I can get past her cheating, but the cause for it is killing me...
Q. I understand this is a lot to read, but please do not answer if you do not read it. It took me quite a while to write down exactly how I feel and I would really like thoughtful answers. I do not believe that "once a cheater, always a cheater" ...
A. 25 April 2012: I hope you understand that no matter how long you wait, if you take her back, she'll believe that this kind of behavior is excusable. I know you love her, but she obviously doesn't love you. For one, she cheated on you (drunkness is not an excuse). ... (read in full...)
My jealousy of other women is going to ruin our relationship!
Q. Ok the first thing Im going to point out and admit is that Im very insecure. I dont need to be told this because I know, and need to work on it. My problem is my insecurities. I dont like my boyfriend looking at ANY other females. I found some pic...
A. 18 April 2012: I'm insecure as well, even though I know that I'm a very attractive female and that my husband adores me. No matter how gorgeous you are or how hot you are, there will always be women that you feel are more attractive than you. Even Jessica Alba ... (read in full...)
She has destroyed my life with her sexual past that I never knew about.. Just to marry her!!
Q. Ive been married 13 years, have 2 children. my wife has been very good to me all 13 years. but never thought in a 1,000,000 years this would happen to me.. I feel like my marriage was nothing but a fairytale. So this is what...
A. 4 April 2012: I was a virgin when I met my husband. He knew this, and while it wouldn't have ended our relationship if I wasn't a virgin when we began dating, it sure as Hell would end things now that we're married. As far as her lie goes, I think it was unf... (read in full...)
I'm becoming obsessed by my BF's ex and cyber-stalking her. Should I tell him and how do I stop?
Q. Hello, a little advice would be nice. My bf and I have been together for a year and a half, and I've been having this obsession with his ex for a quite a while now. I can't explain why I get this urge to know more and more about her, look at pictu...
A. 9 February 2012: Is it normal? Yes. Is it healthy? No. Take it from someone who's been through Hell and back obsessing over her partner's ex. DO NOT tell him about this, because then you will want to ask him questions about their relationship. Bad idea. Just block ... (read in full...)
He's back with his wife and I am finding it hard to cope, please help!
Q. This had been one of the hardest days of my life and i have finally realised that i meant absoloutely nothing at all to him. I have not spoken to my ex for a month, not including the text i got just over two weeks ago. My ex responded a mont...
A. 3 January 2012: Thank God this man cut all contact with you! It's obvious you wouldn't cut contact with him. He sounds psychotic! He tried to KILL his ex wife AND his kids! What more evidence do you need that he's got some serious issues? You're lucky he didn't do ... (read in full...)
I read my wife's journal and now I am tormented by it
Q. I have been with my wife for 9 years, married for 6. I was a virgin when we met. She told me she had been with three men. Considering her great beauty and how many men were after her I didn't think that was so bad, especially because she is three...
A. 20 December 2011: You mentioned here that you were not asked to sign the notebook, nor was another gentleman who she had had a long-term relationship with. Hmm... Ever think that maybe her life didn't consist of much outside of these encounters when they happened ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend cheated on me with another woman
Q. I'm a 21 year old guy about to graduate college. I found out my ex cheated on me with another girl and she claims that she was just curious, then she was begging for my forgiveness. I just ended up forgiving her, which was within the week of finding ...
A. 11 December 2011: Making out with a girl is no different than making out with a guy. It's being intimate with someone other than the person she promised to be faithful to. You need to decide not whether you're okay with her "experimenting with another girl", but ... (read in full...)
How can I bear this relationship when my boyfriend cheated on me 7 months ago?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 5 years. During our 5 years, he has kissed another girl while drinking. This happened a few months ago in May. The girl he kissed was his cousin's girlfriend. His cousin was very mean to her, and she alw...
A. 3 December 2011: People keep saying that you need to get over it, but the fact of the matter is - you don't. He hung out with a girl that was his COUSIN'S girlfriend - Mistake #1. He became an emotional crutch to his cousin's partner who treated her badly throughout ... (read in full...)
