Can anyone possibly help me with that "married man dilemma"?
Q. Can anyone possibly help me with that "married man dilemma"? First, I am very aware of the sentiments of most of the advisers here, so let me say right off the bat that I have always agreed on the point but I am in such deep distress right now that ...
A. 5 February 2008: "Love is NOT a feeling. It's something we do!"
Thank you for that Annie. I agree wholeheartedly.... (read in full...)
The last thing I want is a lifetime boyfriend who is stringing me along...
Q. I'm worried that I am in a dead end relationship. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. Our relationship moved very fast at the beginning and we have been living together for over a year now. He is planning to buy a house i...
A. 5 February 2008: Sounds like he wants a girlfriend for life, or at least on his terms. But relationship isn't just about what is right for one person; you have to consider your own feelings, too. He's grown-up enough to buy a house, but not to buy an engagement ... (read in full...)
Do I go out with him even although he has a girlfriend and says she mustn't know?
Q. hi, I'm 16 almost 17 and ive been with my boyfriend for 8 months but recently discovered one of the boys I know in my street as we are all very close because we live in like a culdesac sort of thing closed off. I noticed he looks at me when ...
A. 5 February 2008: I think what he means when he says "none of them has to know" is that he doesn't want anyone to know. If someone really likes you, they're proud of you, and they want to show you off and tell everyone! He probably finds you attractive and fun to ... (read in full...)
Clingyness and mood swings.
Q. I don't know what to do anymore. My girlfriend has had moodswings since we started going out but lately it's just been out of control and on top of that she calls me like every two seconds and don't get me wrong I like talking to her but not when ...
A. 5 February 2008: It sounds like she would benefit from talking with a professional. She's probably turning to you now because she loves you and trusts you more than anyone, but if she's depressed or has some other emotional issues, there's only so much you can do ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to show my long distance boyfriend my webcam.
Q. I'm scared to get on web cam for my long distance boyfriend. I'm 18 years old and I met my boyfriend off the internet, he lives pretty far away from me, we talk on the phone and we already plan on meeting really soon, sometime in the next month or ...
A. 5 February 2008: Hun, I doubt he's going to judge you in any way. He probably just wants to see you, get a feel for how you look when you're animated. A picture doesn't compare to really seeing how someone looks when they're inhabiting their skin and moving about. ... (read in full...)
He makes himself look as the victim.
Q. I have been engaged for almost one year....it's been a lil bumpy breaking up making up...mainly over dumb things and this past sunday we had just made it past a breakup (we had broken up for 2 1/2 weeks) and we had talked and realized that this is ...
A. 5 February 2008: His friend sounds dodgy. Maybe he's hoping to take advantage of you being newly single and that you'll cry on his shoulder (in bed). Sounds really inappropriate, and if you're not looking to get in touch with your ex, and you're not interested in ... (read in full...)
Is this type of examination of any relevancy for... cheating wives?
Q. hello please help, this is not a clean question. And it might be a stupid one. Can you tell if your wife is cheating by looking at her used underwear. My wife tells me there is drainage that every woman has it. But I only seem to notice it when she ...
A. 4 February 2008: There isn't a sure-fire way to tell just by looking at her underwear. Drainage is normal; there's more when a woman is turned on, obviously, but it's nothing that will hold up in divorce court. If you've gotten to the point of looking through her ... (read in full...)
How hard is it for him to ask me out if he really likes me??
Q. Hi, there is this guy that I really like and I think the feeling is mutual but he sometimes gives off mixed signal which makes me very confused consequently, i tend to stop flirting or seem not interested in him because i dont wanna look stupid. I...
A. 4 February 2008: If you've already gone through the awkwardness of drunken snogging, how much more awkward would it be to let him know how you feel? You're still friends after that, so there's no reason you can't be friends after telling each other how you feel. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to pursue a relationship with somebody 1-2 years younger??
Q. dear cupid, I would like to know is it wrong for a person to go out with someone who is 1-2 years younger than themselves. I recently saw this good looking girl, went over to her found out how old she is and that, she seems to be 1 year younger tha...
A. 4 February 2008: Make sure it's cool with her parents first:)... (read in full...)
I am crazy in love with him despite him treating me so bad.
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, like every other relationship we had our ups and down. Two weeks ago we broke; he never gave a real reason why. Desperate and confused I lied to him about being pregnant so he c...
A. 4 February 2008: I agree with polarkite. You are better off without this guy. You lied, but his actions came before, and have nothing to do with that. In fact, his reaction to your story should tell you all you really need to know in order to move on: that he's ... (read in full...)
