I have ED, how common is this over 40? WHY do I have it? Am I the only one?
Q. How common is erectile dysfunction over 40? I, m having ED since 43,and now,Im 47.. My doctor did not find anything wrong with me medically. He just says,it is aging. I CAN'T ACCEPT THAT.I really don't want to complain, but it is such a bad ...
A. 31 January 2010: E.D. seemse to be a fairly common problem. I believe it has been more exposed in recent years due to more openess about sexuality issues. It would be wise to discuss the issue with your wife so she isn't wondering about your feelings for her. ... (read in full...)
I dislike the way my closest friends treats me, what should I do?
Q. Basically ive been close friends with a women(im female)for a couple of decades!.We would always tell each other our daily news and regulary meet up every few days. But within the past year she got a new boyfriend and all of a sudden become ...
A. 31 January 2010: Unfortunately, some people change when they get a love interest. Put some distance between you two and get some new friends. Relish the good times you had together but don't continue to associate with her, blowing your self esteem and basically ... (read in full...)
"Fake" friend hitting on girlfriend - what should I do so she doesn't speak to him?
Q. im an 18 year old male. i have a girlfriend and my friend is so messed up and says stuff to her behind my back. he asks her to send him sexual pictures. he asks her for kisses to cheer him up. and to bite her ass and stuff. the thing is i promised ...
A. 31 January 2010: You say your gf is 100% dedicated to you but you are wrong. She is dedicated to her friend and this guy. She is more concerned with their feelings than yours. She needs to grow a backbone and tell this schlob to back off. Regardless of her being ... (read in full...)
Broke up with my ex and he says he still loves me, but how can he if he isnt with me?
Q. Me and my ex slpit 5 months ago. he admitted he had feelings for someone else so we broke up. We had been together a year. Shortly after that he got together with this girl and they're still together now. Thing is, we've pretty much spoken every day ...
A. 31 January 2010: He is keeping you on the hook in case it doesn't work out with his new flame. Wise up and move on. You need to date some other fellas so you can get an idea how a real relationship works. ... (read in full...)
Planning my future in the Navy. My friends don't understand and I feel isolated.
Q. hi i'm applying for the navy soon (in july to be precise) so i've been training phisically, mentally and emotionally. i've also been getting as much experience as i can on ships n that. but i'm only 15. half the people who are 16 in my school ...
A. 31 January 2010: Usually I don't usually respond to the teen questions on this forum but I believe yours is of significant issue. As a person matures, they may lose old friends and gain new ones. The fact that you have already spent so much energy and effort shows ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my ex I lust after her?
Q. My ex-wife and I have been divorced for 3 years. We were married for 10 years and have 3 beautiful children together. We are both very involved in our children's life and communicate on an almost daily basis. Mostly regarding the children. She ...
A. 30 January 2010: DON'T! It appears as if your communication now is clear and concise but evidently, you can't change her mind without a little help. One question, did you go to counseling prior to this divorce? It sounds as if a little outside intervention might ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm missing out on my youth by being in love.
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm 23 years old and have been in my relationship since I was nineteen, so we're going on four years now. We live together, have a dog, and are partners and best friends! The problem is... I feel like i'm missing out on my youth...
A. 30 January 2010: It appears as you might be taking your partner for granted. You have become comfortable with each other, to the point of you being bored. Maybe communicating your concerns to him without identifying him as the problem would give you both insight ... (read in full...)
Has he been cheating & should I stay or tell him what I know & get rid of him.
Q. I am with my partner for 5 years and I thought we were very close until recently. He's 52 and I'm 46 and we are both divorced. During the first 2 years together I herad remarks/comments/rumours about him and other women and whe I asked hi...
A. 30 January 2010: It is hard on us when we find out we got "played". It does sound as if you should have paid a bit more attention to the rumors you heard in the first place. Most of the time, there is substance to those rumors so a bit more "heads up" is called ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should trust him
Q. I am packing up stuff into boxes at the moment to move house with my boyfriend and I came across his leaving card from his most recent employer - it was signed by loads of people. I was looking at the card laughing at some of the comments when I ...
