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writes:Me and my ex slpit 5 months ago. he admitted he had feelings for someone else so we broke up. We had been together a year. Shortly after that he got together with this girl and they're still together now. Thing is, we've pretty much spoken every day since we split. I know we shouldn't. He phones most days, and says he still loves me and cant get over me but he is still with this girl and surely he'd be with me if he really wanted to. I've asked what the future holds and he says he'd like 2 think we'l get back together ONE day. I want to stop talking to him and I've asked him to stop phoning but he says he can't do it, he wants me in his life. Why would he do this?? Why is he with this girl if he apparently still loves me?
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reader, Gridrebel  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 He is keeping you on the hook in case it doesn't work out with his new flame. Wise up and move on. You need to date some other fellas so you can get an idea how a real relationship works.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (31 January 2010):
He's doing it because he revels in the fact you are there giving him this attention. He doesn't love you at all. You're right, if he did he would be with you. He's just keeping you there as a spare. So now you have to delete his numbers, delete his contacts, everything. Every time he emails, delete it. Every time he calls, put the phone straight down. Don't let yourself be treated this way. Just cut him out, never talk to him, never meet him, never contact him. When he contacts you, cut it dead. You'll get over him. there are a million better men out there. But you now need to be tough.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 Do you still love him? It is normal for us to love exes. We are not machines, we are not serial killers, so we don't just switch off the love button automatically. Practically you can only be with one person at a time. Maybe next time work harder to keep your relationship intact before finding an easy way out with another person. Maybe he felt guilty that he bailed out so easily with you. He is with a new girl, she is not perfect and they are going to face the same conflicts that every couple faces. If I were you I would let him go and tell each other to take the last relationship as a lesson.
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