I'm wondering if my ex has contact with his ex
Q. Will my ex continue to mess around with his ex now that i have discovered his games and he has lost our relationship and his kids? I recently started to become very uncomfortable with my partners contact with his ex. They have a grownup son and he ...
A. 2 July 2010: It's none of your business, is it?
Your relationship is over, and whether he gets a new girlfriend or has casual relationships or goes back to her is nothing to do with you.
Move on and just stay civil for the benefit of your kids.... (read in full...)
I have almost never liked my mother, do you think she is in the wrong or should I get over it?
Q. I'm 15 going on 16 and I have almost never liked my mother, and today one of my close friends funeral was today and we had been talking about it all week and she told that I could go, but when I woke up this morning I asked her if I could still go ...
A. 8 May 2010: I think she is in the wrong.
If a close friend dies when you are only 15, then it is right to go to the funeral - both to show your respects to the family, for you to grieve your own feelings about losing your friend, and because when someone ... (read in full...)
Why wont he take me seriously and go away?
Q. Ok I almost had An affair with a married man that is twice my age. I am 31 years old and married for 6 yrs. I started to fall for this man at work who is a surgeon that is really attractive for his age. We started having coffee and talking on the ...
A. 8 May 2010: Because he sees you as a conquest.
You did right to end it before it started - never get involved with a married man.
Tell him that if he does not stop you will report him for sexual harrassment at work. ... (read in full...)
Shaving, losing my virginity and pain! Need advice on all!
Q. Hia, I'm 16, and i think that in august i will loose my virginity to this lad i am in love with. We're not going out because he lives about 2 hours away and we think it would be too hard to have a relationship cus of the distance, but we both want...
A. 30 April 2010: Why do you want to have sex with someone who lives 2 hours away? Especially when you are worried that it will hurt you and you will bleed?
I think you're not ready yet. ... (read in full...)
I haven't had a boyfriend in such a long time and feel really depressed about it!
Q. i know i am only young and i shouldnt really be thinking about realionships at this point in my life but i havent had a bf in such a long time i feel like im ugly, fat and just no gd to anyone i know thats stupid to think about myself but i really ...
A. 30 April 2010: You haven't had a bf in such a long time? How long exactly? 10 years? I don't think so - if you're 13-15 years old. Most girls of that age haven't even had a boyfriend at all.
I suspect this is not about not having a boyfriend. When you... (read in full...)
Just found out after 2 years of dating he's married and has 3 kids!
Q. Hi Ive been dating a guy for 2years and this morning I found out he was married with 3kids i am in total shock as i loved this guy i thought we had a future together its like the last 2years together have been a lie, I need help what do i do to mo...
A. 30 April 2010: I don't understand how this happened?
Did you never go to his house?
Did you not go on holiday with him in those two years?
Did you not know where he was when he was spending time with his wife and children?
For the benefit of ever... (read in full...)
My ex's parents don't care..should I let them see their granddaughter?
Q. just wandering what peoples views are on my situation Me and my boyfriend of 2 years have broken up, we lived together and have a child.. His mother was the guarentor for our house, when we broke up she phoned the letting agent and withdrew h...
A. 30 April 2010: Well it doesn't seem to be a question of "letting" them see the grand-daughter - it seems like they don't want to.
I'd just play it by ear. Don't make any effort, but if they call and say "we'd like to come round for tea to see our grand daughter... (read in full...)
Husband never says I love you after we have sex
Q. Hello, I am really upset with my husband, because after we have sex, I always tell him I love him, and he refuses to say it back (he does tell me he loves me at other times). I explained to him that its really important to me to hear it, and tha...
A. 30 April 2010: Well it rather depends upon what is important for you.
If he says he loves you quite a lot, and the relationship is otherwise good, then it's not really that awful if he doesn't say "I love you" at exactly the time you want, is it?
On the ... (read in full...)
I'm very attractive and always being hit on!
Q. i am a very actrive female and all my friends boyfriends and husbands try to hit on me. I dont come around and that is the reason. It makes me feel good that i am beautiful, but i dont like the people who i get it from. I have modeled some in the ...
A. 30 April 2010: I expect you won't like this reply - but friend's boyfriends and husbands do not "hit on" their
partner's friends just because the friend is good looking.
Are you sure you're not giving them the come on? Flirting? Acting like you want the... (read in full...)
I know the guy is supposed to make the 1st move but I have no confidence!
Q. im 15-19 years old ive always had a confidence problem when it comes to girls and i dont really know why.. i have loads of good friends that are girls and its fine in terms of that but when i start to like a girl it all completely cahnges..and i d...