Does anyone regret having sex too young and not waiting until marriage?
Q. I'm just wondering had anyone regretting having sex too young, or not waiting till marriage as ive been in a steady relationship now for over a year and a half but havent had sex... me and my boyfriend are happy about this but im wondering about ...
A. 1 November 2011: I had a lot of friends who lost their virginities earlier on around age 15 or 16. One of my friends lost her virginity to a guy who had a long-term girlfriend. He then never spoke to her again. Another girl I knew lost her virginity to her ex who ... (read in full...)
I broke up with her when she demanded I propose, now she's emotionally blackmailing me!
Q. I've had a very turbulent relationship with my girlfriend of the last 2 years. We've been long distance for most of our relationship, and that's made things tougher. At the start, things were fantastic, we got along perfectly and we couldn't wait...
A. 31 October 2011: I know you still care for her, and you'd like to make sure she's doing okay, but contacting her at all would only open any wounds she still may have or you still may have. This kind of relationship and her co-dependence on YOU are best to be left ... (read in full...)
Gf lied and decieved me however has alot of underlying issues, should I stay?
Q. my gf and i have gone through a very rough patch recently when i found out she had been lying to me for months and texting and talking with another man along with sending semi nude photos to him and telling the man she loved him and he her. i am not ...
A. 31 October 2011: Hmm... I have major self-esteem issues. I'm currently on antidepressants, and I've suffered from every form of an eating disorder you can think of. Do you think I would EVER cheat on my husband? The one man who's loved me unconditionally from the ... (read in full...)
I broke up with her when she demanded I propose, now she's emotionally blackmailing me!
Q. I've had a very turbulent relationship with my girlfriend of the last 2 years. We've been long distance for most of our relationship, and that's made things tougher. At the start, things were fantastic, we got along perfectly and we couldn't wait...
A. 27 October 2011: DO NOT take her back and DO NOT stick around to help her. She does not need your help, she needs professional help that you can't give her. Threatening suicide and self-harm is a terrible way to trap someone. And that's all it is - a way to trap ... (read in full...)
She's an ex for a reason, but I still can't let go
Q. so my girlfriend left me a handful of months ago for another guy and devistated me. i tried my best to move on. well she got back into contact with me when she asked one night if i wanted to come over and visit with her son who was asking about...
A. 17 October 2011: You're not able to move on because you're not allowing yourself to. She began living with another guy soon after leaving you, the guy that she LEFT you for! You said that you've dated another girl who treats you like you would expect, but that you ... (read in full...)
They are 'taken' So Why do people see married men/women in the first place?
Q. Note: if you honestly didn't know he/she was with someone, i undertand completely. I have seen so many questions on here about people being broken hearted about their lovers leaving them and all I can think is, what did you expect? I keep t...
A. 16 October 2011: Truth is, until you experience something for yourself, you'll honestly never know. I suffered from an eating disorder for seven years. No matter how I explained it to people, no one ever understood how I could WANT to binge until my skin hurt and ... (read in full...)
What do the lyrics to this song mean?
Q. What is the real meaning behind the song "How to Hate" by Lil Wayne? Does it basically mean that love turned to hate and that the girl led him on or something? Does the scenario reflect reality? I would appreciate it if someone else can give a ...
A. 21 September 2011: It basically means that a guy was in love with a girl who was his friend and always went to him for comfort and advice. He would be a shoulder for her to cry on when she was hurting, and when he'd give her advice, she'd neglect it and make the same ... (read in full...)
Wife got drunk and molested in her sleep at a party. How to put back together the pieces?
Q. I trust my wife, and I truly believe her when she told me it was a mistake. My wife went to a party and drank. She felt too drunk to drive and didn't want to wake me and our child up to come get her. She texted me that she was staying the nigh...
A. 14 September 2011: "She felt obligated to reciprocate"...? So even though she claims she was molested, she somehow wants to "reciprocate" this molestation? Seriously..? I mean, c'mon. Seriously?... (read in full...)
