People, have you been hurt terribly, but found love again after the hurt??
Q. I'm writing about my story about how I can't let the past go and how it has crippled my life and the way I live. My story begins when I met a girl at 26 years old she was 24. I just have fallen very much in love with her and she betrayed me and it ...
A. 1 February 2011: Your post rings a lot of bells for me, mainly because I'm with someone who's been where you've been, and I am a person who's been where you've been. My fiance and I both have drastically different stories, but we've both found each other and have ... (read in full...)
Most of the girls in my year smoke and I want to try. Do boys find girls who smoke attractive.
Q. Ok, I'm 14 and most of the girls in my year have smoked. I really want to take a few drags and see what it's like, but one of my friends is TOO overly protective and will tell my guidance teacher! Also, do boys think it's cool if their girl smokes? ...
A. 31 January 2011: It is NOT a good idea to smoke at ANY age. Nor is it attractive. Especially if you're a teen. No, guys don't think it's attractive when girls smoke. I have plenty of guys who would vouch for this. Some guys will even refuse to date a girl if she ... (read in full...)
Will I ever stop loving my ex?
Q. I'm 19 now but when i was 15 i started seeing a boy, he was a year older than me but i loved him with all of my heart, he made me so happy, he constantly told me how much he loved me, that i was beautiful and special and he never wanted to lose me, ...
A. 28 January 2011: When I was seventeen fell head-over-heels in love with a guy that I had only known for a couple months. He was only in my small town for the summer, but he got a job at the movie theater where I worked. I developed feelings for him quickly as no ... (read in full...)
What is the thing you most need in a relationship?
Q. Billy Joel has a song, "The Stranger": "Once I used to believe I was such a great romancer Then I came home to a woman That I could not recognize Though I pressed her for a reason, She refused to even answer It was then I felt the stranger ...
A. 28 January 2011: I feel the most important things in a relationship are trust and honesty. Without trusting a person, you can never truly be yourself or put your faith in your relationship. You never know if you really KNOW your partner. Without honesty, you're ... (read in full...)
All my friends are losing their virginity will I be left out
Q. Dear Cupid I'm 16 years old and I'm still a virgin, all of my friends are loosing their virginity and soon I feel like I'm going to be the only one left, I think that I'm ready for sex but I'm scared at the same time and very self conscious about my...
A. 27 January 2011: Please don't be in a rush to lose your virginity. It's a precious thing, and waiting for sex until the right person comes along it so worth it. I lost my virginity at age 20 to my now-fiance. I lost it to him within the first month of dating him, ... (read in full...)
Are there any couples out there who are 100% faithful to one another?
Q. I dont know if it's because Ive been reading the articles on this site too often (this being a relationship help site and all), but it seems that everywhere I look, people are unfaithful to each other. Im basically asking, are there any couples ...
A. 26 January 2011: I'm 22, and my fiance and I have been dating for just over two years now. We have been 100% faithful to one another in this time. I could never dream of going near another man. My fiance is the only man I've been able to look at in the two years ... (read in full...)
I'm just not sure what's going on with her!!! Help!
Q. I've been dating this girl for about a month now. She's cute, silly, beautiful, smart, and pretty darn awesome. But there are things that are making me turn away. Before we started dating we were both in very tough relationships. My ex girlfriend...
A. 24 January 2011: I wouldn't ignore your feelings on this one. If you feel something is wrong, and you feel as though there's too much going wrong after only being together for a month, maybe you should take a break from her for a while. I know she'll cry and beg and ... (read in full...)
Help! How can you tell if you're being used???
Q. I was wondering if there is a way you can tell if someone is using you as a friends with benefits sort of thing? I have been sort of involved with this guy for several months now. I feel certain that he does like me, however I do have my doubts b...
A. 24 January 2011: I would talk to this guy about what he's wanting from you if you're interested in being with him as anything more than a hookup. There's absolutely nothing wrong with standing your ground and being upfront about what you want out of someone ... (read in full...)
Head wrecked!