Would I be better off alone even though we love each other??
Q. I fear I love my man too much. Currently, I'm living about a 2-hour commute away from him, in my parents' house, because I'm student teaching, and the school I teach at is close to my parents' house. I always look forward to weekends, because ...
A. 4 February 2008: I agree with the other comments here, and I'd just like to add: Please don't settle for someone who loves you "almost just as much" as you love them! If you break up, you'll have the opportunity to find someone who will love JUST AS MUCH as you ... (read in full...)
How can I make mom support my decision in my long distance relationship
Q. Hi, my name is Jennifer, and I'm 18 years old. For the past year, I've been in a relationship with someone who lives in another country. It's extremely difficult, but we take turns visiting one another and have been making it work. He live...
A. 4 February 2008: Going off of Laura's advice, I'd say that stressing the exploration of the culture and country could be to your advantage. Also, you could point out that airfare costs the same no matter how long you'll be gone, and since you're paying for it, you ... (read in full...)
He makes himself look as the victim.
Q. I have been engaged for almost one year....it's been a lil bumpy breaking up making up...mainly over dumb things and this past sunday we had just made it past a breakup (we had broken up for 2 1/2 weeks) and we had talked and realized that this is ...
A. 4 February 2008: It's wrong for him to try and pin his own behavior on you. I think that maybe when he said he had no choice, he meant that he felt that's what he had to do in order to ease the pain of having lost you. Not that it's your responsibility to decipher ... (read in full...)
If a girl doesn't text back, does it mean she isn't interested?
Q. dear cupid i would like to know something, when you text a girl and she dnt text back, does it mean shes not interested?...
A. 3 February 2008: I agree you should call her. As has been mentioned, there are a lot of reasons someone wouldn't respond to texts. You'll get a better idea of how she feels by how she responds to a phone call. Also, keep in mind that the general rule of thumb for ... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend is married, but his wife doesn't care, he still wants a future together, should I bother?
Q. please help is there anyone out there who has been involved with a married man? I met the most wonderful man almost two years ago. two months after dating him i found out he was married. I was crushed but couldnt drag myself away. His wife knows ...
A. 29 January 2008: Did he tell you he was married, or did you find out another way? Does he share a bed with his wife or is it possible it's really just a roommate situation at this point (or that they really are both in it for the kids)? If his wife knows about it, ... (read in full...)
How do you do the rebound thing? I think it might help me get over my ex.
Q. About a month ago my bf and I broke up. We were very serious and the break up was very bad. I've been an emotional wreck for weeks, and cry literally every night. Recently I called to try to get him back, and he told me he's been going to bars, ...
A. 27 January 2008: Thanks dearkelja. The part about eating good foods warms my heart-- it sounds like something mom would say! My mom has been telling me the same thing about girlfriends. Why don't I listen?? Writing down a list of things I didn't like is a good ... (read in full...)
How do you do the rebound thing? I think it might help me get over my ex.
Q. About a month ago my bf and I broke up. We were very serious and the break up was very bad. I've been an emotional wreck for weeks, and cry literally every night. Recently I called to try to get him back, and he told me he's been going to bars, ...
A. 27 January 2008: Thanks for taking the time to respond. You are right, and this was really helpful, because it's just what I needed to hear. I suspected this was the right answer before I asked, but my head has been so messed up, I can't be certain what's right or ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to see me because of my depression but if he isn't interested then why spend so long on the phone with me???
Q. Where to start. Started talking to someone on line October 06, we were supposed to meet 22nd October, never happened, had a huge online argument instead on a public forum. Started talking again Jan 07, he lived 280 miles away. He moved to within ...
A. 26 January 2008: Let me get this straight: He's scheduled holidays and made plans to meet you, but these always get canceled/fall through. He says he puts money in your account, but you never receive the money. He says he sends you packages, but you ne... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend treat me like a princess anymore??
Q. My boyfriend and I usually talk in "baby voice" to each other, he talks that way when he is being really sweet and wants to show me affection. I admit I haven't been very nice in the past and when he would act like that I would get mad at him abou...
A. 26 January 2008: Maybe he's willing to put on the baby voice and treat you like a princess, but if you two are arguing a lot or if you get mad at him for things, it will naturally affect the extent of the affection he showers on you. As long as he still treats you ... (read in full...)
Found inappropriate conversations between them on the computer...I'm afraid my husband is cheating on me!