A. 30 April 2010: It sounds like you're talking about physical moves?
I really wouldn't worry about this at all. You're quite young and it's not some kind of contest.
You say "nothing happens", but I presume you mean that you have an enjoyable evenin... (read in full...)
He told me that I'm his world.
Q. This threw me off a bit last night. We were saying our goodbyes and after our goodnight kiss he told me that im his world. i know this should make me all giddy inside but honestly idk how to feel about it. what do guys means when they say this?...
A. 28 April 2010: He just means that you're very special to him and mean an awful lot to him.
That's a wonderful thing for him to have said to you, romantic and gorgeous.
It's not a guy thing anyway, it's what any person could say to any other person.
If y... (read in full...)
'I think whoever you sleep with, you should let it happen'... what does she mean?
Q. Hi when I was in bed with the girl I was dating and we was cuddeling and stuff she said to me 'I think whoever you sleep with, you should let it happen' what does she mean by this?...
A. 28 April 2010: No idea. Didn't you ask her at the time? Are you in the habit of not understanding things and letting them pass? ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend of year and a half back!
Q. I want my boyfriend of year and a half back. i lashed out on him for the first time because i was sick of him constantly verbally abusing me. i know i did wrong and i'm truely sorry - i would never do it again. he's adament he's not going to take me ...
A. 28 April 2010: A man constantly verbally abuses a woman.
She is pushed to the end and finally reacts angrily to him and the relationship ends.
He is happy it has ended.
What does she do?
Calls him, texts him, writes to him, turns up at his house... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to bring a third!
Q. Hello again!This is my second article. Well I am with a guy for about a month and im having a great time, when my daughter lets us alone of course. There is always fantasy when we have sex and he seems to want me alot too. Last time he too...
A. 28 April 2010: If you don't want to have sex with a second man joining you, then don't. Simply as that.
Frankly, I would not go for the drink. "bring him but I don't promise anything" sounds like there is a chance something will happen.
You haven't b... (read in full...)
My crush is crushing on the class crush!
Q. I am in love with this pretty girl in my class. We've known each other for a year and hung out together a couple of times. Unfortunately, there's one of these smooth-talking politician types who is always telling jokes and acting fake. He already ...
A. 28 April 2010: Often in your life you will meet someone you'd like to get to know better and get closer to, only to find out that they are not interested in you, or appear to be more interested in someone else.
Just be yourself and continue to be friendly... (read in full...)
What do I do if another guy is flirting with my girlfriend and wants to get with her?
Q. I'm 14 almost 15. I'm a freshman and this guy keeps flirting with my girlfriend. We have been together for a while now and my girlfriend says she loves me. I truly love her too. My girlfriend is the shy type. She doesn't want to be mean or n e ...
A. 28 April 2010: Oh poor you.
However, there's nothing much that you can do.
There's only one reason that she talks to him - which is that she wants to.
You can't hope to keep a girlfriend by hiding her away from other guys or by "screwing up his face... (read in full...)
Should I let him go that far before I go away, or wait until I return?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 months plus but we are going to be separated for 3 months. Because I am going for a summer programme for 3 months in a few days time. And yesterday, I was in his room and we make out and things started t...
A. 28 April 2010: No.
The reasons are:
1. If you feel the need to ask, you're not ready.
2. The "stronger bond" will be on your side, not his - and so if it doesn't work out, you'll be the one that is more hurt. ... (read in full...)
He says he's not a sexual person...what about my needs?
Q. It's been 3 years and 10 months that nothing has changed between me and my boyfriend. He does change but then he goes back to his old ways. In the beginning, we were at our honeymoon stage and after that, everything just went down hill. When i ask ...
A. 28 April 2010: if he doesn't want to have sex with you, then he has issues in the relationship
if he can't get the self awareness to know what those are, or the decency to talk about them but instead give you the lame excuse of "not being that sexual", then mov... (read in full...)
How do I get the dye out of my hair?!!
Q. Help plz! A few weeks ago I asked or rather told my bf I want to dye my hair, he said that I was being silly a few days after I brought the same thing up then he yelled at me and said I'm being silly and his not boss .. Well then I dyed my hair, I ...
A. 28 April 2010: Go to the hairdressers and ask them to fix it for you. ... (read in full...)
I want to get to know this guy, but I'm hesitant.
Q. Well, I have a crush on this guy. I always see him on the bus stop when I come from school early. He's beautiful! He has long red dreads and a pale face with the cutest freckles. He's older than me. I think by a lot of years and he might be on drugs ...
