Why is dating her so wrong!?
Q. My girlfriend is 15 and I am 19. We are not sexually active. Everyone is telling me it is wrong, but I don't know why. The only answers I have received so far are: -She is in a different part of life and we should have nothing in common. -I have t...
A. 8 December 2010: It is wrong because she's still a child and you're close to being an adult. When people are telling you that you are at two different areas in your lives, they're not referring to the fact that you want to party and she doesn't. Believe me, ... (read in full...)
My ex is 23 and dating a highschooler, what's the matter with her?
Q. She's 23. We shared 5 years of love, then she left me one week after she met this 17-year-old guy. To this day I'm not completely sure why. My guess is that he just was available for her (they're like neighbours) and I wasn't, because I had be...
A. 7 December 2010: She was probably unsure of you relationship because, well, you had been going out for five years and weren't engaged. Not saying that you needed to propose, but being away from the one you love for two months can be very edgy for some people. As for ... (read in full...)
How long were you in a relationship as a teen before losing virginity?
Q. I'm 16, and i have a lovely boyfriend. he treats me right and im really happy, but it's only been a month. i want to know if you lost your virginity at my age, how long were you in a relationship for?...
A. 21 November 2010: I lost my virginity at age 20 to my now-fiance. We were only together for a month, but we've now been together for a year and ten months. The length of time you're in the relationship isn't what's important. Just make sure you trust the person ... (read in full...)
I'm so obsessed with his ex girlfriend I have made friends with her!
Q. Let's see where this gets me, if anywhere... I've written here in the past quite a few times, always inquiring about the same thing, only now the situation has changed drastically, but my feelings still haunt me. My fiance is 23, and I am 21. We ...
A. 18 November 2010: I honestly don't know what else to do... I have breakdowns over this. I've contemplated breaking things off with my fiance. I've contemplated worse... My mind just won't rid itself of her. So I'm hoping that with meeting her, my mind will finally ... (read in full...)
I don't know where I am going wrong in this relationship!
Q. Hi everyone; Been with my ex girlfriend for 5 years and been lived together for the past 2 years. Im 26 and she is 22 so we been together since she was 17 and i was 21. While we been living together she left me 5 times but 4 of them took couple...
A. 1 November 2010: k_c100 made some very good points. This girl simply hasn't found herself. That being said, she's not going to change. Period. You need to let her go, otherwise she's going to do the same thing over and over again. I did something similar. I was in a ... (read in full...)
I want my cheating girlfriend back!
Q. hi, im 18 years old and i just had my first relationship ever which ended yesterday, it was going on the 6 month mark. in our first month, she kissed/made out with two of her guy friends then told me about it( within 2 weeks of them both happen...
A. 28 October 2010: Please don't go back to her. Once a cheated, always a cheater. I hope you believe this. She's not only cheated on you once, but THREE times, with THREE different guys. In only six months! She's obviously very immature and not ready to be committed ... (read in full...)
Questions for women who aren't virgins
Q. when and why did you decide to lose your virginity? was there a particular event which set you off or was it a logical decision? did you regret losing it the way you did or still have fond memories of it? what went really well/really bad?...
A. 16 October 2010: I lost my virginity when I was 20 to my now-fiance. I waited to have sex because it just wasn't a huge priority for me, and I wanted to wait for someone I knew I loved. I dated a bunch of guys who wanted to take it, but when I didn't give it up ... (read in full...)
Was losing your virginity as you expected it to be?
Q. Was losing your Virginity as you expected it to be and would you change your mind if you could go back?...
A. 15 October 2010: I wouldn't change a thing about it. I lost it when I was 20 to my now-fiance. It was perfect and everything I was expecting it to be.... (read in full...)
Why won't my partner use my name?
Q. Hi there, I have a very unusual problem with my partner of 7 years. He will never use my name, not my first name of even a pet name. If he wants me and I'm not in the room, he will shout 'are you there'. I mentioned this to him early on in our ...