A. 30 January 2010: It appears that he might not be being honest with you. However, if his liasons happened before you got involved, it isn't really your business so to speak. Getting texts during the day? Those women might think he is still available so it is up to ... (read in full...)
I'm in serious need of purging my 'issues' and pain
Q. I'm in serious need of purging my 'issues' and pain right now, and I need to work them out somehow. But I'm afraid to see a counselor again because I sometimes think if I've waited too long to deal with something directly (in this case a very bad ...
A. 30 January 2010: Caring Guy is right on. If you want your mental and emotional situation to change, you have to DO something. Even if you don't feel like it. I don't like exercising. In fact, I absolutely hate it. However, if I want to stay trim and fit, I HAVE ... (read in full...)
I feel I have been pushed into child access arrangements
Q. Me and my long tearm boyfriend split up this week. We have a 2 month old baby and we both agreed that, he would have are daughter for 3 day at his home and 1 night. This means that I would be takeing care of her for 4 days and 6 nights. Their is ...
A. 30 January 2010: I agree with "female reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010" for the most part. Also, having a baby is a BIG deal. Your daughter has only been here for a short time. (If you were nursing, it would be a no brainer.) The fact that your ex is ... (read in full...)
I just have this bad gut feeling that the bar maid is texting my bf.
Q. Saturday night I was out with this guy I have been seeing for about 3 months. We went to one of the Bars he is familiar with to see a band. I knew no one. Every time he spoke to someone (including a few women) he knew he would turn his back to me ...
A. 29 January 2010: Wow, how rude and insensitive to act as if you weren't there at all. Boyfriend or not, he is definately NOT a gentleman! Obviously, he wasn't trying to impress you with those bad manners. If I went out with someone that behaved like that, it ... (read in full...)
What do you do when you have someone you genuinely love just want to be friend?
Q. What do you do when you have someone you genuinely love just want to be friend? She liked me at some point, but I have no clue how she feels now. I tried looking at her as just a friend, but it's impossible for me. I stopped talking to her on ...
A. 28 January 2010: Obviously she hasn't tried to contact you so your feelings are one sided. No one wants unrequited relationships, they suck. Until you get involved with other activities and other people, that emptiness will remain and it will be difficult to move ... (read in full...)
Is he gay or are we just wrong for one another?
Q. Hi. I've been seeing this guy for almost two and a half years(I'm older by two years and divorced with a son). One week after being together he said this reltionship wasn't going to work out.Nevertheless he kept loving me ,and calling me ...
A. 28 January 2010: It is of no value to know whether he is gay or not. The outcome will be the same either way. He won't be with you. What is it about you that would put up with such bad treatment from someone? Instead of enabling his bad behavior, why not put ... (read in full...)
I think my g/f is trying to get pregnant so I marry her. What do I do?
Q. I have been dating my g/f for more than 6 months now and she has been hinting about marriage. We have been having sex since our second month of dating and up until a few weeks ago I was using condoms. My girlfriend went on the pill so I would ...
A. 28 January 2010: Yes she is trying to get pregnant. Can it work?? YES IT CAN. Do you want to be responsible for the next 18 to 21 years for a child that was conceived by deceptive methods and under false pretenses. This is such a deep level of deception and ... (read in full...)
He told me to quit my job to save our marriage, should I?
Q. Im a mid twenties woman who has been married for a few years, we have two kids. Ive been uneasy in the relationship . WE finally talked about the possibility of it not working out, and he told me to quit my job, it wasnt really an ultimatum. but ...
A. 28 January 2010: You don't give enough specifics. Why does he want you to quit your job, what does it have to do with the quality of your relationship? How are your finances. Why are you uneasy in your relationship? What have you really been fighting about? ... (read in full...)
My husband is telling my friends his sexual fantasies! Is this ok?
