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writes:Me and my fiance recently broke up-his decision. He says we should just be friends the thing is I don't think he really means this. We are still having sex. We have kids and have been down this road before to only have him tell me he loves me and that I am his soulmate. Why is he doing this? Should I listen to my heart and give him time or am I being blind?
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reader, It's all be okay  +, writes (28 April 2010):
When someone says that they want to break up with you, they usually mean it. Also, men often like to continue to have sex, because they like having sex. The question is - why are YOU still having sex with him? You have kids together, he says he wants to be friends, he wants to have sex with you - so why is he breaking up with you? What are his concerns? And has there been any other approach to dealing with these concerns other than him just saying "let's break up"? Are you living together with your kids? What arrangements are being made regards this?I would suggest that you immediately stop having sex with him, and suggest that you go to couples counselling to find out what is happening and why. If you don't stop having sex with him, you'll have no lever to get him to go. And if he doesn't go, then you have your answer.
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reader, starky +, writes (28 April 2010):
I am sorry this is happening to you. I can see clearly you are still very much in love and are being very considerate. Here is how I see it-If you wait- he may come back and yet again he would have been successful in taking you for granted.Also, if you wait and he doesn't come back you will feel bad about yourself for believing in him (and yourslef) and more so feel stupid for getting physically close.And why he is doing this? I cant say. But what should you do? Talk. Talk it out, get his intentions straight and you will know what to do.
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reader, starky +, writes (28 April 2010):
I am sorry this is happening to you. I can see clearly you are still very much in love and are being very considerate. Here is how I see it-If you wait- he may come back and yet again he would have been successful in taking you for granted.Also, if you wait and he doesn't come back you will feel bad about yourself for believing in him (and yourslef) and more so feel stupid for getting physically close.And why he is doing this? I cant say. But what should you do? Talk. Talk it out, get his intentions straight and you will know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): I've been in this kind of relationship before (6years ago).Also we had 2 kids. I followed my heart but then when I wake-up 1 morning I realized I have to stop this.Open your eyes dear..You deserve love..not like this.Move on to your life.Let him think and realize your importance.If he loves you, he will come back to you.
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