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Will my prayers work so we can be together? And does he even like me if he has not shown any interest in 10 years?

Q.   dear readers, im madly in love with this guy for the past 10 years. we used to speak to each other as kids when i was as young as 9 yrs old, but we stopped now as we grew up. The thing is i have been praying continuously for the past so many yea...

A.   1 November 2010: Well sometimes it must come from your side.I mean shy guys never even Bother to show signs cause they think it will never happen.Remember it takes effort to make a spark soo maybe it should come from your side.Flirt with him and talk to him about ... (read in full...)

I want to fight to get him back but he has cut off all contact with me, and my friends don't seem to understand!

Q.   I am still very much in love with my boyfriend who broke up with me 3 months ago... I cant get over him at all, and my friends dont seem to understand they slag him off all the time when i bring him up and try and talk to them about my feelings.. ...

A.   1 November 2010: Yes! I do believe you should fight for him but since there isnt much you can do I guess that writing a letter to him will probably be the best.My GF was my Ex a while ago after 6 years.I also cut her off completely but only did so because I wanted ... (read in full...)

Do I stay with my husband or live with my lover of 8 years?

Q.   To stay with the man I have been married to for 35 years or to move in with the lover of 8 years. Neither relationship is brilliant but the clock is ticking. Why am I so unsatisfied with my life?...

A.   31 October 2010: Youre really actually unhappy with yourself in my opinion.Why people think they can find happiness in other people is just beyond me! What can you do to make your marriage a better and more fulfilling? AND WHY do people always sit around wait... (read in full...)

I want my cheating girlfriend back!

Q.   hi, im 18 years old and i just had my first relationship ever which ended yesterday, it was going on the 6 month mark. in our first month, she kissed/made out with two of her guy friends then told me about it( within 2 weeks of them both happen...

A.   28 October 2010: Dude only 6 months? just leave it man 6 months and already cheating? No ways dude that will NEVER change !If it was 2+ years then id say "OK sure try again cause you had something" but nah not 6 months!... (read in full...)

Losing interest in sex with my fiance; how can I fix it?

Q.   I am engaged to a wonderful man who I love spending time with and want to spend the rest of my life with, but for the past six months my interest in sex has completely subsided. He is physically attractive, tall, lean, adorable face, and this ...

A.   21 October 2010: My Ex jumped from different birth control all the time...Unfortunately the one she chose to get stuck on changed her sex drive Completely up onto the point where I was like WTF?The Passion flew out the window and arguments about it started up and ... (read in full...)

I feel guilty wanting out of this relationship even though I think he does too.

Q.   I have been trying to write for days and it just goes on too long. I just need help and advice on what to do as I really can’t talk to my friends or family. I have been with my husband for 6 years now, since I was 16. He is here illegally, he gr...

A.   21 October 2010: Whow!This is just crazy!And im going to say what you hear Constantly on this forum but NO REALLY! GET OUT...in your case there is just no other way.You can also no be responsible for him and take te abuse also! He has you hooked on self worth-This ... (read in full...)

She has a boyfriend but I think she really likes me...

Q.   hi, there is this girl at work who i really like she has a boyfriend, we worked together and got on very well i ended up telling her that i liked her and she was funny with me for a week and then, asked me out for a drink i asked her out again an...

A.   21 October 2010: DUDE! Stay FAR away!If she's going to leave him for you she will do exactly the same to you!Also people do this and then they leave their partners and most of the times they either end up back with the person they left or with neither YOU or thei... (read in full...)

Is it because I saw him with someone else that I'm starting to really think about him more?

Q.   A few months ago i dated a guy around my age. It didnt last long and it sort of drifted apart. I regularly see his sister in law and she keeps me up to date on if hes ok ect. Last weekend i went to her partner's (his brother) 21st party and he ...

A.   21 October 2010: Yea... What do you want to do?Move on or try and get him back? Moving on is easy...... (read in full...)

He thinks I'm cheating on him and is losing interest in me... but I'm not!!! Help!