A. 10 October 2010: I remember watching John Tucker Must Die and the trick was that John called all the girls pet names so that he wouldn't mix them up and confuse himself. Probably not your case, but that's what it made me think of.... (read in full...)
She has been seeing another man behind my back! Despite this I still want us to work but trust is a major issue now....
Q. Hi , I am really in a mess. About a month ago I suspected my girlfriend of two years was cheating on me. I was right and she admitted everything to me 7 days ago. She has been seeing a work colleague and says she is falling in love with him . ...
A. 7 October 2010: You honestly shouldn't give her any more time and should just forget about her. I know it's not what you want to hear, but it's what you need to hear. I did the same thing to my ex, only there wasn't another guy in the picture. I just wanted to ... (read in full...)
Is forgiving the guy countless times for the same mistake a good thing?
Q. In a long term relationship that has lasted for almost 5 years, is forgiving the guy countless times for the same mistake a good thing? The girl in this relationship has went through many break ups but patched back with him thinking he might change ...
A. 6 October 2010: If this girl continues to forgive her partner for the same mistakes over and over again, he will only continue to hurt her. End of story. One cannot stay with a person in hopes that they will change. It's just not practical, nor is it possible. A ... (read in full...)
She has been seeing another man behind my back! Despite this I still want us to work but trust is a major issue now....
Q. Hi , I am really in a mess. About a month ago I suspected my girlfriend of two years was cheating on me. I was right and she admitted everything to me 7 days ago. She has been seeing a work colleague and says she is falling in love with him . ...
A. 6 October 2010: If she needs space, break up with her. This woman CHEATED on you. She didn't just ask for space and then meet another guy, she "fell in love" with him and is now unsure of her feelings. Bullshit. She's just thinking of the best way to let you down ... (read in full...)
This other man gives me life again...
Q. I married my best friend 15 years ago (we were both 18) and we've since had three kids. Our two oldest are 12 (fraternal twins) and our youngest is 9. Recently, I've been having feelings of doubt for our marriage; these feelings came about when I ...
A. 5 October 2010: When I read this, all I saw was "wrong, wrong, WRONG!" Don't you dare contact this man again. Not only will it be the end of your marriage and your family, but it will be the end of anything good in your life. This man was a flame of two months (and ... (read in full...)
What are some of the biggest regrets people have with relationships that go wrong?
Q. This is a huge question and the reason I ask is because I don't want to make the same mistakes that everyone else makes. I would be grateful if someone could give me some information about the worst regrets or mistakes people make with ...
A. 4 October 2010: I've had one failed "serious" relationship. Here's what I've learned:
1. Don't fool yourself into thinking that the relationship is something it's not. If you have any doubts, don't ignore them. They will become unavoidable sooner or later.
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Leave my girlfriend for someone I'm so compatible with?
Q. I've been with my current girlfriend on and off for almost 7 years. We are very happy and I love her very much. However, recently I have met a new girl, and this girl has so much in common with me it is borderline eerie. Like the same movies, ...
A. 3 October 2010: I certainly hope that you don't leave your girlfriend. Seven years is a long time to invest in someone just to break it off with them because you've "found someone with similar interests". You don't know what it would even be like to have a romantic ... (read in full...)
Body imperfections making me uncomfortable, suggestions needed on how to cope??
Q. Have you ever felt uncomfortable infront of your boyfriend or girlfriend because of a flaw/imperfection you had? For example, a crooked nose, a birthmark smack dab in the center of your face. Did aknowledging the flaw ever come up in discussion ...
A. 3 October 2010: Most people would change everything about themselves if they could, even those who appear to be completely content with themselves. I know that there are a lot of things that I would change about myself if I could, even though a lot of people envy ... (read in full...)
Can you get an STD from oral sex?
Q. okay so i am 16 and i am quite grown up for my age like i go clubbin i drink i am freinds with older peaple and i have done drugs like twice! I lie an awfull lot to my mum i do it basically everyday and i know it is really bad but something ha...
