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2 June 2015: I was brought up by my happily married parents. Although my Dad is more awkward, my mum has always been pretty candid about sex. There was no big "talk" when I turned thirteen. More simply, as a child I was always able to ask whatever I wante...
Teenagers and sex--the stress is almost unbearable!
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26 May 2011: I have some thoughts I’d like to share with you guys about the sexual pressure young people are under. I appreciate that I’m only speaking for myself, and most of my points will be drawn from my personal experience, but any opinions and feedback ...
Let's Define ":Love" and Having a "Crush"!
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5 August 2009: I am writing this article because I think that the term "love" is fast becoming meaningless. The word gets thrown around by so many people, teenagers in particular, and crushes are being labelled as Love, and are therefore getting blown way out of ...
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I can't sleep or breath without her!
Q. I dont really know how to go about this, but I'm going to try and explain. This will sound cheesy and overused, but I'm madly and hopelessly in love with my teacher. It's been almost a year now and I can't see anything improving. I hate the use o...
A. 22 August 2009: Aww, that's great news! I'm honestly happy/glad for you. Thanks for the update :-) xxx... (read in full...)
What DearCupid means to me
Q. I wanted to take the time to say a bit about how Dear Cupid has had a positive impact on my life. Well, I first joined this site in April. I had some free time on my hands, as I had to give up my demanding college course so I could focus on r...
A. 6 August 2009: i agree with all the other posts - wow thank you for that, I found it really touching and moving. In my opinion you are one of the best aunts on here; I know you've certainly helped me a lot, but so many others too. I think to have helped that ... (read in full...)
I can't sleep or breath without her!
Q. I dont really know how to go about this, but I'm going to try and explain. This will sound cheesy and overused, but I'm madly and hopelessly in love with my teacher. It's been almost a year now and I can't see anything improving. I hate the use o...
A. 12 July 2009: hi, my heart honestly goes out to you on reading your post, i understand what you mean as I am going through a similar thing, though yours seems worse tbh. i appreciate how much you feel for this woman, and identify with so much that you've describe... (read in full...)
I'm hot, so why doesn't anyone like me?
Q. hey ! right well i just dont get it i mean i havent had one boyfrind in my whole life and i am 15! when i tell people that i havent had one boyfreind and i havent even kissed a boy they are realy shocked! becouse they say i am stunning! ...
A. 8 July 2009: hey x
dont worry, you just haven't found the right person yet and thats ok. and there are probably loads of guys that like you, but are just too shy to ask you out. Most of them probably find your confidence intimidating.... (read in full...)
He says he loves me. Is he waiting for me to ask the question?
Q. I have told this guy i fancy him and he said he fancy's me too.. but nothing is happening! We have been talking to each other for months and he says he loves me. I think he may be waiting for me to ask the question?! I don't know what to do :S ...
A. 6 July 2009: He probably is either waiting for you to ask, or just doesnt feel its necessary to "officially" ask you out seeing as you've both already declared it. If i were you, I'd just ask him and put your mind at rest. it's not like he's going to say no if ... (read in full...)
I just want opinions....I'm in love with my teacher
Q. Ok. Quickly summed up. I am a 14 year old student and I have fallen in Love with a teacher at my school. He doesn't teach me for anything because he teaches Spanish and I do French. Although I go to badminton after school and he does that. ...
A. 4 July 2009: hiya, it's ok, you're not silly or wrong for loving him. loads of people go through something similar including me, though everyone's situation is different :) I appreciate your feelings are strong and real, but Iwouldn't advise telling him. you... (read in full...)
I'm trying to be friends with him first but I really fancy him
Q. There's this boy in my form I really fancy. Aparently, he used to have a massive crush on me too. Unfortunately, I don't know if he still feels the same way. I'd ask him out if I had the confidence. He's not quite good-looking or anything, but he's ...
A. 4 July 2009: hey erin :)
well if you're not confident enough to just ask outright, maybe you could find out how he feels first - either by..
the same way you heard it the first time? or
just taking note of how he acts around you. Does he act the same way as ... (read in full...)
At my sleepover my friends trashed me as soon as I was out of the room and then left in the middle of the night!
Q. I've known for a while that something hasn't been right with me and my friends, but I thought it was something small that we could sort out. But then at my sleepover for my birthday I went upstairs and as soon as I had they started bitching really ...
A. 22 June 2009: hiya, omg how horrible! "friends"? Don't blame yourself, the other replies are so right. But in answer to your new question, I don't think you should actually blank them if they try and talk to them - it will possibly just make them go all whispery ... (read in full...)
Desperate! How do I get over my teacher?
Q. I have loved my english teacher for ages; though there is a fourteen year age gap between us so I know nothing will happen. I know teacher crushes are common, and the best thing to do is either get over it, or just enjoy it but keep it quiet. My tea...
A. 16 June 2009: hiya, thank you so much for your answers, they were all really helpful and kind xxx
Before I give an update etc can I just clarify .... although of course I have a really (really REALLY) biased viewpoint of him, I am well aware that he's not perf... (read in full...)
I love my teacher who now lives on the other side of the world, what do I do?
