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writes:I need some advise people! I was out on a night out a few months ago with some friends from my uni and while out we invited a man to join us. we were all dancing with him, then i got left with him. 5 minutes later i was being accused of cheating on my boyfriend with him. when i confronted the girl that had 'seen us' she changed her story and said 'no he went to kiss u but u said no' i was gob smacked!! He never even tried. so we had this argument. now a few weeks down the line i have found out the girl (who's sister had accused me) has come into uni and told a male class mate that i went away with the guy and cheated. i am FURIOUS!!! i don't know wether to cause conflict in the uni by confronting her about it or just laugh at the fact she is making stories up. this girl is 28 and i am 20, she is supposed to be 'more mature' is she jelous of my relationship with my boyfriend? but then she makes out that she doens't agree with our relationship because he is 16 years older than me!?!? Any thoughts on this would be great, thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, Sams_WonderWoman  +, writes (24 January 2008):
 I think that by her spreading rumors that you cheated on your boyfriend with another man is that she wants him to leave you so she can make a play for him. I think that it is so despicable of her to do that to you. I don't blame you for being furious about the whole thing. But you should not confront her on spreading the lies, just be cool about it and pray to God about the whole thing. You said that she is 28 and not very mature....you got that right. That sounds like something kids in the playground would do, not a 28 year old woman. You wouldn't want a fight to break out because you don't want to cause a scene and possibly get thrown in jail. I would just let it blow over this time.
You should keep your bf informed about what is going on if you haven't already. And tell him what this girl is trying to do by spreading false rumors so that she can have a chance with him.
Where I live there are many women in my town who always spread rumors so that they will break up relationships to get the guy. They will even go behind friends' backs to make a play for their husbands if they think he's hot and wanting to have sex with them!! They have split up lots of marriages over what they did..just so they can get their jollies off!!!
I even had one instance when I went out to a bar for my birthday with my husband, and several friends of ours. I can remember two women sitting at the table next to ours and every time I looked in their direction, one of them kept staring at my hubby, and was acting weird towards me for what I didn't know because I never seen her before.
When my husband had to excuse himself to use the mensroom the woman was not at the table. My friend who was just getting back with our liquid refreshments, said that she saw the woman go into the men's room just seconds after my hubby entered through the door!! This woman tried to tell him that she wanted him...but he yelled at her to get out. She was fuming when she got back and then she glared at me until we left the place. I don't like to get into a scuffle and I try to hold the peace...but for a second I wanted to kick her butt for making a play towards him. I Thank God that he is very faithful to me!! I hope that your guy is the same way to you.
Needless to say we never go out to a bar anymore....instead we celebrate my birthday at home with people we know and can trust. Please forgive me of my long post, but after reading your question sparked a nerve on women who either spread rumors to get what they want or go for married men to get them to cheat on their wives!! I absolutely can't stand them at all!
I hope for your sake she stops doing that to you!! You certainly don't deserve this child-woman coming between your bf and you. She should mind her own business!!!!!
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reader, Lily Moll +, writes (24 January 2008):
The only one who really matters is your boyfriend, right? The people who believe this girl aren't your real friends anyway. And yes, she's being petty and manipulative, and in light of the age difference, she's rather pathetic. Probably she's jealous of you. It's understandable that you're furious, but there's not much you can do.. not much that would be constructive, anyway. She'll get hers. I wouldn't confront her, but laughing at her, or even pitying her, sounds about right.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 January 2008):
 As long as your b/f believes you are innocent, thats all it matters.You cannot stop all those rumors. Just ignore them and do not confront her for she will reap what she sowed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
I would let this go right over my head love, You no what went on thats all that matters I never worry about other peoples gossip its just words it means nothing if you hold the truth TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, rcn +, writes (23 January 2008):
 I wouldn't worry about her. She'll find it doesn't bother you, then quit. People can't bug someone they can't bug.
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