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We've tried everything we can think of, but I just can't get pregnant!
Q. hi guys , i have been married for 2 years and trying to concieve for 1 year and half but no luck . we have tried different positions . but i want to know whats the best position for getting pregnant ? and can i still get pregnant if i'm on top or...
A. 28 June 2009: I think yall should keep trying. Give it sometime and quit stressing about it so much if in a year or so there is still no luck then maybe start thinking about it. Thats what i would do anyway.... (read in full...)
I am really regretting this "open marriage" arrangement!
Q. I'm not sure how to begin. Several years ago, my wife and I agreed to an open-marriage. I'm not happy with it at all and feel neglected, and to be honest, I feel less of a husband. She knows how I feel and even has tried to stop several times, ...
A. 24 June 2009: It's understandable why you agreed to it, seeing that it was something she really wanted. You can't change her, and if she's determined enough she will never stop. So the only question left is do you want to stick around and be miserable or do you ... (read in full...)
What do women really want when they ask for space?
Q. I wanted to find out what to do as I have been dating a seperated woman for about 1 year and 8 months. She had been seperated for about a year and a half when I met her and she had only been out on 2-3 dates before me. Right away we hit it off and I ...
A. 23 June 2009: Well no one can really say what her reasons really are except for her. There is only one way to find out, that would be to ask. Women say they want space for a variety of reasons. It could be to call it off in a "sweet way" it could be she is simply ... (read in full...)
What do I do with this pain?
Q. my heart is a mesh and my soul is darkenned. Many times I feel hopeless in this world. I have a child who is the only one that keeps me going. But the light that my child gives me is easily tarnished by his father. A man who abandoned my child and ...
A. 23 June 2009: There are no dead ends. Listen, he thinks he's calling all the shots, and that he has all the power. As long as YOU believe he's in control, he will be. Much of life is a mind game, what you believe to be truth you make it your reality. So if you ... (read in full...)
How soon can I take a home pregnancy test?
Q. Ok quick question, me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex last weekend. Yes I no a big big mistake but nothing I can do about it now. Anyway, now of course I am freaked I may be pregnant! So what I want to know is how soon can I take a home ...
A. 23 June 2009: Thanks satin, so there can be false positives too... just rarely. Now I know :) I dont get offended when I'm corrected, I'm thankful that now I know and if someone asks I will be giving more accurate info. Thanks again!... (read in full...)
I like this guy but don't want to be made fun of because I like him!
Q. Ok...So this is a long dilemma that I have. Right so...I kissed this guy on a night out about 4 months ago. We were friendly, that is that we talked on nights out if we bumped into each other. Anyway that night (that we kissed) we had been flir...
A. 23 June 2009: Aw I've done something similar before, said I didnt like a guy that I did just because of my friends. Maybe word that you regretted kissing him got back to him and he's bummed out about it? I never did anything about my secret crush altho I wish I ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong/silly to end a great long term relationship to be alone?
Q. I am 28 years old and I have never been single. I adore my boyfriend but I often feel like I am missing out on the time alone to learn about myself that everyone else but me seems to have had. I can never seem to make decisions about anything, I am ...
A. 23 June 2009: You're right. Soul searching and "finding yourself" so to speak is a personal journey. If you've always had someone around your mind is focused on everyday life things as opposed to "who am I really?" and "what do I really want out of my life?" ... (read in full...)
Help! There MUST be a way to get him back! Suggestions?
Q. I was with my ex for 1.5 years, and along the way I met another guy. We started talking and to make a long story short, I dumped my ex for the new guy. I still loved my ex, but I was learning to letting him go.. but I was very much in love with my ...
A. 23 June 2009: Maybe try to not bother him. Give him his space, etc. You've already apologized and told him you miss him, so now the ball is in his court. If he asks you to come over dont go, let him miss you too. If you're at his doorstep everytime he says the ... (read in full...)
I introduced them and now they're texting one another, thing is I liked him first!
Q. Okay so I have this best guy friend whom I love like a brother and he knows everything about me and I feel super comfortable with him, the thing is I introduced him to my best chick friend about a year ago and now she gave him her number and she ...
A. 23 June 2009: Tell the boy you want to be with him! Or if you just like him and dont want to be with him then you really have no say in who he does or doesn't talk to. As far as them gossiping about you, thats something friends shouldnt do. Ask them both why they ... (read in full...)