Q.   I need some help.. I have been with my partner for nearly 5 years and have a small child together. Everything was fine until one day he came home and said he had a feeling i was cheating on him (something i would never do) and said his feelings were ...

A.   21 October 2010: Yea hes probably trying to divert attention from himself unto you!Also hes pulling away emotionally because that will Inevitably happen after you have cheated on you lover.GUILT DEPRESSION EMOTIONAL NUMBNESS GUILT etc... I cant really tell you ... (read in full...)

After a rocky start I have told her I am fine with being just friends

Q.   Ok im a male and 24 and this girl is 21. I dont know if this helps anything but I havent had alot of relationships with girls. so sometime I dont know how to act around them like when to make moves or stuff. Im a good looking guy so ive been told ...

A.   17 October 2010: Well if she was just going through a divorce then she might just be on rebound.Thats why shes taking things so fast especially if shes bouncing from relationship to relationship.The betrayal of someone cheating on you leaves really deep wounds and ... (read in full...)

How can I pick myself up and stop feeling so down?

Q.   How can i pick myself up and stop feeling so down? I am 21 and a half years old and I have no reason to feel unhappy, I have a great family, good friends, and a caring loving boyfriend. I have my whole life ahead of me but i find myself just f...

A.   17 October 2010: I think you need to set a Goal to something that you look foreword to.Maybe travel a bit only you and you Boyfriend.Go somewhere and be free for a while.It sounds like you work to much thats why you feel awesome on the weekends cause youre getting ... (read in full...)

Hiya Gorgeous, it's the guy who wants to steal you from your boyfriend!

Q.   okay well my girlfrind got a random text last night saying, hiya gourgous its spencer, i see the text come up but she said to me that she doesnt know who it is, it was playing with my head, i heard the name spencer a couple of days earler, thats ...

A.   17 October 2010: Sit tight! This could be a bumpy ride but whatever you do just know its not the end.And having a fight with her about it would probably be bad news for you.For some reason I did the same with another girl while I was in a relationship...needles to ... (read in full...)

Why wont he kiss me when we're having sex?

Q.   Well, my bf and I have been going out for a month and a half now. And everything, has been going quite well. Though, there is a problem, he wont kiss me when were having sex, or when i give him a blow job. I dont get it, is it me, he use to not be ...

A.   17 October 2010: Yea allot of guys have issues kissing girls after blow jobs.Also if you give him one every time before sex he wont kiss you.This is a huge mistake though!Kissing is just a must in a loving relationship.Not kissing would be putting out the flame of ... (read in full...)

One year of no contact, how do I act with ex now?

Q.   I was in relationship for three years.she was everything to me i loved her so much and i was going to merry her..a year ago she started to change a lot and she was not intrested in me any more i did everything i can to gain her love back { doormate ...

A.   17 October 2010: Girls do this because the sisters tend to be fearless in this situations.Like she feels stupid for whatever happened but the sister doesn't so its easy to send her and test the water.... (read in full...)

One year of no contact, how do I act with ex now?

Q.   I was in relationship for three years.she was everything to me i loved her so much and i was going to merry her..a year ago she started to change a lot and she was not intrested in me any more i did everything i can to gain her love back { doormate ...

A.   16 October 2010: Well I know allot of couples who are married now who had 3-8 month breaks from each other completely and eventually ended up back together somehow. What do you have to lose anyway ? Wait around for a couple of days and then reply and DONT get hook... (read in full...)

Do I tell my in-laws their daughter cheated on me?

Q.   I found out my wife been cheating on me. Do I tell her father and mother? ...

A.   15 October 2010: I would.Girls never leave the relationship wanting to be the BAD GUY in the story so not letting the news out makes life easier for her and she might just make you look like the bad guy.This happened to a guy I know whos really the best guy a girls ... (read in full...)

I'm dating my best friend's girlfriend!

Q.   Hi... a BIG PROBLEM... i am dating my childhood frinds girlfriend for the past 3 months....they had relationship for long eight years in which they had breakup twice and that too for one yr and second one also the same...they patched up back ...

