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| | *ereAreMyTwoCents's profile:28 year old white female, Maryland USA, married three years, together eight years, no children. What qualifies me to help people as an agony aunt? My desire to do so, and my life experience. We all have life experience wisdom to offer other people. We can choose to keep it to ourselves, or we can share it and help someone who may need it...
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Should I confront my girlfriend about her behaviour with other men or just believe that she is telling the truth?
Q. i always find my girlfriend in the act of relating with men claiming she's got nothing intimate with them and it hurts. what if she's telling these guys that i am just a figure around her that i pose no threat at all? I'm confused and wondering if i ...
A. 5 October 2009: "she left me in her apartment and went enjoying herself with this guy for about 5 hours!" AND YOU'RE STILL WITH HER AFTER SHE DID THIS?! Dump her immediately!... (read in full...)
I feel so worthless. How can I become a more posititve person and happy with what I have?
Q. I hate my body and myself. I hate my body because I have small boobs, which look really ridiculous with my huge thighs. I'm slim, actually my BMI is ok, but I'm still so flabby and no matter how much I diet and exercise I just can't get rid of my ...
A. 2 October 2009: If your BMI is ok then I highly doubt that you are ugly. You may not be THE MOST BEAUTIFUL, but most people are not! There is nothing wrong with being average looking! Especially if you have a good personality. If you think you are not ... (read in full...)
Age gap concerns.
Q. Hi, I'm a 19 year old girl currently dating a 25 year old guy. I'm still studying and living with my parents and he is already working, has his own home, touring in a band overseas and interstate. I don't drink or do drugs but he drinks and smokes ...
A. 2 October 2009: The age gap is not of concern. My husband is ten years older than me. What is of concern is your boyfriend's use of substances. It is never a good thing when one spouse does drugs and the other does not do them. In this respect, you are not ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my wife the truth or bite my tongue and keep up the deception?
Q. Just over a year ago I married my girlfriend of over 7 years. However I was away with work the 3 months prior to the wedding. It was a difficult time as there had just been a close death in the family. I met a girl during that period who I did some...
A. 2 October 2009: If you want a marriage that is based on a lie, then keep up the deception. If you value honesty in a lifelong union, I would suck it up, and tell her what happened, and risk losing the marriage. Personally, and this is just my own personal ... (read in full...)
Is my diet good for my general health, overall?
Q. hi there. ok well for about a year now i have been going without eating lunch everyday .and eventually got use to the routine of not eating until the evening. (due to work ) i moved in to a flat 4 months ago so when i get home from work i coul...
A. 2 October 2009: Yes, your eating habits seem to be taking a toll on your body and mind. It may be nice to have lost weight, but not like this! The proper way to lose weight is to eat enough to give your body the nutrition it needs, and then to EXERCISE OFF the ... (read in full...)
Is there such thing as love at first sight?
Q. Is there such thing as love at first sight? Iv met this girl and only been out with her a few times and something just feels right about it and like we have a connection, i didnt want to sat anything but she said thats how she felt the same wa...
A. 1 October 2009: Yes, love at first sight is possible, if it is between two people that last together long enough to find out that in the end they are very compatible on all levels, not just physical attraction. Statistically speaking, that ought to be somewhat ... (read in full...)
I need help figuring out who the father of my baby is!
Q. My last LMP was August 15 2009 and my period is regularly at 30days interval. I had an affair Aug 20 and he cummed inside me twice. After that I got back with my hubby and we have promised to work on our problem with fast ejaculaton. So we worked on ...
A. 1 October 2009: The answer is C. "Not enough information"
But, seriously, if I had to guess, based on what you told us...if the last day you bled was August 15, it's a lot more likely that the father is your husband, rather than your affair. ... (read in full...)
Does anybody else suffer from IBS?
Q. This is more of a health question, I realise that, but I am really desperate. The thing is, I have irritable bowel syndrome. I was diagnosed when I was 18, and I'm now 23. I take an anti-spasmodic, which helps, but every so often I get bad ...