Am I the only woman not threated by porn?
Q. I just read an article about porn here on DC so it made me interested to post a question. Am I the only woman who is not threatened by porn? I mean, I read a lot of questions here about it, of ladies breaking up with their boyfriends and w...
A. 24 August 2011: I'm definitely not threatened by porn in any form or fashion. I watch it myself, and although I do not watch it with my fiance, I'm not at all bothered that he watches it on his own. Women who freak out over porn have major security issues. Why else ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me, how can I stop being paranoid?
Q. Okay well me and my fiance have been together for a little over two years now. When we first started dating she cheated on me with one of my bestfriends and that went on for about a week and her excuse was she didnt think we had a serious ...
A. 21 August 2011: "yes I know she cheated me but when you look past that we do have a great relationship"
When you look past that, huh? Problem is, you can't look past that. And you shouldn't. This girl cheated on you and continues to mock you and your relation... (read in full...)
He spent more money on his ex than he does with me, did he love her more?
Q. did my partner spend more money on his ex because he loved her more? He was with her for a short time but furnished her house and paid her rent, got her a car and paid for her boob job. With me, he is not like that. ...
A. 17 August 2011: NO it doesn't mean he loved her more. It sounds like he didn't know how to connect with her in any other way than to give her what she wanted. And if he was with her for a short time, it must've meant he was insecure and felt that buying her gifts ... (read in full...)
In an email to his ex my boyfriend said he didn't think he'd ever get over her!
Q. So, I met my current boyfriend a little less than a year ago. When I met him he was really hesitant about becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, but finally when other guys started talking to me he said we had to be boyfriend and girlfriend. I was okay ...
A. 16 August 2011: For one, reading his e-mails is not going to help you. I'm telling you that here and now. For two, your obsession with his ex has nothing to do with him, and has everything to do with your own insecurities. I'm not trying to take a dig at you, but ... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend has watched porn and now I don't trust him around other girls
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. I'm his first girlfriend and he's my second boyfriend. We're absolutely sure we're in love. We even have plans of moving in together soon. My problem is my self esteem. The past few mont...
A. 15 August 2011: I'm glad that you realize that this is a self-esteem issue. That being said, I'm also glad that your instincts were to work on your "self" and not put all the blame on him. That would probably be the end of your relationship.
What you have to ... (read in full...)
Fiance made a rather unexpected confession...he slept with an ex in the early stage of our relationship.....
Q. My fiance has made a rather unexpected confession: one of his ex-girlfriends was actually a one night stand AND he slept with her during our early relationship stage (after our 2nd, or 3rd date). I normally wouldn't be upset over this. I do ...
A. 29 July 2011: Well, in all honesty, it kind of depends on the context of the situation you two were in. Did you two go on a couple dates, or were you "dating". If you were a girl that he pursued for weeks and then you two finally went out to a movie, and then a ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend pamper his ex better than he does me because she was prettier?
Q. Be honest guys, do you treat women who are prettier better/nicer/ with more respect than average looking women? I ask because my current partner of four years spoiled his partner rotten! Bought her anything she wanted and got into a TON of debt an...
A. 28 June 2011: Men do tend to spoil women with good looks. Ever notice how people with good looks don't rely a lot on intelligence or personality to get ahead or build relationships? That's why. Your boyfriend was probably in a relationship with a girl who was ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my boyfriend's threesome!
Q. This is a question I know is on here often. But I really need any good answer. My boyfriend and I have been dating a year and a half, plan to get married in January of next year, now I am just waiting on "the perfect time" he has planned to propo...
A. 10 June 2011: I've definitely been where you've been (and still kind of am). My fiance (who is nearly 24) and I have been together for two and a half years. I am 22, and was a virgin when I met him. He was my first and only. However, before me, he had slept with ... (read in full...)
I'm not used to being single! I need my confidence back! Help!