A. 30 September 2010: First of all, you sound very immature for your age. You drink, go clubbing, and do drugs? Not to mention, you have sex with 23 year olds? That's pretty gross. Yes, you can get incurable, lifelong STD's from oral sex, and yes, you can get pregnant ... (read in full...)
How a crush destroyed my marriage.....what is your opinion?
Q. The excerpt below is a series of narratives I wrote 2 years ago after I developed a life-changing crush on a woman. Since then, this woman moved away, I lost touch with her, I fell away from my wife and had an affair (with a different woman), my ...
A. 28 September 2010: I find it funny how you claim these other two women to be your "soul mates" and yet you say that the love with your wife was pure in the beginning. Was it really? In which case, how do you know that your wife wasn't your "soul mate" at that time. ... (read in full...)
Window for the "Previous Sexual Partners" talk has passed... what do I do?
Q. Hello World, I had sex with my girlfriend on our first official date, and now I'm stuck in between a rock and a hard place with finding out her previous sexual history. I was a virgin when I slept with her (and was blind-sided by the whole experi...
A. 27 September 2010: Don't worry about her past. Believe me. You're better off not knowing. I pried into my fiancee's past, and now I can't get it out of my head. It's not worth it. If she won't tell you, it's probably because she sees no reason for you to worry about ... (read in full...)
Wife and I are more like roommates--do we stay together for our kids?
Q. HI, I have been married for 10 years and have 3 kids. My wife and I argue from time to time (I would say it is fairly normal) but thereis no abuse of any kind. I would desribe us as upper middle class and our kids are really great and they m...
A. 27 September 2010: It sounds like you have made a very good life for yourself and your family. I would definitely listen to the advice that Ven gave. Marriages have fallen apart over a lot worse. If you are both convincing yourself that this is the worst it can get ... (read in full...)
To what depth should you inquire about your partner's past?
Q. The question on every person's mind when they begin to have a new relationship. Exactly what's this guy/girl's dating history? I want to have an idea of what you think. To what depth should we know this. If we don't, is it appropriate to a...
A. 25 September 2010: I would not inquire into a past about previous relationships. Believe me, this turns into retrograde jealousy, which can be EXTREMELY damaging to a relationship and a partner's mental state. I'm here right now, and I wish that nothing had ever been ... (read in full...)
1000 texts late at night...work related?
Q. I had recently caught my wife of 18yrs deleting phone calls from her cell phone to a coworker so I intercepted the phone bill and discovered she had sent 1000 texts to this guy over one months time, some of these were in the middle of the night ...
A. 20 September 2010: I don't agree AT ALL with anonymous reader #2. Your wife is definitely keeping something from you. There's no reason to delete something from her phone if there's no reason for her to be afraid of you finding it. Plain and simple. Not to mention, ... (read in full...)
My ex came back after 4 years, begged for me, then left. How do I stop loving her?
Q. My situation is all over the place and I am torn apart inside. 4 years ago we broke up after a great 2 year relationship. We were young. We broke up when I was 19 and she was 17. She started hanging out with the wrong crowd, doing drugs (mostly ...
A. 19 September 2010: This girl is a manipulative b*tch and you need to FORGET ABOUT HER. One thing about drug addicts: they know how to get what they want when they want it. Period. I don't care if you love them or not. This girl does not love you, and my guess is that ... (read in full...)
I cheated and now boyfriend is still so jealous! Is this normal?
Q. iN THE past i cheated on my bf various times, n he forgave me, but now, he is extremly jealous, iff i dont call him every day, he gets upset, n if i delete a post on facebook, he thinks im hiding something. What do I do, is this normal?? Enough time ...
A. 15 September 2010: It's extremely normal. Be prepared to deal with this for the rest of your relationship (because it's not going to last...). Cheating is an unforgivable act, and the fact that your boyfriend decided to carry on in a relationship with you after you've ... (read in full...)
Love hate relationship, we fight all day then go to bed loving each other?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together 4 years off and on we live together n we have love hate relationship we fight all day about who does more, leaving messes, people comming over, dishes, money, and groceries. he also thinks that i pick on him ...
