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She's teasing me about my penis

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Question - (28 November 2006) 10 Answers - (Newest, 14 December 2006)
A male United Kingdom, anonymous writes:

hi there

i am aged 19 and i have had sex for my 1st time just on thursday (23/11/06, but she wasnt a virgin and now shes teasin me about the length of my penis.... i have always have been worried about the size, and now im starting to feel self concious about myself.

any help would be much appriciated

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2006):

My girlfriend has had many partners over the years. She's very expereinced sexually and knows what she likes. A longer, uniform shaft with a large head. She said that "hits her in the right spot". I don't look like that, I'm rather short, maybe 4 inches erect, and so when we first had sex, she commented later that she couldn't really get into it with pelvic moves with my thrusting sense she thought I would slip out. The other day she mentioned she might get a dildo, but wanted to get one a little longer than me, "to make sure it hits her spot". I told her that hurts my feelings, and she said she was just teasing. But, she wouldn't tease me about that since she knows I'm already self-conscious about it. She was just speaking what she felt. I like her alot, and I'm not sure I'll be able to please her sexually. I made the mistake of telling her I was a little small before we started having sex.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

thanx alot to those that replied i have taken all the advice abord and i have now talkked to her and she appoligised as she didnt know i had insucurities with that subject

thanx alot

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A female reader, Aunt Charlene +, writes (29 November 2006):

Aunt Charlene agony aunthello

when people tease others it means they are suffering from insecurities and have to make themselves feel bigger by taking the piss, however this is definately not right, and i would suggest telling her that shes damaging your feelings, she may not even realise this! to her its a little joke but jokes are not intended to offend, and so because it is you must ask her to stop. if she doesnt, theres no point carrying on the relationship because why bother being in an unhappy relationship when there are plenty of people out there who do not need a boyfriend just to belittle them and make them feel superior over you ok?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006):

Make the best possible use of your tongue, and she won't care if you even have a penis.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006):

Don't worry sweetie, I'm sure your fine and if she's telling you you're small than she's being pretty shallow and mean. All women are different and prefer different sizes. I'm a petite girl and I prefer a smaller size. I lived with a guy for 3 years who's penis was no bigger than 5 inches long and pretty thin but it filled me up fine and we had great sex. After we broke up I moved back home and started getting serious with a guy who I've been friends with since HS and he has a monstrousity of a dick 6.5 inches long and 4.5 inches thick! Sex was not comfortable at all and we had to go back to a plutonic relationship. In other words, don't worry, there's always someone out there just right for you!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006):

Don't worry about it, unless it's too big or so small that a single pea is bigger, you don't have a problem. [ponders] Well, most women I have know around 4-11 to 5-7 prefer penises at 5 to 7 inches long.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006):

Ugh, man. Thats rough and I feel your pain here. I'm also, how should I put this, a "little" guy and I've gotten more than my fair share of teasing because of it(try growing up the oldest of four brothers and having all three younger brothers grow to be hung much bigger than you are!)

Nevertheless I hope she's only teasing you in private and not teasing you in front of others because that would be just plain wrong. Just tell her "whatever, I didn't choose to be this way, I was born this way and I'm proud of my body and everything I've got." I'm sure that she isn't "perfect" herself. I doubt she has the perfect face, breasts, butt, figure, legs, nose, etc. and she should leave your manhood alone.

As for sex, you'll learn to use what you've got. If you're short there are plenty of different positions that can make her "shorter" too or you seem bigger and provide a great sensation for the both of you. Do a lot of foreplay and don't be afraid to use your tongue and fingers down below, too. Clitoral stimulation is also a must in pleasing a woman, so locate it, and work it. There is much more to pleasing a woman than just using your penis. This is a must for all men, whether hung like a clydesdale or hung like a 5 year old.

Try not to sweat it, though. I'm sure your fine and perfectly normal. Don't let someone get you down about yourself.

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A female reader, jessekk69 United Kingdom +, writes (28 November 2006):

jessekk69 agony auntDont listen to the silly cow. and if she carrys it on just return with something like no im big enough your just to lose!!!!! hope this helps (feel the fear and do it anyway) xx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006):

shes an evil cow if shes doing that, shes trying to make u feel basicly like an idiot n that she is much more experienced than you... and i bet you any money shes not!!! i think you should tell her that its not funny what shes saying n if she really cares for you then she will stop, not that she shoule have said it in the first place!

dont worry, find someone who appriciates you for you and not the size of you member x

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A female reader, TornUp +, writes (28 November 2006):

Have you joked about your size before? As long as she keeps it between you two, I don't think it's anything to worry about. Have you talked to her about how it makes you feel? Try that...if she's really a great catch, she'll respect your wishes.

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