Q. i am 16 soon to be 17 and i am really confused i really need your help theres a boy at school i like but hes got a girlfriend and i did something i regret i sent him rude pictures i hate myself for doing it the thing is he flirts back with me and i ...
A. 24 January 2011: This boy isn't interesting in you if he's asking you for nude photos while he's got a girlfriend. I'm sorry to say that, but it happens quite often among people in your age group. Don't freak out over the nude pictures just yet. Just be sure not to ... (read in full...)
Will this new relationship survive?
Q. If a man leaves a long-term relationship in which he was also engaged to marry this person for someone else and quickly becomes engaged to this other person what are the chances the new relationship will survive? My ex left me after 7 yrs. tog...
A. 24 January 2011: I guarantee you that their relationship will not last. Rebounds like that rarely ever do. It's fine if he comes out of a long marriage and settles down with you and eventually proposes, but it's another to come out of a long engagement and run to a ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if she's really interested?
Q. well the girl I met a little while ago is awesome she is beautiful funny and understanding and we shared a similar sense of humor so that is great. yesterday I spent a couple hours with her just hanging out then we went to a basketball game. She ...
A. 24 January 2011: I think you've got a good shot here. The funny thing is, she's probably wondering the same things about you: Does he like me? What did it mean when he did this/that when we hung out? Was it a date or just hanging out? Etc. Etc. Girls are very ... (read in full...)
Would this gesture of mine seem romantic or creepy?
Q. Hello, I would like to know if this would be cute or creepy. I this girl and I have been talking and we are really into each other I mean really. Anyways I am seeing her this Saturday and I am going to ask her to be my girlfriend. I want to make ...
A. 24 January 2011: I think it wouldn't be so bad if you put the ring on a chain so she can wear it as a necklace. But putting a ring on her finger sounds a lot like a marriage proposal, and you're only asking her to be your girlfriend. Maybe give her the ring on the ... (read in full...)
Text messages lead me to believe she wants her ex boyfriend/casual partner more then me!
Q. My fiance and I have been together for over a year. At first, like all relationships, things started off great, we'd text all the time, the sex was regular, we were both affectionate to each other. However, over the last few months, things have cha...
A. 24 January 2011: You need to call her out on her actions and leave her. I'm sorry, but there's honestly no way around it. If you sit back and wait, more will happen, and it will only devastate you further. Take it from someone who's been where you've been and has ... (read in full...)
Need advice on rebuilding trust in gf who cheated on me
Q. So my gf and I have been together for 4 and a half years and we love each other very much. I had a lot of trust in her about being with her guy friends. Then one day, while she was in the bathroom, I found some pictures of her with one of her ...
A. 16 January 2011: You need to LEAVE HER. One: she's not sorry she cheated on you, she's sorry she got caught. And she didn't do it because you weren't paying enough attention to her, she did it because she's a terrible person and had the opportunity to. She lied to ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be friends with her if I can't be her boyfriend!
Q. In short, I know a girl who I became friends with over the past year. But to be honest, being friends with her is not like being friends with one of my guy friends. We talk, or rather she does most of the talking. I find myself in a role of helping ...
A. 10 January 2011: Well, as the point I'm trying to make. You're not going to be her pasty in this scenario I'm presenting you with. If my fiance had just cut contact with me, I would have said, "Fine. F*ck you," and moved on. But because he looked me dead in the eye ... (read in full...)
How to get over these feelings of jealousy towards my ex?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend of 18 months last tuesday. Overall i have taken it fairly well and not been very upset about the whole thing. However, im having some trouble with dealing with the fact she's already got another guy put love hearts ...
A. 9 January 2011: For one, I wouldn't be jealous of anything she's written about this boy. He's obviously a rebound for her, and if she's already posting things like that all over for the world to see, she's wanting to appear as though she's moved on. That's the ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be friends with her if I can't be her boyfriend!
Q. In short, I know a girl who I became friends with over the past year. But to be honest, being friends with her is not like being friends with one of my guy friends. We talk, or rather she does most of the talking. I find myself in a role of helping ...