How soon can I take a home pregnancy test?
Q. Ok quick question, me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex last weekend. Yes I no a big big mistake but nothing I can do about it now. Anyway, now of course I am freaked I may be pregnant! So what I want to know is how soon can I take a home ...
A. 23 June 2009: Some pregnancy tests claim u can take them 5 days before your missed period, so if you were supposed to start today you should be ok taking 1 today. Buy 2 or 3 to set your mind at ease. Remember there can be "false negatives" but not "false ... (read in full...)
What should I tell him to do when he's in the shower?
Q. my boyfriend wants me to text him things to do while hes in the shower to get him hard. i dont know wat to say. does anyone know wat i should tell him to do? he likes them really detailed!...
A. 22 June 2009: Tell him cell phones and water don't mix. :) ... (read in full...)
Any ideas what road I should take on this one?
Q. ok, so i quite like a girl in the year below (year 10) and im in (year11) .... shes really pretty ... but obviously its hard to get to talk to her as im off of school for study leave and my school is an hour and a half away so i cant really just pop ...
A. 22 June 2009: Talk to her more on msn! Chatting is a great way to have friendly conversation without worrying if you have something stuck in your teeth! :) Next time shes on instead of the usual hi how ya doin, then dead convo, keep it going... Like hey i just ... (read in full...)
How do you know if you should stay with a relationship if you're having doubts?
Q. I guess my question is this: How do you know if you should stay with a relationship if you're having doubts? I'm feeling really confused. Sometimes I get this feeling that I'm just with my boyfriend because it's comfortable. Sometimes I thin...
A. 22 June 2009: Why not sit him down and have a heart to heart? Tell him your concerns, your dreams, and how you really really feel. He will either realize that you mean business about having your own life that will make you happy and support you, or he will ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends brother is dating a maniac! Should I do something?
Q. My boyfriend has a brother named *Jack and he has a child with his ex fiancee who left him a little less than a year ago.. Jack started to see a girl recently named *Dianne. My first impression of Dianne was not a very good one, she never looked ...
A. 22 June 2009: Jack and Diane :) thats cute by the way lol.... Yes you have every right to be concerned, but your boyfriend is right, let Jack deal with it. If you start sticking your nose where it doesnt belong it will cause even more drama. The only thing you ... (read in full...)
Not sure, but I think I'm in love with a guy I've barely spoken to...!
Q. I've liked this guy for about 3-4 years. I think I'm in love. Yeah it sounds crazy. When I started liking him, I wasn't even looking for anyone. I thought oh, this will go away like other crushes I've had, but it hasn't. We've barely even spoken. He ...
A. 22 June 2009: I agree it's just an infatuation right now. You can't really love someone until you at least know who they are. I've been there though, dwelling over the last time you talked, making up scenarios like you should've said this, or you should've done ... (read in full...)
Married for 14 yrs, is it normal to have other women and men in our bedroom
Q. Dear cupid, I have been married for 14 yrs now and I am still very attracted to my husband. Before i met him i didn't care if i had sex or not. It was no big deal. After having sex with him, I realized what i was missing, Its been great ever ...
A. 19 June 2009: I think if you are both completely comfortable with it and its not causing jealousy or other marital issues then its not a big deal. There are a lot of swinger couples out there. It's just their preference. I know a couple who has three children and ... (read in full...)
Having trouble with my mom, not sure what to do
Q. Well i need a little advice.My mom is very Bi-Polar(not actually diagnosed).She is always upset about something or shes happy one minute then shes cursing and yelling another.For example:we have a bishon frise(puppy) and he is locked up all day ...
A. 19 June 2009: One thing you have to keep in mind is that your Mom is just a person, and she's doing the best she can with what she has. (I'm not trying to excuse her behaivor, I'm just saying keep that in mind) it's very difficult living in a home with an ... (read in full...)
Is there a good chance she will turn around and want me back?
Q. Ok so I was dating this girl for like 2 weeks, she had a bad relationship in the past I mean the guy hit her and cheated on her all the time. But anyways we really did fall in love with each other in that short time frame and get along so good as if ...