Q. Hey there, I'm 15 years of age and I'm in year 10, just for your information. Before I mustered the courage to research teacher and student relationships, I had no idea how common it was for a student to fall for a teacher and vice versa. I ...
A. 26 April 2009: hey :)
i am in a similar situation to you in that i also love my teacher - i was surprised at how common it is too! But reading your question I feel really bad for you 'cause I don't know what I'd do if my teacher moved away!!
Ok, so he might co... (read in full...)
I am confused, depressed, frustrated, devastated, sick of my life! What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone! I'm 15 but I got the problems of an old woman with 10 children. I wanna ask you for help to solve at least some of these problems. 1- I love a boy and we go to the same school but we never talked before and we don't know each ...
A. 19 April 2009: Hey :) woah, i felt honestly bad for you reading your letter. I hope this will help and things will work out soon xx I've tried to answer most of the problems that I could! lol xxxx 1 - You're both shy, and you both like each other. Be brave! T... (read in full...)
What is up with my crush? What should I do?
Q. I've liked a guy for 26 months. In the 9th grade I had quite a few classes with him. We frequently made small verbal contact: he would ask for a pen, I would say hi, etc. He gradually became more receptive, I caught him staring at me and HE said...
A. 19 April 2009: Hey :) Hmm, that sounds like a kind of confusing and awkward situation. Hopefully this will help and it will work out soon! xx Ok, this guy is probably as confused as you are!! The level of conversation you have had with him has changed a lot; h... (read in full...)
Stress is really taking a toll on me..should I talk to my teacher?
Q. I am 15 years old and I have really been finding the past few terms at school difficult. I have a lot of stress from exams and courcework (who doesn't!!) and I have a friend who is currently very ill at the moment. I have tried to do everything I ...
A. 18 April 2009: hey :)
definately, you should talk to this teacher...especially if you can't talk to your parents (why not?)
Here you have someone who is aware that you are under pressure and is available to talk to. Make the most of it.
About your phone calls,... (read in full...)
Ladies: Turn ons & turn offs
Q. Ladies let's help our DC brothers out! We sometimes have sincere and genuine questions about what women think. Post here your number one turn-on and number one turn-off you have about a man. If yours is already mentioned, go to your next one. ...
A. 17 April 2009: Turn on: smiles a lot, always in a good mood :)
Turn off: arrogence... (read in full...)
I just want to feel beautiful and I don't!
Q. Please don't call me shallow or vain. I feel very ugly and unattractive. The problem is I was never told I was beautiful, I was even teased because I was ugly! One guy eve told me to get plastic surgery once! This was back when I was in school. I ...
A. 17 April 2009: Hey :)
Aww, my heart honestly goes out to you on reading this, 'cause I can feel your hurt and I completely get where you're coming from.
Although it's hard because you are surrounded by girls who you say are more beautiful than you, you need to ... (read in full...)
Will it work out if he does like me?
Q. Im a 13 year old girl who is unconditionally and irrevocably in love with a teacher (24 yrs.).He is so fine!!!!!!! His blue eyes hypnotize me. He doesn't teach one class. He fills in a class when a teacher is out and when a teacher leaves for a long ...
A. 15 April 2009: hey :) lol i love my teacher too, except he hasn't shown me any preferance unlike yours :( I know this is not what you want to hear, but even if he DOES like you back (and you don't know that for certain) then it is still illegal if anything happ... (read in full...)
I don't like messing about in class. Am I strange?
Q. I am 15 years old and i guess girls find me weird becasue i am so shy, I heard that is one of the biggest turn offs for women. ok I'm in class right and their are these boys and these girls who piss me off so much. One of the girls happens to be the ...
A. 14 April 2009: Hey :) Aww, no you're not weird! You're just more mature than the others, and that's no bad thing. A lot of girls like shy guys anyway. It isn't a turn-off unless you start talking to them in these lessons as if they're pathetic and below you etc,... (read in full...)
I'll do anything to get him back
Q. i am 14 and there is this kid a year older then me and we use to txt alot and flirt non stop. then he asked me to hug him the next day at school so i said yeah...but before we hugged he txtd and said im gonna ask u a question after we hug (ask me ...
A. 10 April 2009: Hi :) ok, this is going to sound like the crappiest advice EVER because you really like this guy, but come on!! He had a fight with you and called you bad names just because you didn't want to go round his??? And as for the dirty picture!... (read in full...)
My friend is annoying me so much at the moment, how do I deal with her?
Q. I've been going out with this guy for 3 months and things are great between us and it was my best friend *Hannah who got us together in the first place cause she knew I liked him and wouldn't say anything to him about it so she told him and it ...
A. 10 April 2009: Hi :) its always awkward when your friends change for the worst, I understand how annoying and difficult it must be for you. Hopefully this will help a bit! :D
I have a theory: I think that before you and your boyfriend started going out/at the begi... (read in full...)
Happy Easter!
Q. I thought instead of posting a question on [troubled] relationship [issues], I thought I'd post something more upbeat ;-) So, I just wanted to post a short note to say "Happy Easter" this long weekend (Good Friday, Easter Monday/Bank Holi...