A. 9 January 2011: You need to explain this all to her in a way that doesn't make you sound selfish. After all, you do care for her, and it's not as though you don't want to be there for her at all, it's just that you don't want to put all your time and energy into ... (read in full...)
What are the signs that a relationship is likely to end? Even it all looks OK now?
Q. Hey everyone, From your experience, when you were in a long-term relationship with an ex-boyfriend (or ex-gf), did you ever have a feeling (or signs) that you guys will eventually break up? (it's my first relationship and it happens to be lo...
A. 9 January 2011: That's the best and worst thing about love: it's unpredictable. If four years ago someone had told me, "You'll move across the country to be with a guy, only to turn around five months later and end it after being together for a year and a half ... (read in full...)
An animal in bed?
Q. When a guy says, "She's an animal in bed". What does that mean? I'm not into rough sex or anything, but the expression always puts me off a little. ...
A. 9 January 2011: It usually means that the girl's adventurous, crazy, kinky, rough, dominating, etc.... (read in full...)
I'm getting absolutely sick of my girlfriend and I feel guilty for it
Q. Hey guys. I'm in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend; we see each other about once a month or once every two months and talk online and on the phone every.single.night. This was FINE at first, when everything was still fresh, you know? ...
A. 8 January 2011: You need to get out of this. She might be depressed, but it's not YOUR responsibility to make sure that she's okay. IF she refuses to go to therapy or go to see a doctor, then that's not your problem. She needs help that you can't give her, and ... (read in full...)
Share your stories about coping with a bad breakup.
Q. So I have been going through a really painful breakup. I loved him so much, I'm only 21 but i feel as though the love of my life left me. Today, is a particularly bad day. I feel awful. I think i'd be really encouraging if anyone who has been ...
A. 5 January 2011: Here's a couple stories rolled into one. I once fell in love with my summer romance. We hung out a lot, had the most fun together, and he was unlike any guy I had ever met. The last movie I watched with him was The Notebook (which I had never seen ... (read in full...)
Into the unknown after ending of bad relationship.
Q. Hi. I am feeling scared and alone. Basically, I have never had a relationship with a girl before this year (I am a young adult). This girl was beautiful...but was egotistical, manipulative and untrustworthy. It took me months to free myself from the...
A. 5 January 2011: YOU DO HAVE HOPE! And I mean a TON of it. My fiance was in the exact same position you were in, if not worse. His ex was about three years younger than him (15-16), he was 18-19. He dated her on-and-off for 1 1/2 to 2 years. She was a MESS, and by ... (read in full...)
Why does everyone have to say "Keep your legs closed" since I'm a virgin?
Q. Okay, so im a virgin. When I first meet people, sadly, that's one of the first things they ask me. I usedto be honest and tell them I was a virgin, but its like once I tell them, their impression of me changes. Either they'll be like, "Your ...
A. 3 January 2011: Please don't be tempted just because OTHERS are making snide remarks to you about it. I lost my virginity at age 20 with my now-fiance. But in highschool, I was tormented because everyone called me a "whore". No one actually believed that I was a ... (read in full...)
She's amazing, why is she with me?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with a girl, she lives about 2 states over, and we've been together for about two months now. We're both still in high school school, and both have social lives (Or at least she does), which brings me to my ...
A. 27 December 2010: I used to be in a relationship like yours. We met over MySpace and were in long-distance for nine months. He was attractive, but not the most attractive thing in the world. The photos I saw of him were from about two years beforehand. I, on the ... (read in full...)
Son's girlfriend cheated, now his whole outlook on life has changed.
Q. I need help really badly. My son he has been down for the last year or so. He had a girlfriend who he loved a lot. He did things for this for this girl that were super romantic and she reciprocated. I liked her. 5 years later,, and I repeat my son ...
A. 27 December 2010: What you have to understand is, being cheated on for a guy robs them of any and all self-esteem and confidence they hold for themselves. Especially a boy as devoted to this girl as your son was. Being in a relationship for five years, building up ... (read in full...)