A. 1 October 2009: I don't have IBS but I have mild interstitial cystitis. It's the bladder's equivalent of IBS. Have you made the recommended changes to your diet? Does it still bother you anyway? I will also recommend this link for you. I'm into alternative ... (read in full...)
Why does she refuse anal sex with me, her husband? She did this with her ex...
Q. my wife and I have always had a very honest relationship, but one night I asked to have anal sex. She denied me access so I asked why. We have attempted it once before, however I stopped because she really wasn't enjoying it. Her reply was very ...
A. 1 October 2009: If she truly did enjoy anal sex before, I don't know why she wouldn't enjoy it with you now. But maybe she only said that she enjoyed it and it was not actually true. Because I think anal sex hurts. A lot. So if she does not want to ever have ... (read in full...)
Should I confront my girlfriend about her behaviour with other men or just believe that she is telling the truth?
Q. i always find my girlfriend in the act of relating with men claiming she's got nothing intimate with them and it hurts. what if she's telling these guys that i am just a figure around her that i pose no threat at all? I'm confused and wondering if i ...
A. 1 October 2009: How exactly is she relating to these other men? This is an important detail. Who are these men and what does she do with them? ... (read in full...)
I'm getting bored with my 6 month relationship, please help!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for six months on the 13th. Things have been kind of rough for us (I cheated on her in the beginning, I told her, we worked through it; I'm experiencing impotence lately that's putting a strain on us; There's ...
A. 1 October 2009: Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Spend one day apart :)... (read in full...)
I can't stand my husband anymore and I don't know what to do!
Q. I'm so sad, I feel I can't stand my husband anymore, and I don't know what to do. I tried everything to try to improve things , but nothing has happened. He feels cold loveless, and passive. Yet he keeps saying he wants to be with me. I don't even...
A. 1 October 2009: I read an article once that said that sometimes women need to stop trying to talk to their husbands. Instead of talking, show them. Have you tried SHOWING him you love him? Maybe he'll catch on that way. For him, talking seems not work, like you ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because he was too impatient to wait for sex
Q. My ex bf broke up with me and hurt me really bad during the relationship. He broke up with me because he was too impatient to wait for sex. I wouldnt have sex with him because I didnt feel he respected me and I had a feeling in my gut that he was ...
A. 1 October 2009: He would like you AND SEX. But if he can't have you AND SEX, he will pick sex over you. So, you two are not compatible. He has ALREADY failed your test. Taking him back now would be a moot point. He will probably not be able to go without sex ... (read in full...)
All this chemistry but never been out on a date!
Q. Ok, I need some perspective on this, as I am in far too deep emotionally, and I have fallen for him hook line and sinker. I really like him, I think he is an incredible man, but am I just bashing my head against a wall with this?: We ema...
A. 1 October 2009: Hard to say. Who is he? How do you guys know each other? Friends? School? Work? How old is he? Paint a picture for us, then we can help you better.... (read in full...)
Is he in love with me or a pedophile?
Q. He is always talking to me at least more than 20 comments a day. He's a couple years older than me though. I know this isn't safe, but I met him online. Well anyways, each time we have a conversation, he'll be talking about how he wants to see me in ...
A. 1 October 2009: Ok, how much older is he? Need an actual number. Obviously, whatever age he is, he seems to be after sex for sure. Whether he wants more than sex from you, hard to say. But sex, yes definitely.... (read in full...)
How can I accept he loves/likes me?
Q. I have been in a relationship for just about 2 weeks with my boyfriend, but we had been hanging out for about a month before that. Before all of this we knew each other years ago and then he moved away, came back, but we never got back in touch til ...
A. 1 October 2009: Not all men are as*h*l*s. That said, I know you still want some sort of reassurance or guarantee about this one. So, if you want something concrete, test him. Not anything drastic, like telling his friends to tell him you died, just to see how he ... (read in full...)
