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My ex's parents don't care..should I let them see their granddaughter?

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Question - (30 April 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 1 May 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

just wandering what peoples views are on my situation

Me and my boyfriend of 2 years have broken up, we lived together and have a child..

His mother was the guarentor for our house, when we broke up she phoned the letting agent and withdrew herself. Telling them her ties were with her son, WHAT ABOUT HER GRAND DAUGHTER??!!!!???

Also I got in touch with his father and asked if he still wanted contact with our child, he didn't reply.

Do you think I should let either of his parents see my child?

To me it seems like neither of them care about her, my ex's mother wouldn't care about seeing us out on the streets and his father can't even be bothered to send a simple few words back!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2010):

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I don't want my child to be punished because we have broken up, its not fair!

If they do choose to see her my only condition is that I am present. As 2 of the daughters have mental health problems and it worries me that they may not be capable of taking good care of her. Also one of his sisters is a compulsive liar and steals, I don't want my child to be fed lies or have her things taken from her.

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A male reader, The Realist Canada +, writes (30 April 2010):

The Realist agony auntIt really comes down to whether he wants his parents to see the child as well unless you have sole custody. If he doesn't then there is nothing forcing you to bring that child over there and if they treat you badly then I would never be bothered to let them see the child. If they can not except you then they will never fully except that child. I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Any decisions to be made are between you and your ex, no family members have any grounds to force anything upon you.

Good luck in the future.

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A female reader, It's all be okay United Kingdom +, writes (30 April 2010):

Well it doesn't seem to be a question of "letting" them see the grand-daughter - it seems like they don't want to.

I'd just play it by ear. Don't make any effort, but if they call and say "we'd like to come round for tea to see our grand daughter" then say "yes of course". Chances are they won't anyway.

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A female reader, goowes United States +, writes (30 April 2010):

goowes agony aunt You are alone, that is fine. You can be secure without thier kindness or effected by thier abandon. They may choose ugly acts. Do not deny your daughter her rights to family, because you are hurt or dishonored. They can see her if you belive she is getting positive influence, If they cause her negative issues not healthy for her (you are mom and decide this) then you protect her. You have the best of all of them, you have her.

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