A. 9 September 2010: Cuddling at night before bed doesn't translate to love, I'm sorry to say. That could be due to the fact that it's more comfortable for the two of you, or that it makes you feel less lonely. Constant fighting in a relationship doesn't mean that you ... (read in full...)
I can't get over how pretty his ex was and it makes me insecure
Q. I really need some support right now. I have been with my partner for three years and everything in the relationship is great. He loves me, I love him we respect each other etc. However, I cannot get over how pretty his ex is! They broke up five ...
A. 4 September 2010: I, too, suffer from retroactive jealousy. How long have you been feeling this way, if I may ask? Have you felt this way since the start of your relationship? If so, have you talked to him about it? My fiance's last ex was quite pretty herself. ... (read in full...)
I love my new girlfriend but I miss the sex from my last relationship!
Q. I was engaged to my girlfriend and with her for 7 years. We had a real intensive sex life and a pretty good relationship. However there were things about the relationship that were bad and good. Good points: Sex, her sense of humour. Bad points, ...
A. 3 September 2010: I loved your followup response. Good job for proving that not all men are superficial pricks. Just one question? How did you last with your ex for seven years without experiencing true love?... (read in full...)
I love my new girlfriend but I miss the sex from my last relationship!
Q. I was engaged to my girlfriend and with her for 7 years. We had a real intensive sex life and a pretty good relationship. However there were things about the relationship that were bad and good. Good points: Sex, her sense of humour. Bad points, ...
A. 2 September 2010: Well, knowing that your girlfriend was a virgin makes a lot of difference. I, too, was a virgin at 20 years old when I first slept with my fiance. Sorry to say it, but I do have a great body. I know that it's important in a relationship, but believe ... (read in full...)
I love my new girlfriend but I miss the sex from my last relationship!
Q. I was engaged to my girlfriend and with her for 7 years. We had a real intensive sex life and a pretty good relationship. However there were things about the relationship that were bad and good. Good points: Sex, her sense of humour. Bad points, ...
A. 2 September 2010: Interesting that your ex-girlfriend cheated on you after SEVEN YEARS of a relationship, and you're thinking about going back to her. If my fiance, after seven years, cheated on me after not showing me compassion or understanding in our relationship, ... (read in full...)
I can't clear my mind of the images of her past
Q. So I am yet another person who has retroactive jealousy. It has bothered me for about 7 months now, on a daily basis. I broke the bank by going to therapy but it proved essentially useless. I do have OCD and am trying to remedy that with various ...
A. 2 September 2010: I am where you are, but probably worse. I do suffer from OCD, or at least an OCD personality. My days are spent, literally, obsessing over my fiance's ex-girlfriend. I, too, am his third while he is my first and only. His ex isn't who he lost his ... (read in full...)
Can I win back her heart before it is too late?
Q. I've posted before about my divorce from my partner of 20 years. It involved an affair on my part that is now over. However, I'm having severe problems that I am trying to work through and could use some advice. I know how the Aunts feel about ...
A. 9 August 2010: I'm about as far from being in a marriage as possible, but I am currently with a partner that I hope I wills someday build an amazing life with, and that I will someday have children with an have an amazing home with. I want to share my life with ... (read in full...)
If he's over his ex shouldn't he be able to forgive and move on?
Q. Hi there, I have been wondering lately whether my boyfriend is truly over his ex. She cheated on him several times and they had a bad break up. they were together for five years and we got together less than a year after they split up. she me...
A. 8 July 2010: I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriend was with his ex for two years on-and-off. She manipulated him, cheated on him, blackmailed him, lied to him, etc. She was a terrible person.
We got together nearly a year after they had broken up for good... (read in full...)
Reaching a point where I don't know whether I should continue my relationship with my girlfriend
Q. "OP Own Title"I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 5years now and it seems like throughout the whole time we have been together a reoccuring fight stems back to her clingyness. Just yesterday we had another one and we talked about ...