A. 19 June 2009: Well there is always the chance that she's not really into you. Another possibility could still be stemming from her last relationship. Abuse damages a persons self-esteem and self worth and maybe she seriously thinks she's not good enough for you! ... (read in full...)
Taking birth control pills, but worried I'll still get pregnant if he doesn't wear a condom
Q. Okay so, my boyfriend is coming over tomorrow. He and I used to foreplay and sometimes have sex but it all stopped a few months ago when I got on birth control pills. I don't know why but I Just was never in the mood. The thing is, I've been ...
A. 18 June 2009: I don't know what state you live in but there are no age limits on condoms! If you want him to wear one he better wear one or refuse to have sex with him. (Some stores keep them behind the counter because condoms are stolen often but you can buy ... (read in full...)
He never includes me in any family functions, what should I do?
Q. what is the best way to deal with the following problem: I have been dating a man for a long time and for the past year his kids never include me in any family functions or eating out. they just don't like me because i am with their father and ...
A. 18 June 2009: I would say the only thing you can do is wait and be understanding. I'm sure the kids have resentment for whatever reason, but don't take it personally. They are angry with the situation not with you. Really just be patient, talk with your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I kissed another guy when I thought we weren't official?
Q. I have just started seeing this guy for just about a month, we weren't official and the other week I kissed a guy. didn't enjoy it as thinking shouldn't do this as seeing other guy. Had discussion with the person I'm seeing and we said we are now ...
A. 18 June 2009: Well if you two didnt officially decide to be official until after that kiss then you dont technically HAVE to tell him. BUT if it bothers you so much you do need to tell him, so you can get it off your chest. You wouldnt want that guilt to build ... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can make my period come early?
Q. i still havn't come on my period yet and im due soon but problem is on the 26th imgoing away for my big walk which is over 3 days with school. it would be the worse thing if i came on for it. does anyone know any ways of making it come early? ...
A. 18 June 2009: Nope. Sorry, but it always seems to come at the worse times possible. Although it would be nice if we could control when it came! I know tremendous amounts of physical activities can delay it and so can stress... But that doesnt mean you should go ... (read in full...)
He feels different down there...where's his other ball?
Q. Okay so this is a weird one, hang in there with me... I just started seeing this great guy a few weeks ago, he's such a sweet and goofy guy, I feel really comfortable with him (not to mention he's smoking hot). Well we were cuddling and mes...
A. 18 June 2009: Yeah it's definately not that big of a deal, I also have a cousin with only 1 testicle. He's married and was told by a doctor that he probably couldnt have kids... But guess what! One on the way lol... It's different but he's not the only one in the ... (read in full...)
Why do I get embarrassed talkiing about my boyfriend?
Q. Hi - to anyone who feels the same... I love my boyfriend to bits - when we are alone or around people that I trust I can talk about him freely. However, whenever I am around workmates or certain people I know, I "freak out" incase they might as...
A. 18 June 2009: Maybe your just afraid of all the stereotypes of artists. Like "what would an artist be without a girlfriend? Homeless" and etc I know, I was with a musician for years. They are not the richest in the world (unless they hit it big) but they are ... (read in full...)
I'd like some personal experiences of going into labour!
Q. Hey guys!~ I'm about to have a baby! she's almost here.. two weeks until the due date. I was looking online for signs that you'll go into labour soon and i found only the basic contractions, water breaking stuff. But what I'm really looking f...
A. 18 June 2009: Hm I didn't really have any signs or feelings the days or weeks before. Just one night I was up late watching a movie and started having minor pains, the movie was good so I ignored them but they kept getting more intense and more often... but I was ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a guy to use a strap-on dildo on his wife?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 11 years. We have 2 kids. Sex is wonderful, when we have it, 1 to 2 times a week-work, kids, busy schedule. My question to both men and women, my wife has hinted at the use of sex toys. Apparently she has been ...
A. 18 June 2009: I think it's definately normal! You dont know how lucky you are to have a wife that loves you and is comfortable enough with you to share her fantasies. You say it gets you going, and it obviously gets her going then why not give it a go? If you ... (read in full...)
My parents give me no freedom
Q. Okay so Im 15. I'll be 16 in less than 3 months and I have no freedom. My parents will not let me go out with friends unless they're there. I have a bf that only my mom knows about cause my dad would kill him and she doesn't want him to know. So now ...