A. 28 April 2010: It's very sweet - you have seen a man you don't know at all, and you fancy him, in the naturalest possible way. If he is regularly at the bus stop, then you'll just have to take it slowly - for example, one day you say "lovely day today, isn't... (read in full...)
Love and heartache
Q. Me and my fiance recently broke up-his decision. He says we should just be friends the thing is I don't think he really means this. We are still having sex. We have kids and have been down this road before to only have him tell me he loves me and ...
A. 28 April 2010: When someone says that they want to break up with you, they usually mean it. Also, men often like to continue to have sex, because they like having sex. The question is - why are YOU still having sex with him? You have kids together, he ... (read in full...)
How do I go from 60 to 0?
Q. Hello everyone. I'm just going to get to the point. I can't seem to go long without sex or beating off. I want to stop doing both. All answers are appreciated. Thanks....
A. 28 April 2010: Is "beating off" masterbating? If so, why do you want to stop it? As far as I understand, it is normal and healthy to ensure that a man masterbates regularly. What are you really concerned about? ... (read in full...)
Does he love me if he feels the need to cheat?
Q. My boyfriend and I were dating for 4 years, until about 2 months ago. We broke up due to mutual decisions, which we both realise now are trivial compared to how much we love each other and want to be together. While we were broken up, I slept with ...
A. 28 April 2010: If you want to get back together, then get back together. If he says he wants to sleep with someone else and not get back together, then he doesn't want to get back together, does he? If I were you, I would say that you're willing to give ... (read in full...)
When do you say enough is enough?
Q. When is enough enough???????????????? I'm with my partner over 15 years and we have a mortgage and two kids a two year old and a ten year old and for the last two years since the baby was born we have just not been getting on, fighting over the same...
A. 27 April 2010: It sounds like you need to do something.
I think you should consider getting marriage guidance counselling, for you both to air your feelings, and see if you can make changes to save the marriage, or whether, as you say, enough is enough. ... (read in full...)
Too hairy down there?
Q. im really hairy down there.. good, bad? im a 16 year old girl and ive been getting really close to this guy he wants to finger me and see me naked but im too scared of him seeing me down there. also i dont know how to ask him if its ok that ...
A. 27 April 2010: If you don't want your boyfriend to see you naked, then you don't feel comfortable yet about having sexual relations with him. Wait. It might be that you never feel comfortable with him - after all, why is he pushing you on this when it doe... (read in full...)
Should I do as my separated husband wishes?
Q. I been separated for nearly an year.This guy that Ive been seeing decides to call my husband. His intention was to find out what was going on between my husband and I. Well my husband told him that we were gettting back together and that I was ...
A. 27 April 2010: They both sound dreadful.
Make sure you are divorced, not just separated, and keep away from your ex husband.
Also, the new man sounds just as bad - what kind of person phones an ex husband?
I would have an abortion, and dump both ... (read in full...)
We don't see eye to eye
Q. hi all im going mad my boyfriend and i have been together for 14 years we had a unexpected daughter early on in the relationship, i spent my time at home waiting for him to come bk from the pub or his hobby and tried to make the relationship a ...
A. 27 April 2010: Go to university and concentrate on your own life.
Bring up your existing child as well as you can.
And let this man go. It doesn't sound like he loves you, or cares about you that much. ... (read in full...)
Weird pimple on vagina
Q. i have something really weird i had research herped pictures and symtomps and i dont think i have it but but what else could it be? in my vaginal area on my lips i have been having for the laast month like small pimples but i sqeezed them and ...
A. 27 April 2010: Anytime that you find changes in your body which worry you, go straight to the doctor.
... (read in full...)
How do I suggest marriage to my b/f after pregnancy without making him feel "trapped"
Q. I have a boyfriend of one year and am 3 weeks pregnant with his baby. I have informed him and he seems alittle confused, though he is by my side. We havent discussed the way forward with the pregnancy yet. We had plans of getting married next year. ...
A. 27 April 2010: It sounds like you're saying "if we don't get married now, I am going to have an abortion". That does sound like a huge ultimatum. Why do you not want to have a child "out of wedlock"? The key question is whether you feel that you ... (read in full...)
On the pill..is sex without a condom safe?
Q. i'm on the pill, and i never mess up. so is having sex with out a condom safe? neither of us have an STD or and STI or anything. so how big is the chance of his pre cum getting me pregnant?...
A. 27 April 2010: For the guy who says that using a condom is more protective against pregnancy than the pill, I don't agree.
There are things that can go wrong with a condom, that are very unlikely to go wrong with the pill.