Q. Is it okay for a husband to exchanges emails of his sexual fantasies to two friends of mine which the two friends responded back to them. They have been doing for a while. This was his second time. I am confuse whether I should forgive him or ...
A. 28 January 2010: I'd say #1, time for some new friends. #2, time to get your relationship back on track with your husband. This is starting with online comunication (testing the waters), next thing you know, you'll all be playing cards together while they're ... (read in full...)
He says he feels trapped, should I give him an untimatum
Q. six years ago i caught my fella with another woman this wasnt the first time and i threw him out. i took him back on the understanding that we went out as a couple and he could go to the local occasionaly. recently hes been going nightclubbing with ...
A. 28 January 2010: It sounds as if he doesn't feel the way you do! He has broken your trust many times and yet you take him back with "conditions". It all boils down to how much you are willing to put up with. As he has already let you know he is insincere in his ... (read in full...)
He didnt get me a birthday present, am I just being used?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 1/2 months. A few weeks ago he moved away for work for 3 months. It was my birthday last week and he sent me nothing. Yes he rang a few times on the day and sent a few texts...its not like he forgot. I asked him ...
A. 28 January 2010: Some men are not that romantic and lean more towards the practical side. As you have only known him for 5.5 months, how was he during the last holidays? Usually people who travel for extended periods in their job are really busy and he might have a ... (read in full...)
When did I concieve?
Q. I'm 33wks pregnant today, if I ovulated on the 25th june does that mean I concieved on the 25th june?? ...
A. 28 January 2010: Not necessarily, sperm can stay alive in the female body for 72 hours. There's your window. Why the need for such a concise date?... (read in full...)
She talked about heartbreak with an ex friend, should I be worried?
Q. Hi everyone, I've not been on one of these forums before, so apologies in advance if I'm not clear I have a bit of a confusing situation with my current long term girlfriend. I have recently overheard my girlfriend telling one of her frien...
A. 28 January 2010: "I have recently overheard my girlfriend telling one of her friends that she had fallen for one of her male friends and was now heartbroken that their relationship had fallen apart." Is this what you really heard or is it what you think she meant? ... (read in full...)
My husband has no desire to have sex with me...
Q. My husband does not desire to have sex with me, a few years ago. We have it , like every 3 months, if I ask. When I'm naked, he does not even look at me, not looking bad. Some extra weight, but man always looks at me, when outside. I do have a ...
A. 27 January 2010: You need to rule out the obvious such as is he having an affair? Has he recently begun taken any new medications that might affect his sexual desire? Is he healthy? When was his last medical check up? Have you asked him (VERRRY GENTLY and non ... (read in full...)
Is he just taking it slow or am I in a FWB situation
Q. So the scenario is: I've only ever had two relationships and I am 21. One was four years, the other was a year. I've only had two sex partners before this guy. I like this guy from work. He's nerdy and dorky like me, but much more experienced than I ...
A. 27 January 2010: It might me best if you get the courage to have a mature conversation with him. Such as: Hey, I really like you and want to get to know you a lot more. Even though I find it hard to resist you sexually, I would feel better if we kept a physical ... (read in full...)
He is a good, kind man, but I want more from him
Q. Hi guys, I have posted on here before but sometime ago and your replies helped me a lot. I met my partner nearly 2 years ago on a dating site, we used to live over 2 hors apart then and only see each other on a weekend, He has 2 kids from a pevious ...
A. 27 January 2010: "but i do not see myself as a friend with benefits really" is your reply to one of the response answers to you question. You are in denial! You're EXACTLY what a "friend with benefits" is. You are very selfish. You are thinking of you you you ... (read in full...)
I am more than expecting that with his current behaviour hes about to run out on me again.
Q. Myself and my boyfriend have been on and off for a few years, we've walked away and come back to each other 3 or 4 times now, we lived together for a year but stuff happened and i left and im now living in a different house. In december we got back ...
A. 27 January 2010: By continuing to stay in this unstable relationship, it is damaging your self esteem, warping your view of what a good and healthy relationship is and, keeping you from the man you will one day marry and have 55 children with. Really, you want to ... (read in full...)