A. 18 June 2009: Start slow maybe. Like with an hour or so and go with the girlfriends only at first. "Can I go to the mall with Lindsey for just an hour, you can drop me off and pick me up." Once they see that you are trustworthy they will slowly ease up. BUT you ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know about clinics, exams, costs ect?
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster is NOT 26, but a teen Hi! I'm a teen. And I would like to go to my Health Care Center and ask about getting the birth control shot (Depo-Provera). I need it really cheap since I can't use my parents insurance. Does anyone k...
A. 18 June 2009: Well in the town I live in we have a women's health clinic that provides these things for free to teens, or based on your income. Doctors offices have to keep confidentiality so they wont run off and tell your parents (if your worried about that) ... (read in full...)
I don't let my husband see my breasts because they are too small!
Q. Me and my husband been married for about a month now. We're very happy together but I never let him see my breasts cause I think they'll too small (A cups) and I don't think I ever want him see them. My husband begs me to let see them in dark and Im ...
A. 18 June 2009: Well im sure by seeing you with a shirt ON he knows your no Pamela Anderson, if it was a huge deal to him he wouldnt have married you. Obviously it's not something that bothers him the way it bothers you. I know letting someone see you completely ... (read in full...)
I have a tickling fetish!
Q. Okay, I'm young, but I've always known what I like. I have a tickling fetish, and I prefer to be the 'ler and not the 'lee. So I kind of have two questions here. First, is it even remotely normal? I've always felt kind of freaked out by it. Like, it...
A. 18 June 2009: I've never heard of a tickling fetish but I dont think it's so bad! (There are some really disturbing fettishes out there lol) I'm sure your fiancee wont see this as any huge deal, he might not really get it at first or who knows he might have a ... (read in full...)
I have sex with girls but think I like guys more
Q. I am a young man. I like girls i yave sex with them and its good but i think i'm interested in boys more. i look up boys (their hips,penis) much more than girls. I live in a very conservative country so don't know what to do? There is a question in ...
A. 18 June 2009: If you like both girls and guys your bi. If girls dont really appeal to you, you just have been with them because its what most people say is "normal" but guys really appeal to you, then you're gay. There's nothing wrong with either of them. If guys ... (read in full...)
I want a girl to be a best friend before I fall in love
Q. Okay, well I'm a 17 year old male, going into my senior year next year. I've completely fallen for my best friend, who's an 18 year old girl who will be going off to college next fall. I've come to terms with the fact she doesn't love me the same...
A. 18 June 2009: Why not try casual dates? Like lunches or going for coffee. These situations are less demanding romantically that an evening dinner date out at a fancy resturaunt. That way you dress casually and get to know the girl on more of a friend basis, while ... (read in full...)
How should I ask her out? She doesn't know I'm bi.
Q. i want to have a relationship with my friend but she doesnt know im bi. how should i ask her out? (shes gay)...
A. 18 June 2009: Well if she's gay and you are bi and yall are friends, then just come out and ask. Or maybe be cautious about it and ask if she's attracted to you, if she likes you, or something like that, and if it seems she does... tell her what you've been ... (read in full...)
He hid his profile on the dating site?
Q. I’m on a dating site and recently I emailed a guy who I liked the sound of. He responded and we’ve been emailing ever since. After our first email exchange he hid his profile. I can still email him but his profile isn’t visible to anyone else o...
A. 18 June 2009: I'm not a man lol but it's possible he doesn't want to be juggling women. Maybe he likes the sound of you too so he's seeing what will happen there, without the distraction of other women messaging him too. Or maybe the timing is just a coincedence. ... (read in full...)
What can I do to stop the rumours? I really can't deal with this anymore.
Q. there has recently been a romour spread about me at school that i have been sleeping with a class teacher in his class room *i haven't* its making me feel really bad at school because this is not the only romour that has been spread about me it has ...
A. 18 June 2009: I never personally had to deal with this. My kids' aunt just graduated and she had the same prob. She moved a year to go live with her mom and when she came back there were rumours she had a baby and thats why she left. All kinds of rumors that she ... (read in full...)
Do you think there was no interest ever on his part... or was he interested but our age difference bothered him?