Am I dealing with a sociopath?
Q. First, to anyone who may read this I hope your holidays are going great...also want to thank everyone who answered my question last week regarding the same person...it was very very helpful. My question now is am I dealing with a true sociopath...
A. 27 December 2010: She very well may be a sociopath. Sociopaths are known for manipulation, callousness, and conflict while addressing victimization for themselves. They are never wrong, and if they are, they will make you pay for it, as it IS your fault. They show no ... (read in full...)
It just disgusts, saddens, and makes me depressed everytime I think about my girlfriend's past
Q. So this is kind of a interesting situation. My girlfriend is 16 years old, and I am 18 years old. We have been in a steady relationship for about a year now. I have been having problems getting over her past. At one time, she got mixed into the w...
A. 27 December 2010: I don't agree that someone's upbringing truly affects who they are. I think who they are affects how they handle their upbringing. My fiance and I grew up very differently, and both turned out very driven and motivated to better ourselves. And both ... (read in full...)
Almost 14 and no relationship experience yet
Q. I'm 13, 14 in January, and I've never had a relationship. I've never kissed anyone either. All my friends have at least kissed one, and most of my friends are in relationships and are really happy. Is this honestly normal for me to be nearly 14 and ...
A. 27 December 2010: Bahaha! I didn't have any kind of experience until I was sixteen! Don't AT ALL feel bad about not having had any experience yet. Boys your age don't know much about having a girlfriend anyway. It's all just about sex and mind-games at this point. ... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong? Guys flock to her and I never get that.
Q. So, one of my close friends, is constantly getting hit on by guys. She claims to have low self esteem, yet whenever we go out, she gets a bunch of guys asking for her number. Now, don't get me wrong, I love her and everything, she's my friend, but ...
A. 27 December 2010: I went through the same thing at your age. I was a shorter, petite girl with brunette hair and modest looks (I was fourteen, and didn't wear a lot of makeup). She, on the other hand, was tall, blonde, thin, and wore barely any makeup besides ... (read in full...)
I've managed to find nobody.
Q. OK, I'm really, really struggling now, and I don't know who I can turn to. Basically I just want honest answers, which my friends and family in real life don't seem to wish to give. Anyway, I'm almost 29. I will be 30 in a little over a ye...
A. 26 December 2010: The only piece of advice I can think to give you is: stop looking for love, and it will find you. Love honestly doesn't come to people who are looking for it and pining for it, because, as others have stated, it looks desperate. Who cares if you're ... (read in full...)
Would society think our relationship is wrong?
Q. i know that this may sound wrong okay but here goes. i am 16 he is 27 we are in love okay and i no that may sound naive but we have been in a strong relationship for about 8 months i am almost 17. well we have a lot of respect for each other a...
A. 23 December 2010: He doesn't want sex from you? That's a laugh. Why else would he be with a 16-year old who's probably inexperienced to the whole thing and therefore will be much more easily convinced. This guy is 27-years old. You think he loves you? He's either ... (read in full...)
My first love from 30 years ago contacted me...He's free, I'm not. I still love him. Don't know how to quit him. Help!
Q. I have been with my husband for over 20 years. We have a good marriage now, not always easy (I guess that's marriage afterall), but we are making it work. We also have children. Last year, I was contacted by the first man I ever loved. There wa...
A. 23 December 2010: This is one of the worst parts about love: it comes in many different faces and genres. There is "puppy love" - the emotion you want to experience as love even though you have no idea what love even is. There is "toxic love" - the emotion you want ... (read in full...)
Does fighting make a relationship better?
Q. i have been with my 16 year old boyfriend for almost 7 months now, we dont fight at all some people say thats its better to fight sometimes it makes the realationship stronger? would anyone agree? we do have little moods with each other but not big ...
A. 21 December 2010: No, fighting does not make a relationship stronger. Communicating does. Openness does. Honesty does. If you two fight while being open and honest, so be it. It's all about how the fights are handled. My fiance used to fight constantly with ... (read in full...)