A. 18 June 2010: This is not a healthy relationship, and I honestly think that you should end it. I realize that you two have been together for five years, and that the "honeymoon" phase wears off in that time, but honestly, it sounds like it's been bugging you from ... (read in full...)
I loathe myself and it's become a real problem in relationships! Advice please?
Q. Yes, I know I sound like the 13 in a dozen girl who says she hates herself and the sane part of my mind knows I have no right to complain, since I am wealthy enough to have my own computer to type this behind. If you read through this you'll have my ...
A. 13 June 2010: I've been in your position, and I'm still not completely over it, but I'm getting there...
I've always been a very shy person, and I've always had low self-esteem. In Middle School and High School I was bullied constantly for my looks, my weight, ... (read in full...)
Ghosts from my boyfriend's past relationships are destroying me.
Q. OK, here’s the rundown. I am a very insecure and jealous person. I’ve been this way as long as I can remember and while I’m able to function normally in society (hold a job and progress in it, have normal, fulfilling friendships), I’m allowing these ...
A. 9 June 2010: I want to help you, as I am someone who has, and still does, suffered from this same type of jealousy for months. The difference between you and I is: he mentioned his ex a lot without any prompt from me when we first started dating. If you would ... (read in full...)
Desperately in love with the devil!
Q. "OP's OWN TITLE" Ok so I have been in a realtionship for over three years, and my girlfriend always playes these mind games, and hold our relationship over my head. she consistantly tells me that i am sooooooo mean to her, aqnd that all I do is walk...
A. 21 May 2010: I don't know how you can possible think that you "love" a person who treats you like shit. If you loved her, you would love yourself, and you would NOT let her disrespect you like that. Just because your parents were happily married for fifty years ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend not over his ex?
Q. I know there have been a million questions asked about this, but I really need somebody's help. It is driving me crazy constantly thinking about it. I've been dating this really lovely guy for about 5 months now. We're happy together, and he tells ...
A. 15 May 2010: I'm exactly in the same place you are, the only difference is: my boyfriend has NOTHING of his ex to remind me of her. Unfortunately, he brought her up in random, meaningless situations when we first started dating, and now, she's all I can think ... (read in full...)
How do I finally put it all behind me?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 1/2 years. I love him with everything I have. Four years ago he left me for his ex girlfriend. He left me over an email and told me a week later he loved me but not in love with me. Oviously we got back together. ...
A. 12 May 2010: You're a very strong girl to go back with him. I know myself that I could never, ever take my boyfriend back if he left me for his ex. I've had issues with my partner's past for many months now, and to have him leave me for not only just another ... (read in full...)
I went through my girlfriend's phone for a second time, and I have been hurt yet again....
Q. This may be a little long... but I have a lot to get off my chest. But here I go. The first time I caught her, we were doing a little rocky. We have been falling in and out for a bit over a year now. First started talking back in summer of '08. I...
A. 5 May 2010: You need to leave this girl. Actions speak VOLUMES louder than words. She didn't respect you once by lying to you and being secretive when you were together, why in the world would she respect you when you've settled for this mistreatment by taking ... (read in full...)
Why is his ex all that I see?
Q. I'm sorry this is so long... I'm losing grip... I don't know what to do anymore. I've been here hundreds of times, but it never gets any easier and it never lessens. I'm twenty-one, and I've been dating my boyfriend (twenty-two) for a year and f...
A. 5 May 2010: Thank you for all of your replies to my post (especially the last comment). I've dwelled on this issue for months now. I've talked to countless people about my feelings, but no one seemed to get it, especially my boyfriend. So, today I decided to ... (read in full...)
Dos and don'ts of a long distance relationship?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship with my girl for over two months, how do we survive, what are the dos and don'ts,because i have heard that it rarely works. If u have been in one before,your help we be appreciated. ...
A. 17 April 2010: I was in a long distance relationship for a while. He lived in Seattle, I lived in Arizona. We met over MySpace. We were in long distance for nine months until I moved up to Seattle to be with him. When we started living together, things went ... (read in full...)
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