Relationship going down the drain because of my depression
Q. Relationship going down the drain because of my depression. My partner just does not understand why i hate the thought of going to sleep and why i cant stand waking up to face another day. Why i cry myself to sleep every night. He says i should just ...
A. 1 October 2009: I do not think that there are any words of comfort I could offer which would make your nightmares go away. But I can suggest some resources and share my own experience. It looks like what you are going through is called Post-Traumatic Stress ... (read in full...)
Is he getting it somewhere else?
Q. Men get off quicker when they havent had it in a while. Thats from my experience. Is that true or does it depend on the person? Because my b/f and I havent had sex in 3 1/2 months and then when we did he didnt go quickly. Not that I am c...
A. 1 October 2009: Maybe he recently masturbated. Have you considered this possibility?... (read in full...)
I don't want to watch him die
Q. My bf is 25 and im turning 23. He's got high blood pressure but taking medication right now. Should we even think about getting married or should we end our relationship? I don't want to see him die. I don't want to be left alone to deal w...
A. 1 October 2009: Some people have high blood pressue from a young age probably due to their genes. I used to work with a 22 year old girl and she has a boyfriend and she too has high blood pressure (and doesn't eat too much salt, according to her). Just because ... (read in full...)
How can I make him go WOW!
Q. Hey I would like to know how I can make my bf feel satisfied when we are having sex....how do I know if I'm good or not...what do men love in bed??I want him to say "wow you are good"....but how?? What would he enjoy best?? Guys any answers??girls ...
A. 1 October 2009: I think the best way to start is by asking him what he already knows he likes, and then doing that for him. Also, trying new things in sex, and seeing what he likes and doesn't like. Experiment and communicate. Always. Not just at the beginning ... (read in full...)
Do I start next months pack as I've lost this month's birth control pills?
Q. Hey everyone, i just need some quick advise. I'm on the 28 day pill, i forgot to take it last night, and i was just about to take today's pill but noticed that i must have lost the pack when i was on my way home on monday after staying at my ...
A. 30 September 2009: Also, I forgot to mention that if you're taking orthotricyclen, it's ok to miss one day of pill, and just double up the next day, so if you have not missed today's you can just double up on yesterdays and today's from your fresh pack, making sure ... (read in full...)
Do I start next months pack as I've lost this month's birth control pills?
Q. Hey everyone, i just need some quick advise. I'm on the 28 day pill, i forgot to take it last night, and i was just about to take today's pill but noticed that i must have lost the pack when i was on my way home on monday after staying at my ...
A. 30 September 2009: If you don't want a baby and don't have anything against the morning after pill I highly suggest getting it today, asap. It loses efficacy 72 hours after the last sex act. So if you had sex Sunday night or Monday morning and didn't take the pill ... (read in full...)
How do I help boyfriend long distance? He's really struggling.
Q. Wow, I haven’t posted on here for such a long time… basically, am in a longish distance relationship with this really amazing guy who I love to pieces. Last night he got taken into hospital after having really awful headaches and he is really ...
A. 30 September 2009: Since you are one of the few people that he does remember the best thing you can do is to keep calling him all the time and keep supporting him like you have been. Send him stuff in the mail, too. Keep your presence and support in his life as much ... (read in full...)
I regret the name I gave my baby! What can I do now?
Q. Dear all, I have a problem that is in my head! I know many of you wouldnt think its such a big issue but i just delivered my baby girl on july 14th and called her a name i really liked at the time.. and we agreed on... on the 6th day he went to r...
A. 30 September 2009: Oh, please, do tell us what you named your baby! Please, please, pretty please! Just kidding :) Look, even if the name seems so bad to you that you dare not tell us what it is, you still should not worry. Like someone else said, there are people ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel dirty after fooling around?
Q. I recently started dating a guy. This is my first relationship. He was my first kiss, etc etc. We haven't had sex yet but we've been slowly moving forward. A few days ago, we were messing around, to the point where i took off my shirt. I was...
