 2 1/2 year relationship ended, it just wasn't quite right in my heart. I live in the UK, I own two houses, I work hard, earn good money, have lots of friends and I drive a factory tuned Lotus Elise (I love cars). I'm lucky that I've had a very good start in life in that I come from a good supportive loving family, never a spoilt child and not from a rich background either. I'm very interested in psychology and have read lots about human behaviour. I have read numerous relationship self help books which are good at keeping you focused if you do get dumped! Getting dumped is no fun at all, even if he's not the greatest guy in the whole, it still hurts and you wonder why the hell ? I've only been dumped a couple of times so I have faith in how I conduct myself generally. Getting dumped does knock your confidence and self esteem, but this is when you keep listening to that positive voice in your head & ignore the negative one, (if you don't have a positive one, get one, you can learn positive thinking there are books about it) also your friends/family are there to comfort you and believe me usually you meet someone else next and you look back and wonder why the hell you were bothered about him! I am currently single but going on dates with men on a regular basis through a dating site. I joined one because of my working patterns being unsocialable. I do still go out most weekends pubbing & clubbing & live bands/festivals, but I tend to get chatted up by men who are just too young for me really (i.e 18-25). I do look young for my age which is a good thing and probably why ! I do think an age gap of plus 10 years is usually unsuitable. I have travelled and worked abroad in the past and I also highly recommend this, it builds character and there is so much in the world to get out and see, the more you see the more you want to travel. There is so much to life, and I know that I am just like most people, in that I am looking to meet someone to share life with. Not just anybody though, as you get older and you grow in confidence and learn more about yourself, then you are then in a much better position to make balanced judgements on people and decide what and who is really "right" for you. I am still learning to be completely comfortable out of a relationship, as I have been in them almost constantly since 17. I have learnt a great deal. I hope that I will find the time to answer as many questions as I can. I stumbled upon this site looking for an answer to a situation I am currently involved in with an ex boyfriend. I would guess from what I've read here already that this site is predominately a younger age group, but if I can put anyone's mind at rest in matters of love, life, friends and career then I am more than happy to offer my honest opinion - sometimes you won't like what I have to say and you might think differently, as with life you sometimes hear good advice but you don't act on it, later on you often realise that you should've taken the advice - that's life - sometimes you have to learn the hard way. A recent quote I read said something like "a clever person asks for advice, a wise person acts on advice". I look forward to helping anyone, especially anyone who has spent the time to read my blog !!! Lisa xxx |
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My bf is in jail and my ex keeps trying to get back with me! How do I tell my bf what's going on?
Q. i am currently in a relationship and it is was goin really well i am really happy but last month my partner got sent to jail and ever since my ex has been hassling me to get back with him i have insisted i am happy where i am even tho he is inside ...
A. 14 November 2006: Tell your ex to back off and that he's wasting his time. I wouldn't worry my b/f in prison by mentioning it. I had a b/f in prison for a year so I have an idea what men go through and the time they have to think over everything. You don't want ... (read in full...)
Should we stay together or break up while he's away for a year?
Q. my boyfriend is going away for a year. He wants us to stay together and says that he doesnt want to be with anyone else, is it posssible for a young man to stay faithful for so long?! His friends are really immature and party alot!and when he's ...
A. 14 November 2006: He wants you to stay together so I would trust what he is saying. Of course it is possible for any man or any age to stay faithful. If he thinks differently to the rest of his friends then have faith in this. Do you really want him to be free ? ... (read in full...)
He avoided answering me about a sexually explicit text I saw on his phone from another girl!
Q. I was using my boyfriends phone to make a phone call and once I was done I looked at his phone and saw my name that I called and then saw a message from another girl. So I looked at the message and saw that is was pretty sexual and explicit. I had ...
A. 14 November 2006: He should have more regard for your feelings and I think he should have re-assured you. I wouldn't have apologised for stumbling across an explicit message in my boyfriends phone, I would confront him as you did and get an answer. Maybe it is ... (read in full...)
I am newly married but have feelings for another man!
Q. Hi, i am newly married, for about 4months, but i had doubts beforehand. The main reason for this being that i really connected with the older man i worked with prior to my marriage, but put all this down to nerves and fears of not knowing what to ...
A. 10 November 2006: Hi, I would say that you maybe should have trusted your doubts in the first place, sorry to say that but, when I decide to marry for good I will be expecting things to be better than just ok.... ... (read in full...)
How do I get my bf back and stop pushing him away? ANy advice?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years it would have been five years next month but lately he has been really different and distant then on one sunday we got into a little fight and i hung up on him but then i called him the next day and ...
A. 9 November 2006: When it comes to men and "chasing" men, I have found that they usually keep running! I know exactly how you're feeling and yet you must try to move on. Let him go, there will be someone else wonderful just round the corner. If you chase him he'll ... (read in full...)
We have this wonderful relationship, but there's no sex! Should I plan a future with this man?
Q. Can a man (after 3 and half yrs) love you, want to live rest of his life with you (as he does) but not necessarily want too much sex? If you love someone, doesnt sex and intimacy follow? We can cuddle in bed. Not too much out of bed tho. Not much ...
