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writes:My last LMP was August 15 2009 and my period is regularly at 30days interval. I had an affair Aug 20 and he cummed inside me twice. After that I got back with my hubby and we have promised to work on our problem with fast ejaculaton. So we worked on it August 24, 25, 27 and 28, where after he ejaculated he didn't pull it out and continue with the sex hoping that i would reach orgasm. For all those attempts, I never reached my peak. However, I found out that I am pregnant Sept. Please help me identify the father because this is driving me crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): Hi, Im in the same situation. My last period started on 28th July. I slept with someone on 31st July when I was still bleeding but only a little. On 15th August I had sex with another guy (lets call him guy 2) and 2 weeks after that I found I was pregnant. I belive thew baby is guy 2's child because you ovulate 14 days after your period, which would of made it around that time I slept with him. Becasue om my situation I have told both guys involved and are having dna test when baby is born.
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reader, Rivermeetsanend  +, writes (3 October 2009):
It is nearly impossibly to determine the length of your luteal phase, but it averages between 10-17 days. The luteal phase is the period of time between your first day of ovulation and your next menstrual period. That said, it is highly unlikely that you were ovulating at the time you had an affair. September 13 should have been the date of your next expected period. If that is the case, then ovulation was likely to have occurred between August 28th and September 4th. In perfect conditions, temperature, cervical fluid alkaline/acidity levels, sperm can survive up to 6 or 7 days waiting for ovulation. So, the first man's semen could have survived inside of your body until August 26th or 27th, making it highly unlikely that he is the father. I would bet on your husband being the father. But like most things in medicine, there are many variables, and if it is something that concerns you I would take a paternity test in the future to be sure.
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reader, meganutts +, writes (2 October 2009):
 I hope you have taken all that has been said by the other aunties into consideration very seriously, you have no doubt made a mess here, so come clean. There's nothing worse to do to a man but to tell him that a child may or may not be his. Especially after he has raised it for his own. You should hope he's not short fused because he may lose It on that one if its true, but he deserves to know the truth. I'm not a woman so ovulation, I won't get on it, but I am a man who has dealt with infidelity, not on marriage level either. So I can tell you from experience that if you haven't told him thus far about ur cheating, your only going to make his actions worse when you do. Be a woman and fess up, own up to your mistakes. Don't treat him like he's better off not knowing because your feeling guilty love for him now, tell him the truth and pray for the rest.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (1 October 2009):
 My magic eight ball says, "Ask again later." However, I agree that while a DNA test is your only way of knowing for sure, it is most likely your husband is the father.
Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 October 2009):
When the baby is born, do a DNA test. that's the only way to be sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): It looks like it is your husband who got you pregnant.It takes 14 days afer the last cycle to ovulate and you had sex with your husband on the days you ovulated on. Next time be careful who you sleep with and use protection, if it is not your husband you are sleeping with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): im sorry but there is no way to know at this point in time. I personally have gotten pregnant at the beginning, middle and end of my cycle...there can be no benefit in guessing. You can have a dna test done at birth if you so chose. I have faith that the other aunties will say the same...and much more. Because you have created a mess here. You have been stupid, cruel and selfish. Its time to grow up and be responsible for your actions. You did this to a man who is already struggling with his sexual performance. You had sex outside the marriage and unprotected at that...and now to throw this on the table...its not going to solve anything and will in fact only complicate matters... unless he is completely mathmatically challenged. ~ML~
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): Unfortunately I don't think you will know until you can do DNA when the baby is born. I don't need to tell you what a dilemma this is - but I think you need to let both men know because you will need their co-operation.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (1 October 2009):
 The answer is C. "Not enough information"
But, seriously, if I had to guess, based on what you told us...if the last day you bled was August 15, it's a lot more likely that the father is your husband, rather than your affair.
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (1 October 2009):
 Sorry, but the only way that you will find out is by having a test done to compare blood types with both men. I think this might involve both of them finding out that you don't know who the father is, so my best suggestion is to come clean. You chose to cheat on your husband, so come clean about it. Or you could just hope that the kid doesn't look too different from your husband.
You can't really figure out by times and orgasms and what not. It's really unreliable. Maybe this will be a lesson not to mess around when married, because things really can turn around to bite you in the ass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): There is a good possibility that the father of the baby is your husband however to make sure you would have to have a paternity test done on the child when it is born.
Very difficult... because if the baby does turn out to be the other mans child... how will your husband feel.
You are going to have to decide whether you want to take that risk!
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