Q. My husband and I have been married for nearly a year now and so far everything has been great between us. I've never thought him to be one to do things behind my back or anything like that. But throughout our entire relationship, even before we were ...
A. 26 January 2008: I agree with rcn all the way on this. And no, there's really no other way to read those lines. I love the example that rcn used about the man caught receiving oral sex! Occasionally I watch the reality show "Cheaters," and on one episode, the ... (read in full...)
I have thoughts of her having sex with another man and it gets me depressed ... can we ever have normal sex again?
Q. Hi there aunts! I have a problem. Me and my girlfriend (2 years an a half) had a relationship breakdown quite some time ago. She went to another guy and she told me that she used the moment when she was weak and kissed her. She hinted that they...
A. 26 January 2008: What if you talked about and she admitted that she had sex with him? Maybe if you just knew everything, even if it was the worst, you two could work through it. Perhaps it's just that there are things unknown and unsaid.
Also, I think that a k... (read in full...)
Are these signs indicators of my period? When should I expect it?
Q. I'm really worried about when my periods start and ive been having like a white discharge for about 1 year and I also have bad cramps any Idea when my periods will start?...
A. 25 January 2008: Yes, you can buy creams and other treatments for yeast infections over the counter BUT there are a couple things you should know:
First, and I believe it says so on the packaging of such treatments, you shouldn't use them unless you've had a ye... (read in full...)
Why can't we forget each other?
Q. Hi, a confused, hurt and wet-in-tears girl here.. I broke up with Mr.C 2 years ago, I dumped him cos' I decided to move to another state and work there..and fall in love with a guy..I THOUGHT i don't have any feelings for Mr. C anymore, so I go...
A. 24 January 2008: You should do what is going to make you happy. It's very kind of you to consider Mr. D's feelings, and no doubt, you care about him very much and don't want to hurt him, but you said yourself that you don't love him like you love Mr. C. You also ... (read in full...)
Why can't he accept it's over? He's doing my head in!
Q. So me and my ex have been talking ALOT over the last few days and its him calling me all day on Monday and when he wasn't calling he was texting me! Drove me nuts as I didn't get anything done but him calling sooo much.Almost every second of my day ...
A. 24 January 2008: If you really don't want to be with him, you need to make that crystal clear to him, since he sounds like he's getting carried away in fantasy land right now. Tempting as it may be, don't let him do anything for you, and don't accept any gifts or ... (read in full...)
How can he say he loves me when he behaves like this?
Q. My husband has damaged our relationship, we have been married for 30 years, recently I discovered he had been watching porn and masturbating to it, he said he would stop and that it was probably due to boredom having been together for so long. Then ...
A. 24 January 2008: Porn and masturbating are reasonable enough, but refusing sex with his wife, due to a preference for porn and self-pleasure, is a problem. Perhaps you could let him know how it makes you feel? Be clear that you'd like to pleasure him, and that the ... (read in full...)
Should I start a serious relationship with my cousin?
Q. Dear Cupid I need help a.s.a.p. I am in love with my cousin who is 2 years older then me and I think she likes me back. I know its wrong so I tried to go out with other girls but I always compare them and I realize that no one is better th...
A. 24 January 2008: I agree that you don't know if she's just expressing affectionate familial feelings. You should actively seek out and see other people, not necessarily for love, but just to have fun, and get your mind off her.... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex back?
Q. hi, this sounds really stupid but i need help on how to get an old boyfreind back we split late last year, he ended it, but i still have feelings for him, guess it was because he was my first. but ive still got his number and know where he lives but ...
A. 24 January 2008: My advice is pretty much an elaboration on rcn's advice above. Call him to "catch up," and feel out the situation from there. Just talk, and if it goes well, you could ask if he'd like to hang out sometime.. or perhaps, just end it with, "It was ... (read in full...)
Furious over cheat claims... But what can I do about it???
Q. I need some advise people! I was out on a night out a few months ago with some friends from my uni and while out we invited a man to join us. we were all dancing with him, then i got left with him. 5 minutes later i was being accused of cheating on ...
A. 24 January 2008: The only one who really matters is your boyfriend, right? The people who believe this girl aren't your real friends anyway. And yes, she's being petty and manipulative, and in light of the age difference, she's rather pathetic. Probably she's ... (read in full...)
Are these signs indicators of my period? When should I expect it?
Q. I'm really worried about when my periods start and ive been having like a white discharge for about 1 year and I also have bad cramps any Idea when my periods will start?...
A. 24 January 2008: White discharge is normal in girls your age. It could be several months, even a year or two until you have your first period, though.... (read in full...)
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