Also, it is much easier, and if t... (read in full...)
2 men and I don't know what to do!
Q. Okay, I honestly dont know where to start.... well lets just jump in I have a 2 month old lil boy with a man i have been with for 3 years but for the past month i have been havin a emotional affair i have not slept with this new man but i have ...
A. 27 April 2010: Oh why don't people deal with one things at a time? You are in a relationship with a man who treats you unkindly, calls you fat, and abandoned you two days before your wedding. He has done you much wrong. So why are you still with him????? ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's controlling parents!
Q. well I've been my girlfriend for almost 4 years. she's 21 I'm 20. We're great together and are happy with each other. but her parents are the control obsessive type to the point where they constantly call her to know where she is at all the time ...
A. 27 April 2010: If you're 20 and she's 21, surely you must be going to finish school in the next year or so? In which case, I would do everything you can to find part time jobs while you finish your studies to earn some money, and to apply early for jobs t... (read in full...)
On the pill..is sex without a condom safe?
Q. i'm on the pill, and i never mess up. so is having sex with out a condom safe? neither of us have an STD or and STI or anything. so how big is the chance of his pre cum getting me pregnant?...
A. 26 April 2010: Well done for being responsible towards birth control and going on the pill.
It should be at least 99% effective without a condom. Make sure you always have your period and take a pregnancy test if it does not come, so you have plenty of time to ... (read in full...)
I love the man but don't like him most of the time!
Q. I have been in the same relationship for 20 years. I was injured at work and have not been able to work for 6 months. I am on living on a very limited income and try to budget each day. My partner is careless and doesn't budget for anything not ...
A. 26 April 2010: Oh poor you - to be treated like this by the one closest to you, at a time when things are already hard for you, and you need support, not to be taken advantage of. 1. tell your brother and sister 2. do not take pills and alcohol to sleep ... (read in full...)
Am I pushing him into a corner to get him to let me move in?
Q. Hi, I am in a long distance relationship of 70 miles which doesn't sound like much but I'm finding really difficult. I am 26 and he is 31. We've been together 10 rather tumutuous months. I see him very often really considering he has a very busy ...
A. 26 April 2010: Your feelings are quite understandable.
But it is one thing to be nearer one another, and quite another to move in at this stage.
Can't you get a job near him and take a flat or flatshare near where he lives? ... (read in full...)
How can I catch my wife out?
Q. i am in uk. my wife living in her mothers home in india along with her brother. i am suspecting she is doing sex with her own brother while i am doing phonesex with her. how can i caught her please help me....
A. 26 April 2010: Why do you want to catch her?
What would your plan be then? ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for me not to go ahead and sleep with other women when she says it's ok?
Q. I don't know what to make of this. I have only had sex with one woman. She and I are together and we plan on getting married. Although we haven't set a date we are serious. She has had sex with seven other guys before. She keeps telling me ...
A. 26 April 2010: This is her problem not yours. If you're in love with her, it is natural only to want to have sex with her. Stick to your guns, and do what is natural and normal for you. If she is paranoid that you will sometime in the future wake up a... (read in full...)
We're getting married but when we go out its always "dutch"???!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for over two years now. we are now getting married. he was unemployed for over a year. i payed for our entertainment. some of this was expensive at times. he just recently got a job again. this job does ...
A. 26 April 2010: What is your problem? Is it A) that you want him to pay you back for paying for things when he was unemployed? If so, why don't you just say "hey, you owe me $500 for paying for everything while you were unemployed"? But that sounds a bit wei... (read in full...)
B/f of 9 years cheated, broke up & now wants to be friends. Could it work?
Q. i have been in a relationship for 9 years and he told me he had an affair last month,i forgave him but he wants a trial seperation as he no longer loves me,than he wants to see me as a friend and take it from there,could that work,could he ever love ...
A. 26 April 2010: You've been with him for nine years and you love him.
He, on the other hand, no longer loves you and cheated on you first, rather than working on the relationship with you.
You know what I'd do? I'd tell the rat to get stuffed. How da... (read in full...)
If fiancee was drugged said no, and doesn't remember, doesn't that qualify her as a virgin?
Q. My fiancee and I are both graduating college next month and getting married this summer. We are both virgins and both wanted to stay that way for marriage. Problem is my fiancee had a situation about 3 years ago, and now she's saying things to...
A. 26 April 2010: I assume that you both want to wait till you get married to have sex with each other because you want a formal commitment before making a physical commitment.
Whether or not she was penetrated in this situation by that guy does not affect t... (read in full...)
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