"Now that all your money's gone and you have no job and no home I can't use you any more!!!!! "
Q. I'm really struggling with this, need help bad !!!!! im thinking of revenge all the time on my ex fiancee i feel im gonna end up in prison i kid you not !!!!! 16 months of my life she took off me, she got everything she asked for off me money, gifts ...
A. 20 December 2010: People like her are trash and are not going to get anywhere in life. She's going to burn plenty of bridges by using people, believe me. I honestly don't know how someone could use and manipulate a person and not have it eat away at their conscience. ... (read in full...)
Are all girls neurotic and evil?
Q. I don't know what to do; I've been with this girl for 19 months now. When we were first dating, everything was like a dream. It all went so smoothly. She was nice to me and we never fought. NOW, it seems that all we do is fight. She feels se...
A. 18 December 2010: My fiance's ex was the EXACT same way. She was very immature and controlling and started drama out of nowhere. She needed CONSTANT attention, and when she didn't get it, she would pitch fits like a child and begin sobbing and run off just to make ... (read in full...)
My girl friend is sending naked pictures of herself to her ex. Is that cheating?
Q. So the girl I've been dating for 6 months now has been sending naked pictures to her ex, and having conversations with him while telling him that she loves him too, and that he should come over to have sex with her, all while telling me that she's ...
A. 18 December 2010: You need to dump her. Now. She's not going to change, and it seems as though she's got some major mental issues. Rebellion towards someone you "love" just to prove something to yourself shows signs of immaturity and selfishness. She's not ready to ... (read in full...)
I can't take being JUST her friend anymore!
Q. I have a friend (female) whom I (male) have a crush on but she is not interested in me, and just wants to be friends. I decided I was okay with that but recently I stopped talking to her because it was getting too much. I feel like a terrible friend ...
A. 17 December 2010: My now-fiance did what you should do. He had asked me out numerous times on many different occasions. We had only been friends for a few months, but he had fallen for me hard. I knew of his feelings for me, and while I did enjoy his company, I ... (read in full...)
Can people who are good at making money and excel at academics get a normal girlfriend who loves them?
Q. Can people excel at academics get a nice and normal girl friend who loves them. I am one of the people who excel at academics in a pretty good state school in england (I am not trying to show off). I will be in sixth form next year and I have ...
A. 12 December 2010: You're still very young. Don't worry about becoming so serious with relationships just yet, as I promise it will disappoint you. Just do well with YOUR life for right now until you worry about sharing it with someone else. Your time will come.
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Why do men treat women like this?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I got treated bad (I know,I know why didn't I leave). I always felt something wasn't right about him. I tried to make him happy, wore my heart on my sleeve and tried even harder even though I couldn't do ...
A. 10 December 2010: My fiance (23) did the same thing with his ex-girlfriend. He began dating her as a young man (17 or 18). She was 14 or 15 at the time. She treated him like absolute shit. She cheated on him, belittled him, fought with him, emotionally and mentally ... (read in full...)
Lack of intimacy led to an affair
Q. I have been married for almost 6 years. Wife and I are both in our mid 30's. We have two beautiful boys, a newly built house and on the surface appears to be a picture perfect life. Here's the problem. 2-3 years ago our sex life went from average to ...
A. 8 December 2010: First of all, you've already given up the relationship with your wife when you had an affair. The possibility of your two sons growing up and not seeing a broken marriage is also out the door. You had an affair. And not just a sexual one, but a ... (read in full...)
Why is dating her so wrong!?
Q. My girlfriend is 15 and I am 19. We are not sexually active. Everyone is telling me it is wrong, but I don't know why. The only answers I have received so far are: -She is in a different part of life and we should have nothing in common. -I have t...
A. 8 December 2010: It is wrong because she's still a child and you're close to being an adult. When people are telling you that you are at two different areas in your lives, they're not referring to the fact that you want to party and she doesn't. Believe me, ... (read in full...)
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