Is this some sort of STD from unprotected sex?
Q. ok so I had unprotected sex... please don't bitch at me about that... but that was about a week and a half ago and lately, around the opening of my vagina is very itchy and irritated. is there some sort of std or other reason as to why it is? ...
A. 22 January 2010: Many std's can't get "washed" away. You could have been exposed to genital warts - no cure for, herpes - no cure for, bacterial vaginosis - no cure for (that fishy smell that will never go away). Even worse, you could have been exposed to ... (read in full...)
Am I doing myself harm by talking to him? I secretly want him back.
Q. My husband and I had a rocky start but I had thought things were getting better (after he attempted suicide this year). He didn't get as much help as we thought he should. We were planning on moving to his home state (Mississippi) in June (from my ...
A. 22 January 2010: No wonder your mother hates him. Look at what he's doing to her daughter! Look into the future and assume you have a daughter getting ready to embark on her adult life. Would you want this type of a man for her? This man is an obvious mental ... (read in full...)
Should I just be her friend for now? I don't want to get stuck in "friends zone" though.
Q. i went on a first date with this girl, and we had a great time, she admitted it was a great time. She lives a little far away so we cant see each other a whole lot but we txt each other everyday and i make her laugh alot. but she told me after our ...
A. 22 January 2010: Wow, what part of "not intersted" don't you understand? Don't keep texting her and waiting like a poor pitiful sap. Grow a pair and move on. There are 6 billion people on this planet. I'm pretty sure that you can find someone who actually wants ... (read in full...)
Do I "hang on" or "move on"?
Q. I met an awesome guy online last September and thought we were going to be freinds, but he had other ideas, as he wanted to meet and I was over the moon. However, the day before we were supposed to meet, I guess I got a weird vibe, as he still ...
A. 22 January 2010: Rule #1. Always go with your gut feeling. Now then, you don't even have a relationship with this guy and you "really like him"?????? What do you like about him? How does he treat his mother? Does he want children? How many? What are his ... (read in full...)
Is it Mistake Identity or is my Boyfriend Lying?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years but things haven't been easy. I realised i didn't want a future with him for cultural reasons which I told him. He said its not a valid reason but it's fine and that we don't have to break up just because ...
A. 22 January 2010: You have already given him the go ahead to date others. By telling him you see no future with him and wanting to break up, he sees you as "temporary". When he does find another gal, then he can walk away from you easily. Why are you upset about ... (read in full...)
I'm depressed... he's depressed, and I'm paranoid that he'll leave me again... How can I overcome this?
Q. Hey there, I've been um-ing and ah-ing whether or not to post this for a couple of days now because it sounds trivial but it's plaguing me, so here goes... To begin with, I'm 25 and I've had depression since I was about 16. It was a mixture o...
A. 22 January 2010: You can't feel more secure in the relationship because the main worry you have is one that many people have in their relationship, even without the depression factor. Since nothing has really changed in your relationship except you both are more ... (read in full...)
His ex is always there in the back of my mind and I don't know what to do any more... Please help!
Q. I can't do it anymore... I don't know where to go from this point. I've talked to everyone that I possibly can (except a therapist, because I can't afford one), I've looked up forums and posts on countless sites all over the internet (as well as ...
A. 22 January 2010: The fact that you're obsessed with your bf's previous gf and their relationship shows a lack of maturity and a lack of respect for him. It also shows that you are a very weak individual to become obsessed with something that isn't really your ... (read in full...)
I went down the affair route as I wanted to feel love, but I don't want to do that any more.
Q. i am not sure what i am feeling, but here it goes... I have been with my husband for 14 years. We met when we were 18 and got pregnant 9 months later, we have been together ever since, with a few breaks here and there. We have been married now 8 ...
A. 22 January 2010: You did not fall out of love in a day so you probably won't fall back in love in a day either. It doesn't sound as if your husband is a bad husband or father. Why not think of how your kids will suffer from your divorce and keep your family ... (read in full...)
