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writes:I'd love to hear from a guy who has turned from being gay to straight. I think that might be happening to me and its driving me absolutely insane. Can it really happen? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2008): Dear Readers,
It is truly beautifull to read all your comments and responses to this very cricial question "is it possible to go from being gay to straight".
I am 27 years old, male, and I untill today cannot figure out what has happened to me. Love, intimacy, sexual orientation....all human notions that are as complex as their holders.
I was inlove with a woman in college, that I truly loved and was attracted too. I was with her for 3 years, and ended up proposing to her. But I couldn't follow through the marriage. I had gay urges, fantacies, attractions to the same sex. And so I told her and ended up loosing her.
In answer to your question, I would say this: if you know you are gay, don't try to change it. And vice versa. Because the attempt and success might be much more hurfull then you can imagine. Today, I find myself attracted to men but I am toally unsatisfied. Because I still miss her in every possible way and would go back in time if I could.
If you find that person, don't let go of them; whatever sex they may be :)
goodluck to all
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): My partner of 14 years has just left me for a woman,i don't believe or understand it i think he is just curious and confused but he felt unhappy so left me to see if this is what he wants.
I love him more than life itself he say he still loves me and would do anything not to fell this way but he didnt want to stay together and make us both unhappy.
Due to the circumstances i still have hope we could get back together if it feels wrong to him.What i don't understand is what a girl 8 years younger than him who knew he was in a gay relationship would want with him.All my female friends say they wouldnt touch him with a barge pole if they were her.
To me its the excitement of the unknow not that he has changed to straight basically over night.
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reader, AMer  +, writes (7 November 2007):
This was my main issue and i can say loudly that i overcome this problem because i need that extreemly. DO THINK WHAT U NEED TO THINK , YOU WILL BE YOUR THOUGHTS.
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reader, martini  +, writes (26 October 2007):
 Ah no nevermind. August 2007. Heh, misread that as August 2006... [ahem] Right, yeah. I'll stop now. ^o^
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reader, martini +, writes (26 October 2007):
I have to point out that just because a lesbian or a gay man was homosexual for 25 years, and then met a person of the opposite gender, married him or her, it doesn't mean that the 'former' lesbian or gay man turned straight. It means that the lesbian or the gay man found a wonderful partner and is sticking with him or her.
Sexual orientation is a whole different matter from choosing a partner to spend your life with. A guy whom have been homosexual since birth, can very well meet a girl that he falls in love with and get married and have a family that way, but it doesn't mean he is now straight. It just means that his sexual preference is men, but found the love of his life in a woman, and with that love, he can easily and naturally make love to that woman and have offspring.
So with that said and out of the way, I just realized that this thread is super old. Congratulations Martini, you have just posted in a more than one year old thread. [applauds to myself and sighs]
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reader, gayguy16 +, writes (25 October 2007):
 if you are still relativly a teenager or you have just gawn into your 20's you could still not have relised your true sexuality,
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reader, peacedreamer  +, writes (19 August 2007):
Gay, straight, bi; who cares. It is the person you are with that matters. it is the people in your life that you become attracted to. If you were "gay" and now you are finding yourself attracted to women, maybe you were just experimenting your sexuality, maybe you were a late bloomer and that made you think you were gay, maybe you are bi, but maybe, just maybe, you see the person you are involved with and that is what leads you to your attractions. Too many labels in this society. My stepson is 17 and is yet to have a girlfriend, but he says he isn't gay. (and no, i didn't ask)...he says he is waiting for someone special. No harm no foul.
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reader, beautifultrustnlover +, writes (19 August 2007):
 well before i was married i had a one night stand with a man that was gay we were drunk and the next day he told me he has never been with a woman turning out a few weeks later he wasn't a virgin as i thought a close friend of mine who is gay said that was he's ex. bf and after that he went back to guys but called me saying i turned him stright we never were together again just close friends now and hes not gay at all doesnt even look at men any more also hes married has a daughter that is 4 now so anything can happen trust me anything can happen
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): I don't know anyone that has. I am gay and can't imagine that happening so can understand your insanity!
Maybe you're bi and didn't realise it, or maybe it'll pass!
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reader, jessekk69 +, writes (18 August 2007):
 one of my close friends was a lesbian for about 25 years of her life, she had many female partners and was never intrested in men. oneday she had a messy break up with her girlfriend, the 2months later found a bloke she really liked, and fell in love, 3 years on she happily married to this man, and expecting there second child any day now. so she changed from gay to straight! so it is possible xx
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS +, writes (18 August 2007):
 Not unless the guy has been really put off by being gay, which would then bring question to was he really gay in the first place. Its usually your 100% gay...or Bi. Ive never heard of any guy going from gay to straight, its usually from gay to Bi, because then they get the best of both worlds.
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