A.   15 October 2010: Yea you should probably just leave her for now and give her a HUGE amount of space because 8 years is very long! ... (read in full...)

Why did we break up instead of working things out?

Q.   My exboyfriend and I are 22 and 23. We were dating for on and off for 5 years right out of high school up until about 3 weeks ago. we dont have any children and have never lived with each other but seem to have made it through alot. We broke up ...

A.   15 October 2010: Well whatever you do dont get stringed along...This is typical behavior for a First love relationship thats long term just like "Dirtball" said.But believe it or not they get back together most of the times.Id say give him some space to miss you ... (read in full...)

Is he ignoring me because he doesn't want to be the reason I break up with my boyfriend?

Q.   I am in the middle of a finishing a long term relationship, with which we have a beautiful three year old. It has been a very stressful relationship. It has taken me' three years to finish it. He leaves on Wednesday. Over the last year I have...

A.   11 October 2010: You said hes good friends with his Ex?Maybe he lost her the way he took an attached woman.Ripped from him and he just saw that it was wrong and that he could never do it to another man?It sounds to me like a little bit of a guilt trip and was trying ... (read in full...)

I love him, but I would never let him know that because I don't want him to feel bad that he doesn't love me.

Q.   Guys, I need some help. I was with a wonderful man for two years. We lived together for about a year and a half. He was my best friend. He started acting different over a period of time. He gained alot of weight, was smoking alot of marijuan...

A.   11 October 2010: Its true! You cant love someone and show or know it while youre so terribly disappointed in yourself! BUT what he is busy doing is AWESOME! Hes not just showing through action that hes busy changing Whether its FOR YOU or FOR HIMSELF which both are ... (read in full...)

Am I the only one who thinks her erratic behavior is indicative of a deeper problem?

Q.   My ex has a lot of serious issues, alcoholism, severe depression, her dad died a few months ago, and she used to be a cutter. After our breakup she confessed to me and only me that it made her want to cut herself again. she also ONLY told me she ...

A.   11 October 2010: Oh yea. Dude be happy she left.She will be back but I think you should probably just keep the door closed cause people like that never change and they do they slip and fall so easily and the cycle restarts!... (read in full...)

In a 8 years relationship - isolated.insecure.falling apart.

Q.   I have fallen in love a hundred times with only 1 guy, he deeply love me. he respects me, he always try to understand me even sometimes I know I’m being so dumb. I am 25 and he’s 26, and we are living together for 2years now, far from our home ...

A.   11 October 2010: OH GOSH PLEASE just think about this for a moment..Which im sure you are anyway! I recently came out of a 5+ year relationship and yes we had Exactly the same signs all over it.BIGGEST problem that I had was Communication! TELL him how you feel but... (read in full...)

Three year relationship ruined?

Q.   Ohk so ive pretty much ruined not only a friendship i have had for nearly three years with this guy (lets call him Thom)and his bestfriend (Daniel). Thom was explaining to me the other week that he liked me and that he thinks me and him would work ...

A.   11 October 2010: Thats about the worst kind of betrayal possible not to mention down right stupid... Seriously in front of all his friends ? seriously?How disappointing. Anyway id say just leave it all it will never be the same for you,Thom and Daniel.It think it... (read in full...)

How to get back into ex's life when she has a boyfriend?

Q.   what is the best way to get back into an ex girlfriends life if she has a boyfriend. Its hard to decide in this day and age. Email, txt, phone call, or even writing a letter. Maybe even as simple as sending a gift. Help me out?...

A.   11 October 2010: Yea i would say just stick it out and YES this is the hard part I know.Until she calls which you never know if shes going to do.I know I would kill to have my Ex back so I know what youre going through trust me! How long have you been together etc?... (read in full...)

Am I the only one who thinks her erratic behavior is indicative of a deeper problem?

Q.   My ex has a lot of serious issues, alcoholism, severe depression, her dad died a few months ago, and she used to be a cutter. After our breakup she confessed to me and only me that it made her want to cut herself again. she also ONLY told me she ...