Can I play tennis at 20 weeks pregnant?
Q. Hi and thanks to all who responds to my post =) I was just wondering if i can play tennis while i'm 20 weeks pregnant. Thanks. And how active can I be while i'm pregnant. I would just like to know my limits bc this is my first pregnancy...
A. 22 January 2010: Wow, if you are asking this question on a public forum, you must not have a ob/gyn. In that case, get one fast. You should be on prenatal vitamins, practicing healthy eating and exercizing. All this information should come from an ob/gyn. Your ... (read in full...)
My stupidity is driving her away! What should I do
Q. Hi, I am deeply, madly in love with this women, I've been with her for one year and four months. I lied to her about myself, so that I can have some type of chance with her, and I lied about my past (which I don't care). Everything started great ...
A. 22 January 2010: If she is attracted to someone else, she doesn't love you to death! It sounds like you need to clean up your act. Not for her but for yourself. A woman wants to have pride, confidence, trust and a feeling of security with the man she is with. ... (read in full...)
What shall I do when she has asked me to give her time?
Q. I know this girl bout 3years from friendster and we started till then but that time we less msg but juz a friend.. started 2009 we really started to msg to each other everyday although we haven meet yet and really get to understand her bout 1 years ...
A. 22 January 2010: She is not interested in you as a romantic partner. She has enjoyed communicating with you as a friend and as long as it was only a "penpal" style friendship, she had no problem with committing as a bf/gf relationship. Once she met you, she made a ... (read in full...)
Should I even try to fix this broken marriage?
Q. This is a re-write from an anonymous question I asked on January 11th. I am so lost. I need more help. My husband shown me a question and responses that he has placed on here too. But I don't want to share my question or feelings with him right n...
A. 15 January 2010: You need to decide whether or not you WANT to fix this marriage. Feeling disgusted is normal and right. He has done a serious wrong. Part of the problem is he’s a man. He thinks “hey, get over it”. Well it doesn’t work that way for a woman. ... (read in full...)
Will he ever ask me to marry him?
Q. Ok so I am stumped on a big life scenerio. I am 25 years old and have 2 beautiful boys with their dad (we will call him John Doe). We have been in a relationship since we were both 15 years old...we did split up for about a year and a half when we ...
A. 15 January 2010: Should you give him time???? Are you kidding? How much time does he need? And, why SHOULD he marry you? He has got a maid, a mom for his kids, someone to fund half of his domestic financial obligations. Why buy the milk when the cow is free? ... (read in full...)
Is he emotionally cheating or am I just being an insecure wife?
Q. I have been married for almost nine years. My husband and I have not had the most conventional marrige. We had a short courtship and no alone time (he was a single dad with a 3.5 year old son when i met him). We had 2 kids of our own and for as ...
A. 15 January 2010: If he hasn't already cheated he soon will. He is giving this other woman a part of himself he is not giving you. If it "stresses him out" to show interest in you and the family you have built together then he has definately lost his commitment to ... (read in full...)
I like this man's company and would like to take it further
Q. I am a very shy person and work in a shop. I met this man and we statred talking. Eventually he started comming to visit me before work and we sit and have coffee together. We have a lot of things in common and enjoy each others company. We text ...
A. 15 January 2010: Is he married, taken, gay or otherwise unavailable? Instead of being giddy and nonsensible, start asking him questions such as have you ever...? Make the questions direct such as: been married, ever lived with anyone, or word the questions like ... (read in full...)
I cant accept my b/f loves me more than he did his ex girlfriends
Q. I can't seem to get over my boyfriend's sexual history. We recently moved in together and are expecting our first child. We plan on getting married. My boyfriend is 5 years older than I am, so he obviously has more sexual experiences than I do. ...
A. 15 January 2010: Just because you haven't had as many sexual and intimate relationships as him doesn't give you more reason to doubt him. If he had had only one previous intimate relationship would that make you feel better? Maybe the others were just sexual ... (read in full...)
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