Q. There's this guy that I really liked..we go to the same college, and from my intuition I thought he seemed pretty interested, he would stare at me a lot, look away smiling, we bumped into each other and he ran ahead to open the door for me, I think ...
A. 18 June 2009: Well if he's 17 and you're 25 that's illegal in most states. Maybe because of this he is intimidated. What's a 17 year old really have to offer to an adult anyway? That's just my opinion. ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I'm in a loveless void... how can I find love?
Q. I am a hard working person in a loveless void, I would love to have advice on how to find a girlfriend, but it just does not happen. I see people every day hanging out with their lovers and it makes me so sad, because I know I probably will never ...
A. 18 June 2009: First of all, don't say "never" You are young and have your whole life ahead of you to find someone. I was shy in highschool and never had any boyfriends. I thought I would never find someone interested in me! But I did, they come and go. Finding ... (read in full...)
He said choose me or your best friend! I can't bare losing either of them
Q. hi. ive just turned 16 last week and ive been giong out with my boyfriend for over 6 months now i love him so much. he means so much to me but now hes been arguing with my best friend and he says he wants nothing more to do with her and he said ...
A. 17 June 2009: If he loved you the way a real man is supposed to love you, he wouldnt make you make that kind of choice. Choose the best friend. Let him go, it will be hard, but you will find someone one day who loves you enough to care about your feelings. This ... (read in full...)
How can I get that cheerful girl back?
Q. please bear with me and read this people.. i need as many opinions as possible.... i dumped my gf cuz i didnt love her... i deeply care for her though... she has become devastated... lost faith in relationships and has become extremely low esteemed ...
A. 17 June 2009: She is devastated, but don't take all that guilt on yourself. You would've been miserable being with someone you don't love anymore. Give her space even if she refuses, if the only time she is happy is when you two hang out it just means she really ... (read in full...)
He never wants sex anymore now that I'm pregnant!
Q. ok well.. im 6 months pregnant, been going with my boyfriend for a year and a half and our relationship is great hes really excited about the new arrival, hes loving caring and affectionate towards me, he tells me how much he loves me all the time...
A. 17 June 2009: Maybe he is just afraid that sex isnt safe while your pregnant. But it is! Look up articles on the net about it and print them out so he will know for sure that he's not going to hurt the baby. Maybe he's just uncomfortable with the idea that there ... (read in full...)
We've tried everything we can think of, but I just can't get pregnant!
Q. hi guys , i have been married for 2 years and trying to concieve for 1 year and half but no luck . we have tried different positions . but i want to know whats the best position for getting pregnant ? and can i still get pregnant if i'm on top or...
A. 17 June 2009: Well I know there are a lot of myths about positions determining the sex of the baby and what not but I'm pretty sure the chance of getting pregnant is possible with any position as long as the sperm meets the egg! Afterwards try laying on your back ... (read in full...)
Does he have me wrapped around his little finger?
Q. okay well im 15 years old and just left school after my gcse's which is why im slightly worried about things that could happen over the summer :/ a boy in my year whos 16 has like me for longer than a year now and we were always texting and chat...
A. 17 June 2009: Totally sounds like a booty call to me as well. Don't have sex with him for a while and see if he talks to you anymore, if he doesnt then you know. It happens and it sucks but you just have to keep your head up and move on. It may not seem like it ... (read in full...)
I want a girl to be a best friend before I fall in love
Q. Okay, well I'm a 17 year old male, going into my senior year next year. I've completely fallen for my best friend, who's an 18 year old girl who will be going off to college next fall. I've come to terms with the fact she doesn't love me the same...
A. 17 June 2009: Honey, that's what everyone is looking for. Someone you spend the rest of your life with should be your best friend AND your lover and everything else in between. It's a tough search but if you stop comparing these girls to the other girl you will ... (read in full...)
Is there a good chance she will turn around and want me back?
Q. Ok so I was dating this girl for like 2 weeks, she had a bad relationship in the past I mean the guy hit her and cheated on her all the time. But anyways we really did fall in love with each other in that short time frame and get along so good as if ...
A. 17 June 2009: As a girl out of an abusive relationship I can understand her actions. I dont know her situation but for a while after that abusive relationship I was still afraid of my ex. Afraid of what he would do to me, or to my new guy ... So i didnt date at ... (read in full...)
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