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend of two years. After crying for a week....the crying has stopped. I however, feel numb. I know this is natural...but i feel so lost...and lonely... I ask my self...did i do the right thing? I don't know......
A. 10 June 2011: You should feel MORE confident in the fact that you COULD end things with him knowing that things in your relationship weren't healthy. Most people hold on to something they know is dead because they are afraid of being alone, or they are afraid of ... (read in full...)
So Many Messed Up Things About this Relationship. Please can I have some ideas on how to get over this?
Q. Hello all, I just broke up with my 17 yr old girlfriend. thats right, 17. I know most of you probably think im a scumbag but please hear me out. I dropped out of college in my junior year and moved to the east coast from way out west, and lets jus...
A. 8 June 2011: Seventeen year olds DO NOT know what real life is about. They are still in highschool, surrounded by one year of older kids (or perhaps they might be seniors) and a crap-ton of younger kids. She isn't ready for anything serious, whereas she thinks ... (read in full...)
My lying and flirtatious girlfriend wants me back. What shall I do?
Q. hi everyone. i was with a very beautiful girl. shes i guess one of the most beautiful girl in the city. but shes no good other than looks. im not the most good looking guy around, but i have a fantastic personality. id loved her selflessly, i co...
A. 7 June 2011: Wow. No, no, no, no, NO! She does not deserve a second chance. Why in the Hell would you want to be with someone who's got shit for a personality and shit for loyalty? That makes no sense. So she's pretty... Who CARES?! She's using that to get to ... (read in full...)
I made a big mistake while drunk. How do I move on?
Q. About 4 year ago, I went to a bar. I was 21 at the time, and pretty inexperienced when it came to any sort of physical interaction. I felt as though I needed to get out and see what I was 'missing'. I was sitting outside of a local bar on a patio,...
A. 25 May 2011: I wouldn't beat yourself up over this at all. If the girl had been even mildly offended by your actions, she would have yelled, or screamed, or punched you. At the very least she would have found someone to come escort you out of the bar. It sounds ... (read in full...)
His first love really hurt him and broke his heart, so why does he still want to be friends with her?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year (11 months) and it has been a great and solid relationship for the most part. However, something I could just never quite get over is the fact that he still remains with his ex. Like many of you ...
A. 18 May 2011: Interesting... A few people agreed that he is not over her, and one person completely contradicted them and said that he is over her. Everyone makes solid points. But no one mentioned (nor did you mention) the point of: Do you trust him?
The t... (read in full...)
What can I do to win this girl?
Q. This is long, but I hope I've made it easy to read! As I sit here typing away, I am crying; crying as so many do, over that one person who is more special to me than life itself. I know my problem is a common one, and doubtless one that is neve...
A. 13 May 2011: My fiance and I started the exact same way... He and I met at a very awkward time in my life. I had just ended a serious relationship (my first), and while I wasn't sad about it in any way, it made me very weary to try and start something up aga... (read in full...)
My self image is shattered by BF's obsession.
Q. All I want is to feel good enough for someone, ever since I found that my boyfriend looked at loads of pictures of women with large breasts I've never been the same. I have quite small breasts, and have always been a bit conscious of that. But when ...
A. 11 May 2011: Unfortunately, nothing anyone says on here is going to help bring your confidence back. If it makes you feel ANY better, guys tend to "lust after" or focus on whatever their girlfriend DOES NOT have. Otherwise, they'd never look at porn because they ... (read in full...)
I'm lonely. My husband's a serial cheater. Would he really care if I had an affair?
Q. I have been married to the same man for almost 23 years. I divorced him once because he cheated on me...then we remarried. For the past ten years,he has cheated on me. Last year I found out he was involved in a four year affair. He swore he love me....
A. 8 May 2011: I'm kind of confused about what your question is... If you're simply asking: Should you leave him? Then, yes. I don't know why you are even hesitating. If your question is: Should you have an affair? The answer is no. What would be the point in ... (read in full...)