A. 10 April 2009: Aww, thanks for that - great message! :D Yeah, happy easter to you too and everyone who reads this! :D xxxx... (read in full...)
Confused & friends teasing me about this guy
Q. I really like this guy but he's a year younger than me. I dont have a problem with it and i know i shouldnt listen to other people but my friends have been taking the mick. i would really like to have a relationship with him but i'm nervous about it...
A. 8 April 2009: hey :)
i totally agree with the other senders...dont just not get involved with this guy just cause your friends are taking the piss. Anyway, one year isn't an awful age gap to be honest.
Being happy with this guy is well worth a few comments... (read in full...)
Unrequited love - what to do?
Q. Well, how to start... I've fallen in love with this one guy (we'll refer to him as Joe). Now, Joe (to me) is perfect. He's an amazing musician, he's funny, and he's extremely intelligent. I'm one of those people who is quiet, shy, overweight and ...
A. 8 April 2009: hi :) aww i can genuinely empathize with your situation; poor you! Firstly, don't let this knock your confidence. You have already put yourself down a lot in your question, and please remember that you're a good, unique person (and just as good as ... (read in full...)
Students falling in love with teachers whats your opinion?
Q. Students look up to teachers because they're smart. They are mature. They're possibly good looking. They've had interesting lives. All the things all people look for in a character. But students can't do anything about it So their own passion...
A. 8 April 2009: hey, great article! :) I can totally relate to how you've described it, as I'm going through it now as well. I don't think it's wrong, unless the teacher shows he returns the feelings by physical affection towards the student, as this is illegal.... (read in full...)
I am in love with my english teacher.
Q. I am in love with my english teacher. There is a fourteen year age gap between us, so I know honestly that nothing can ever happen. I've felt like this for so long, and sometimes I just want to get over it, but othertimes it feels like I don't want...
A. 8 April 2009: Hey :) its me the original poster Thank you for your answers, i am aiming to try and take some of the advice from each. Obviously, this isn’t a problem where I can tell you a few days later how it solved. I know it’ll probably take ages to get over... (read in full...)
I have a huge crush on my teacher - but will not act on it
Q. I have a huge crush on my teacher. It's completely harmless and I would never act on it, but honestly, he is exactly what I think a compatible partner should be. Most guys i meet are superficial, or lack hamor and morals. They are not very smart o...
A. 7 April 2009: hey :) lol i am in a pretty much identical situation to you. i love my english teacher and he seems so perfect for me, but i will never act on it, 'cause i know it will all be ruined and i'd lose the (little) that is already between us. Good luck... (read in full...)
Should I tell him that what he said upset me or should I just carry on like normal?
Q. Earlier on today me and my boyfriend were speaking on msn when I went to get dinner and he usually puts "I love you, so, so much :D xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx" but instead he just put "kk, talk ltr xxxx" - I know I might be overreacting but I was ...
A. 7 April 2009: Hi :)
i really wouldn't worry about it. I don't think it's a sign he's going off you or anything. He probably has no idea that it bothers you. Especially since there've been no other signs, I would just forget it.
You obviously love him a lot, and... (read in full...)
Normal to be jealous or am I paranoid? This guy flirts a lot ...
Q. I'm jealous of this situation - am I being unreasonable? How do I deal with it? I'm at college and I like a guy in my class who's a good friend. We're in a drama group and there is another girl who is pretty who he flirts with - touching her tit...
A. 7 April 2009: hi :) well, sorry to be blunt, but of course it's normal to be jealous!! Anyone would be in that situation. this girl is being really dishonest, but I don't think you should worry about that. If her cheating comes back to her later, it's not your... (read in full...)
No one seems to think what I have to say is important!
Q. When ever i have something to say or a story to tell i get people speaking over me. It has happened for a long time now my friends and family both do it. Ill be saying something and then the people i am speaking to will just start talking about ...
A. 7 April 2009: Hi :) Well obviously, the first thing you need to do is make sure they're aware of what they're doing. By the sound of it, you've tried but have got a very negative response. So, you have to let them know that it bothers you. If these people are y... (read in full...)
My teacher who I fancy
Q. so i fancy my teacher. he is older than me by quite a margin. i am confused and dont know what to do. he found out i fancied him on a school trip abroud last year from my friends. he smiles at me in the corridors now. he also now notices me more. ...
A. 7 April 2009: Hi again Oh right, so he's got a family ... well, to be honest, I can understand you feeling guilty, but I think he should feel worse: after all, he's the adult, and it's his family. From your stories about your conversations, (although I can't fa... (read in full...)
My teacher who I fancy
Q. so i fancy my teacher. he is older than me by quite a margin. i am confused and dont know what to do. he found out i fancied him on a school trip abroud last year from my friends. he smiles at me in the corridors now. he also now notices me more. ...
A. 7 April 2009: Hi :) Well, obviously your feelings are totally understandable, especially with all those slightly flirty conversations you've had. It certainly sounds like he likes you back! However, please please don't cling to this or trust that view complete... (read in full...)
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