A.   11 October 2010: Personally I think shes looking for ways to get freed of the depression with all the Wees booze etc. Its really sad since people rarely never do the emotional damage to themselves but they have to deal with it and if youre not a strong person you ... (read in full...)

Why do I miss him when I didnt want to be with him??

Q.   Why is it, that when you are with someone you cant stand them and dont want to be with them but when you arent with them you miss them and want them back? when i was with my boyfriend we would argue all the time and i would think about being with...

A.   10 October 2010: Well I think that people come back together and if they do they should KNOW why and where they went wrong the first time around!You miss him and you want to give you guys another chance.I Think writing stuff down like "Communication was low in the ... (read in full...)

Is this the greater truth about why we lie to our partners?

Q.   Is this the greater truth about why we lie to our partners? It’s interesting that when people are messing up, and failing their partner in a relationship by betraying them (i.e., cheating) few think about how they are hurting their loved one with...

A.   10 October 2010: Yea well telling someone something like that will not only have Known effects it could change your world forever and you are probably right ! I personally think that living with a Lie would ultimately destroy who you think you are.The thing ab... (read in full...)

He wants to take my virginity... and I'm scared I'll lose him if I say no.

Q.   Am a 14 year old girl with a 17 year old boyfriend who wants 2 have 6 kids with me in the future. the thing is now he wants 2 break my virginity. I am still a virgin and am not ready. I dont wanna loose it. He's the best boyfriend ive ever had ...

A.   10 October 2010: 14... enough said!... (read in full...)

My ex said he would meet up with me but keeps putting it off

Q.   my ex and i have been talking on and off..i recently asked if he wanted to talk more often and he said ok and that he had no problem with that and i mentioned about meeting soon and he said ok to that as well. It took him about 10 days to call aft...

A.   9 October 2010: Well maybe hes looking for you to push a bit more on your side you know..like wait a couple of days and then phone again to hear whats up and if you can get coffie or something. Just show him that you are truly interested in getting along or in a re... (read in full...)

I am tired of being sad and anger

Q.   I am always feeling angry and sad with myself. I sometimes sit here and I cry because I feel angry with myself for not knowing what to do with my life or career. I am always on the internet doing career quizzes trying to find which career is right ...

A.   9 October 2010: Yea im in exactly the same position that you are in and I know its not fun at all and ontop of that my GF of 6 years left me and its probably because of just that reason... So you can imagen the confusion that just immediately kicked me against the ... (read in full...)

My ex is dating a new guy. Do I have a chance to get her back?

Q.   So I started dating this girl about a year ago and 3 months in I made the mistake of kissing another woman. I was really drunk and it was a huge mistake. After cheating I realized I really didn't want to be with anyone else because it felt so wrong. ...

A.   9 October 2010: Yea Id say you probably have a good chance... Id say just go out with her for Coffie or something and then take BABY STEPS from there on.Like make the outings with her really short and never get into the past.Just be nice guy and have a good time... (read in full...)

My friend is after my ex, do I confront him about it?

Q.   Ok so my girlfriend and i have been broken up for about 5-6 months now but i still care for her very much. To be honest shes the first thing i think about after i wake up and last thing before i go to sleep. Ive tried to improve my self in every ...

A.   9 October 2010: I would tell him "Dude its really not cool to date my EX" If hes a true friend then he will probably understand but I guess this way you can find out if hes a True friend or not.Obviously a huge price to pay but yea. By the way...I think you shou... (read in full...)

She rejected me, is there any way to salvage our relationship?

Q.   Good evening people! I need some advice here - just like everyone else posting on this website. I've fallen for one of my closest female friends. The rumours were circling around the school were quite rife, so she already /kind of/ knew befor...

A.   9 October 2010: Well she probably enjoys your friendship and values it above a "Fling/Date" which will only complicate things way more.Just be your old self around her and dont be bothered about the rejection to much just be her friend again. She protected the frie... (read in full...)

My life is a mess and I feel trapped! HELP!