I caught my girlfriend kissing a girl, is this considered cheating?
Q. the other week me and my gf went to a house party. a few hours and many drinks later i saw my gf in the kitchen snogging another girl. at first i spied and i thought it was very hot. but after a about 30 seconds i realised that they were on there,as ...
A. 6 May 2011: Yes. Yes, yes, YES! She was cheating. Girls who make out with other girls to be "cool" or to "experiment" is crap, and the fact that so many girls get away with it that are in relationships is appalling. How would she feel if she caught YOU kissing ... (read in full...)
Extremely shy around girls, any dating tips?
Q. Okay, so.. I'm sixteen and in high school, but I'm mad shy around girls.. I used to be extremely big into lifting, but over the summer I broke my hand and then seperated my shoulder. I'm a little on the heavy side now, but honestelly not that bad, ...
A. 5 May 2011: First of all, being the "quiet kid" is a bad way to stick out in high school. It's definitely a good thing to stick out, so-to-speak, but do so on your own terms. Everyone in high school has acne, so don't feel alone in that, but if it's something ... (read in full...)
BF has been collecting nude pictures of girls off Facebook. What should I do?
Q. I have just found out that my boyfriend of 10 months has been collecting naked pictures from girls off his facebook the whole time we have been together. He says he doesn't understand why he did it and he has promised me to stop. He has deleted a...
A. 3 May 2011: Definitely dealt with this before... My ex used to create fake profiles on MySpace pretending to be a "lesbian" so that he could chat with other "lesbians". We were in long-distance, and strangely enough, at the time I did not think it was odd... (read in full...)
The fact that my GF was not a virgin when she met me, is breaking me down.I cant handle this relationship anymore...
Q. Ive being going out with my girlfriend for nearly two years now and early on in the relationship i found she wasnt a virgin. This was painful for me to hear for two reasons: 1-I belive that you should lose your virginity to someone you love and want...
A. 30 April 2011: I think the previous posters make a LOT of good points. Your issue with your girlfriend's virginity is not about her "lying" to you about it (if she even did). Your issue is not the fact that she did it before she was married (you two weren't ... (read in full...)
My family has moved many times. Is it normal to not have many lifelong friends when this happens?
Q. Ever since i was a young lass my family has moved around a lot. Therefore I don't have any lifelong friendships with anyone outside my family. I'm 24 now and have been settled in the same city for the last 7 years. I made what I thought were goin...
A. 25 April 2011: There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. I've moved around my entire life as well, and I've lost many friendships, but I've also managed to keep some long-distance ones. On a completely different note, my fiance lived on one small island his ... (read in full...)
I used to be so secure, now I'm a jealous mess!
Q. I am 22-years old. I've been with my fiance for two years and four months. I've never been so happy in my entire life, and never even imagined I could be. We are talking of getting married later this year, and are looking into buying a houses at the ...
A. 25 April 2011: I know it's not a bad thing. Neither was waiting to have sex. But you didn't really answer my question...... (read in full...)
My wife admitted she cheated on me when we were engaged!
Q. Hi, my wife of 6 years just confessed to me that she cheated on me while we where engaged, she said it was a one time mistake and has being faithfull since then. Am hurt and am thinking of divorce. How can i trust her again?...
A. 21 April 2011: Ask yourself this: If she had told you back when you were engaged, would you have stayed with her? My guess is "no". Not only did she do that, but she lied to you about it for six years and has had a relationship and a marriage with you based off of ... (read in full...)
Guy turned a 180 and is now ignoring me..
Q. Sorry, this is long! I've just never been in this position. Okay so my friends introduced me to this guy about a month ago. We’re both 20. I guess he went to our high school freshman year, but I didn't remember ever seeing him. I guess like a month ...
A. 20 April 2011: It sounds like you're definitely in a rebound situation. I was in a similar situation with a guy who had just come out of a relationship of two-and-a-half years. When we started hanging out, everything was fun and new and we chatted constantly. But, ... (read in full...)
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