A. 30 September 2009: This "dirty" feeling is a feeling which only you yourself can will to go away. You need to tell yourself that what you are doing is ok. It is not dirty. And that sex should be enjoyed and relished. And you must believe it. In this day and age, ... (read in full...)
Is this a sign I should just let him go?
Q. My Boyfriend of almost 4 years told me yesterday that he needs a break because he has not slept with any other girl. He said if I don't want to wait than we can break up. I don't know what to do. I know he loves me more than anything else and on ...
A. 30 September 2009: Only you can answer this question for yourself. If you don't do the break, you run the very high risk of him cheating on you. So you need to give him his break and let him have other women. Whether or not you want him back after he is through ... (read in full...)
Is it important to know your partner's sexual past?
Q. I am currently dating a guy who I like a lot. I have a feeling that he may have "got around" a bit when he was younger, but to be honest I just simply do not want to know. Is it immature for me to be thinking like this? Do you think it's important ...
A. 30 September 2009: I will be the first dissenting opinion on this one. I am married, but if for whatever reason I would ever have to end up divorced in my life, then yes, I would definitely ask about their sexual past! I would want to know, and as early as possible, ... (read in full...)
Am I going to have to start fighting in order to defend myself?
Q. I have 2 problems. In my gym class i have boys that like to pick on people. They don't mean it but they play to much. Its this boys who hits on me constantly real hard and i let it slide and ignore him but he will keep doing it. I'm a person who ...
A. 30 September 2009: Ok, so if these boys are going to be mean to you no matter what, you need to at least be participating in the physical activity with them, even so. That's the first thing you need to do. Is get off your butt, don't sit around on the bleachers, if ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend obsessed with my boobs!
Q. Hi, I'm not sure what to do about my boyfriend. He is obsessed with my boobs, to the point where it's stupidly irritating. I only see him at weekends, usually Friday to 7am Monday, and during that time he touches them as often as he can....
A. 29 September 2009: Yes, I can definitely see the comical cuteness in this scenario. However, I also know that people have broken up over pettier things. And I can definitely imagine that on weekends she might be feeling maybe like a mother cat with her litter ... (read in full...)
Is my husband looking elsewhere because he's not happy anymore?
Q. I often feel that my husband is looking else where for relationship's. He often has female friends that I am sometimes aware of but do not have contact with for one reason or another. In the pass year he has been in a friendship with another women, ...
A. 29 September 2009: Your best female friend came up to your husband while they were both under the influence, offered him a blow job, and he took it??? What kind of nasty horrible people do you have in your life??? Good Lord, woman! I feel sorry for you. You said you ... (read in full...)
She's the love of my life but do I need to quit kidding myself?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years, in the main its been great, travelled the world together, have lots of fun and hang out all the time. Then out of the blue she said she needed space. We are both at college far away for away from each ...
A. 29 September 2009: Ok, after four years of together, she owes you a lot better explanation than just "I need more space." I hate it whenever I read that someone says that to their long-term partner. It's sickening. After four years, let's get real, if this was ... (read in full...)
Why do girls look for robot guys?
Q. Why every girls hate emotional guys? Why they look for robot in guys? Would anyone like to guide me on this? Zahir, Pakistan...
A. 29 September 2009: Wait a minute, I thought that us girls loved emotional guys! Which, by the way, we really do! (Unless they turn into raving emotional lunatics - nobody likes that, in men or in women). Where exactly are you finding these robot-loving women, ... (read in full...)
Pubic hair yes or no?
Q. I'm a boy of 18 years the problem is that i hav lots of pubic hairs, actually i have hairs on my hips and lots of hairs on my legs although i have no or very little hairs on my chest. I want to know will my gf or any other girl like my hairs on hips ...
A. 29 September 2009: Girls need to worry about being overly hairy, because a lot of body hair is a sign of masculinity, since hair growth is stimulated by the presence of testosterone. Guys don't need to worry about being overly hairy, because a lot of body hair is a ... (read in full...)
The qualities she originally found attractive in me now bother her!