A. 4 November 2006: I have read and believe it that having a healthy sex life is a direct indicator of how healthy the relationship is. And yet, as time goes on in a relationship the sex usually diminished somewhat, pressures from work etc, children & all the day to ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being so jealous? I keep picking fights and want to stop!
Q. I'm too jealous! I was burned a few years ago when my boyfreind of 3 years cheated on me with my best friend (and as it turns out, countless others). Now I have the best guy in the world and just refuse to accept it. He has never given me reason ...
A. 4 November 2006: I agree with the first answer. You've had a knock and it is hard to trust again I know. You must though try to ignore those nagging negative paranoid thoughts, because if you don't, you are and you will push your current b/f away. I wouldn't say ... (read in full...)
I'm stuck in this dead end relationship with a man I don't love! Help!
Q. I have been with a guy who is 15 years older than me for 6 years. I got with him when I was 17, and I ended up moving in with him within 3 months of us seeing each other, it was a complicated situation, I felt like I was being forced into it. ...
A. 4 November 2006: If you already have a house in mind that you want to rent alone and you want to get on your life, like you say, i think you have already made up your mind. I know you won't regret moving on from this relationship. It sounds like he's holding you ... (read in full...)
I thought after we kissed, he'd want to date me but...he still likes another. What can I do?
Q. i met this guy on a kind of holiday thing with my skl n i really liked him, but my kind of mate (we arent really mates any more) flirted with him loads n he picked er over me. they broke up a few weeks later and then he kept telling me he loved me ...
A. 4 November 2006: I'd forget him, easier said then done. But if he's picked someone else over you two times now, what's to say he won't do that again, coz he will. If a man really really likes you, no other girl will get a look in... We all want what we can't have ... (read in full...)
I gave this guy my number and he said he would text me, but he hasn't. Is this a bad sign
Q. I have this guy friend that i really like. He is always giving me hugs at work and hes really sweet. The only problem is this guy is like totally good looking. I gave him my number the other day just as a friend thing and he said he would txt me his ...
A. 4 November 2006: Not necessarily. Men love to "play it cool". They will usually leave some time between getting your number and actually ringing you. But, if you haven't heard anything in the next 2 weeks, I'd say he's maybe not worth worrying about hugs or no ... (read in full...)
My long distance gf and I got in a fight - I think she ended it! What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid,Well I have problems with my gf we both live far I live in California she lives in Toronto she recently moved from Vancouver because of Uni.She thinks im possesive but Im really not I trust her.I admit I was at first but then I changed I ...
A. 4 November 2006: I personally think this relationship has had it's day. Time to move on. Let her go - her loss. If she's already said "I want to be over with this relationship" - she means it. Quit wasting your time, people will end relationships whatever way is ... (read in full...)
He told me how great the sex was, with his ex gf! Now I feel that he doesn't enjoy sex with me! What can I do?
Q. OK..my boyfriend and I were talking the other day about how I never have an orgasm from intercourse. He always has to go down on me to make me have one. So, anyway, we were talking and he told me that his ex used to orgasm from intercourse and that ...
A. 4 November 2006: I have only come once in 17 years from penetrative sex alone! Hardly any of my friends have either. Statistics suggest that most women don't come from penetration alone anyway, so I wouldn't worry about it at all! It's not just because you don't ... (read in full...)
Is talking to people you meet online always risky?
Q. hi, im 16 and this guy i have been talking to on the internet is 20. i do really like him, but im aware that i shouldn't trust him beacause i dont really know him. Is talking to people on the internet always a bad thing? or can it sometimes be ok? i ...
A. 3 November 2006: Meeting people through the internet is becoming increasingly popular and yet there is still great suspiscion surrounding it. I have met lots of people through the internet myself. You do have to be careful if you do go ahead & decide to meet ... (read in full...)
Should I take this guy back after he dumped me??
Q. hey, i was wondering if anyone can help me. i went out with this guy for about 3 months and then he dumped me and on valentine's day. my friend introduced him to one of her friends and he started going out with her about 2 weeks after he dumped me ...
A. 3 November 2006: Just remember that this guy took whole stock of you and your qualities and decided he'd finish it. Now, he may be having second thoughts about you and regreting his decision, but what's to stop him doing the same thing again in the future when some ... (read in full...)
Guys..how does a girl tell if someone is really into her? Any thoughts?
Q. Hi there, bit of advise from you guys out there. How can I tell if a guy is really into me. I have a male friend who I spend alot of time with, we prob see each other 2 - 3 times a week. We always talk on the phone at least once, twice a day and ...
A. 3 November 2006: I would say he's pretty into you. Give him time and remember the best loves come from relationships which start as friendships. Men who gaze at one woman a lot do really like them. Be patient and let him move it as his pace I'd say. Sometimes ... (read in full...)
What should I do to give my gf 100% satisfaction during intercourse?
Q. how do i staisfy my girlfreind during intercourse . what should i do to give my gf 100% satisfaction . plzz gime me some nice tips!...
A. 3 November 2006: Invest in some books on the subject, as although every woman is basically the same, we all have different preferences. Asking her (out of the bedroom) is the quickest and easiest way ! ... (read in full...)
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