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Do you think there was no interest ever on his part... or was he interested but our age difference bothered him?

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Question - (17 June 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 18 June 2009)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

There's this guy that I really liked..we go to the same college, and from my intuition I thought he seemed pretty interested, he would stare at me a lot, look away smiling, we bumped into each other and he ran ahead to open the door for me, I think he tried coming to me to say hi, but got scared, and I'm pretty sure all of his friends know that I like him, there were lots of times where his friends would all stare at me the same time and smile...one time he tried to make me jealous by flirting with one of his friends, I just left and the next day i just ignored him completely and he kept staring at me maybe to get my attention and he looked kind of miserable after I was ignoring him then he never did it again....then after awhile I think he asked one of my not so close friend about me and found out that I'm older than him, then he was kinda still showing interest like on and off.

Its the end of the school quarter so I just started talking to him recently, and it doesn't seem he's interested, I just ask him stuff and then he just answers me, I asked him if it would be weird to hangout and he said it would be kind of weird because he doesn't really know me (he kept mentioning that because he doesn't really know me), then later I asked for his msn msger and he gave it to me, but I don't know if he gave it to me just to be nice...so I'm really confused because I thought he really liked me but was too shy to come talk to me, does it sound like he actually didn't ever like me, or could it really be the age difference that bothers him? we're 8 years apart but we look the same age, I would have never guessed he would be 17, he looks really old for his age..

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009):

It sounds like a dead ended situation. It sounds like he is intimidated by you or maybe he is just not interested in relationship. Either way, he hasn't done anything except give you the occasional smile or flirtatious gesture. If he really wanted to go out with you he would be actively trying to get to know you better. He would have exchanged phone numbers with you, suggested times together etc.

This guy is a waste of your time. Move on, you can do much better!

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A female reader, pinktopaz United States +, writes (18 June 2009):

So you're 25 and interested in dating a 17 year old? I really hope not. I'm the same age as you and that would never fly with me, regardless of how old he looks. I think this should totally be flipped around and you should be the one that's turned off my his age, not vice versa. I doubt that's his reasoning, maybe it is. But honestly, you really shouldn't care. He's a boy! Guys that are pushing 30 don't even have their act together most of the time!

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A female reader, laura585 United States +, writes (18 June 2009):

Well if he's 17 and you're 25 that's illegal in most states. Maybe because of this he is intimidated. What's a 17 year old really have to offer to an adult anyway? That's just my opinion.

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