Q. Ok here goes..I'm a 34 yr old man who has been dating a 31 yr old woman for the past 8 mo. Our relationship is good and we are serious about the future. We have come to a huge roadblock in our relationship as far as moving in is concerned. We live ...
A. 29 September 2009: She wants everything. She wants it up and down, left and right, black and white, summer and winter all at the same time. She needs to get her priorities straight. She admired what you worked for and had and the ethic that came with it. But she ... (read in full...)
He knows I like him so why hasn't he developed feelings for me yet?
Q. Hello :D okay so I have been close friends with a guy for a few months now, at one point I liked him, I told him, he said he loved me, but only as a close friend. I then moved on with him, which I was really happy about. I moved onto other guys and...
A. 29 September 2009: Boys your age can be a little behind girls when it comes to romance. Girls are sentimental, in a way that many guys aren't and they love the idea of being together forever with that one special person, even from an early age - your age. But some ... (read in full...)
The argument was blown way out of proportion and he asked me to move out! Was I over-reacting or was I right to expect an apology?
Q. Last month when my b/f was away on business, I noticed that someone had tried to egg my car but missed almost completely. I wasn't sure at the time that it was even an attempt, but I found broken egg shells and a slime on my tire. I washed it off ...
A. 29 September 2009: Get over it. Seriously. If these are the worst of your problems, you are a lucky woman. (But if you seriously suspect that there might be something going on between your husband and his co-worker, look into it on your own). Other than that, no I ... (read in full...)
I feel like my ex is just using me now...how do I get over him?
Q. My ex broke up with me after 5 years together about 6 months ago. We had been together since I was 17. We've been sleeping together pretty much since we broke up. In the beginning he would say things like "You're a girl I'm thinking about marrying ...
A. 29 September 2009: The only way to move on is to actually do the things that a person does when they have moved on. Stop contact. Definitely no more sex. Almost certainly don't meet in person anymore for a while. And keep the text/phone to a bare minimum. If at ... (read in full...)
What do you make of his behaviour? I really like him but he is acting really weird!
Q. Hey There, I've been having a problem and i really need your help! Basically there's this guy i've been liking on and off for a long while and only recently have we started chatting. But he can be very confusing in his signals..you see i really want ...
A. 29 September 2009: Ask him to hang out. See what he says. There's no way to tell how he feels, just by what you told us.... (read in full...)
How do I cope with turning 30?
Q. I am stuggling about turning 30 this saturday. I dont know why but i cant get excited. Im kinda sad and feeing down about this situation. I guess a part of me doesnt want to grow up. I am so used to being in my 20s and im not looking forwa...
A. 29 September 2009: Age is only a number. If your issue is about losing your looks and your health, remember that if you keep yourself healthy and trim by eating right and exercising, you will always look better than most women your age, especially as you get older, ... (read in full...)
How do I overcome the pain during sex?
Q. i am married one month ago and I cant take the pain of having sex plz help me...
A. 29 September 2009: We need more details to be able to help you. Have you told your husband about the pain? If not, you need to tell him. ... (read in full...)
It really hurts that he could move on so quick! How can I get over this?
Q. hi there. i broke up with my ex about 3 weeks ago due to him having feelings for this other girl. for the past 3 weeks we have been keeping in touch and he still told me that he loved me. however he has just started going out with this new girl(the ...
A. 29 September 2009: Only time will heal this would. Obviously, this guy doesn't love you, and so there is no logical reason for you to want to be with him. However, you shared a year and half of memories and bonding in the belief that you are in a together-forever ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my girlfriend's best friend!
Q. I am inlove with my girlfriends best friend and i realy don't know what to do. I once kiss her, which has makes me fall inlove with her more. What must i do?...
A. 29 September 2009: Tell your girlfriend that you kissed and are in love with her best friend, is the first thing you must do, if you want to do the right thing. If you want to do the right thing, you already know what you need to do, you don't need someone else to ... (read in full...)
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