Q.   I'm 17, and I just can't DO this anymore. I don't know. I'm so bored, alone. Trapped in my city and I hate it so much. The only thing keeping me going is the promise of going to Univerisy next year, but that's stressing me out and I don't know. I'm ...

A.   9 October 2010: I think you should change you way of looking at everything that you say Makes you feel "Claustrophobic".This is a vicious cycle that you are about to enter...and if youre already in it SEek help...if not then just dont go into it,Try doing things ... (read in full...)

How can my wife be so loose when she never had children, and supposedly not much sex?

Q.   I have a very personal question, sometimes I am very confused about it. When I got married to my wife, according to her she have not had any man in her life in last seven years. Before that she had only one short relationship(three months). It was s...

A.   8 October 2010: What you dont use you lose... You could act as if you wanted to train with her and then do stuff like squat etc to make the mussels stronger down there...I really dont know much about that though but Im pretty sure she can get it tight again.... (read in full...)

Why is my ex boyfriend rubbing his new girlfriend in my face after 3 weeks?

Q.   Hi everyone, I will make this as short as I can, because I really need perspective and reassurement, and I appreciate your time. My ex and I broke up faily mutually 2 months ago. We were together for 2 and a half years, and we had a very passi...

A.   8 October 2010: Thats a huge red flag for "Not Over You" especially if hes rubbing it in your face... Trust me rebounds are no way of mourning,Some people always say YEA go out and meet new people this will make you feel better. Sure it would but it doesnt m... (read in full...)

Should I tolerate my girlfriend spending time with a guy who likes her?

Q.   Situation: My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for over a year and since about 2 months ago she has mentioned how she has made a new guy friend and they have on a number of occasions since been out for drinks, dancing, and dinner (but ...

A.   8 October 2010: Go with them next time even though it might be hard but be really nice to the guy this way hell see that you dont see him as a threat and your girlfriend will pick up on this and then she wont have the whole "I want to do this because Im not really ... (read in full...)

Should we break up for good?

Q.   I'm so confused with the situation I am in now with my boyfriend. I broke up with him in May because I felt that he was way too overprotective with me..that it always lead to arguments. He kept asking to come back and I always said to give it some ...

A.   8 October 2010: I think you guys need to communicate not in the sense of general chat but rather about what you feel. By this I mean you need to tell him "Listen you can trust me and I feel all boxed up when youre so overprotective...just relax". You need to make... (read in full...)

If you're questioning if he's the one, then he's probably not, right?

Q.   When do you know he's the right one? Or do you? I guess if you're questioning it, he probably is NOT the one?...

A.   8 October 2010: Well for how long have you been together and is it already a long term thing? Girls tend to do this for some reason.My Ex told in my face that she wanted to meet new people and shes having doubts after 6 years of being together.Then I said ok fine... (read in full...)

Prove you want me back!

Q.   If a girl you loved dearly for 6 years breaks up with you for another man cause of "Grass is greener on the other side" and she comes back to you after realizing the guy was just after "attached girls" to use and abuse them. She asks for another ...

A.   7 October 2010: So you guys honestly dont think people make mistakes even if they are immense? What do you say to.I take her back and when she does it again I know?People do some stupid stuff I know but I think her decisions where impulsive.You mean to say that... (read in full...)

Prove you want me back!

Q.   If a girl you loved dearly for 6 years breaks up with you for another man cause of "Grass is greener on the other side" and she comes back to you after realizing the guy was just after "attached girls" to use and abuse them. She asks for another ...

A.   6 October 2010: But Ive heard so manny couples go through the same thing and when they reunite they are soo much stronger!... (read in full...)

Prove you want me back!

Q.   If a girl you loved dearly for 6 years breaks up with you for another man cause of "Grass is greener on the other side" and she comes back to you after realizing the guy was just after "attached girls" to use and abuse them. She asks for another ...

A.   6 October 2010: Well my life with this person was never bad and we where both really good influences on each other.It was not abusive and it was everything a guy could ask for!I am in the healing stage now and personally I want her back even now that I have ... (read in full...)

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